Vaughan_Rarius

A woman's passion is exquisite indeed!
 

 
 
I wish for a picture  feminine nude art...

I wish for a picture of Wonder 
 

 
The 50-acre expanse of Brimham Moor in North Yorkshire, England is home to a number of curious rock formations shaped by tens of thousands of years of erosion, but the most impressive of all is Idol Rock, a 200-ton monolith balancing on a tiny pyramidal base. Also known as The Druids Idol or The Druid’s Writing Desk, this unique attraction sits on a tiny lump of rock only one foot in circumference. Photos of it have been circulating on the internet for years, with many claiming it is just the result of Photoshop manipulation, but the Idol of Brimham is very real, an example of Mother Nature’s artistic talent.

Quote origin unknown, but very popular to quote ....
 

11.  She-Sleen
 

 
Also known as assuming the modality of the she-quadruped. She falls to her hands and knees, her head down on the floor, her hindquarters thrust high for viewing and/or her Master’s pleasure. Serving in the modality of the she-quadruped is an instruction whereby the slave performs her regular duties upon hands and knees, without the benefit of the use of her hands. In this mode she may not rise to her feet and may use only her mouth and teeth to grasp and manipulate objects.
 
12.  Slave Lips
 

 
When this command is given, she turns her head up to the Master, her lips pursed in a sensual kissing position. She remains motionless; her lips thusly puckered, and may not move until she is granted the kiss of a Master.
 
13. Slaver's Kiss.
 

 
She falls to the floor upon all fours, and lowers her head to the ground, with her buttocks thrust upward and her thighs widely spread, exposing her hindquarters fully in preparation for the caress of the leather against her body. Common Gorean Usage Position of this position - She falls to the floor upon all fours, and keeps her head straight, her eyes looking forward, with her buttocks thrust upward and her thighs widely spread in preparation for the sexual use of the Master.
 
14.  Sula
 

 
This position is self-explanatory. She lies on her back, her hands at her sides, palms facing upward. Her legs are spread wide open... she awaits Master’s inspection.
 
15. Sula-Ki or Alternative Sula
 

 
This position is almost identical to the Sula position, except once she has assumed the Sula position she slowly lifts her hips up off the floor, as if beckoning him with her body, encouraging her sexual use by him.
 
16. Table
 

 
She kneels then bends forward and places her elbows on the floor, hands are locked on forearms, knees are parted and used to adjust height until her back is level, and her head is held up.
 
17.  Tower
 

 
There is another variation of Nadu in which she kneels the same way, but with her palms down and her knees modestly together. This variation is referred to as Tower Slave Position and is typically reserved for young or white-silk slave girls, or slave girls who serve their Master in a non-sexual way, such as a Tower Slave or female Work Slave.
 
18. Walk
 

 
When this command is given, she turns in a graceful pirouette, her hair swinging. She then walks, gliding across the room, her feet hardly seeming to leave the floor, her hips swaying sensually, her body erect and proud. When she reaches her objective she halts and stands, her body erect, her shoulders back, her chest thrust forward, her belly in. She turns her hip out a bit, her hands at her sides, and points one foot. Her head is up and her eyes are lowered.
 
19. Whipping
 

 
She first assumes the Nadu position, though with her arms crossed in front of her. She then leans forward and places her head to the floor, first sweeping her hair forward over her shoulders in order that her back might be utterly exposed to the whip.
 
20.   Inspection.
 

 
She stands straight. Legs apart a little further than the shoulders. Hands on head exposing arm pits and thrusting out breasts.  In addition further  inspection of all orifices can easily be carried out.  Mouth & teeth can be inspected at one command of "Open" ;  Arms by "Extend" & Legs and feet with a command of  "Lift" from behind her.  Buttocks and sex by a command of  "Bend & Spread"  Slave Positions.

This is not mine, it just caught my eye.  I liked the Art of it.
 

Hot Wives (Wife Sharing).
 
I enjoy writing stories and In one of my stories, I wrote of a couple who decided to try wife sharing, specifically cuckolding and later on in a role play I took part in, my partner teased another lover of hers - a Stag, whilst we roomed. It was different and great fun.
 
Research for my story of wife sharing and hot wives was quite interesting and I thought I would share some interesting things in this Forum.
 
If anyone is interested in reading my story, it can be found here:
 
A Cuckold at Crystal Lake
https://www.literotica.com/s/a-cuckold-at-crystal-lake
 
 
Typically, Hot Wives include Cuckoldresses and Vixens and all are very sexy and alluring.
 
Hotwives enjoy sex and plenty of it.
A Cuckoldress wants a better quality of sex.
Vixens enjoys being shared by and with her sexy partner.
 
Cuckolding (or cucking) is one of the kinks of wife sharing.
 
Women involved in this are called “Hot Wives” or “Cuckoldresses”
People outside the scene often use the terms interchangeably,
The terms have major differences though. They are really very different roles for women to choose from.
 
Being a Cuckoldress is all about Cuckolding, dominating and humiliating her beta male husband.
The first thing to note about the role is that being a cuckoldress can only happen in a cuckolding scenario.
 
However, a hot wife can assume her role in any number of situations.
 

 
The “hot” part of the term essentially means “slutty” or “available”, as well as sexually active, confident and able to act autonomously from your partner.
So hot wives could be part of:
swinging communities,
wife sharing groups or
just engaged in everyday adultery.
 
If you are the kind of girl who loves sex and isn’t satisfied by your partner, or enjoys multiple lovers you’re in hot wife territory.
 
Hot Wives can then become Cuckoldresses or Vixens if they so wish or just carry on being a Hotwife.
 
So hot wives are wives that make themselves sexually available to other men (and women).
 
A cuckoldress is a special kind of hot wife, the kind who gets off on humiliating their partner in situations with agreed limits.
 
Vixens enjoy sex with others and with their sexy husband’s or sexy boyfriend’s participation and or knowledge.
 
A Hotwife can only become a cuckoldress if she has a cuckold to complete the “act.”
 
If she is fucking other guys and your husband doesn’t know, or he finds it enraging, you are not a Cuckoldress or Vixen. You are an adultress LOL !
 
A Cuckoldress has license to humiliate her partner during sex with other men.
Her partner, the cuckold, loves it, and so does she.
 

 
A cuckolding couple consists of the cuckold husband who is referred to as the cuckold, or the beta male. He is inferior. He may for example feel he has a smaller dick than average, or he may feel that he is inadequate in that area of his body and commonly he feels he is unable to sexually satisfy his wife.
The cuckold enjoys the thought of an alpha male fucking his wife and is sexually excited that he is the underling.
 
Hot wives are motivated more by a desire for quantity. They become “addicted to cock” and desire as many sexual partners as possible. They play up to the slut role in an exaggerated, obsessive way.
 
For the Cuckoldress, the quest isn’t for more sex. She wants a better quality of sex, the kind of sensations that her husband simply cannot deliver. The alpha male who can is known as The Bull.
 
For many people, the Cuckoldress role is healthier. If the guy is comfortable as the cuckold, it can be a way to deal with sexual problems within relationships.
That’s not really the case for out of control hot wives.
 
Cuckoldresses deal in Power. 
 
The classical “hot wife” isn’t fucking to make herself more empowered. She is doing so because she needs to. It’s in her blood. She is a hot sexy slut.
 

 
The wife in a cuckolding relationship is often referred to as a hotwife or cuckoldress and gets to pick and choose who she has sex with.
The person that she picks to have sex with is therefore often perceived to be more well hung than her cuckold husband and is able to satisfy her more sexually than her husband can. This person is referred to as the bull, stud or the alpha male.
The Bull is the lucky man that the hotwife chooses to be unfaithful to her husband with, with his knowledge.
 
In many cases, Cuckoldresses feel empowered by their role. They can exert power over their husband and with their bull, dominate him with their sexual superiority.
The Cuckoldresses tend to be the instigator in cuckolding sessions with their husband, making decisions about who should be the bull and what limits will be imposed. It’s all part of reducing their partner to nothingness, and for some women, this can be exhilarating. Their cuckold men love the dominance and humiliation of these sessions.
 
Being a Cuckoldress takes skill and preparation. She is feeding the fantasy of her partner whom she loves and cares for, fuelling her own sexual thrills and making the session exciting and empowering for the chosen Bull.
 

 
Playing the Cuckoldress is a demanding role. It requires the ability to use words to goad and excite her bull and humiliate her partner.
It requires the physical confidence to dominate and thrill her partner, without losing the erotic charge between her and the bull.
 
It also requires imagination and getting the atmosphere right. She needs to have an instinct for and be aware of the lighting, costumes and how to entertain the bulls especially if strangers – an attention to detail that is irrelevant for hot wives. 
Hot wives just need a mattress and a guy and spread her legs.
 
Cuckolding and Hotwifing is becoming more popular and more acceptable in society.
 
The wife and Cuckold Bull may date regularly by going out to dinner, clubs, movies, etc. Or the wife and the Bull may just meet once at a cuckold party and go into a room and fuck. In their fantasy, the bull is well hung and knows how to satisfy the hotwife so that she can have endless orgasms.
 
        
 
The Bull is usually perceived as better looking than the cuckold husband and in better shape. He may even come around their home and have sex with the wife quite often, even daily, or he may only have sex with the hotwife just the once at a party. The cuckold husband knows and usually encourages this, enjoying the humiliation of being the Beta Male. He gets turned on watching or hearing them fuck or even by his wife telling him about it later in great detail.
 
Cuckolds seek the humiliation and debasement and possible homosexual encounters, for example, cleaning the Bull after he has fucked their wife. There is nothing wrong with that, each to his own fetish.
 
However by far, more men identify with the other wife sharing fantasy of hot wives.
 
Stags, as they are known, are typically heterosexual men who get off on the idea of their wives or girlfriends being with other men but do not fit the historical term of cuckold.
Many such men dislike the cuckold label because society has made it a shameful thing.
The cuckolds are seen as weak men, who like humiliation and are Beta males.
 
The growth of the term ‘HOTWIFE’ or Vixen in reference to the partners of such Stags are now well established in sexual subcultures.
 
They share with cuckolds the desire to see their partners take on extra lovers while they remain monogamous but that is where the similarities end. They are not perceived as lower than the Bull at all, they are more on an equal footing.
 

 
The Stag holds a genuine love and respect for his wife or girlfriend (Vixen) with whom he shares this erotic and fun lifestyle.
For this reason the proper term for him is a STAG and his wife or girlfriend is a Vixen, rather than the cuckold and Cuckoldress.
 
The Stag is on the same level as the Bull and are both strong Alpha males.
 
For the Stag this is always by consent and any humiliation aspect is just a playful erotic teasing game with his wife rather than any real desire to be humiliated.
The Stag will never be humiliated or intimidated by his partner’s lovers.
He is a strong type and is also an alpha male.
He is  very confident in their relationship.
The Stag simply derives huge erotic pleasure from seeing his wife or girlfriend, commonly known as a Vixen, being so alluring and desirable that no one can resist her. He considers it only natural and very arousing that she’ll need and deserve sexual satisfaction from other lovers as well as himself.
 

 
The Stag’s behaviour ranges from merely sharing the fantasy and acting out role play scenarios to full on Hotwifing.
 
It is just one part of their relationship.
Many couples only dabble occasionally.
Some couples discover 'Hotwifing’ early in their relationships while others find it much later but either way it is a hugely growing phenomenon.
 
The reasons for 'Hotwifing’ have always been around and lie deep in our evolutionary history as a species.
Factors such as female empowerment, better contraceptives ; safer sex technologies, ease of online communication, more openness about sex and sex information combined have brought it out of the shadows and to the edge of mainstream society.
 
Whatever your fantasy, Hotwifing is very hot and we all have the same goal - sex should be enjoyed to the full.
 

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What is the difference between a slave, a submissive and a pet?
 

 
This is a question I get asked often when role playing or people showing an interest in my kink.
They show an interest if never having tried it before and are interested enough to learn the differences in our partners.
I will try and explain it the best way I can and I hope that it is informative for those who wish to know.
 
The important thing to note, is our partners, give their consent to play in this way.
No one is abused and all can say no or use an agreed safe word to stop the play at any time.
 
Autonomy means independence or freedom, as of the will or one’s actions.
The autonomy of the individual. 
 
So the difference between a pet, a sub and a slave is their Autonomy.
 
Each of the three will have a Master, or are in the process of looking for one.
 
Each of them will know their place and if disobedient may be punished accordingly when they are out of line.
 
But it is also the Master’s responsibility to make their underlings (pet, sub, slave ) feel loved and desired and needed and wanted and to train them to understand and obey in their role and not to neglect them.
 
Other Masters or Mistresses should be addressed as Sir or Mistress. 
A slave should address all free persons as Sir or Mistress.
Pets and Slaves are referred to as It, unless given a name by their owner. Each owner can change it.
A submissive is referred to as his or her or her given name.
 
Most Dominants before playing with owned pets, subs or slaves will either ensure they are free to play or seek the blessing of the owner.
They will know they are owned as most will wear a collar. 
The Dominants should find out if it is decoration by asking the underling.
An underling can be punished if they lie.
 
A pet, sub or slave desire the happiness of their owner at all times. 
Those that do not desire their Masters or Mistresses happiness is doing it Wrong. Full Stop (Period).
 
Pet -
Pets are submissive but with more freedom than the other two. This is usually the first step in being controlled by a Master or Mistress. It is the favourite of all three to become involved in.
They may, on occasions, depending on the pet, take on the characteristics of animal pets, wearing tails ; ears ; even dress in costumes and of course learn obedience.
 

 
Pets have a great deal of Autonomy, depending on their Master. They may have anywhere from 80-99% free reign, though they know they can be called at any time, for any purpose. When called, it must respond to it’s owner as soon as possible. 
With such freedom, can come Responsibility too. The responsibility to occupy one’s own time when their Master is occupied. They can act independently, for example buying clothing they think their Master or Mistress might like.
 
They are treated as a pet would be. Think of your pet dog or cat. When it is with its owner,  their Master or Mistress can groom them, take them to the toilet, feed them in their feeding bowls or even feed from the hand to the pets mouth, put them to bed in a cage or pet bed, show off their training – sit, beg, sexual things etc..  give tit bits as treats, walk them around in a collar and lead, tell them what to wear, teach them to heel and of course use them for sexual pleasures. The boundaries are negotiated by the Master & Pet and agreements made by both.
 
Sub-
Subs are submissives that devote themselves only to their Master/Mistress. This is step 2 of the kink and lots will never move on to step 3. 
When the sub's Owners are not about they are free persons with agreed boundaries  of course. They must not ever embarrass their Master or Mistress.
They do not answer to other Dominants and are free to roam. 
They do however address other Dominants as Sir or Mistress. 
 

 
A sub has some Autonomy though not nearly as much as a pet, perhaps 40-60% depending on the Master. 
As with a Pet, even though the sub might be in the middle of something, he or she must respond to the call of his or her Master or Mistress as soon as possible. 
 
It is also easier for a sub to manage their own time while their Master is occupied because the Master of a sub is responsible for giving it enough to do to not worry about it. 
The Master or Mistress may give the submissive tasks to do.  It may be sexual – lend them to others; instruct them to do Group ; maybe to read up on a subject or answer posts / stories in forum and even instructions to play in their free time. 
They can act independently, learning & buying things their Master or Mistress might like.
 
 
Slave -
While all in the lifestyle are free persons who chose to serve, slaves give this up and are without rights. 
This is Step 3 and the extreme play of a submissive.
Their every waking hour (by this we mean every moment on line) is devoted to their Master/Mistress. 
 
They must seek permission for doing most things and are generally limited to the room their Owner resides in. 
They are treated as subservient by other Masters and Mistresses and are expected to show the highest forms of respect towards all.
 

 
A slave, by definition, has no Autonomy whatsoever. 
Its only desire is to fulfil every wish, every whim, every pleasure of it’s Master or Mistress. 
 
A Master or Mistress looking for a slave, must therefore dedicate himself to managing his slaves time very well.
They often refer to the slave as "boy" or "gir"l or any name the owner may choose.
 
The slave is not free to do anything on its own without permission or blessing of it's Master or Mistress.
The slave is expected to have no desires except to obey it's Master or Mistress.
A slave owns nothing, everything is owned by it's Master or Mistress.
 
A slave is only as free as it's owner allows. But it's most important thing is to serve it's owner first always.  
 

 
Pets and submissives’s have more freedom then a slave and are allowed to think for themselves. Slaves have no opinion or view, they obey and are obedient.
 
The owner controls the slave with love, making them feel loved, wanted and needed. 
The slave gives itself freely to it's owner and trusts that their owner has their best interest at heart.
 
A slave depends on the Master or Mistress to govern it, guide it into knowing what it's Master or Mistress wants. 
 
Once the slave has learnt what is wanted, there is usually the ability and expectation to act pro-actively to please it's owner. 
 
It does not usually think or act for itself except in mundane chores etc.. they must seek permission to shop etc...
They must even ask permission to enter the rooms of it's Owner and even then to speak to it's Master or Mistress. 
 
 
Some important differences :
 

 
A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave does not
A submissive has limits; a slave has given up all limits except those which it's owner sets for them.
A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey it's Master/Mistress at all times and then submits to the will of  It's Master or Mistress at all times.
A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.
 
A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property, hence the it.
A submissive is owned, but a slave is possessed. (property)
A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, and always kneels at it's owner’s feet.
A submissive has a safe-word to end play, while a slave has consented to no-consent.
A slave must be a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.
 
Being a submissive is just a step on the way to the “ultimate” state of submission, which is being a slave.
 
A slave is more submissive than a “mere” submissive. 
Submissives are just playing; slaves live the lifestyle.
A submissive has more self-respect than a slave. 
 
BDSM training questions of underlings.
 
"Tell me what you are?" 
"I am a pet, submissive, a slave for a Master." 
 
"What is a slave (pet or submissive) ?" 
"A girl who is owned." 
 
"Why do slaves (or submissives) wear brands?" 
"To show they are owned." 
 
"Why do you wear a collar?" 
"That men and mistresses may know who owns me." 
 
"What does a slave (or submissive) want more than anything else?" 
"To please (men,) their own Master or their own Mistress." 
 

 
 
Fuck Toy.
A Master or Mistress looking for a fuck toy to use whenever the mood strikes would most likely be looking for a Pet. 
A pet, sub or slave expects to be used at any time. 
 

 
A Pet would suit “whenever the mood strikes” as it leaves the pet time to go out shopping, playing, etc… after it's Master or Mistress is done. 
A Master or Mistress looking for an "on demand fuck toy" doesn’t want to micro-manage an underling and therefore would be expected to keep itself from getting bored.
 
A Master that ONLY wants a fuck toy doesn’t want to give it chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. to do when he or she is not using it for his or her pleasure.
 
The Master or Mistress of a slave, if (s)he’s doing it right, knows that his or her slave depends on him or her to fill it's time.  
Then it would be used for such chores and comforts for it's Master or Mistress, even serving his/her food and drink at meal times. 
 
The Master of a slave will need to micro manage it or will end up with a very bored slave who will eventually become a runaway or go to another Master who will appreciate it.
 
Similarly, on the other side, a Master of a Pet who is too controlling is encouraging rebellion. They are subservient when it is their Master’s time.
 
An underlings desire for “autonomy” vs. “being given things to do”  can fluctuate in a relationship. 
The underling may offer itself as a pet one day, then wish to be more closely directed later, perhaps even craving to be a slave.
 

What is the difference between a slave, a submissive and a pet?
 

 
This is a question I get asked often when role playing or people showing an interest in my kink.
They show an interest if never having tried it before and are interested enough to learn the differences in our partners.
I will try and explain it the best way I can and I hope that it is informative for those who wish to know.
 
The important thing to note, is our partners, give their consent to play in this way.
No one is abused and all can say no or use an agreed safe word to stop the play at any time.
 
Autonomy means independence or freedom, as of the will or one’s actions.
The autonomy of the individual. 
 
So the difference between a pet, a sub and a slave is their Autonomy.
 
Each of the three will have a Master, or are in the process of looking for one.
 
Each of them will know their place and if disobedient may be punished accordingly when they are out of line.
 
But it is also the Master’s responsibility to make their underlings (pet, sub, slave ) feel loved and desired and needed and wanted and to train them to understand and obey in their role and not to neglect them.
 
Other Masters or Mistresses should be addressed as Sir or Mistress. 
A slave should address all free persons as Sir or Mistress.
Pets and Slaves are referred to as It, unless given a name by their owner. Each owner can change it.
A submissive is referred to as his or her or her given name.
 
Most Dominants before playing with owned pets, subs or slaves will either ensure they are free to play or seek the blessing of the owner.
They will know they are owned as most will wear a collar. 
The Dominants should find out if it is decoration by asking the underling.
An underling can be punished if they lie.
 
A pet, sub or slave desire the happiness of their owner at all times. 
Those that do not desire their Masters or Mistresses happiness is doing it Wrong. Full Stop (Period).
 
Pet -
Pets are submissive but with more freedom than the other two. This is usually the first step in being controlled by a Master or Mistress. It is the favourite of all three to become involved in.
They may, on occasions, depending on the pet, take on the characteristics of animal pets, wearing tails ; ears ; even dress in costumes and of course learn obedience.
 

 
Pets have a great deal of Autonomy, depending on their Master. They may have anywhere from 80-99% free reign, though they know they can be called at any time, for any purpose. When called, it must respond to it’s owner as soon as possible. 
With such freedom, can come Responsibility too. The responsibility to occupy one’s own time when their Master is occupied. They can act independently, for example buying clothing they think their Master or Mistress might like.
 
They are treated as a pet would be. Think of your pet dog or cat. When it is with its owner,  their Master or Mistress can groom them, take them to the toilet, feed them in their feeding bowls or even feed from the hand to the pets mouth, put them to bed in a cage or pet bed, show off their training – sit, beg, sexual things etc..  give tit bits as treats, walk them around in a collar and lead, tell them what to wear, teach them to heel and of course use them for sexual pleasures. The boundaries are negotiated by the Master & Pet and agreements made by both.
 
Sub-
Subs are submissives that devote themselves only to their Master/Mistress. This is step 2 of the kink and lots will never move on to step 3. 
When the sub's Owners are not about they are free persons with agreed boundaries  of course. They must not ever embarrass their Master or Mistress.
They do not answer to other Dominants and are free to roam. 
They do however address other Dominants as Sir or Mistress. 
 

 
A sub has some Autonomy though not nearly as much as a pet, perhaps 40-60% depending on the Master. 
As with a Pet, even though the sub might be in the middle of something, he or she must respond to the call of his or her Master or Mistress as soon as possible. 
 
It is also easier for a sub to manage their own time while their Master is occupied because the Master of a sub is responsible for giving it enough to do to not worry about it. 
The Master or Mistress may give the submissive tasks to do.  It may be sexual – lend them to others; instruct them to do Group ; maybe to read up on a subject or answer posts / stories in forum and even instructions to play in their free time. 
They can act independently, learning & buying things their Master or Mistress might like.
 
 
Slave -
While all in the lifestyle are free persons who chose to serve, slaves give this up and are without rights. 
This is Step 3 and the extreme play of a submissive.
Their every waking hour (by this we mean every moment on line) is devoted to their Master/Mistress. 
 
They must seek permission for doing most things and are generally limited to the room their Owner resides in. 
They are treated as subservient by other Masters and Mistresses and are expected to show the highest forms of respect towards all.
 

 
A slave, by definition, has no Autonomy whatsoever. 
Its only desire is to fulfil every wish, every whim, every pleasure of it’s Master or Mistress. 
 
A Master or Mistress looking for a slave, must therefore dedicate himself to managing his slaves time very well.
They often refer to the slave as "boy" or "gir"l or any name the owner may choose.
 
The slave is not free to do anything on its own without permission or blessing of it's Master or Mistress.
The slave is expected to have no desires except to obey it's Master or Mistress.
A slave owns nothing, everything is owned by it's Master or Mistress.
 
A slave is only as free as it's owner allows. But it's most important thing is to serve it's owner first always.  
 

 
Pets and submissives’s have more freedom then a slave and are allowed to think for themselves. Slaves have no opinion or view, they obey and are obedient.
 
The owner controls the slave with love, making them feel loved, wanted and needed. 
The slave gives itself freely to it's owner and trusts that their owner has their best interest at heart.
 
A slave depends on the Master or Mistress to govern it, guide it into knowing what it's Master or Mistress wants. 
 
Once the slave has learnt what is wanted, there is usually the ability and expectation to act pro-actively to please it's owner. 
 
It does not usually think or act for itself except in mundane chores etc.. they must seek permission to shop etc...
They must even ask permission to enter the rooms of it's Owner and even then to speak to it's Master or Mistress. 
 
 
Some important differences :
 

 
A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave does not
A submissive has limits; a slave has given up all limits except those which it's owner sets for them.
A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey it's Master/Mistress at all times and then submits to the will of  It's Master or Mistress at all times.
A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.
 
A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property, hence the it.
A submissive is owned, but a slave is possessed. (property)
A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, and always kneels at it's owner’s feet.
A submissive has a safe-word to end play, while a slave has consented to no-consent.
A slave must be a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.
 
Being a submissive is just a step on the way to the “ultimate” state of submission, which is being a slave.
 
A slave is more submissive than a “mere” submissive. 
Submissives are just playing; slaves live the lifestyle.
A submissive has more self-respect than a slave. 
 
BDSM training questions of underlings.
 
"Tell me what you are?" 
"I am a pet, submissive, a slave for a Master." 
 
"What is a slave (pet or submissive) ?" 
"A girl who is owned." 
 
"Why do slaves (or submissives) wear brands?" 
"To show they are owned." 
 
"Why do you wear a collar?" 
"That men and mistresses may know who owns me." 
 
"What does a slave (or submissive) want more than anything else?" 
"To please (men,) their own Master or their own Mistress." 
 

 
 
Fuck Toy.
A Master or Mistress looking for a fuck toy to use whenever the mood strikes would most likely be looking for a Pet. 
A pet, sub or slave expects to be used at any time. 
 

 
A Pet would suit “whenever the mood strikes” as it leaves the pet time to go out shopping, playing, etc… after it's Master or Mistress is done. 
A Master or Mistress looking for an "on demand fuck toy" doesn’t want to micro-manage an underling and therefore would be expected to keep itself from getting bored.
 
A Master that ONLY wants a fuck toy doesn’t want to give it chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. to do when he or she is not using it for his or her pleasure.
 
The Master or Mistress of a slave, if (s)he’s doing it right, knows that his or her slave depends on him or her to fill it's time.  
Then it would be used for such chores and comforts for it's Master or Mistress, even serving his/her food and drink at meal times. 
 
The Master of a slave will need to micro manage it or will end up with a very bored slave who will eventually become a runaway or go to another Master who will appreciate it.
 
Similarly, on the other side, a Master of a Pet who is too controlling is encouraging rebellion. They are subservient when it is their Master’s time.
 
An underlings desire for “autonomy” vs. “being given things to do”  can fluctuate in a relationship. 
The underling may offer itself as a pet one day, then wish to be more closely directed later, perhaps even craving to be a slave.
 

What is the difference between a slave, a submissive and a pet?
 

 
This is a question I get asked often when role playing or people showing an interest in my kink.
They show an interest if never having tried it before and are interested enough to learn the differences in our partners.
I will try and explain it the best way I can and I hope that it is informative for those who wish to know.
 
The important thing to note, is our partners, give their consent to play in this way.
No one is abused and all can say no or use an agreed safe word to stop the play at any time.
 
Autonomy means independence or freedom, as of the will or one’s actions.
The autonomy of the individual. 
 
So the difference between a pet, a sub and a slave is their Autonomy.
 
Each of the three will have a Master, or are in the process of looking for one.
 
Each of them will know their place and if disobedient may be punished accordingly when they are out of line.
 
But it is also the Master’s responsibility to make their underlings (pet, sub, slave ) feel loved and desired and needed and wanted and to train them to understand and obey in their role and not to neglect them.
 
Other Masters or Mistresses should be addressed as Sir or Mistress. 
A slave should address all free persons as Sir or Mistress.
Pets and Slaves are referred to as It, unless given a name by their owner. Each owner can change it.
A submissive is referred to as his or her or her given name.
 
Most Dominants before playing with owned pets, subs or slaves will either ensure they are free to play or seek the blessing of the owner.
They will know they are owned as most will wear a collar. 
The Dominants should find out if it is decoration by asking the underling.
An underling can be punished if they lie.
 
A pet, sub or slave desire the happiness of their owner at all times. 
Those that do not desire their Masters or Mistresses happiness is doing it Wrong. Full Stop (Period).
 
Pet -
Pets are submissive but with more freedom than the other two. This is usually the first step in being controlled by a Master or Mistress. It is the favourite of all three to become involved in.
They may, on occasions, depending on the pet, take on the characteristics of animal pets, wearing tails ; ears ; even dress in costumes and of course learn obedience.
 

 
Pets have a great deal of Autonomy, depending on their Master. They may have anywhere from 80-99% free reign, though they know they can be called at any time, for any purpose. When called, it must respond to it’s owner as soon as possible. 
With such freedom, can come Responsibility too. The responsibility to occupy one’s own time when their Master is occupied. They can act independently, for example buying clothing they think their Master or Mistress might like.
 
They are treated as a pet would be. Think of your pet dog or cat. When it is with its owner,  their Master or Mistress can groom them, take them to the toilet, feed them in their feeding bowls or even feed from the hand to the pets mouth, put them to bed in a cage or pet bed, show off their training – sit, beg, sexual things etc..  give tit bits as treats, walk them around in a collar and lead, tell them what to wear, teach them to heel and of course use them for sexual pleasures. The boundaries are negotiated by the Master & Pet and agreements made by both.
 
Sub-
Subs are submissives that devote themselves only to their Master/Mistress. This is step 2 of the kink and lots will never move on to step 3. 
When the sub's Owners are not about they are free persons with agreed boundaries  of course. They must not ever embarrass their Master or Mistress.
They do not answer to other Dominants and are free to roam. 
They do however address other Dominants as Sir or Mistress. 
 

 
A sub has some Autonomy though not nearly as much as a pet, perhaps 40-60% depending on the Master. 
As with a Pet, even though the sub might be in the middle of something, he or she must respond to the call of his or her Master or Mistress as soon as possible. 
 
It is also easier for a sub to manage their own time while their Master is occupied because the Master of a sub is responsible for giving it enough to do to not worry about it. 
The Master or Mistress may give the submissive tasks to do.  It may be sexual – lend them to others; instruct them to do Group ; maybe to read up on a subject or answer posts / stories in forum and even instructions to play in their free time. 
They can act independently, learning & buying things their Master or Mistress might like.
 
 
Slave -
While all in the lifestyle are free persons who chose to serve, slaves give this up and are without rights. 
This is Step 3 and the extreme play of a submissive.
Their every waking hour (by this we mean every moment on line) is devoted to their Master/Mistress. 
 
They must seek permission for doing most things and are generally limited to the room their Owner resides in. 
They are treated as subservient by other Masters and Mistresses and are expected to show the highest forms of respect towards all.
 

 
A slave, by definition, has no Autonomy whatsoever. 
Its only desire is to fulfil every wish, every whim, every pleasure of it’s Master or Mistress. 
 
A Master or Mistress looking for a slave, must therefore dedicate himself to managing his slaves time very well.
They often refer to the slave as "boy" or "gir"l or any name the owner may choose.
 
The slave is not free to do anything on its own without permission or blessing of it's Master or Mistress.
The slave is expected to have no desires except to obey it's Master or Mistress.
A slave owns nothing, everything is owned by it's Master or Mistress.
 
A slave is only as free as it's owner allows. But it's most important thing is to serve it's owner first always.  
 

 
Pets and submissives’s have more freedom then a slave and are allowed to think for themselves. Slaves have no opinion or view, they obey and are obedient.
 
The owner controls the slave with love, making them feel loved, wanted and needed. 
The slave gives itself freely to it's owner and trusts that their owner has their best interest at heart.
 
A slave depends on the Master or Mistress to govern it, guide it into knowing what it's Master or Mistress wants. 
 
Once the slave has learnt what is wanted, there is usually the ability and expectation to act pro-actively to please it's owner. 
 
It does not usually think or act for itself except in mundane chores etc.. they must seek permission to shop etc...
They must even ask permission to enter the rooms of it's Owner and even then to speak to it's Master or Mistress. 
 
 
Some important differences :
 

 
A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave does not
A submissive has limits; a slave has given up all limits except those which it's owner sets for them.
A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey it's Master/Mistress at all times and then submits to the will of  It's Master or Mistress at all times.
A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.
 
A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property, hence the it.
A submissive is owned, but a slave is possessed. (property)
A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, and always kneels at it's owner’s feet.
A submissive has a safe-word to end play, while a slave has consented to no-consent.
A slave must be a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.
 
Being a submissive is just a step on the way to the “ultimate” state of submission, which is being a slave.
 
A slave is more submissive than a “mere” submissive. 
Submissives are just playing; slaves live the lifestyle.
A submissive has more self-respect than a slave. 
 
BDSM training questions of underlings.
 
"Tell me what you are?" 
"I am a pet, submissive, a slave for a Master." 
 
"What is a slave (pet or submissive) ?" 
"A girl who is owned." 
 
"Why do slaves (or submissives) wear brands?" 
"To show they are owned." 
 
"Why do you wear a collar?" 
"That men and mistresses may know who owns me." 
 
"What does a slave (or submissive) want more than anything else?" 
"To please (men,) their own Master or their own Mistress." 
 

 
 
Fuck Toy.
A Master or Mistress looking for a fuck toy to use whenever the mood strikes would most likely be looking for a Pet. 
A pet, sub or slave expects to be used at any time. 
 

 
A Pet would suit “whenever the mood strikes” as it leaves the pet time to go out shopping, playing, etc… after it's Master or Mistress is done. 
A Master or Mistress looking for an "on demand fuck toy" doesn’t want to micro-manage an underling and therefore would be expected to keep itself from getting bored.
 
A Master that ONLY wants a fuck toy doesn’t want to give it chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. to do when he or she is not using it for his or her pleasure.
 
The Master or Mistress of a slave, if (s)he’s doing it right, knows that his or her slave depends on him or her to fill it's time.  
Then it would be used for such chores and comforts for it's Master or Mistress, even serving his/her food and drink at meal times. 
 
The Master of a slave will need to micro manage it or will end up with a very bored slave who will eventually become a runaway or go to another Master who will appreciate it.
 
Similarly, on the other side, a Master of a Pet who is too controlling is encouraging rebellion. They are subservient when it is their Master’s time.
 
An underlings desire for “autonomy” vs. “being given things to do”  can fluctuate in a relationship. 
The underling may offer itself as a pet one day, then wish to be more closely directed later, perhaps even craving to be a slave.
 

What is the difference between a slave, a submissive and a pet?
 

 
This is a question I get asked often when role playing or people showing an interest in my kink.
They show an interest if never having tried it before and are interested enough to learn the differences in our partners.
I will try and explain it the best way I can and I hope that it is informative for those who wish to know.
 
The important thing to note, is our partners, give their consent to play in this way.
No one is abused and all can say no or use an agreed safe word to stop the play at any time.
 
Autonomy means independence or freedom, as of the will or one’s actions.
The autonomy of the individual. 
 
So the difference between a pet, a sub and a slave is their Autonomy.
 
Each of the three will have a Master, or are in the process of looking for one.
 
Each of them will know their place and if disobedient may be punished accordingly when they are out of line.
 
But it is also the Master’s responsibility to make their underlings (pet, sub, slave ) feel loved and desired and needed and wanted and to train them to understand and obey in their role and not to neglect them.
 
Other Masters or Mistresses should be addressed as Sir or Mistress. 
A slave should address all free persons as Sir or Mistress.
Pets and Slaves are referred to as It, unless given a name by their owner. Each owner can change it.
A submissive is referred to as his or her or her given name.
 
Most Dominants before playing with owned pets, subs or slaves will either ensure they are free to play or seek the blessing of the owner.
They will know they are owned as most will wear a collar. 
The Dominants should find out if it is decoration by asking the underling.
An underling can be punished if they lie.
 
A pet, sub or slave desire the happiness of their owner at all times. 
Those that do not desire their Masters or Mistresses happiness is doing it Wrong. Full Stop (Period).
 
Pet -
Pets are submissive but with more freedom than the other two. This is usually the first step in being controlled by a Master or Mistress. It is the favourite of all three to become involved in.
They may, on occasions, depending on the pet, take on the characteristics of animal pets, wearing tails ; ears ; even dress in costumes and of course learn obedience.
 

 
Pets have a great deal of Autonomy, depending on their Master. They may have anywhere from 80-99% free reign, though they know they can be called at any time, for any purpose. When called, it must respond to it’s owner as soon as possible. 
With such freedom, can come Responsibility too. The responsibility to occupy one’s own time when their Master is occupied. They can act independently, for example buying clothing they think their Master or Mistress might like.
 
They are treated as a pet would be. Think of your pet dog or cat. When it is with its owner,  their Master or Mistress can groom them, take them to the toilet, feed them in their feeding bowls or even feed from the hand to the pets mouth, put them to bed in a cage or pet bed, show off their training – sit, beg, sexual things etc..  give tit bits as treats, walk them around in a collar and lead, tell them what to wear, teach them to heel and of course use them for sexual pleasures. The boundaries are negotiated by the Master & Pet and agreements made by both.
 
Sub-
Subs are submissives that devote themselves only to their Master/Mistress. This is step 2 of the kink and lots will never move on to step 3. 
When the sub's Owners are not about they are free persons with agreed boundaries  of course. They must not ever embarrass their Master or Mistress.
They do not answer to other Dominants and are free to roam. 
They do however address other Dominants as Sir or Mistress. 
 

 
A sub has some Autonomy though not nearly as much as a pet, perhaps 40-60% depending on the Master. 
As with a Pet, even though the sub might be in the middle of something, he or she must respond to the call of his or her Master or Mistress as soon as possible. 
 
It is also easier for a sub to manage their own time while their Master is occupied because the Master of a sub is responsible for giving it enough to do to not worry about it. 
The Master or Mistress may give the submissive tasks to do.  It may be sexual – lend them to others; instruct them to do Group ; maybe to read up on a subject or answer posts / stories in forum and even instructions to play in their free time. 
They can act independently, learning & buying things their Master or Mistress might like.
 
 
Slave -
While all in the lifestyle are free persons who chose to serve, slaves give this up and are without rights. 
This is Step 3 and the extreme play of a submissive.
Their every waking hour (by this we mean every moment on line) is devoted to their Master/Mistress. 
 
They must seek permission for doing most things and are generally limited to the room their Owner resides in. 
They are treated as subservient by other Masters and Mistresses and are expected to show the highest forms of respect towards all.
 

 
A slave, by definition, has no Autonomy whatsoever. 
Its only desire is to fulfil every wish, every whim, every pleasure of it’s Master or Mistress. 
 
A Master or Mistress looking for a slave, must therefore dedicate himself to managing his slaves time very well.
They often refer to the slave as "boy" or "gir"l or any name the owner may choose.
 
The slave is not free to do anything on its own without permission or blessing of it's Master or Mistress.
The slave is expected to have no desires except to obey it's Master or Mistress.
A slave owns nothing, everything is owned by it's Master or Mistress.
 
A slave is only as free as it's owner allows. But it's most important thing is to serve it's owner first always.  
 

 
Pets and submissives’s have more freedom then a slave and are allowed to think for themselves. Slaves have no opinion or view, they obey and are obedient.
 
The owner controls the slave with love, making them feel loved, wanted and needed. 
The slave gives itself freely to it's owner and trusts that their owner has their best interest at heart.
 
A slave depends on the Master or Mistress to govern it, guide it into knowing what it's Master or Mistress wants. 
 
Once the slave has learnt what is wanted, there is usually the ability and expectation to act pro-actively to please it's owner. 
 
It does not usually think or act for itself except in mundane chores etc.. they must seek permission to shop etc...
They must even ask permission to enter the rooms of it's Owner and even then to speak to it's Master or Mistress. 
 
 
Some important differences :
 

 
A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave does not
A submissive has limits; a slave has given up all limits except those which it's owner sets for them.
A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey it's Master/Mistress at all times and then submits to the will of  It's Master or Mistress at all times.
A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.
 
A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property, hence the it.
A submissive is owned, but a slave is possessed. (property)
A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, and always kneels at it's owner’s feet.
A submissive has a safe-word to end play, while a slave has consented to no-consent.
A slave must be a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.
 
Being a submissive is just a step on the way to the “ultimate” state of submission, which is being a slave.
 
A slave is more submissive than a “mere” submissive. 
Submissives are just playing; slaves live the lifestyle.
A submissive has more self-respect than a slave. 
 
BDSM training questions of underlings.
 
"Tell me what you are?" 
"I am a pet, submissive, a slave for a Master." 
 
"What is a slave (pet or submissive) ?" 
"A girl who is owned." 
 
"Why do slaves (or submissives) wear brands?" 
"To show they are owned." 
 
"Why do you wear a collar?" 
"That men and mistresses may know who owns me." 
 
"What does a slave (or submissive) want more than anything else?" 
"To please (men,) their own Master or their own Mistress." 
 

 
 
Fuck Toy.
A Master or Mistress looking for a fuck toy to use whenever the mood strikes would most likely be looking for a Pet. 
A pet, sub or slave expects to be used at any time. 
 

 
A Pet would suit “whenever the mood strikes” as it leaves the pet time to go out shopping, playing, etc… after it's Master or Mistress is done. 
A Master or Mistress looking for an "on demand fuck toy" doesn’t want to micro-manage an underling and therefore would be expected to keep itself from getting bored.
 
A Master that ONLY wants a fuck toy doesn’t want to give it chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. to do when he or she is not using it for his or her pleasure.
 
The Master or Mistress of a slave, if (s)he’s doing it right, knows that his or her slave depends on him or her to fill it's time.  
Then it would be used for such chores and comforts for it's Master or Mistress, even serving his/her food and drink at meal times. 
 
The Master of a slave will need to micro manage it or will end up with a very bored slave who will eventually become a runaway or go to another Master who will appreciate it.
 
Similarly, on the other side, a Master of a Pet who is too controlling is encouraging rebellion. They are subservient when it is their Master’s time.
 
An underlings desire for “autonomy” vs. “being given things to do”  can fluctuate in a relationship. 
The underling may offer itself as a pet one day, then wish to be more closely directed later, perhaps even craving to be a slave.