alisonn

this happens every week or so. 

i disconnect and then log in, but i either disconnect again, or the game loads without rooms and friends. 

sometimes it gives the error "too many attempts, try again later"

anyone else have this issue?

thanks for the help guys, it turned out to me the thing ross mentioned. really appreciate it

i'm trying to start up my game, but for some reason i can't. i keep getting errors for no reason, even after deleting everyting even remotely related to 3dxchat.  the image below shows the error i get when i try to install the game, and if i ignore the problem, it simple gives me an error stating that: "the system can't find 3dxchat.exe". 

i played just fine yesterday, and after literally doing nothing, i suddenly can't start up the game anymore. how is this possible? and more importantly, how do i fix this? 

does anyone have any suggestions? i have already contacted customer support, but maybe you guys are quicker to respond. 

Hey people!

i'll jump right in to it cause i tend to write posts that are way too long

since my last 2 posts in the diaries section of the forums, i have been getting tonnnssss of PM's of people wanting to have a chat about 3dx, and about the discomfort they feel in playing 3dx, or just bad experiences they have had recently.

I absolutely love it, and i love to chat and try to help anyone as best i can, i really put a lot of effort in to it, as people have done for me when times were tough. 

but i've come to realise that there are a few things that i repeat quite often, and i thought it'd be a good idea to post that here, so others who are having a bit of trouble and don't want/dare to chat can read it too  

SO!

there's a lot of people having trouble with 3dx, with RL friends, and with RL relationships. 

i'll just say a few quick things about each of these things that have helped me and a few others allong the way, and and maybe it can help you too!

3dx

3dx can be addicting, dangerous, and draining. but only if you let it take over. 

if you go as far as to think you're  in a situation where it's having an effect on your RL situation, it's time to take a break. 

and i know that can be very hard, but the more you stay away, the easier it gets. 

how? do "anything" else. 

sign up for sports, play other games, pick up an entirely new hobby, even if it's on you don't like. 

just stay away for a while, no matter how.

RL friends:

this is something most people have asked me questions about, and i have been saying a lot of the same things to all of them. 

i've had the same problem as quite a few people, "i don't have many/any friends, so i come to 3dx". 

but in the end, what i never did was "making actual appointments to see my friends" 

what can you do: 

in my mind, i had about 2 friends, but then i went through my contact list on my phone and facebook, started chatting with some facebook friends or through telegram/whatsapp, and i just started asking people to meet up again. 

even people i haven't seen in 3/4/5 years, i just asked "what's up"  and started chatting a bit, and then i actually made appointments with them. 

a big reason people have issues with friends, is that they're not in highschool anymore, and people are moving on with their lives by: work, college, moving, etc.

the time of randomly hanging out with people is over after you graduate from highschool, and the older and more busy you get, the more you'll need to make appointments to hang out with people. 

but you do need to contact them, and put effort in to it. 

that's something i never "really"  did, i was always just waiting for someone else to contact me.

RL relationships:

quite a few people have told me about their pain about being single, and trust me when i say "i have been there".

before i met my partner i have now, i had been single for around 9 years, and even though it's not "that" long, it still hurt like hell as all kinds of media platforms keep reminding you of how you're not a whole human if you're not in a relationship (which ofcourse is bullshit). 

what to do: 

i can write on and on and onnn about this subject, so i will keep it short and just write down a small list.

if you have questions, you can always pm me !

1. wait (that's an important one. never look for love...just wait) 

2. dating sites (it's a fact that in 2017, 1 in every 4 relationships, started online.) 

3. new hobby

4. new work (if you can, like a summer job, if you're in college) 

5. volunteer work 

6. hang out with friends, and friends of friends. broaden your inner circle. 

7. don't stick to routine life, try new things! 

those are things that really helped me, and it's not just for romantic relationships. 

these are things that help you with finding friends too, and getting out of your comfort zone. 

it's going to change your life if you try, but it will take a lot of effort. 

i never said it'd be easy, but it sure is worth it. 

questions:

if you think any of this was usefull, and you have a more specific question, please send me a PM, i really would love it to help you if i can in any way. 

leaving 3dx 

ok this is a little something for my friends, and i suppose to clear the air a bit. 

but i have temporarily left 3dx. 

idk if or when i'll be back, but i'll pop in for a few minutes every now and then. 

other than that, i will be away from 3dx, because RL has been treating me soooo amazing!

i have more friends, i have a partner, i am almost gratuating, my job is looking better than ever.

life is finally what i want it to be. 

this in combination with the fact that 3dx is just not what it used to be to me. 

it's a place filled with adult children that ruin any amazing experiences for the more mature people around. 

so it's time to leave the highschool mentality of 3dx life behind, and move in to the adult world. 

because we all know how 3dx tends to subtract a few years from the way you really are :') 

never have i ever been to a place with so much fake friends, lying, cheating, drama, and just....childish behavior.

cussing, gossiping, freaking out over who said what and when, while no one should care or be involved in it. 

it's...just highschool :') 

i still love my friends though, and i will be here on the forums for chats, and discord, or telegram. 

if you don't have me on there...well what's keeping you, come ask me !  

it has been a wild, crazy, awesome, ride for me, and my god will i miss it. 

but, for now, this is alisonn signing off. 

have fun my friends! 

enjoy, laugh, party, and see you perhaps in the future! 

love, Alisonn <3

i snuck in to the 3dx chat headquarters, and took this picture real quick.

now we know why we get so many crashes.

such a mess! 

time to get to work Gizmo.

Brat, i love you so much for saying that.

hey yvonny. 

jealousy is an arch enemy of mine as well. 

it made me do things i'm not proud of, and it's caused others to act completely insane around me as well. 

it really is a hard thing to deal with, and it can cause you a world of pain, and regretable actions. 

And i have to say, anyone that is aware enough of their own action being...hmm... "not correct" gets a big big plus in my book. 

an apology seems to take a lot of energy out of people, and it takes maturity to apologize to someone.

doing it for a group of people, is really something that takes a lot of courage. 

i suppose people don't like it because they don't want to show their vulnerability and they don't want to set their pride asside for a moment. 

but, showing you are able to do that, gains a lot of respect from me, and it shows you are an adult, that thinks about their actions. 

you're doing great yvonny <3

you definitely made me proud.

that was a joke, Warp.

perhaps you could try to load the default/standard room again from 3dx and then your custom built room.

don't forget to save your room first though

if that doesn't work....well perhaps delete 3dx completely and reinstall 3dx.

if THAT doesn't work...then idk xD

send an Email to the developers i guess

good luck Warp!

But we can do like alisonn and say “Hey I have been through it and if you need to talk about it give me a shout and even though right now you feel like shit there is light at the end of the tunnel”

so far this has been one of the, if not "the" best responses that has been made about my post.

you and athene seem to have truely understood the intent behind the post.

so, you, like her, have my respect.

and again, if you know anyone that needs a quick chat, or some help pushing past some hard times, you can always send them to me, i've learned a thing or two while I've been here, and in school.

*pets you a little, cause why not*

That's a good and important warning. Yes it looks innoncent, and it can be terrible.

 

But it can also be also so amazing !

 

 

oh definitely, it can (is) absolutely amazing.

i have found friends in 3dx that outshine friends i have irl.

it's great!

i even feel a stronger emotional connection to my 3dx wife, than any RL relationship i've had so far.

because you're forced to really connected and talk about everything.

that's what makes it so strong.

instead of aesthetics, you MUST focus on the characteristics and traits of other individuals.

that makes for a crazy strong bond.

but, it's also what keeps you stuck on here.

so, be careful with it.

The game is as dangerous as you make it, you have control over you actions and emotions.

that is simply false.

you have control over your actions, definitely. but if you think you have control over your Emotions, you have never felt a strong love, or grief before, Which is a shame.

you do not have control over your Emotions.

and Emotions can have an effect on your actions.

i think people here are missing the point that my original post is not about finding a relationship here....at all. 

my point is that 3dx is an extremely addictive place, because it resembles RL so much, and offer you an escape from reality, just like drugs/alcohol would do. 

except this place looks far more "innocent".

i did comment on it though.

and when i did, i'm not talking about taking relationships outside of 3dx. i'm talking about relationships inside 3dx. 

i didn't marry Amy because i didn't have actual feelings for her.

be it inside or out, the feelings are there. 

and that makes it just as "real"  as outside of 3dx.

but in the end, i have to refer back to Athene's comment.

so far, that has been the most accurate statement related to the original post. 

it doesn't matter what you think about this place, or how you feel about it, or what it "actually is" 

what matters is "this is what I feel, and i'm hurt" 

this is my pain, you have yours. 

spilling drinks on your clothes, crashign your car, losing a loved one, being depressed over 3dx, and so on. 

they're all different forms of agony.

in the end,any decent person would simply sit by your side, and support you, no matter what it is you're hurt about.

if you don't....well then i.m.o. you're not human....you're just a cunt. 

 

Today will try to recover for RL party +m/

 

 

alcohol is the best medicine to recover birdie

a wonderful magical night indeed ^-^ 

you're amazing together <3 !

now go have fun you crazy love birds !! ^-^

As far as I am concerned if you tink you found lervs here then awesomes but remember eet comes with a risk. Eets like tha Big Dippa.

 

You jump in tha carriage bit, wots that called, tha car? Roller car? Dippa mobile ah dunno....anyways.... Concentrates Allie ya dippa lol...so ya jumps in head off thru tha twisties and get shaken around abits. Then ya head up tha steeeeeeeep incline slowly, creepin along. Wows what a view from up here, you get higher and higher reaching tha very top, then........................SWOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOSH!!! down ya fly 100 miles an hour, hair getting all blown about, drooling and screaming then a sharp left turn, tummy goes all Bluuurkee and round and round you go till ya all giddy and wobbly.

 

The ride ends....some peeps are crying and shaking and complain to tha Manager and want their monies back coz that shook tha sandwiches outa thems and they are not happy.

 

Some hug a bin and mumma birb eets losing all their lunchins, what a waste of good carnival foods sheeshers,

 

Others are on cloud 9, sure eets over but they can have another go and dooo eets all agains.

 

Lervs is highs and lows, this game can be tuff or just funs but remember life is a game too and if ya don't play eet well then.....Get Guuud!! 

What?

/me finishes her bottle of wine and goes to bed >.>

well i hope i wasn't trolled but it damn sure feels like I've been played and used.

but that's not a topic i'd like to discuss here

it's hard to truly judge someone's intentions through mere text.

emotions can't be read through them.

so it's equally as easy to misinterpreted words and someone's​ intentions at it is to misjudge someone.

it's sad, but it's just how it is.

and in the end, having no consequences makes the weaker minded people do unfair and brutal things.

like promising love, sending out personal information, insulting or anything of the sort.

it's why 3dx can be dangerous not only emotionally, but also for your own personal safety, because there are some crazy people out there with menacing intentions.

it why it just needs a warning sign.

that's enough to keep people aware i hope.

also i'm kinda drunk atm, so maybe i'm just blabbing nonsense and not understanding your words >.>

. BTW - I see what people do in Alisonn's scenario as another form of trolling.

what do you mean by this exactly?

Because the post sure isn't trolling or trying to troll anyone.

it's there to warn people, and send out a message to people that if they ever need help, they, tbey shouldn't wait.

I'm really trying to let people know that if they have any issues and need to talk, i'm always an option.

i could have misunderstood what you said though​, so don't feel attacked, I don't intend it as such.

Now I know 3dx is a microcosm...things that develop over weeks and months and years in rl seem to happen in a few days or weeks here...

 

it's true.

and i think a lot is owed to the fact that people crave love so much that a lot of it isn't formed from feeling for one another but for the craving of being in a relationship.

that's a very unhealthy way to start a relationship even though it might be a subconscious thing.

that and the fact that we all share a common Purpose when we go to 3DX. it's not only two gain intimacy but it's to socialise and to make your desires come true. are sharing that seem purpose makes it really easy for you to talk and to share your thoughts.

and also there is simply no consequences in this place. you can pretty much do anything without being physically hurt without being fined or anything of the sort. you can pretty much do anything you want. it makes you think less of your actions.

but that's all just opinion.

 

I live in a country where if you're mentally ill, poor, elderly, homeless or uneducated, you get treated like shit by the establishment.

aye i live in a country where this happens often as well sadly.

it even starts to feel like my entire country is becoming more and more cold by the day, and the value of a person seems to diminish as we grow more attached to our technology and individuality proceeds to grow.

i hope as we grow older we start to realize the value humanity again, Because at this point i feel like we live in a cold dead planet.

 

Before you criticize people try and understand what they are actually saying.

i understood quite​ well what you said.

still a horrible way to think.

but now you're judging at random​.

i won't reply to you anymore, you seem...too cold.

If you treat people here how you would in real life...and how you would also wish to be treated...I think we’d all be happier.

this is something i agree with completely, yet it's also the thing That makes it even more dangerous.

i.m.o. these "trolls" are not as much the issue.

poisonous people can be evaded simply eith an ignore button and solved quite easily.

but it's the people that latch on to you, make you feel and believe they care for you and see you as their best friend that can cause the real damage.

of course not everyone will hurt you and not everyone is a bad choice of friend.

but there are those few that make you love everything about them, and in the end leave you with nothing at all.

if i need to pick an example i can tell you something that happened to me....in a very small nutshell.

i loved my best friend, and my best friend was chasing someone else.

she stopped chasing her, and eventually told me that we would be together.

after weeks of keeping it low, we finally got together, making me the happiest person alive.

3 days later i got dumped, she told me she still loved the other person, and never even loved me at all.

she proceeded to, not talk to me.

push me back as "just a friend" instead of best friend.

lied to me about never getting in a relationship again in 3dx Because she is now with someone else.

all while she was engaged irl and married her bf a few days ago.

and just so much more i don't want to explain "again".

these are people that don't take in to account that they might be seriously affecting someone's life and Messing things up really badly for them.

but in their mind, they did nothing wrong, or it were "just a few mistakes".

though the person at the other side is becoming depressed or stressed or ill or even suicidal.

the problem lies in people understanding that this place needs to be taken very seriously and with caution.

if you don't but make promises such as love and true friendship, things are going to turn out very badly.

maybe not so much for thst person, but for the people that person hangs around with.

my original statement stands.

be careful, treat it with caution, and if you need help, Don't be afraid to ask

never said she's a bad person.

just a bad mentality.

That's a bit over the top. Sympathy is something anyone can have. Empathy has to be earned so, unless you have experienced something similar, you can only have a lack of empathy.

a person with a mindset like this on a forum post like mine can and should always be tsken with a grain of salt.

or perhaps a hand full of it.

what a horrible way to think.

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