Abbey

You can stockpile as much RAM as you want. 3DXChat beeing a 32bit client it will only use up 4gigs of RAM and will crash once exceeded.
 
I said a while back. 64bit client (an official one) will help solve some problems. Not all but some.

Here is an advice from someone who tried to fit real-life standards into a place like this for almost 3 years.
 
If you really want to enjoy the game, and get the best possible experience out of it (Lovers n Friends) I recommend you drop some of the limits you would naturally have in your real life.
 
The probably most common and highest drama-factor is created out of jealousy. Eliminate jealousy. Be easy on your friends and lovers. While the step into that direction can be hard, I can only recommend having an open relationship where you can be with you partner whenever there is time. Its totally up to yourself or you partner how much time you can / would like to dedicate to each other without putting a certain pressure wich leads me to the next point on my list of SNSFG (Standard not suited for game)
 
Pressure. Yes, most people put pressure on their partnersm or theirselves. Actively or passively. I ve been there too... putting pressure on myself to show up ingame to see my beloved ones (Even if it wasnt necessary)
You end up wrapping your real life around this game and making a lot of compromises wich can lead, in the worst case to some problem IRL too. I would suggest you only ask what you would be able to give
Respect that your partners and friends ingame have a job, rl-friends and probably hobbys they want to pursue out of the game. If you put too much pressure on them, they might be seeking ways to avoid you the one or other way.
 
Some people I met are really upfront and just tell you they wont show up no matter what. Other people dont want to hurt feelings so they make up silly excuses or even stories (The beloved Hosptial story is top notch) why they cant show up or are able to spend time with you. The third group of people is kinda meh to me. They start to run alts so they can avoid you and be with other folks. Sometimes they let their avi vanish the most silliest way one can ever imagine by faking RL-death, wich is very silly IMHO and usally it all comes out. Problem is, the paranoia fills the pockets of some individuals, that kinda make a living out of it now. Also that might be the same people that run alot of alts and try to fuck people over, so they get more money from people paranoying thru Pandora. Kinda a viscous circle but also a conspiracy theory.
 
Real Life. So most important part for some people here. Of course many would love to know who is behind the screen and pursue activities outside of the game too. It is nice but is a two-sided sword aswell. Usually the VR-World can follow you into your RL and if you get hammered with drama theres no way to hide if people know too much things about you. Theres a slight chance stuff will end up in stalking and once you get stalked into the real world you will have a hard time getting rid of the stalker and make them stop (Told from own experience too. Not from this game but yeah it shouldnt be any different here really.)
 
Just reveal what you are comfy with. Dont let people push you into a defensive position or even blackmail you. I ve met several individuals here that are never convinced with the proof of gender. So no matter what you throw at them, they wont believe you and demand more (for whatever reason) so to put it as simple as that... you dont need to proof to anyone, especially not if they demand it at all cost.
 
Also, and that is my personal opinion... I dont really want to know. I play immersive and imagine the person as they behave and appear ingame. Sometimes gender reveals can kill that immersion and you cant really "unsee" it. So it really depends what you want to do in this game. Some play this as some kind of dating simulator or dating site... but its more malicious then its worth it, and lets be real for a second... the chance for a real life relationship are very low. There have been some exceptions where two people met here and are now a couple IRL but thats like One in a million.
 
So what the game does best in my opinion: You can meet fun people, have some friendships too and of course have sex, but you shouldnt put too much heart in it. Of course you can get attached to the people and even love them, but seriously the exclusive real-life rules and living monogamous in a sex-game aint gonna work ever. And yes theres even exceptions for that. I know some people that practise the exclusive relationship for some years now and even sucessful but thats one of a million too.
 
Usually it end up in cheating, drama, stories and tears.
 
Dont let that come to you.
 
 
Most people in here live in a one-sided exclusive relationship and even if you point out the obvious they wont believe it. In the end as I said earlier... everything will come out sooner or later, and some even might have remembered what I have told them... but usually when its too late. Mostly resulting that good people leave the game because they tried to fit in real-life standards and rules that only apply for them.
 
Of course it is your money and your game. You play it the way you want to. So before anyone getting this wrong (or want to)
 
This is how I changed my gameplay over the years and this is how it works the best now. I am happy. I enjoy my little time I have here now and you should too.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4xQ9dt2VwEA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4xQ9dt2VwEA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MaoaCkg4UXc

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ftl7-aQgywM

A small piece of my soul ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdsCHBSUaJQ

A small piece of my soul ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdsCHBSUaJQ

Add here the music of your soul) I am very interested to study people in their music) This music is my soul)
Hi-Fi - За мной / Za mnoy 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0dUtyD748qs

"I am" ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKljh1Z7ohk

"We were always holdin on" ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ykmeAs3D-U

So since I ve read thru most of the post in the server down threads ect. it becomes clear that most of you want to find a reason to held something or someone responsive for the recent server troubles.
 
Everyone who played a proper MMO will agree with me that Log-in Queues are useful at some point. So why is that? Lets give some Tech-Babble Explantation here:
 
 
So queues are annoying yes, but they do something good aswell. In the past the users kept the servers busy by spamming login requests wich resultet in another crash until a certain point the remain down and need to be rebooted by a network administrator or technican. And that usually took a while. So the queues do one thing...
 
Imagine a Walmart and 1000 people try to get in at the same time. It will make the doors collapse and people are stuck at the entry. If you have someone advising people into a line and letting them in one by one, nothing get broken, nothing gets stuck.
 
 
So about the Streaming Platform you guys try to blame for the recent server crashes.
 
Now please someone explain me how someone who streams a game into some streamingplatform can generate server-side traffic that causes the server to crash. You just do one thing when you stream... you send a live-feed from your own machine onto a webserver on the internet (wich is unrelated to 3DX Chat) and the users that are watching the live stream there consuming the stream-platforms bandwith...
 
So how is that exactly related to the performance in game? Right there is none.
 
Its just a pulled by the hair reasons from people that dont know how the internet works. And seriously just grabbing forks and torches and run to the forums posting lots of bullshit reasons that causes the server to crash doesent help noone. How about we learn how things work on the internet, then think, then speak our minds?
 
Server is having troubles and need fixing: YES
Streaming & Login Queue Fault: NO

Hey there Minerva,
 
It was brave of you to come out and talk about this. It's a brave thing and sure it was a difficult thing to do due to keeping it secret for so long, but I do hope now that you have spoken about it and such you will feel better and a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. I do not think anything different of you and I enjoy our chats about tech and game dev stuff. Better out than in I always say! As it sounds like it had been playing on your mind for awhile, so I hope you feel relieved now.
 
I will be honest though a part of me did have a feeling you may have been a guy, but I didn't let it affect my judgement of you as I am sure you had your reasons to keep it under wraps but as I say, my thoughts of you remain unchanged and I hope to continue our cool chats in game!
 
Keep real and just be yourself and if people can't handle that, so be it. Just be you, don't be what others want you to be.
 
Best regards,
Ash

We're beautiful losers ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-jlPMZYB8U

We're beautiful losers ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-jlPMZYB8U

We're beautiful losers ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-jlPMZYB8U

We're beautiful losers ♡
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-jlPMZYB8U