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(Firstly I know this is a Diary section, and I am not clever enough to add screen shots and what-knot, But I was inspired by what others have written. So if this can't belong here, please say so or move it for me, thank you admin - also I've never tried this before and I am not a writer so I can't say how bad it will be, I don't even know what I am writing yet, its is completely fictitious and directly from my own mind and imagination, nowhere else, I will just let it flow and see where it goes).

 

Save It For A Rainy Day

 

" Well I am sorry, it looks as though you are stuck here with me for a while" - Daryl says as stares out his living room window into the cold bleak rain of the late afternoon. " I am sorry, I must apologise, I didn't catch your name before beckoning you in to my home?", Daryl now transfixed on the rainy reflection of the most beautiful woman he has ever laid eyes on standing behind him.

 

" Julia ", she replies, with a slight shiver in her otherwise soft and elegant voice. At this point Daryl, a rather slim and tall dark haired man with broad shoulders, suddenly regains touch with reality " Oh my god I am so sorry! Umm, Julia, let me get you a towel or something!", and he scuttles away to find the ideal thing which knowing his luck, will not be where he needs it to be. After some frantic running around he pulls out a large towel and dashes back into the living room to hand it to Julia, stopping some distance away as he gets distracted for a brief moment by this young ladies outstanding appearance. Elegant stance, a face sculptured by angel and artisan combined, with unusual yet deeply alluring grey toned eyes and long lush red hair now dripping wet down her unimaginably fantastic figure.

 

"...Do I have to walk to you to get the towel, Daryl, or shall I make a wet trail across your living room floor?" She grins a little as she observes the perplexed look on his face, wondering if he picked up on her double entendre. The moment, which to Daryl felt almost spiritual and warm in nature now broken, he steps forwards with haste almost tripping over his own feet to hand the large towel to Julia. It is at the moment she removes the towel from his grasp that it dawns on him " Wait? How did you know my name? ". She grins again and turns away as she wraps herself in the towel, giving Daryl a very brief glimpse of one very nicely formed backside, " Your reputation precedes you Daryl, I know you like to lure women into your home way out here in the countryside to devour them with your lustful desires", she says so confidently as she drys her almost glowing wet hair in the remaining ends of the towel now wrapped tightly around the most tantalising body.

 

Daryl, feeling rather at a loss as to what to say clears his throat and searches his mind on how to respond, for he knows it is not true. He is alone because he lost his wife in an accident nearly 5 years ago. "...I... can assure you I....", still struggling for words and feeling very concerned about this so called reputation, he tries to generate a surge of manly courage to make a suitable reply " I don't know what to say, but I really am not that sort of man Julia, I haven't been with a woman..", Julia interrupts him as she turns and releases her hair from the towel to clasp it back over her shoulders " I know Daryl, I was just joking, I am sorry I didn't mean to offend you I promise ", She now looks more relaxed as she stares straight into Daryl's eyes at the moment a drop of water slowly journey's from her forehead, past her right eye and straight onto her very enticing lips.

 

Daryl, now feeling somewhat outwardly relieved and inwardly aroused by the vision of the goddess standing before him only a mere 2 feet away makes a slightly awkward chuckle and says " You have no idea how happy it makes me to hear that, I thought you were being serious and ... well, you can imagine it couldn't be any further from the truth Julia ", he utters with a serious demeanor, with a powerful gaze of depth and mystery in his eyes that Julia cannot ignore. Daryl then smiles a little as he finds Julia so very captivating, he doesn't want her to go any time soon, " of course if I were to lure women to my humble home I would certainly offer them a drink first! ", now looking at Julia with an almost child like dimpled ear to ear smile that could charm the underwear off any woman, Julia uncontrollably smiles back with such a beautiful and rich smile with glistening teeth - " Tea please good Sir, milk and sugar and as hot as possible, I'm freezing! ".

 

 Daryl leaves the room with a skip in his step, knowing he has Julia here for just a little longer. As he makes his way to the kitchen he asks with a raised voice " Julia, I will light the fire in just a moment, just let me get the kettle going! ". Julia, now drying off, carefully seats herself on the large soft sofa facing the fireplace in expectation of Daryl lighting it as Julia, like most people, likes open fires not just because they are warm, but because they are also relaxing and romantic. Daryl, now feeling more himself, passes Julia sat watching as he tries to arrange the wood on the fire in a manly way, but feeling very much aware that it will be impossible to not look clumsy. He takes no time at all to get to lighting the fire far more swiftly than he would do if he was on his own.

 

 The little flames gradually develop into larger ones, just as the sun gives its last light before nightfall. Daryl gets up and draws the curtains, taking one last look out the window. " How's it looking out there? " asks Julia. " Oh...", Daryl hesitates to reply immediately as the rain has stopped, " Its umm...flooded ", feeling slightly guilty for avoiding the question. "Well then Daryl, I may have to wait until the water clears as I will never get my car through that ford at the end of the road, and going back is not an option either with your house being at the end of this rather long road ", she now leans towards the fire, embracing the heat of it as it crackles and pops. Daryl hears the kettle has boiled and excuses himself from the room to make the tea. Julia sneaks a glance at him from her peripheral vision as he strolls out confidently, master of his own home, this seems to turn her on a little to her surprise. But at that moment, an element of disappointment  falls upon her as she looks up at a photo on the mantle piece of Daryl and his late wife, Julia at this point not knowing anything more other than the fact he was once married and is not now.

 

Daryl returns with tea served in his best cups reserved for that special occasion he never thought would happen. As he faces Julia to hand the steaming hot tea to her, she looks up at him and takes a moment to glance into his deeply alluring eyes, blue like the surface of a deep ocean, and watches him as he sits down in the arm chair next to her. With the photo pressing on Julia's mind, she speaks before she thinks " Daryl, may I ask? ...", Daryl interjects having sensed what she might be thinking and wanting to know ".. yes, I was married once, for 8 good years, or so I thought, and now I am not for 5 not so good years truth be told...", Julia cuts in before Daryl can carry on his sentence, " Daryl... I'm sorry, I shouldn't be digging into your personal life, I barely know you! Please don't feel like you have to tell me", she almost goes to extend her hand to his leg but pulls back for fear she might have made Daryl feel obligated to open up when he seems such a private man, that so few really know anything about.

 

Daryl having observed her possible gesture of comfort and apparent apprehension, turns in his seat towards Julia and gives her the most stimulating look as though she could see right into his soul, as though they were starting to connect on a level never experienced ever before. Daryl continues in a deep and desirable voice "...please Julia, let me tell me you. I've not spoken about this to anyone before. I've just locked myself away here in this house alone. I know I see others in town from time to time, and I pass the time of day with them, but I ... ", Daryl pauses to let out a deep sigh that is meant to express his sadness, but to Julia it just makes her heart beat harder and stirs a tingling in her genital areas as the heat from fire seems to have suddenly increased.

 

"... I never let anyone in, not anymore. But you being here, right now, reminds me of how lonely it has been without the company of a woman. You see, most people believe I kicked her out without due cause and that in her upset, crashed her car... and killed herself. No doubt this is what you may have heard in all the rumours a small village such as mine can entertain all to easily ", Julia takes the brief pause as an opportunity to clear her conscience and consul " Daryl, I can't deny I heard rumours, but not like you might imagine, and I didn't know what or who to believe as I only moved here 3 weeks ago when I split with my partner, but what I do know is that there is always another side to every coin, another story to listen to. And Daryl... I'm here now, and I want to know the truth, don't close me off. I want to hear what really happened, and you need to tell me Daryl. ...please! ". Daryl, feels an intense flood of warm energising stimulation in his entire body as he watches the reflection of the fire in Julia's exotic and wonderfully unusual eyes.

 

As Daryl's breathing steadily gets a little heavier he presses on with his sad story " ...What really happened you ask? Would you believe me even if I told you?....wait, let me guess, your reply would be to trust you, and I do though I barely know you. So I will tell you, but you must promise to decide for yourself who to believe...", Julia makes a very slow and very seductive nod of agreement at Daryl as his arousing mouth starts to open to speak again, " ..I did kick her out, I told her to leave, I wanted her gone! But I never wanted her to die!.. ", Julia can see his eyes quiver as a gentle singular tear builds in his left eye, and trickles down his cheek and into the stubble of his manly jaw, " ..you see Julia, earlier that day I found her credit card statement completely by accident. And on it was a long list of hotel visits and fuel bills that she told me before was for work, but one list of transactions over the months really stood out to me that had nothing to do with her job - Ann Summers! ...When she came home that afternoon I looked in her bag while she was in the shower, and I found the underwear, along with condoms, some used and even some men's clothes mixed with hers. To cut a long story short, it wasn't finding out that killed me inside that day, it was the fact she had been lying for so long - making out that she loved only me, while seeking the carnal pleasures of other men, and fabricating stories to throw me off - abusing my trust!....I'm a man Julia, god damn it I lost the plot, threw her case at the wall, and came so close to striking her in that smug face of hers, but I didn't. I just made her pack up and go! .... ...It was only an hour later, my head in my hands as the pain of betrayal cut through my heart like a red hot knife that the knock at the door came, our local Police officer...and....well, I knew before he said it. And so for weeks after the officer kept calling, as did the local news paper and even the odd villager, trying to pry as to what I had done no doubt. What I had done! I spoke of nothing to anyone for nearly a year, avoided people I knew, I hated myself and the world around me! You should hate me too, Julia, I don't deserve your attention! And I certainly don't see how anyone will ever want to be near me, the man who clearly can't hold on to a woman's heart and keep her happy!...just drives her to death instead... ".

 

Daryl, almost trembling with the release of all the pain and anger he had held in for so long, gets up and stokes the fire with intention. Not looking back at Julia because he feels exposed and unsettled. Julia sits almost speechless at the sudden outpouring, but feels honoured at the same time to be the one, the only one he opens up to. Daryl sits back down and sips some tea, Julia feeling filled with compassion now realising the truth, and believing it, gives in to her hesitation and extends her arm to Daryl's thigh, and their eyes meet again, this time with new understanding and a shared feeling of affection and internal elated sensations.

 

    " And Julia I must ask...", Daryl now leans forward and closer to Julia, making her softly shudder, " You can't tell me you just randomly drove to the end of this road, not knowing my house sits at the end with no other way out than back the way you came, and happen to experience a break down just a short walk away from where I live? ...what really brought you here Julia? ", she now feels cornered, fearing that he might think she came to get information from him, but as he places his hand on her hand that is grasping his leg he finishes the sentence, " Not that for one minute do I regret inviting you in from the cold harsh rain ", he says calmly with both his mouth and eyes gently smiling and glowing in the fire light. 

 

Julia, feeling cornered and vulnerable but in the most exciting way, she edges in just a little closer to Daryl, the towel now slowly sliding from her shoulders inch by inch. With a daring smile she whispers "...and you didn't even think to ask why I hadn't asked to use your phone to call for rescue? ...Alright Daryl, I'll confess, if that's what you want. I've seen you walking around the village before, and I can't help it if you stand out like a sore thumb, those rugged looks yet with a less desirable standard of dress ", she giggles slightly like a school girl being kissed for the first time, " ...and when I heard about this so called lonely man hiding in his house and speaking to only a select few because of some past traumatic event I had to know it was you for sure. Not because I wanted to spy on you, but because I wanted to find this elusive and troubled man, the only decent looking guy in the whole village! How could I resist such temptation when I saw you walking by where I had parked to not jump out and open the bonnet of my car and make out I couldn't get it started, just to get a chance to speak to you! I got a great deal more than I expected, starting with the sudden down pour! ", Julia breaks her long explanation for fear she might be losing Daryl's attention because she deceived him a little. And in that moment of realising how she must appear to him, says " I am truly sorry to hear what happened, I really am. I thought divorced or maybe gay. I had no idea what you went through and how hard it must have been. ...But thank you for opening up and talking to me, Daryl, you are so wrong - people do not think you killed her, they just don't know what happened and are curious, maybe even wanting to help in some way. But now I know, and you can trust me, I won't mess you around and play on your emotions again, not in that sense anyway...", Julia gives a little wink to Daryl, who to her surprise seems rather calm and at ease after her confession.

 

The blazing fire creates a subdued lighting in the room, now rather hot, much like both Julia and Daryl sat locked into a shared moment of deep curiosity about each other. Julia's hand still holding on to Daryl's thigh, Daryl's hand still on her hand, their hearts beating as the raw emotion of the conversation dissipates and intense and immediate attraction grows yet more between them. Julia becomes aware that the leg she is grasping in her hand is also the same leg that Daryl's penis is aligned with. The fact it is so obvious causes Julia to squeeze her legs together tightly as a wave of intense desire floods into her mind and body. Daryl, slowly stroking Julia's hand with his thumb without even realising, can't help but notice the towel has slipped apart from over Julia's legs so that he can see up nearly as far as her panties because her skirt has ridden up from her moving toward him earlier. The two are undeniably in great anticipation for something to happen, for one of them to make the first move for what is sure to be a long night of intense passion that they both long for.

 

 Julia confidently looks at the fire, then back to Daryl, " I am going to help you Daryl, its time you learnt that the past is where mine is - far away from here ", and with that she stands and walks towards the mantle piece and turns the picture down on its face, as she walks away though, the towel is deliberately dropped, and Daryl is immediately drawn to her long legs, and the lining of her knickers that he can see through her skirt and this arouses him, unbearably so. Taken by the feelings of passion, aroused by the natural beauty and compassion of Julia, he makes the bold first move and comes to stand close behind her. Julia feels his long awaited presence and leans into him as he brings his arms around to her front. Julia places her left hand on his hands holding her belly while the other hand slowly moves up to Daryl's head, moving her hair away from her face on the way, urging him to put his head to hers. Without so much as a split second of hesitation Daryl  starts to kiss the side of her neck, passionately as soft gentle dabs on her tender skin, but carried away by the rush of hormones he starts to make small lunges at her neck, biting it with his lips. As his breathing intensifies it arouses Julia further as she hears and feels his breathing on her neck and next to her ear.

 

  As Daryl's kissing moves to her chin, and back to her ear which he finds irresistible and starts kissing around it, taking the bottom lobe into his lips and pulling gently before kissing around her neck again. Julia now feeling his heart beat through his chest on her back, wants Daryl to know she feels the same, and takes his left hand and places it firmly on her left breast, desperate for Daryl to get his big hand around it, knowing it will please him as her breasts are more than a handful. This move by Julia entices Daryl to press his hardness against her amazingly formed ass, and as he does this Julia pushes her ass back so that his hardness presses right between her cheeks. This feels like a dream to Daryl, having been so long without sex. He knows he needs to make the next move but doesn't want to seem desperate, but Julia is making all the right motions to drive Daryl absolutely crazy!

 

While he is kissing her neck and caressing her breast, Julia lets out a soft moan of uncontrolled pleasure and Daryl takes this as an invitation. His right hand moves down Julia's abdomen to just above her vagina, and even with her clothes on, she can feel the little finger of his huge hand nearly touching her clitoris. Daryl pushes his hand firmly to pull her even tighter against him as he makes small thrusting motions against Julia, arousing himself further on her gorgeous body. Julia, feeling like she has entered new plain of existence with pleasure, turns her head so that their lips can touch for the first time, and as she discovers how good Daryl is at kissing, she brings her right hand to his and moves it down slightly for him to pull her skirt up the rest of the way. As he does this, Julia, brings his fingers into contact with her now rather moist knickers and runs her hand back up his arm while Daryl gently yet firmly runs his fingers back and forth along her labia, and up to her clitoris where he moves his finger tips in a circular motion around it, then back along her wet vagina, sliding back and forth making Julia start to sigh and shudder in Daryl's arms.

 

The fire is raging, so are the hearts of Daryl and Julia. This will be one long night indeed for them both, but the best anyone could hope for. But we will save the continuation for another rainy day.

 

(....to be continued)

 

Realised, imagined and written by Andromeda

Well hello you sexy lot! ....well soe of you maybe
 So I came back on a couple of days ago after about 2 years for personal reasons (blah blah). And its kind of sad (just a little) to see a couple of things overal have changed, socially speaking more than anything. Is it just me I am wondering?
I started on this social platform (game, whatever) back in Jan 2015 and the increase in abilities, poses and rooms etc has been a welcome increase (though I still miss the thrill of wall breaking the beach and going into the world beyond) but after this two year gap I see two things I think...
One is that the social dynamics seem a little more heavy towards fantasy/fiction and less 'real' players. Some are still around, just seems a lot less now after 2 years for me. We all play how we desire of course, and I love that. But for the more Vanilla bores and whores it means a lot less social interaction and I don't really feel inclined to dorn myself as an oversized dong slinger called Eyup Yercrak or Willy2big4u etc just to get attention. Hope that makes non-offensive sense
 
The other thing is simply that it seems a lot quieter now sadly. Only one person on my friends list seems to still be playing. But two years ago there were some crazy creative rooms and games and what seems like double the amount of homemade rooms to visit compared to now. Has the likes of VRchat robbed 3dxchat of visitors? Has certain mods been taken away making people seek alternative platforms to play with I wonder?
 
I speak out in order to learn - thanks all and maybe see you around!  

To have this pose but without the extra dong up the arse for FM or MM would be an easy and appreciated position addition....for your mission...(enough of the rhymes already)
 

 

Thanks again everyone! Your thoughts and kindness is appreciated
 
I've put ignore on a few now, but only extreme cases and as rightly said, I nip into a room, (move over a bit of course) and free cam to look around. On the odd occasion I found a room or two that feels like home (as in, how it used to be) but I still have that lingering feeling that a new breed has begun since the editor - not entirely sure why? Maybe a lot of people from other sites who have been waiting for this maybe, and pounced on it as soon as it became live? Meh, anyway...
 
I dabbled with the editor for the first time last night, mainly just to have my abode include a sex wall (thats right, I like sex with walls.....and my success with the ladies pretty much leaves me only with that choice ), and though a tad fiddly at times with the occasional "Wow whats with all the green lines everywhere!" moments, its simple enough to grasp the bulk of it, however from what I can tell there are no indications as to what every button does - so I +1 on the video tutorials if you want to go wild. Again, from what I've seen of peoples creations, you can alter the sea level, make caves with rock formations, patches of land, walls, windows, big things, small things and so on. Only thing I felt might be lacking still is just textures - few more would be nice and lead to even more imaginative places

I don't really think I'm good at building, I mean, compared to other rooms I have seen but I'm happy with my current room I have. All you have to do is play around in the editor a bit and you'll get it. Videos help too, Xanar has good tutorials on how to start out that helped me a lot. So I think the learning curve isn't that steep but there is a lot learn and get used to.

Your profile picture and signature made me giggle like a fool when I saw them, DanTheMan. Nice.
 
Quick question. Is the learning curve steep when it comes to building on the World Editor? Would you compare it to say, the learning curve on creating things on the Sims?
 
And come on, Burger King has some pretty tasty items on their menu, Pathfinder. Their chicken nuggets are pretty bomb. ♥

I like to make hidden spaces in my room (or world), even before the update. But I never got mad at anyone coming into my room and exploring though, so yeah, it's just the maturity level of the person who made the room being a thing. When I room hop (which is rare) I'll just be at the start place and use fly cam to zoom around and stuff while sitting in meditation pose (like Allie mentioned). Then I'll thank or compliment the person and leave, maybe you could try doing that if you wanna explore without having someone be a jerk to you (and I'm really sorry you have to have bad experiences like that). Still, welcome back to 3dx and I hope you enjoy yourself mostly

I don't get it. If a place is supposed to be private why open it to the public? People for me have earned their way to the ignore bin where they tend to stay. Fact is like everyone here we pay to play however that does not mean we have to follow unwritten rules when visiting a room. Show respect get respect, if you are showing respect and they disrespect, ignore bin it is.
World Editor allows creation of rooms, I have not played second life so i do not know about flying, but we can teleport here.    
My advice is kind of echoing what Clone stated about apples and something you gotta remember you pay to play, so ignore the assholes of the game, they tend to be full of shit anyways and enjoy the game your way. Almost like Burger King, only they keep fucking up my order..  

You know what they say about "Rotten Apples" ...

Thank you both for your replies, and kind thoughts!
 
 As you both say, that minecraft kind of trend is oozing out a bit at the moment and as you rightly say SamanthaSweetHeart, there are younger generations boarding the train now and I'd not really given that a lot of thought until now. I never had to fight for my games consoles though, I owned them all! But at times, it feels a little like an overflow of Habbo Hotel. And as you say AllieHotass, some people can see there creations as sacred and in some instances, fair enough. But absolutely, that social obligation to be welcoming would be nice.
 
 All really good views! And for those not on the game yet since the world editor addition, it really is a vast improvement to that side of things. I've visited Disney castle recreations, other castles, pyramids, the Shire, off-world places and the list goes on, and... of course depending on who is one and when, different rooms most of the time to explore (when allowed that is). Its not amazing, and has some limits, but even the slightly more simple rooms still have a much more roomy and comfortable feel to them. And the big or huge rooms (spaces) are really impressive and fun. Not as comprehensive as some games/worlds, but still adds a whole new level to this particular game.
 
I hope to see you all in game soon!
 
PS) Thanks RobT, as SamanthaSweetHeart says, and AllieHotass eludes to as well, often in these cases I've said to myself "how old are you?" completely forgetting that they may well be barely 18 - totally different generation to my aged self. But sure, if you find them, give em hell! I love watching a comical banter take place sometimes and I know you've got it to a "T"

Not exactly the right place to put this thread, but the forum has changed too.
 
So, I came off (err) in November after a month of feeling disappointed (compared to the better times when I used to be on a couple of years back and thereafter off and on). And with the World editor I thought its worth checking in again - see how things are.
 
 Honestly, last night I was really happy to see peoples creations that must take them days upon days to build - and it really is appreciated! I had a lot of fun just exploring and finding any little hidden areas. In no way a comparison, but its like a simple version of Second Life now, with the only draw back that you can't fly (and it takes f**king ages to get across some rooms on 3DXchat).
 
However, and I know I am opening myself up to the meanies, but I've found myself reaching for the "ignore" option for the first time ever, and on more than one occasion within the first few hours of being back on. These wonderfully created rooms seem to have (some select few) very 'precious' people who have really destroyed my respect for their imaginative rooms by being really rude.
 
I've had "Hey don't go up there, thats private!" when I accidentally went into an area of a room (or user space I guess I should say now?), oblivious that the public room had private areas. Honest error, I apologised, and said how I got up there in case they wanted to block it off as it was a way unknown to the space creator (was just trying to help) and I got a hell of a lot of BS thrown at me. I questioned their mental age, laughed and left but ....wtf. 
 
Earlier on I had a visit to a nice space I had already been to last night, nice a friendly. When I got there "Hi, great room" I say, and the space creator immediately goes off on one about "blocking the channel" and "this is a place of peace and rest" and so on and so forth, so after that long rant I said sorry, I thought this was a 'site' for socialising and chat (didn't even mention the whole massive SEX part) and left never to return.
 
So sure, I am evidently just to ugly for some people, or to friendly, but to me there is a difference somehow since the world editor (which I think is excellent and a most welcome addition) but the social side of things I feel like its elevated an attitude in some players, making me feel almost scared to say hi and compliment them on their room/space in case I get hit by a strange kind of unwarranted rage fueled unfriendly sermon, and I am not exaggerating either, which is really saddening.
 
Bit like "hey stranger, come into my home, have some snacks" says the resident "oh great,sure, thank you!" and before I get through the front door. "Get the F**K out my house!"... .....never had that before the world editor, and I kind of wish now for a "take a dump on their lawn" option
 
Seriously though, I am really pleased about this addition - possibly at the cost of all those poses and options we've been hankering for over the past 5 years (wink wink ). It has really added a vital missing element to the game (hah, well for those that see it as a game and not a mental war zone). But I am so disappointed in the odd few who have tasked themselves with opening rooms to the public, and ripping the s**t out of people coming into it (its only a minority of course). All I want to do is have fun, laugh, and relax in the way the game was designed for. 
 
So Big up the Dev's! But boo to the inhospitable stealers of joy
 
PS) If anyone has any nice welcoming rooms (user spaces) or know of any, please let me know. Thanks  

Thank you both for your replies, and kind thoughts!
 
 As you both say, that minecraft kind of trend is oozing out a bit at the moment and as you rightly say SamanthaSweetHeart, there are younger generations boarding the train now and I'd not really given that a lot of thought until now. I never had to fight for my games consoles though, I owned them all! But at times, it feels a little like an overflow of Habbo Hotel. And as you say AllieHotass, some people can see there creations as sacred and in some instances, fair enough. But absolutely, that social obligation to be welcoming would be nice.
 
 All really good views! And for those not on the game yet since the world editor addition, it really is a vast improvement to that side of things. I've visited Disney castle recreations, other castles, pyramids, the Shire, off-world places and the list goes on, and... of course depending on who is one and when, different rooms most of the time to explore (when allowed that is). Its not amazing, and has some limits, but even the slightly more simple rooms still have a much more roomy and comfortable feel to them. And the big or huge rooms (spaces) are really impressive and fun. Not as comprehensive as some games/worlds, but still adds a whole new level to this particular game.
 
I hope to see you all in game soon!
 
PS) Thanks RobT, as SamanthaSweetHeart says, and AllieHotass eludes to as well, often in these cases I've said to myself "how old are you?" completely forgetting that they may well be barely 18 - totally different generation to my aged self. But sure, if you find them, give em hell! I love watching a comical banter take place sometimes and I know you've got it to a "T"

Not exactly the right place to put this thread, but the forum has changed too.
 
So, I came off (err) in November after a month of feeling disappointed (compared to the better times when I used to be on a couple of years back and thereafter off and on). And with the World editor I thought its worth checking in again - see how things are.
 
 Honestly, last night I was really happy to see peoples creations that must take them days upon days to build - and it really is appreciated! I had a lot of fun just exploring and finding any little hidden areas. In no way a comparison, but its like a simple version of Second Life now, with the only draw back that you can't fly (and it takes f**king ages to get across some rooms on 3DXchat).
 
However, and I know I am opening myself up to the meanies, but I've found myself reaching for the "ignore" option for the first time ever, and on more than one occasion within the first few hours of being back on. These wonderfully created rooms seem to have (some select few) very 'precious' people who have really destroyed my respect for their imaginative rooms by being really rude.
 
I've had "Hey don't go up there, thats private!" when I accidentally went into an area of a room (or user space I guess I should say now?), oblivious that the public room had private areas. Honest error, I apologised, and said how I got up there in case they wanted to block it off as it was a way unknown to the space creator (was just trying to help) and I got a hell of a lot of BS thrown at me. I questioned their mental age, laughed and left but ....wtf. 
 
Earlier on I had a visit to a nice space I had already been to last night, nice a friendly. When I got there "Hi, great room" I say, and the space creator immediately goes off on one about "blocking the channel" and "this is a place of peace and rest" and so on and so forth, so after that long rant I said sorry, I thought this was a 'site' for socialising and chat (didn't even mention the whole massive SEX part) and left never to return.
 
So sure, I am evidently just to ugly for some people, or to friendly, but to me there is a difference somehow since the world editor (which I think is excellent and a most welcome addition) but the social side of things I feel like its elevated an attitude in some players, making me feel almost scared to say hi and compliment them on their room/space in case I get hit by a strange kind of unwarranted rage fueled unfriendly sermon, and I am not exaggerating either, which is really saddening.
 
Bit like "hey stranger, come into my home, have some snacks" says the resident "oh great,sure, thank you!" and before I get through the front door. "Get the F**K out my house!"... .....never had that before the world editor, and I kind of wish now for a "take a dump on their lawn" option
 
Seriously though, I am really pleased about this addition - possibly at the cost of all those poses and options we've been hankering for over the past 5 years (wink wink ). It has really added a vital missing element to the game (hah, well for those that see it as a game and not a mental war zone). But I am so disappointed in the odd few who have tasked themselves with opening rooms to the public, and ripping the s**t out of people coming into it (its only a minority of course). All I want to do is have fun, laugh, and relax in the way the game was designed for. 
 
So Big up the Dev's! But boo to the inhospitable stealers of joy
 
PS) If anyone has any nice welcoming rooms (user spaces) or know of any, please let me know. Thanks  

Thank you both for your replies, and kind thoughts!
 
 As you both say, that minecraft kind of trend is oozing out a bit at the moment and as you rightly say SamanthaSweetHeart, there are younger generations boarding the train now and I'd not really given that a lot of thought until now. I never had to fight for my games consoles though, I owned them all! But at times, it feels a little like an overflow of Habbo Hotel. And as you say AllieHotass, some people can see there creations as sacred and in some instances, fair enough. But absolutely, that social obligation to be welcoming would be nice.
 
 All really good views! And for those not on the game yet since the world editor addition, it really is a vast improvement to that side of things. I've visited Disney castle recreations, other castles, pyramids, the Shire, off-world places and the list goes on, and... of course depending on who is one and when, different rooms most of the time to explore (when allowed that is). Its not amazing, and has some limits, but even the slightly more simple rooms still have a much more roomy and comfortable feel to them. And the big or huge rooms (spaces) are really impressive and fun. Not as comprehensive as some games/worlds, but still adds a whole new level to this particular game.
 
I hope to see you all in game soon!
 
PS) Thanks RobT, as SamanthaSweetHeart says, and AllieHotass eludes to as well, often in these cases I've said to myself "how old are you?" completely forgetting that they may well be barely 18 - totally different generation to my aged self. But sure, if you find them, give em hell! I love watching a comical banter take place sometimes and I know you've got it to a "T"

Not exactly the right place to put this thread, but the forum has changed too.
 
So, I came off (err) in November after a month of feeling disappointed (compared to the better times when I used to be on a couple of years back and thereafter off and on). And with the World editor I thought its worth checking in again - see how things are.
 
 Honestly, last night I was really happy to see peoples creations that must take them days upon days to build - and it really is appreciated! I had a lot of fun just exploring and finding any little hidden areas. In no way a comparison, but its like a simple version of Second Life now, with the only draw back that you can't fly (and it takes f**king ages to get across some rooms on 3DXchat).
 
However, and I know I am opening myself up to the meanies, but I've found myself reaching for the "ignore" option for the first time ever, and on more than one occasion within the first few hours of being back on. These wonderfully created rooms seem to have (some select few) very 'precious' people who have really destroyed my respect for their imaginative rooms by being really rude.
 
I've had "Hey don't go up there, thats private!" when I accidentally went into an area of a room (or user space I guess I should say now?), oblivious that the public room had private areas. Honest error, I apologised, and said how I got up there in case they wanted to block it off as it was a way unknown to the space creator (was just trying to help) and I got a hell of a lot of BS thrown at me. I questioned their mental age, laughed and left but ....wtf. 
 
Earlier on I had a visit to a nice space I had already been to last night, nice a friendly. When I got there "Hi, great room" I say, and the space creator immediately goes off on one about "blocking the channel" and "this is a place of peace and rest" and so on and so forth, so after that long rant I said sorry, I thought this was a 'site' for socialising and chat (didn't even mention the whole massive SEX part) and left never to return.
 
So sure, I am evidently just to ugly for some people, or to friendly, but to me there is a difference somehow since the world editor (which I think is excellent and a most welcome addition) but the social side of things I feel like its elevated an attitude in some players, making me feel almost scared to say hi and compliment them on their room/space in case I get hit by a strange kind of unwarranted rage fueled unfriendly sermon, and I am not exaggerating either, which is really saddening.
 
Bit like "hey stranger, come into my home, have some snacks" says the resident "oh great,sure, thank you!" and before I get through the front door. "Get the F**K out my house!"... .....never had that before the world editor, and I kind of wish now for a "take a dump on their lawn" option
 
Seriously though, I am really pleased about this addition - possibly at the cost of all those poses and options we've been hankering for over the past 5 years (wink wink ). It has really added a vital missing element to the game (hah, well for those that see it as a game and not a mental war zone). But I am so disappointed in the odd few who have tasked themselves with opening rooms to the public, and ripping the s**t out of people coming into it (its only a minority of course). All I want to do is have fun, laugh, and relax in the way the game was designed for. 
 
So Big up the Dev's! But boo to the inhospitable stealers of joy
 
PS) If anyone has any nice welcoming rooms (user spaces) or know of any, please let me know. Thanks  

Hehehe great post. Yips.....wilps all ah can say is eet depends on the individual you are dealing with and there maybe a couple of reasons this has happened post Editor.
 
I tink maybe the enticement of the editor and eets possibilities along with eet being new and something else to do maybe has sparked many more builders to create "their" space. With more people comes more types of people and perhaps you've just stumbled into some of the, lets say "troubled" ones.
 
Secondly maybe eets the time and efforts and the vision this editor is giving people. Now they can build woteva they likes including VIP rooms, areas just for "special" frands, in their vision ah guess all these options are valid and attainable in their creation that some people, well maybe most people hold sacred with the hours poured in. Some peeps get touchy when you enter them and now of course they are the Lords of this Space and act accordingly. Eeps.
 
As a room host, ie if you open your personal space publicly you have a social duty as far as I am concerned, to be accommodating, frandly, and make peeps feel good. Eets not always easy, if you have to go afk or are not in a hosting mood, therefor don't open publicly.
 
If you have areas in your Cleerbs, personal spaces, castles and dungeons that are VIP zones or private areas, then clearly mark them as such as we can do this easily.
 
Basically don't be a Bish or an Assdoosh when someone comes to your room to chq eets.
 
Sorry you had these experiences but there are tonnes of frandly rooms here and plenty ta see. Also to move faster if you want to "fly" as you put eets, hit F5 and use free cam, WASD to move right mouse button to turn n sich like a fps pew pewer.

I'm hoping to come back in a week or so when the discount rate appears for the yearly subscription, so thank you for posting this as a heads up for us old timers coming back to play the game.
 
It's unfortunate you're getting younger players (mostly in their teens and early twenties) opening up their worlds but still forbidding you to go certain places, but that's the kind of mentality you come to expect from those who grew up on playing Minecraft. I watch my little cousins play that game at a rage level I have never seen before, and you're talking to someone who played the Nintendo Entertainment System on par with competition from older brothers. It certainly is a different time frame of players, but don't beat yourself up too much about it.
 
Personally, I can't wait to see what I can create with this new World Editor, much like you mentioned, a welcome addition to the game. Now those of us who would like to tell a story can now create the backdrop for it to help aid in our storytelling. I'm hoping to create a house very similar to mine, so that people going in and out of my "virtual home" will feel very much welcome. I can't say for sure how long that will take me since I have NO IDEA what the learning curve is to create something as lavish as a home, but I hope it comes easy.
 
Sadly, there's no "Player Editor" to combat the state of affairs in 3dxChat, but there are always those of us returning to the game to have fun, right alongside you.

Not exactly the right place to put this thread, but the forum has changed too.
 
So, I came off (err) in November after a month of feeling disappointed (compared to the better times when I used to be on a couple of years back and thereafter off and on). And with the World editor I thought its worth checking in again - see how things are.
 
 Honestly, last night I was really happy to see peoples creations that must take them days upon days to build - and it really is appreciated! I had a lot of fun just exploring and finding any little hidden areas. In no way a comparison, but its like a simple version of Second Life now, with the only draw back that you can't fly (and it takes f**king ages to get across some rooms on 3DXchat).
 
However, and I know I am opening myself up to the meanies, but I've found myself reaching for the "ignore" option for the first time ever, and on more than one occasion within the first few hours of being back on. These wonderfully created rooms seem to have (some select few) very 'precious' people who have really destroyed my respect for their imaginative rooms by being really rude.
 
I've had "Hey don't go up there, thats private!" when I accidentally went into an area of a room (or user space I guess I should say now?), oblivious that the public room had private areas. Honest error, I apologised, and said how I got up there in case they wanted to block it off as it was a way unknown to the space creator (was just trying to help) and I got a hell of a lot of BS thrown at me. I questioned their mental age, laughed and left but ....wtf. 
 
Earlier on I had a visit to a nice space I had already been to last night, nice a friendly. When I got there "Hi, great room" I say, and the space creator immediately goes off on one about "blocking the channel" and "this is a place of peace and rest" and so on and so forth, so after that long rant I said sorry, I thought this was a 'site' for socialising and chat (didn't even mention the whole massive SEX part) and left never to return.
 
So sure, I am evidently just to ugly for some people, or to friendly, but to me there is a difference somehow since the world editor (which I think is excellent and a most welcome addition) but the social side of things I feel like its elevated an attitude in some players, making me feel almost scared to say hi and compliment them on their room/space in case I get hit by a strange kind of unwarranted rage fueled unfriendly sermon, and I am not exaggerating either, which is really saddening.
 
Bit like "hey stranger, come into my home, have some snacks" says the resident "oh great,sure, thank you!" and before I get through the front door. "Get the F**K out my house!"... .....never had that before the world editor, and I kind of wish now for a "take a dump on their lawn" option
 
Seriously though, I am really pleased about this addition - possibly at the cost of all those poses and options we've been hankering for over the past 5 years (wink wink ). It has really added a vital missing element to the game (hah, well for those that see it as a game and not a mental war zone). But I am so disappointed in the odd few who have tasked themselves with opening rooms to the public, and ripping the s**t out of people coming into it (its only a minority of course). All I want to do is have fun, laugh, and relax in the way the game was designed for. 
 
So Big up the Dev's! But boo to the inhospitable stealers of joy
 
PS) If anyone has any nice welcoming rooms (user spaces) or know of any, please let me know. Thanks  

Not exactly the right place to put this thread, but the forum has changed too.
 
So, I came off (err) in November after a month of feeling disappointed (compared to the better times when I used to be on a couple of years back and thereafter off and on). And with the World editor I thought its worth checking in again - see how things are.
 
 Honestly, last night I was really happy to see peoples creations that must take them days upon days to build - and it really is appreciated! I had a lot of fun just exploring and finding any little hidden areas. In no way a comparison, but its like a simple version of Second Life now, with the only draw back that you can't fly (and it takes f**king ages to get across some rooms on 3DXchat).
 
However, and I know I am opening myself up to the meanies, but I've found myself reaching for the "ignore" option for the first time ever, and on more than one occasion within the first few hours of being back on. These wonderfully created rooms seem to have (some select few) very 'precious' people who have really destroyed my respect for their imaginative rooms by being really rude.
 
I've had "Hey don't go up there, thats private!" when I accidentally went into an area of a room (or user space I guess I should say now?), oblivious that the public room had private areas. Honest error, I apologised, and said how I got up there in case they wanted to block it off as it was a way unknown to the space creator (was just trying to help) and I got a hell of a lot of BS thrown at me. I questioned their mental age, laughed and left but ....wtf. 
 
Earlier on I had a visit to a nice space I had already been to last night, nice a friendly. When I got there "Hi, great room" I say, and the space creator immediately goes off on one about "blocking the channel" and "this is a place of peace and rest" and so on and so forth, so after that long rant I said sorry, I thought this was a 'site' for socialising and chat (didn't even mention the whole massive SEX part) and left never to return.
 
So sure, I am evidently just to ugly for some people, or to friendly, but to me there is a difference somehow since the world editor (which I think is excellent and a most welcome addition) but the social side of things I feel like its elevated an attitude in some players, making me feel almost scared to say hi and compliment them on their room/space in case I get hit by a strange kind of unwarranted rage fueled unfriendly sermon, and I am not exaggerating either, which is really saddening.
 
Bit like "hey stranger, come into my home, have some snacks" says the resident "oh great,sure, thank you!" and before I get through the front door. "Get the F**K out my house!"... .....never had that before the world editor, and I kind of wish now for a "take a dump on their lawn" option
 
Seriously though, I am really pleased about this addition - possibly at the cost of all those poses and options we've been hankering for over the past 5 years (wink wink ). It has really added a vital missing element to the game (hah, well for those that see it as a game and not a mental war zone). But I am so disappointed in the odd few who have tasked themselves with opening rooms to the public, and ripping the s**t out of people coming into it (its only a minority of course). All I want to do is have fun, laugh, and relax in the way the game was designed for. 
 
So Big up the Dev's! But boo to the inhospitable stealers of joy
 
PS) If anyone has any nice welcoming rooms (user spaces) or know of any, please let me know. Thanks  

Not exactly the right place to put this thread, but the forum has changed too.
 
So, I came off (err) in November after a month of feeling disappointed (compared to the better times when I used to be on a couple of years back and thereafter off and on). And with the World editor I thought its worth checking in again - see how things are.
 
 Honestly, last night I was really happy to see peoples creations that must take them days upon days to build - and it really is appreciated! I had a lot of fun just exploring and finding any little hidden areas. In no way a comparison, but its like a simple version of Second Life now, with the only draw back that you can't fly (and it takes f**king ages to get across some rooms on 3DXchat).
 
However, and I know I am opening myself up to the meanies, but I've found myself reaching for the "ignore" option for the first time ever, and on more than one occasion within the first few hours of being back on. These wonderfully created rooms seem to have (some select few) very 'precious' people who have really destroyed my respect for their imaginative rooms by being really rude.
 
I've had "Hey don't go up there, thats private!" when I accidentally went into an area of a room (or user space I guess I should say now?), oblivious that the public room had private areas. Honest error, I apologised, and said how I got up there in case they wanted to block it off as it was a way unknown to the space creator (was just trying to help) and I got a hell of a lot of BS thrown at me. I questioned their mental age, laughed and left but ....wtf. 
 
Earlier on I had a visit to a nice space I had already been to last night, nice a friendly. When I got there "Hi, great room" I say, and the space creator immediately goes off on one about "blocking the channel" and "this is a place of peace and rest" and so on and so forth, so after that long rant I said sorry, I thought this was a 'site' for socialising and chat (didn't even mention the whole massive SEX part) and left never to return.
 
So sure, I am evidently just to ugly for some people, or to friendly, but to me there is a difference somehow since the world editor (which I think is excellent and a most welcome addition) but the social side of things I feel like its elevated an attitude in some players, making me feel almost scared to say hi and compliment them on their room/space in case I get hit by a strange kind of unwarranted rage fueled unfriendly sermon, and I am not exaggerating either, which is really saddening.
 
Bit like "hey stranger, come into my home, have some snacks" says the resident "oh great,sure, thank you!" and before I get through the front door. "Get the F**K out my house!"... .....never had that before the world editor, and I kind of wish now for a "take a dump on their lawn" option
 
Seriously though, I am really pleased about this addition - possibly at the cost of all those poses and options we've been hankering for over the past 5 years (wink wink ). It has really added a vital missing element to the game (hah, well for those that see it as a game and not a mental war zone). But I am so disappointed in the odd few who have tasked themselves with opening rooms to the public, and ripping the s**t out of people coming into it (its only a minority of course). All I want to do is have fun, laugh, and relax in the way the game was designed for. 
 
So Big up the Dev's! But boo to the inhospitable stealers of joy
 
PS) If anyone has any nice welcoming rooms (user spaces) or know of any, please let me know. Thanks  

Not exactly the right place to put this thread, but the forum has changed too.
 
So, I came off (err) in November after a month of feeling disappointed (compared to the better times when I used to be on a couple of years back and thereafter off and on). And with the World editor I thought its worth checking in again - see how things are.
 
 Honestly, last night I was really happy to see peoples creations that must take them days upon days to build - and it really is appreciated! I had a lot of fun just exploring and finding any little hidden areas. In no way a comparison, but its like a simple version of Second Life now, with the only draw back that you can't fly (and it takes f**king ages to get across some rooms on 3DXchat).
 
However, and I know I am opening myself up to the meanies, but I've found myself reaching for the "ignore" option for the first time ever, and on more than one occasion within the first few hours of being back on. These wonderfully created rooms seem to have (some select few) very 'precious' people who have really destroyed my respect for their imaginative rooms by being really rude.
 
I've had "Hey don't go up there, thats private!" when I accidentally went into an area of a room (or user space I guess I should say now?), oblivious that the public room had private areas. Honest error, I apologised, and said how I got up there in case they wanted to block it off as it was a way unknown to the space creator (was just trying to help) and I got a hell of a lot of BS thrown at me. I questioned their mental age, laughed and left but ....wtf. 
 
Earlier on I had a visit to a nice space I had already been to last night, nice a friendly. When I got there "Hi, great room" I say, and the space creator immediately goes off on one about "blocking the channel" and "this is a place of peace and rest" and so on and so forth, so after that long rant I said sorry, I thought this was a 'site' for socialising and chat (didn't even mention the whole massive SEX part) and left never to return.
 
So sure, I am evidently just to ugly for some people, or to friendly, but to me there is a difference somehow since the world editor (which I think is excellent and a most welcome addition) but the social side of things I feel like its elevated an attitude in some players, making me feel almost scared to say hi and compliment them on their room/space in case I get hit by a strange kind of unwarranted rage fueled unfriendly sermon, and I am not exaggerating either, which is really saddening.
 
Bit like "hey stranger, come into my home, have some snacks" says the resident "oh great,sure, thank you!" and before I get through the front door. "Get the F**K out my house!"... .....never had that before the world editor, and I kind of wish now for a "take a dump on their lawn" option
 
Seriously though, I am really pleased about this addition - possibly at the cost of all those poses and options we've been hankering for over the past 5 years (wink wink ). It has really added a vital missing element to the game (hah, well for those that see it as a game and not a mental war zone). But I am so disappointed in the odd few who have tasked themselves with opening rooms to the public, and ripping the s**t out of people coming into it (its only a minority of course). All I want to do is have fun, laugh, and relax in the way the game was designed for. 
 
So Big up the Dev's! But boo to the inhospitable stealers of joy
 
PS) If anyone has any nice welcoming rooms (user spaces) or know of any, please let me know. Thanks  

Its certainly not without its flaws, but that is like pretty much any Adult MMO of this style. For those who use it fairly regularly, they find the perks and forgive the fails. And some also use SL or RLC as well (Second Life amd Red Light Centre).
 
For the tutorial, Its not hugely complicated, which is a benefit of the game - compared to the intricacies of SL for example, this is much more simple, but also more limited. You are best working things out by trial and error and I am pretty sure there are posts that can be searched here explaining the basics. If not, I am sure someone can spare a few minutes to answer any specific questions you may have.
 
Regarding Social interactions, its an understatement to say this comes up in various ways very often. All I can say is that there are many variables, your profile, the places (rooms) you visit, time zones as hit it at a certain time you'll find it quiet and sparse. Usually when the US is on, its pretty busy.
 
Myself, like many others can go days or weeks with minimal or zero contact, and certainly without 'sexual encounters', again depending on what you seek and by what method. Yet other days, there are conversations that can last hours. It is a virtual world of real peoples minds focused into a hub without the barriers. It is easier to quit on it, but you may miss out on something good (and many do find good things). If you've paid the month then keep popping on, focus on your avatar and description over room editing and the like and linger more in the Beach area, Fesco's and the Sin Club  which are the 2nd, 4th and 6th images under the "general area" selection.
 
 Honestly, I returned here a couple of weeks ago and the first week was dead, and I felt as you did. Second week, totally different! Play if for what it is and remember it is still a game, and though not perfect it still holds high rank for its genre. 

its just philosophical, but what you think?
think about this kind of game in 10-20 years.
you put on your vr glass or contact lens, tits moving like real, skin is like real, all graphics and animations like real, and you get a cold invite for fuck from anyone.
first half-1 year will be good, because all the environment and immersion is just like real life nearly.
but after then..
you start to cherry pick...
again..

Your story remind me something when I was newbie...better say not experimented in the use of roleplay and ...to be honest, in mindplay game. Careful with girls (if they really are) having fun to immerse ppl's in they're ''roleplay'' if you plan to comeback .Don't take this game too seriously in the eventuality you'll share real life things and real feelings.Anyway, nothing will be dangerous if you still cool headed.see?
-btw,when you say someone real,be sure it's really what you think by having real close relation with someone in game by NOT using skype with, otherwise, you will be really disapointed when you'll gonna discover the real true reality this game could be and what it may cause on us.gotcha?
 
I don't want to break your hope, but, on my side, it's mainly the reason why I never cameback.This game tend to turn too serious with many ppl's playing real life way.Not really my things, and tired been pointed as mind player cause of my roleplay . At the end of my last subscription, everytime I logged in game, i was always on the fear to meet someone looking for real life connection.

Hello all you beautiful people!
 
A diary? Possibly not unless to my surprise it evolves into such. We shall see
 
I have been reading previous threads about peoples interlinks between real life and 3DXChat which I feel is the best all round Adult animated MMO (I tried the others). It has me pondering over whether You, me and anyone in between find this 'game' an escapism, a simple bit of fun, or a therapy/coping mechanism?
 
Some of you are familiar with me as I started on this game several years ago, then came off (if you pardon the pun) and back on again a few months after. I then had about a 2 year gap and came back around May/June this year and found it had changed. That change for me saw (sea shore) welcomed animations, alterations and absolutely amazing apartment creations with the 'mod', however the expense seemed to come (I'm using a lot of comes in this it seems) at the depth of interaction.
 
When I first started it was at a time between relationships and I was a little sensitive, lonely and just wanting some fun and diverse experiences. Very quickly on I met a few decent souls, male, female and dual gender (making the transition either way or remaining neutral) by being myself online the same as I am in real life. Eventually I met someone whom I connected with sexually which led to a cosy level of satisfaction and it did genuinely help me not only cope better with my emotions (I wasn't a mess by any means, just a bit out of sync was all), but I also learnt a lot about my own sexual drive and needs. Call it a period of revelation for me.
 
When I came back on earlier this year, it was a similar situation (and forgive me as I am totally open and honest) in that I had been in a relationship with someone with a notable degree of autism and manic depression, so everything was a demanding task. She had a very polyamorous past and convinced me she wanted a monogamous relationship but it wasn't long before the polyamorousity had repeated itself. So we split.
 
Her life style and my being monogamous in real life is nothing noteworthy as I truly understand what she needs and does. I just didn't like the repeat of (me being about the 7th) convincing a guy she wants a monogamous relationship with a monogamous guy and then wondering why she hurts and he hurts when she just runs straight into another guys bed. When we split I spent many many many hours (literally, and many more it seems) trying to explain in a way that she can absorb, that shes on a path (polyamorous) and hurts herself and others because she is trying to anchor herself to a monogamous relationship. As ironic as it seems to some, I actively encourage her to pursue her polyamorous path, explore it safely and as controlled as possible, and truly test it out as the self confessed and professing polyamorous woman she is. ... Just leave the poor monogamous guys out of it please as that's two years I can't get back when I could have been with someone more in tune with my path
 
So there are no hard feelings, but she is heartbroken and doesn't (due to the autism) understand why she can't have me and other guys too, its very much like taking a toy away from a child who doesn't understand that by thrusting that toy (easy now) into a siblings eye socket, there will be consequences. It really is a huge drain on me emotionally and on my time and personal space that even now, 8 months after breaking up, she still begs for me to go back to her because she wants me, while also still sleeping around with other guys - she simply doesn't get it - yet. But I need my life back.
 
So with all that waffle out the way, I came here today (mmmm) to test this out - while I work and try to rebuild my life again as a single guy, whilst still feeling emotionally drained from time to time as she self harms by the way, so eventually I will have to disappear but at the moment shes a risk to herself hence I am attempting to phase out rather than blow up, and it is taking a long time. I've not had sex in nearly a year now, and even before then it was disconnected and felt like I was just a dildo with automatic functions so my need for meaning and connection on any level was obsolete for a the duration of the relationship. I miss the connections I used to have on this game as it gave me relief and a way to be me without worrying so much about being shy and unattractive.
 
I wonder if it is dangerous to be thinking of returning to this game, paying £20 ($) with the faint hope that I can find people to connect with to chat with and/or have sexual interaction with  in order to ease my stress and tension. The last time I was on 8 months ago, in the entire month I didn't have one sexual encounter, I am unique (take that as you will) and I laugh at myself because in real life I can stand in a club with 100 single women and be overlooked by them all, and its exactly the same online too But... I am a man, grounded, and I know that when I find (or get found) by another uniquely matched mind that some great 'interaction' is had and wanted over again. For those it means anything to I have an INFJ personality type - its a blessing and a curse.
 
Many of you wonderful people are here to relax, escape, experiment, cope, treat, dabble, enjoy and experience what modern technology and society can provide us so easily now. But when it comes to using it as a coping mechanism, an escape from a tough real life situation, or therapy for any reason - is a good thing? Does it help you? Does it damage you in some sense?
 
....should I return? And if I do will I actually have virtual sex this time with someone real (as in someone similar minded to myself, not a gift zombie I mean)?
 
Peace and joyness to you all and thanks for reading, and thanks for being kind with your replies!