arisak Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 Throughout our life and even here in 3dxchat we are searching for love and to really understand love. Love here is not easy to find but once you find it, its absolutely amazing. Its an amazing journey on how it evolves and grows through the relationship. But we still must put some work into the relationship to make it last and have it develop into something beautiful and lasting. After reading let me know which six types of love you focus in the poll and if you want reply to the post with how you rank the 6 types. Enjoy!! Try to read the whole thing I swear you won't regret it The ancient Greeks were sophisticated in the way they talked about love, recognizing six different varieties. They would have been shocked by our crudeness in using a single word both to whisper "l love you" over a candlelit meal and to casually sign an email "lots of love." So what were the six loves known to the Greeks? And how can they inspire us to move beyond our current addiction to romantic love, which has many of us hoping—but often failing—to find a unique soul mate who can satisfy all their emotional needs? Eros (sexual passion)The first kind of love was eros, named after the Greek god of fertility (aka Cupid), and it represented the idea of sexual passion and desire. But the Greeks didn't always think of it as something positive, as we tend to do today. In fact, eros was viewed as a dangerous, fiery, and irrational form of love that could take hold of you and possess you—think of a Tinder fling you regret. Eros involved a loss of control that frightened the Greeks. Which is odd, because losing control is precisely what many people now seek in a relationship. Don't we all hope to fall "madly" in love? Philia (deep friendship)The second variety of love was philia or friendship, which the Greeks valued far more than the base sexuality of eros. Philia concerned the deep comradely friendship that developed between brothers in arms who had fought side by side on the battlefield. It was about showing loyalty to your friends, sacrificing for them, as well as sharing your emotions with them. (Another kind of philia, sometimes called storge, embodied the love between parents and their children.) We can all ask ourselves how much of this comradely philia we have in our lives. It's an important question in an age when we attempt to amass "friends" on Facebook or "followers" on Twitter—achievements that would have hardly impressed the Greeks. Ludus (playful love)This was the Greeks' idea of playful love, which referred to the affection between young lovers. We've all had a taste of it in the flirting and teasing in the early stages of a relationship. But we also live out our ludus when we sit around in a bar bantering and laughing with friends, or when we go out dancing. Dancing with strangers may be the ultimate ludic activity, almost a playful substitute for sex itself. Social norms may frown on this kind of adult frivolity, but a little more ludus might be just what we need to spice up our love lives. Agape (love for everyone)The fourth love, and perhaps the most radical, was agape or selfless love. This was a love that you extended to all people, whether family members or distant strangers. Agape was later translated into Latin as caritas, which is the origin of our word "charity." C.S. Lewis referred to it as "gift love," the highest form of Christian love. But it also appears in other religious traditions, such as the idea of mettā or "universal loving kindness" in Theravāda Buddhism. There is growing evidence that agape is in a dangerous decline in many countries. Empathy levels in the U.S. have declined sharply over the past 40 years, with the steepest fall occurring in the past decade. We urgently need to revive our capacity to care about strangers. Pragma (longstanding love)Another Greek love was the mature love known as pragma. This was the deep understanding that developed between long-married couples. Pragma was about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing patience and tolerance. The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said that we expend too much energy on "falling in love" and need to learn more how to "stand in love." Pragma is precisely about standing in love—making an effort to give love rather than just receive it. With about a third of first marriages in the U.S. ending through divorce or separation in the first 10 years, the Greeks would surely think we should bring a serious dose of pragma into our relationships. Philautia (love of the self)The Greek's sixth variety of love was philautia or self-love. And the clever Greeks realized there were two types. One was an unhealthy variety associated with narcissism, where you became self-obsessed and focused on personal fame and fortune. A healthier version enhanced your wider capacity to love. The idea was that if you like yourself and feel secure in yourself, you will have plenty of love to give others (as is reflected in the Buddhist-inspired concept of "self-compassion"). Or, as Aristotle put it, "All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feelings for himself." The ancient Greeks found diverse kinds of love in relationships with a wide range of people—friends, family, spouses, strangers, and even themselves. This contrasts with our typical focus on a single romantic relationship, where we hope to find all the different loves wrapped into a single person or soul mate. The message from the Greeks is to nurture the varieties of love and tap into its many sources. Don't just seek eros, but cultivate philia by spending more time with old friends, or develop ludus by dancing the night away.Moreover, we should abandon our obsession with perfection. Don't expect your partner to offer you all the varieties of love, all of the time (with the danger that you may toss aside a partner who fails to live up to your desires). Recognize that a relationship may begin with plenty of eros and ludus, then evolve toward embodying more pragma or agape.The diverse Greek system of loves can also provide consolation. By mapping out the extent to which all six loves are present in your life, you might discover you've got a lot more love than you had ever imagined—even if you feel an absence of a physical lover. AIice, FairyDust, Mistyya and 4 others 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alexandrien Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 Nice topic Arisa, respect My current order of priorities would probably beLudusPhilautiaPhilia & Eros (sharing the same rank)PragmaAgapeMy priorities vary often, so this can change basically every day Whereas I'm pretty sure Ludus will always come first when its about 3dx.. cheers,Alex FairyDust and arisak 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arisak Posted February 1, 2016 Author Share Posted February 1, 2016 oki everyone so heres my list Agape (love for everyone) Philautia or self-love Philia (Deep friendship)Pragma (long-lasting love)Ludus (Playful love)Eros (Sexual Passion) RedJewel, analiza, ☙𝔼𝕩❧ and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nikki Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 arisak, Pierrousss, Alexandrien and 5 others 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miaw Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 haha nikki Anyway, cute topic Arisa. Really interesting :3 arisak, FairyDust and analiza 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHuntress Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Is it chocolate cake? arisak, FairyDust and Alexandrien 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nikki Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Yes Alexandrien, arisak, Pierrousss and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheHuntress Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 I love chocolate cake, I think I have the Eros kind of love for it, can I get a piece? FairyDust, Alexandrien, arisak and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynnibree Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 hehe I read Imgur too o3o FairyDust and arisak 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arisak Posted February 2, 2016 Author Share Posted February 2, 2016 Hehe loved it FairyDust and analiza 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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FairyDust Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Great topic ArisaKat, I love it. Okay so here goes..... 1) Agape-Love for everyone2) Philia-Deep friendship3) Pragma-Long lasting love4) Philautia-Love for self5) Eros- Sexual Passion6) Ludus-Playful Love The order of 1 and 2 was very difficult to decide and so was 5 and 6 KylieJenner, analiza and arisak 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FairyDust Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Yes With Marzipan icing? analiza and arisak 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiK73 Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 1) Ludus-Playful Love- Enjoyable, non committed, freel expressing desires2) Philia-Deep Friendship- A friend, sharing both the sensual as well as the mundane3) Eros-Sexual Passion- The fire to keep the park alive4) Agape-Love For Everyone- Love and concern for all of the friends surrounding5) Philautia- Love for Self- Most important in reality, but often the one left farthest behind6) Pragma- Long Lasting Love- Love is supposed to last forever, yet it seems to me to not exist Alexandrien, arisak, Miaw and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KylieJenner Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 1. Philautia (love of the self)2. Pragma (longstanding love)3. Agape (love for everyone)4. Philia (deep friendship)5. Ludus (playful love)6. Eros (sexual passion) analiza, arisak and FairyDust 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
analiza Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Pat ( deep friendship ) Pat ( longstanding love ) Biene ( more than deep friendship ) Laura ( more than deep friendship ) Tanja ( more than deep friendship ) Romy ( more than deep friendship ) I like that Liza arisak and Miaw 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nikki Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 With Marzipan icing? Of course Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pierrousss Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 Yes Chocolate is good four your health Nikki with moderation of course ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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