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DISCLAIMER: This topic is for expressing my views and your opinions in what you say, however I am sure many of you would find this downright silly and non agreeable. That doesn't give you the right to be harsh or rude.

 

I am a simple Indian guy who joined with a lot of expectations (read -unrealistic in this virtual world). It's wouldn't be fair to say, I didn't give it time or enough efforts. I did, and I will continue to do so. I am well aware that this isn't a dating site and the center piece of this game being 'sex' makes it difficult for an emotional barter. I am however that virus in a sterile world with people immune to the kind like me and I would soon die or casted out if I don't infect anyone soon.

 

Again, I am a sucker of emotions and feelings. I fantasize romance rather than dominance and hit n run. But it is sinful in this world. People's lack of trust and shell named privacy is hardcore than their fuckery. I geddit, this world of stalkers and rare chance of getting profit out of emotional investment gets you scared but I fail to understand how can you drive without fuel? How is your sky full of stars not incomplete without a moon? Why won't you let me in and love you like I would if I met you at the bar or library or if you were my new neighbor?

 

I will take no for an answer, I definitely will smile if you say because you're creepy and ugly as fuck. I will accept that I am just not your type and oblige if you ask me to piss off... But I will never understand why you put your kinks and fantasies above your heart, and when did you stop taking risks. When did you decide you will not fail anymore?

 

P.s. please be very convincing.

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Well, ppl haves a different opinion and a different target about the playing of 3DXChat.

Any wish should be respected :)

But I'm sure there is for each pot a lid ;)

Agreed, and this isn't exclusive to just 3dxchat. It's for any virtual social platform.

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The simple fact of the matter here is that trust isnt given, Its earned. Thats what happens when people have been burned time after time. For every one genuine person there are 10 who would chew you up and spit you out if given the chance. is that fair to new people, no but its reality. Best advice i can give if thats what you are looking for is to meet people, build that trust up and in time good things will happen. People want to trust, They just need something to trust in.

For the most part I would happily agree but if this is in true sense a community, people need to look out for new as well as old people. Not caring or being paranoid doesn't help. You're free to take measures to protect yourself from getting hurt but when your security measures become generic and clichéd it starts degrading the whole idea of socialising.

 

You're right about the people need something to trust in; part.

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you have got the guy perspective, I'm sure other ladies with giving you theirs but this is mine; 

 

 

I totally liked the romantic play, when I first started the game. I actually met someone who liked the same things I liked,so to speak. Then I find out he was making other avatars trying to get me to cheat on him in the game. Idk if this was something he found as a turn on but when he started deleting his avatar and telling me that someone hacked him I realized I was being taken for a ride by a master player. I felt like such a fool. Now after a few other adventures in 3DX, the Sex part isn't as important to me. I still like the idea of exploring fantasies and things I've never done in real life. but honestly, I don't trust anyone when they say I want to be with you, just you... I find my mind automatically veers toward the "what's his game." and how do I keep from getting my feelings hurt. if that's something that a woman automatically thinks she really can't get into the exploration of any romantic ventures in the game or I can't any way. So, that being said, I have fallen  into the hanging with friends, having an occasional moment like if you met someone at a bar or something, then I am trying my best to take nothing serious (having fun)  until my subs run out again.  Unless someone comes along to change my view on this it is my view until I no longer play. 

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you have got the guy perspective, I'm sure other ladies with giving you theirs but this is mine;

I totally liked the romantic play, when I first started the game. I actually met someone who liked the same things I liked,so to speak. Then I find out he was making other avatars trying to get me to cheat on him in the game. Idk if this was something he found as a turn on but when he started deleting his avatar and telling me that someone hacked him I realized I was being taken for a ride by a master player. I felt like such a fool. Now after a few other adventures in 3DX, the Sex part isn't as important to me. I still like the idea of exploring fantasies and things I've never done in real life. but honestly, I don't trust anyone when they say I want to be with you, just you... I find my mind automatically veers toward the "what's his game." and how do I keep from getting my feelings hurt. if that's something that a woman automatically thinks she really can't get into the exploration of any romantic ventures in the game or I can't any way. So, that being said, I have fallen into the hanging with friends, having an occasional moment like if you met someone at a bar or something, then I am trying my best to take nothing serious (having fun) until my subs run out again. Unless someone comes along to change my view on this it is my view until I no longer play.

Thanks Sherry, I respect your opinion but please don't assume I have written this post being completely blind of a woman's point of view. Also don't assume I am new to this like RobT did. I am in no way going to try to change your views but I have to re assert what I am trying to say.

 

Now everyone has been screwed over and over again by someone or the other in real life or in open. But no one in real life tells you to stop dating because you might get cheated on or whatever, but ... in virtual world people are quick to say you're a fool if you trusted someone online. Why? Because there's a fair more chance to catch him/her in the real world and you can't do the same online? Imagine if your real world turned into like this where you won't let anyone just anyone enter your house or life fearing and paranoid that they will Rob you off your life or wealth or hurt you in some way or take advantage or play some sick game. But you can't behave that way in your real life because people will start calling you crazy. But since it's okay to do this online, people do it. It's normal out here to be paranoid (read - careful). Sorry but I never stopped eating when I got food poisoning, i just stopped eating from that particular restaurant ... Didn't ban the whole city food.

 

I am not asking anyone to let your guards off or trust blindly. From the time I have spent in any virtual platform I have seen that 1 out of 100 will give you a fair chance to even earn that trust RobT is talking about, why? Because a jerk once hurt you and you haven't moved on. I am sorry learning from mistakes is one thing and closing your doors on opportunity is another.

 

Thanks though, I respect your insight and perception.

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This place is anything you want it to be. If you want to log in and fuck. Do so. If you meet someone and get emotionally attached. That's your prerogative. If - as many long time players do - you use 3DX as a social platform. That's fine also.  But anyone who says 3DX is only one or two of those three things, are being disingenuous and I choose not to invest much trust in them, partly because they are not being honest with themselves but also because they clearly feel liberated to do as they please in disregard of what others might feel.

 

3DX may well not be 'real' but that doesn't validate disrespect. Respect the wishes of others, and you'll have a blast. :)

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Thanks Sherry, I respect your opinion but please don't assume I have written this post being completely blind of a woman's point of view. Also don't assume I am new to this like RobT did. I am in no way going to try to change your views but I have to re assert what I am trying to say.

 

Now everyone has been screwed over and over again by someone or the other in real life or in open. But no one in real life tells you to stop dating because you might get cheated on or whatever, but ... in virtual world people are quick to say you're a fool if you trusted someone online. Why? Because there's a fair more chance to catch him/her in the real world and you can't do the same online? Imagine if your real world turned into like this where you won't let anyone just anyone enter your house or life fearing and paranoid that they will Rob you off your life or wealth or hurt you in some way or take advantage or play some sick game. But you can't behave that way in your real life because people will start calling you crazy. But since it's okay to do this online, people do it. It's normal out here to be paranoid (read - careful). Sorry but I never stopped eating when I got food poisoning, i just stopped eating from that particular restaurant ... Didn't ban the whole city food.

 

I am not asking anyone to let your guards off or trust blindly. From the time I have spent in any virtual platform I have seen that 1 out of 100 will give you a fair chance to even earn that trust RobT is talking about, why? Because a jerk once hurt you and you haven't moved on. I am sorry learning from mistakes is one thing and closing your doors on opportunity is another.

 

Thanks though, I respect yo

LOL, that doesn't mean I don't trust anyone.. it means I don't take it serious I refuse to and that is my choice. I have learned my lesson the hard way. that is just my opinion and we all have them. The way I choose to play is my business. and like AnyNameWillDo said we have that choice which is great. we can log in and rp, just have sex, hang, or what ever.  I just don't give a crap what other people do any more.. that's my choice. I hope you find what you are looking for though. LOL.  

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LOL, that doesn't mean I don't trust anyone.. it means I don't take it serious I refuse to and that is my choice. I have learned my lesson the hard way. that is just my opinion and we all have them. The way I choose to play is my business. and like AnyNameWillDo said we have that choice which is great. we can log in and rp, just have sex, hang, or what ever.  I just don't give a crap what other people do any more.. that's my choice. I hope you find what you are looking for though. LOL.  

 

I am sorry, did I smell sarcasm here? Didn't I mention TWICE that I respect your perception and not attempting to change it? What I wrote as reply to your previous comment were few points to ponder, if you will. Just because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD, in this case your disrespect you're so much advocating for not being thrown back at you. This thread is a debate and lets not troll the poster shall we?

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Well, I am not sure you have it the quite right in your emotional connection = gas analogy because it is a physical desire that feeds the sex, not the emotional connection. The emotional connection more equates to the long term running of that car you  are driving. You get from point A to point B for the moment but there is no guarantee that will happen again with this same care (fluid changes, upkeep, etc) if you don't give it the TLC it needs to stay on the road. Sex is like having an itch to scratch or a belly rumbling for food.  Love isn't required for that. Now it might dictate how you go about treating VS scratching the particular itch or if you choose to nourish rather than just feed that hunger, but that's individual and personal.

 

Add that to this being a virtual world with pixels rather than real life with actual skin and flesh, well... different critters.  I haven't been here in 3dx terribly long yet (IMVU for years and Second Life tested)  but I'll likely develop some friendships here, so that will be cool. I still don't see it as a necessity in a virtual sexual encounter. 

 

All that said, I'm a creature of needing to feel love for the other person before physically diving in. Now, mind you, that doesn't mean the desire is lacking or that I couldn't or haven't fallen into bed with someone without really having such a connection before I figured all that out. I have with disastrous results though it was fun while it lasted. This is a virtual world to be treated as each individual wishes to treat it, usually as a game by most people (not all, granted) so for me to enjoy something like this I personally hold my own ideas of right and wrong outside of this arena while recognizing everyone else will do what they do regardless of what I think, do, or feel about it. It's a world  apart from my real life and I don't have to be directly affected by it. It's their choice and their time here online. This is a fantasy world. I play with my own fantasies here and I don't need anyone else's emotional attachments for that. It's nice, but not needed for me... at least not here on a pixel platform. Perhaps when I've satisfied those fly bye fantasies I'll treat this VR world differently but for now it's all good.

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This place is anything you want it to be. If you want to log in and fuck. Do so. If you meet someone and get emotionally attached. That's your prerogative. If - as many long time players do - you use 3DX as a social platform. That's fine also.  But anyone who says 3DX is only one or two of those three things, are being disingenuous and I choose not to invest much trust in them, partly because they are not being honest with themselves but also because they clearly feel liberated to do as they please in disregard of what others might feel.

 

3DX may well not be 'real' but that doesn't validate disrespect. Respect the wishes of others, and you'll have a blast. :)

 

I understand and accept that everyone has their way of playing and is free to do so. I am not unhappy being here or indicating this place is bad to be. I am wishfully hoping that there wasn't so much shielding when it came to emotions among users. I am okay with the rejection and people's choice and method of playing. I am wishing people would be more accepting (few at least) so that people like me feel embraced and feel hopeful. If I am respecting your community, I feel like I deserve to be heard and not just ridiculed. There are people who are hanging by the thread and asking for a fair chance, including me. 

 

I will just quote a monologue of my favorite song "Sometimes people don't see there's a whole another life happening outside your bubble, and when that outside is gone, you realize all you've left is the bubble." 

 

p.s. Thanks for the advice. I have done so in the past and intend to continue. 

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This place is anything you want it to be. If you want to log in and fuck. Do so. If you meet someone and get emotionally attached. That's your prerogative. If - as many long time players do - you use 3DX as a social platform. That's fine also.  But anyone who says 3DX is only one or two of those three things, are being disingenuous and I choose not to invest much trust in them, partly because they are not being honest with themselves but also because they clearly feel liberated to do as they please in disregard of what others might feel.

 

3DX may well not be 'real' but that doesn't validate disrespect. Respect the wishes of others, and you'll have a blast. :)

 

 

And yes, this too. Great post.

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I am sorry, did I smell sarcasm here? Didn't I mention TWICE that I respect your perception and not attempting to change it? What I wrote as reply to your previous comment were few points to ponder, if you will. Just because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD, in this case your disrespect you're so much advocating for not being thrown back at you. This thread is a debate and lets not troll the poster shall we?

Sarcasm is my way of laughing, I wasn't disrespecting you views or what you said in any way. if you took it that way you already have a chip on your shoulder about the subject. In my real life I was married 26 years to the same man. When he decided to walk out that was his choice it wasn't mine. (that's real life)  I don't hate him I actually still love him. I didn't get played we just grew apart. that is real life. This isn't real life for me, this is my escape from reality for just a little while. Because I decided to share this doesn't mean I feel sorry for myself it mean I lived, I have learned, and I have grown from it. 

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you cant really compare rl to 3dx, there is no comparision. perfect example is what happened to sherry. that would never happen in real life . that would be like john doe dating her, then knocking on her door later in the day, same guy but saying his name was frank johnson.

 

This place and games like it aren't geared for relationships. in real life divorcing and splitting up has consequences, on the game, all it involves is removing a name from a profile and maybe 5k xgold.  the ones who are married here are to be commended because they actually have did something that is rare .

 

Think again what you wrote and think again if John doe can't send his friends to test it out on Sherry. 

 

p.s. stop assuming I am a noob with life like experiences please?

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Think again what you wrote and think again if John doe can't send his friends to test it out on Sherry. 

 

p.s. stop assuming I am a noob with life like experiences please?

 

 

I don't think the problem is anyone assumes you are a noob to real life experience. I think its a matter of equating that real life to this virtual world and, at least by your posts, seem to be equating the two quite heavily.

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Well, I am not sure you have it the quite right in your emotional connection = gas analogy because it is a physical desire that feeds the sex, not the emotional connection. The emotional connection more equates to the long term running of that car you  are driving. You get from point A to point B for the moment but there is no guarantee that will happen again with this same care (fluid changes, upkeep, etc) if you don't give it the TLC it needs to stay on the road. Sex is like having an itch to scratch or a belly rumbling for food.  Love isn't required for that. Now it might dictate how you go about treating VS scratching the particular itch or if you choose to nourish rather than just feed that hunger, but that's individual and personal.

 

Add that to this being a virtual world with pixels rather than real life with actual skin and flesh, well... different critters.  I haven't been here in 3dx terribly long yet (IMVU for years and Second Life tested)  but I'll likely develop some friendships here, so that will be cool. I still don't see it as a necessity in a virtual sexual encounter. 

 

All that said, I'm a creature of needing to feel love for the other person before physically diving in. Now, mind you, that doesn't mean the desire is lacking or that I couldn't or haven't fallen into bed with someone without really having such a connection before I figured all that out. I have with disastrous results though it was fun while it lasted. This is a virtual world to be treated as each individual wishes to treat it, usually as a game by most people (not all, granted) so for me to enjoy something like this I personally hold my own ideas of right and wrong outside of this arena while recognizing everyone else will do what they do regardless of what I think, do, or feel about it. It's a world  apart from my real life and I don't have to be directly affected by it. It's their choice and their time here online. This is a fantasy world. I play with my own fantasies here and I don't need anyone else's emotional attachments for that. It's nice, but not needed for me... at least not here on a pixel platform. Perhaps when I've satisfied those fly bye fantasies I'll treat this VR world differently but for now it's all good.

 

Sorry Amber you lost me at " it is a physical desire that feeds the sex, not the emotional connection." 

 

When you say you're a creature of needing to feel love before physically diving in, I can relate to it because that is exactly what I am talking about here. But for me I don't feel loved when someone says "I love you but only in 3dx world. It might be fantasy world for others, you and in SL, Achat... and I sound like a broken record but for the nth time, I respect that. Its your choice, your subscription hard earned money, your time ... everyone is saying the same thing. 

 

I made this post for one reason and one reason only with an open mind that I need to understand people's mindset. I won't disrespect others by saying I have seen worse in online or RL, but I've been some places too. But that doesn't equate to online life is not equal to real life. Bad shit happen to everyone whether you're online or in real life. I am sure you've lent your shoulder for a friend to cry on after she was ditched. I am sure you've learnt your lessons. 

 

I am not this close to otherwise accepting that my post was just a pointless rant than a wishful debate. 

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that would be like john doe dating her, then knocking on her door later in the day, same guy but saying his name was frank johnson.

 

Cpt John Doe... The A-10 warthog Pilot playing in game u give as example?

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Sorry Amber you lost me at " it is a physical desire that feeds the sex, not the emotional connection." 

 

Well, I did explain in it that very same paragraph using your own analogy to boot. Up to you to think it through.

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lol, no. here in America when someone says John Doe, its just used as a name out of the blue because its common. its not referring to a actual avi or person

 

 

John Doe is sometimes used to refer to a typical male in other contexts as well, in a similar manner to John Q. Public in the United States or Joe Public, John Smith or Joe Bloggs in Britain. For example: the first name listed on a form might be John Doe, along with a fictional address or other fictional information to provide an example of how to fill in the form.

Oh I see"! Thanks for that info Rob, M'not sure in France the name used by is Joe Le Taxi?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M29va0s3fkY

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The French have the name Jean Dupont, and they also use Monsieur Tout-le-monde: when translated this means ‘Mr All-the-world’.

Dupont just like Dupont & Dupont TinTin cartoon? Hilarious hihi :lol:

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...edit...wrong thread...nothing to see here lololol

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I'll try to be very convincing as topic starter has asked. Oh but wait? What is this topic actually about?.. 

 

If you want to experience online romance and you can't imagine online sex without deeper connection, it's fine. Just find someone who has same opinion. Many people do. This can be very interesting and sensual bond indeed.

 

If you don't want to get virtually attached, then just look for free spirits. It's pretty sane and safe IMO. Just don't bothers those who don't want any romantic attention with yours. 

 

Case solved :D

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Here is the way I see it:

 

All the people here (yes all of you, no you are not a special snowflake get over yourself and stop taking life and most importantly yourself, too damn seriously IF you want to be happy) are wounded, twisted and not mentally stable in some level due to (mostly) their real life interactions with other people. Whether it is your boss, your significant other your ex, as we go through life we get many kinds of scars. Some of us handle it well, some break down, in any case life goes on.

 

Here is why I stated the obvious:

 

Don't be boring. Be consistent, be yourself but don't be boring. That's the kiss of death here and to be honest in real too. You know why? Because people deal with TONS of bullshit in real life so when they are here, their behavior, expectations and the way they act is...mostly carnal, hedonistic at best.  It is sad but true, people will not be patient with you, they will not think that you are a sweetheart because you are complimenting them, they will NOT wait for you. And should you not keep their interest or have something they want, they will jump on another in a heartbeat, hoping that next one is not as lame as you are. Make no mistake, this is not an healthy behavior and does damage all the parties involved usually...well unless they are psychopath. What I am trying to say is, you have to have a "game" if you want to be successful in relationships. Sad...but that's the reality and this is 2017 almost. 

 

Another very valuable thing I learned through my experiences is, nothing happens overnight. Live your life, don't have an objective such as "I wanna fuck today" "I will find the love of my life today" Just live your life the way you want, have hobbies, have some sort of "game" then pieces come together as you go on, naturally, you don't need to feel all this....Pathetic thoughts. 

 

Just a tip of information derived from my not so fun experiences over the years, both in real and in here. You have to read failures, savor them, absorb all the experiences and keep going looking forward, never once looking back. That is if you want to keep a little sanity you have left in this life.

 

In the end, all of us seeking personal gratification in one way or another, even it is masked in "making someone else happy" It's all a looooong twisted game.

Lastly, relationships are meant to mold you, make you a more experienced, stronger and a better person, they are not these magical things that will make your body produce serotonin 24/7. 

 

Good luck and don't be boring :P

 

Purrr~ <3 

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