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#1 alisonn

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Posted 16 December 2017 - 09:29 AM

hi there 3dx !

what a wonderful place this is!
the graphics are so amazing, the people are nice.
what a fun game this is.
i'll play this for no more than an hour or 2 every week, maybe 3.
nothing special hahaha.
god this is a great way to escape life and relax!

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i can't believe it's been a solid month of playing this.
maybe i should think of getting a year subscription, it's much cheaper.
i'm just going to do it, why not.
i'm enjoying myself anyway.


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oh i'm so happy for the friends i've made here over the course of the past 3 months!
i never thought i would be here for this long but it's such an amazing place, I just love it.
the friends here are always in for a good laugh, and i love chatting with them and seeing them around.


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these drama people everywhere​, I don't understand them or what they want.
such strange people, i think they should leave this place.
you keep telling them to leave but they say they can't....so dumb.
i guess some people just live to make a big drama story out of everything, even a virtual reality like this.



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oh this guy i met is so fun!
i love him, oh god i do so much !!
we have eloped, and now that i'm happily married after 6 months of being here this place is heaven!
i don't come on the game often, but the 2 hours every day that i spend here really make me happy.
and this group i'm part of!
i love having a discord account to chat outside of 3dx to them!
fuuuuunnnnnn!!!! hahahaha

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i have so much free time now, i think i'll go hang out in 3dx some more.
i get to see my husband and love him and cuddle him and he can take me to bed and...oh the sex, so good.
i have found my little place in heaven i really have, and I can't believe it's already been 9 months.


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my husband....my heart.
what on Earth happend, it was such fun.
he broke up with me, he got someone else ?
what a shitty reason....this huurts.
i better look for some comfort in my friends, that should get me back on my feet.
i'll be fine.


.......
oh this girl i met!
she's great, i love her!
my ex is such a loser, he can go off himself.
but where are my friends going by the way?
it feels like they're fading a little.
and what happened to my real life, why didn't i hear anything from those friends anymore.
luckily i have my discord and i can chat whenever i like.
my friends are really the best ever!



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my girlfriend had someone​ in real life.
i feel so cheated but, it's just a game...right?
this place isn't real i have a life outside of this....i think
where are my friends?
how long have i been spending 6 hours every day here.
i can't believe it's ben a whole year.

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i'm so lonely...i feel so sad.
my life, where has it gone?
my real life friends have relationships, my online friends are fading and my online relationship is dead.
i have nothing....i'm so alone...help me.
what day is it... Wednesday...when did i go to college for the last time...what did i do then.
i came only to escape life...i guess i escaped.

..........
help me.
i feel so empty and alone.
watching what people have in real life, what i'm missing.
please help me...end this pain and lonelyness... or maybe i will....




be careful in your stay in 3dx.
a virtual reality is not a game, and it can make you lose your self and lose track of what's real and important.

if this is happening to you,don't think that you're​ the only one, because this is what happened to not only myself, but friends i have gotten to know as well.

this place doesn't have a warning sign, but it should have one that you can see evey time before you log in.

this place has made me depressed, brought me to tears, i picked up drinking from it and i won't lie, i have thoughts about suicide.
it's a virtual reality, and it not real but god damnit it feels so real some times.
because you can never forget, the place is digital, but the people behind the screen, are absolutely, 100% real.

be careful.
and if you even need to talk about something like this, send me a private message.
if you know people that have problems like this, you can always send them to me to talk.
maybe i can help them by sharing my own experiences.

stay out of trouble everyone!
and don't go down my path.

love,
alisonn.
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#2 Cordelia

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Posted 16 December 2017 - 10:07 AM

It's not that I don't have sympathy for you but it is just a game.

I am sure that smoking is a game, alcohol is a game, drug taking is a game, etc. when you start, at least.

It is all about how you play the game. And, in that regard, "the people behind the screen, are absolutely, 100% real" - you are not playing with the people behind the screen.


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Posted 16 December 2017 - 11:38 AM

It's not that I don't have sympathy for you but it is just a game.
I am sure that smoking is a game, alcohol is a game, drug taking is a game, etc. when you start, at least.
It is all about how you play the game. And, in that regard, "the people behind the screen, are absolutely, 100% real" - you are not playing with the people behind the screen.


Couldn’t disagree more.

Maybe for some people it is just a game. But for many others, it morphs into something much deeper.

Don’t downplay the feelings of those players for who it is more than a game simply because you happen to disagree.
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Posted 16 December 2017 - 03:01 PM

You're entitled to disagree. However, no matter what connotations anyone wants to put on it, it is still just a game. Who is to say that the feelings one has playing here are any different to those one feels playing chess, for example.



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Posted 16 December 2017 - 03:33 PM

Damn 3dxchat is killing me too! Help me! :(

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Posted 16 December 2017 - 11:35 PM

However, no matter what connotations anyone wants to put on it, it is still just a game. 

 

Yes, and all the world's a stage. But to say so explains nothing. Cliches obscure as much as they elucidate, and as far as 3DX is concerned, "It's just a game" is perhaps the single biggest cliche there is.

I agree that there are a lot of people who overinvest in 3DX. Those people do need to be cautioned against that and advised not to take the game so seriously. But there are also a lot of callous attention-seekers, who would benefit from being a bit more sensitive to how people are reacting to what they are doing.

 

It is not a one-size-fits-all situation, and sanctimonious repetition of the "it's only a game" mantra does not make it so.   


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 08:26 AM

It "does not make it so" because it already is :)



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Posted 17 December 2017 - 09:45 AM

Yes, and all the world's a stage. But to say so explains nothing. Cliches obscure as much as they elucidate, and as far as 3DX is concerned, "It's just a game" is perhaps the single biggest cliche there is.

I agree that there are a lot of people who overinvest in 3DX. Those people do need to be cautioned against that and advised not to take the game so seriously. But there are also a lot of callous attention-seekers, who would benefit from being a bit more sensitive to how people are reacting to what they are doing.

 

It is not a one-size-fits-all situation, and sanctimonious repetition of the "it's only a game" mantra does not make it so.   

 

The problem is that there are a lot of people for whom 3dx is some sort of solution to real life problems - understandable I know; I think when I joined I was seeking something that was missing from rl even though I denied it to myself for too long. But with that comes a vulnerability in a lot of people who are then invested in it far more than they perhaps ever realised was possible and this is when it ceases to be a game. Add in the game-players and mindfuckers who deliberately suck energy from these people, and you have a potentially disastrous outcome.

 

But what is the solution? Public health warning?! Ban those who abuse the vulnerabilities of others? Obviously, neither of these.

 

Maybe there isn't a solution.


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 10:02 AM

Games are always more than just games...Have you ever seen a fight during a poker party or else? Look at the behavior of hooligans...it's only sport. There are as many players as way of playing. If we are not hypocrite, all peoples are here for some personal reasons. Who can judge their motivations? Who can say "you must play this way and not another? Are there abusers here? Yes Are there very good peoples here, Yes again. This said, I will add enjoy your time here, enjoy the good peoples you met and ignore the other ones.

 

Is there a solution?

 

yes there is one behave with others as you want they behave with you. Respect the woman/man behind the keyboard. Avatars are pixels, peoples who use the keyboard are made with flesh and blood. Something or someone disgust you...flee or fuck the mind fuckers.../me smirks

 

A last thing: when you mix sex and feelings (yes feelings can appear here like in any social interaction) then you get an explosive cocktail that has to be handled with a lot of care.


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 11:23 AM

It "does not make it so" because it already is :)

 

That's a lame response, and you know it. 

It is not a question of what the game is or isn't. It is a question of how each individual approaches the game. 


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 11:30 AM

But what is the solution? Public health warning?! Ban those who abuse the vulnerabilities of others? Obviously, neither of these.

 

Well, probably there is no solution, because the problem exists for each new player who joins the game.

 

Something close to a health warning is necessary for newbies, yes. And I think maybe that is what Alison intended by starting this thread. It is an issue that is worth discussing from time to time, I think, because everyone needs to be aware that both perspectives exist and that misunderstandings can occur very easily when two people with opposing perspectives interact.

 

But to me, it is very much a "you say toe-may-toe and I say toe-mah-toe" kind of thing. 


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 12:03 PM

"It is a question of how each individual approaches the game."

 

Oh, so it is just a game. The problem is not that it is just a game but "how each individual approaches the game."

 

People get obsessed with things like Rubik's Cube, Sudoku, Chess, etc. and they get frustrated and they fight and they break things and they turn to drink and drugs and they lose jobs and friends and partners, etc. but they are still just games.

 

3DXChat is just a game. If there is any problem it is "how each individual approaches the game."

And, if you are approaching the game in a way that manifests problems for yourself, then "repetition of the 'it's only a game' mantra" can help :)



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Posted 17 December 2017 - 12:25 PM

It's like you're trying to get everyone to admit they are on their computers/devices interacting in a game. Okay, Cordelia, YOU GOT 'EM. THEY ARE PLAYING A VIDEO GAME. But guess what? That's not the fucking point.

 

The POINT is that in this GAME... people develop REAL LIFE feelings because we're not ROBOTS. There is no magic button to turn us off from eliciting real life emotions based off what happens in a game. "It's just a game", in your context, is the equivalent of saying "get over it". 

 

Great, next time you are upset that you and your bf/gf got into a fight, I hope whoever you vent to tells you "it's not like you're married, get over it". Next time you spill red wine on your white blouse in public and you ask your friend for help, I hope they respond with "it's just clothing".

 

These are insufficient answers, Cordelia. They're insufficient because we are compassionate, EMOTIONAL creatures.

 

Yeah, some people need to step back from the game and get some perspective. That's what alisonn is saying. Your posts are beside the point and honestly just muddying up a decent conversation for no damn reason.


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 04:41 PM

Cordelia is correct, its a game. If you allow yourself to get to wrapped up in it you need to reexamine yourself, not the game. The game and people in it can only hurt you if you let it. When you use it as a dating site or whatever, shit can happen .

At the end of the day if this game makes you upset or worse when you sign out for the day, its time to make some changes and take control of your life and seperate real life from fantasy.

This is just my opinion of course so take it with a grain of salt
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Posted 17 December 2017 - 04:43 PM

Would also like to add if the game gives you suicidal thoughts stop playing now and seek help
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Posted 17 December 2017 - 04:51 PM

Cordelia is correct, its a game. If you allow yourself to get to wrapped up in it you need to reexamine yourself, not the game. The game and people in it can only hurt you if you let it. When you use it as a dating site or whatever, shit can happen .
At the end of the day if this game makes you upset or worse when you sign out for the day, its time to make some changes and take control of your life and seperate real life from fantasy.
This is just my opinion of course so take it with a grain of salt


That’s all very well in a perfect world BUT a lot of ppl who face problems with 3dx are VULNERABLE, so it’s not necessarily a case of “allowing” oneself to get wrapped up in it. And neither does everyone have the ability to just sign out because they don’t realise what damage is being done.

It must be nice to live in a world where everything is so black and white.

Wow whatever happened to compassion and empathy...

Sorry Rob but your post has really fucked me off.

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Posted 17 December 2017 - 05:03 PM

That’s all very well in a perfect world BUT a lot of ppl who face problems with 3dx are VULNERABLE, so it’s not necessarily a case of “allowing” oneself to get wrapped up in it. And neither does everyone have the ability to just sign out because they don’t realise what damage is being done.

It must be nice to live in a world where everything is so black and white.

Wow whatever happened to compassion and empathy...

Sorry Rob but your post has really fucked me off.

Its because most is black and white. people just choose to muddy it up. Strange thing about it all is it appears this person is very distraught and while you guys are patting her on the back telling her it will be ok, you should be explaining to her that maybe she needs to take a step back . if god forbid anything ever happened to someone we would see how many of you had compassion and empathy outside of a "OMG , Im so sorry " post.   If anything im showing more compassion than any of you telling the girl to seek help and not self medicate herself with a sex game. 


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 05:12 PM

Actually you know NOTHING of what convos I’m having in private with the OP so you can put your judgemental hat back in the cupboard.

Anyway, I wasn’t referring to any one person here and definitely not the OP. I was making a general point. But a long time ago someone said to me in 3dx “Do you realise how many people who are playing this game have mental health issues?” and then proceeded to run off a whole list of players with autism, ADHD, bipolar, depression, social anxiety and so on. People don’t just “choose to muddy it up”, that’s an incredibly insensitive thing to suggest. People who have mental health issues in life cannot exercise reason and logical thought and before you accuse me of not knowing, I’ve been there so I know.

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Posted 17 December 2017 - 05:13 PM

Actually you know NOTHING of what convos I’m having in private with the OP so you can put your judgemental hat back in the cupboard.

Anyway, I wasn’t referring to any one person here and definitely not the OP. I was making a general point. But a long time ago someone said to me in 3dx “Do you realise how many people who are playing this game have mental health issues and then proceeded to run off a whole list of players with autism, ADHD, bipolar, depression, social anxiety and so on. People don’t just “choose to muddy it up”, that’s an incredibly insensitive thing to suggest. People who have mental health issues in life cannot exercise reason and logical thought and before you accuse me of not knowing, I’ve been there so I know.

one could argue that if you have mental issues, sex games on the internet might not be the best thing for you. some call me insensitive, others say im realistic. i assure you i dont lose a second of sleep what a bunch of strangers think either way


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Posted 17 December 2017 - 05:16 PM

one could argue that if you have mental issues, sex games on the internet might not be the best thing for you.


Agreed but many ppl join 3dx not knowing what the effect is potentially going to be. It seems like an escape from reality or a solution to rl problems and they don’t see what is coming, because they can’t possibly know.

I was really grateful for your support on the rape room thread, but on this issue Rob I just can’t believe the lack of sensitivity.


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