Sage Stoner

Is it time to think about rebranding 3DX as an adult community?
 
I’m not part of the development team. So the following is strictly my personal opinion. And I realize that SexGameDevil and the developers have the right to market their product as they see fit. But I would really like to see some discussion within this community about what this game is, how it should be branded, and how we want to refer to it. In a nutshell, I am hoping to get away from thinking about 3DX as a sex game and place greater emphasis on it being a community.
 
Yes, there are a lot of people who use this game as a sex toy, and I have no issue with that per se. Everyone has their own motivations for being here, and I respect that. But in return, I wish that we could all avoid assuming that everyone is here for the same reason and show mutual respect to those with different values than our own.
 
Like every other online game I have ever played, players come into the game at first with limited knowledge of what to expect, but as they gain experience, begin to push the envelope of the developers’ intent and start adapting the game to their own needs. Thus, even though almost all of us come to this game in anticipation of “cybering,” there are many of us who stay here long term not because of the sex but because we are able to form close friendships in a community of like-minded individuals, where people with different values show mutual respect and acceptance to one another.
 
That is why I think that the time has come to shift our perspective away from viewing “sex” as the sole raison d'être of this game and emphasize the advantages of being part of a community of people who can enjoy relationships that include explicit expression of sexuality.
I realize that not everyone will agree with me, but I hope that everyone can understand that the fact we can express sexuality in this game does not mean that sex is the only thing we come here for. And that being a member of this community is a really wonderful and valuable experience.

Is it time to think about rebranding 3DX as an adult community?
 
I’m not part of the development team. So the following is strictly my personal opinion. And I realize that SexGameDevil and the developers have the right to market their product as they see fit. But I would really like to see some discussion within this community about what this game is, how it should be branded, and how we want to refer to it. In a nutshell, I am hoping to get away from thinking about 3DX as a sex game and place greater emphasis on it being a community.
 
Yes, there are a lot of people who use this game as a sex toy, and I have no issue with that per se. Everyone has their own motivations for being here, and I respect that. But in return, I wish that we could all avoid assuming that everyone is here for the same reason and show mutual respect to those with different values than our own.
 
Like every other online game I have ever played, players come into the game at first with limited knowledge of what to expect, but as they gain experience, begin to push the envelope of the developers’ intent and start adapting the game to their own needs. Thus, even though almost all of us come to this game in anticipation of “cybering,” there are many of us who stay here long term not because of the sex but because we are able to form close friendships in a community of like-minded individuals, where people with different values show mutual respect and acceptance to one another.
 
That is why I think that the time has come to shift our perspective away from viewing “sex” as the sole raison d'être of this game and emphasize the advantages of being part of a community of people who can enjoy relationships that include explicit expression of sexuality.
I realize that not everyone will agree with me, but I hope that everyone can understand that the fact we can express sexuality in this game does not mean that sex is the only thing we come here for. And that being a member of this community is a really wonderful and valuable experience.

My best me.
 
 
The day it all started is a day it will end,
This letter will serve as a reminder for friend...
 
I had a friend I remember it clearly,
We were together forever and it was so real,
We had ups and downs, but allways cared dearly,
But now it seems like we had our last meal.
 
The day it all started is a day it will end,
Let this poem be a word of judgement for them...
 
I never liked them, and i didn't need them,
They seemed to fall in love with me too fast,
I can't tell for exactly what reason,
But I allways wondered when they'r going to leave me at last.
 
The day it all started is a day it will end,
May this scribble be a laughing matter for men...
 
Expected as allways to be something i'm not,
While the Men scream, shout and despair,
The symbol of hate, chaos i'm all that,
While they think i'm beyond any repair.
 
The day it all started is a day it will end,
And there is only one day in our calendar Friend...
 
The letter I wrote will be delivered to me,
While the judgement falls upon my mistakes deaf ear,
The laughable standarts might say I'm too different to be,
But for better or worse we are still here...

New Functions of Ignore Button (Patch 16/02/2014)
 

 
 
 
You can now MUTE the person who harrasses you = You wont be able to read anything he/she writes in any chat you wont receive  any type of invites It will also make that person invisible to you. It will affect that person entire account, so it becomes useless for him/her to change avatars; the account is IGNORED not just the avatar. Note that when that person engages in any activity, he/she will become visable during that period; sex, sit, couple dancing etc  
You will need to un-ignore that person to b e able to see/hear him/her again, relog might be required in some instances.
 
 
PLEASE NOTE: YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO IGNORE GIZMO, LISA OR ANY OTHER STAFF MEMBER. NO EXCUSES WILL BE EXCEPTED !!!

And that differs from real-life relationships in what way, exactly?
 
My wife and I never discuss transgender issues and she has no clue about this game or that some of my daily mood swings are related to what happens here. We've been married 26 years in real life. The reasons we got married are long forgotten, as are many of the reasons we've managed to stay together this long. We've each told the other some whopping lies in that time and share a miles-long string of little white ones, too. The reasons we're still together now have a lot more to do with things like money and comfort than with our affection for each other or how open and truthful we've been. But I'm not being cynical. I'm just saying that all these things come into play.
 
Ironically, my experience on 3DX has shown me that you can have a bad relationship with someone who is exactly right for you, and you can also have a perfectly good relationship with someone who is exactly wrong for you. It all depends on whether you go into it with your eyes closed, hoping to find your ideal relationship, or with your eyes wide open, willing to accept your partner, warts and all.  
 
I can understand and appreciate Extreme's perspective, too, about needing all the physical sensations before being able to say honestly that you love someone.
 
But I don't need that. The more cross over into real life, the deeper I'll fall. But even if someone says from the start that their character is total fantasy and there will be no contact at all outside the game, I will still feel deep affection for them and even fall in love, if the relationship develops that way.
 
Damn fool, I am; but a damn lovable one.  

And that differs from real-life relationships in what way, exactly?
 
My wife and I never discuss transgender issues and she has no clue about this game or that some of my daily mood swings are related to what happens here. We've been married 26 years in real life. The reasons we got married are long forgotten, as are many of the reasons we've managed to stay together this long. We've each told the other some whopping lies in that time and share a miles-long string of little white ones, too. The reasons we're still together now have a lot more to do with things like money and comfort than with our affection for each other or how open and truthful we've been. But I'm not being cynical. I'm just saying that all these things come into play.
 
Ironically, my experience on 3DX has shown me that you can have a bad relationship with someone who is exactly right for you, and you can also have a perfectly good relationship with someone who is exactly wrong for you. It all depends on whether you go into it with your eyes closed, hoping to find your ideal relationship, or with your eyes wide open, willing to accept your partner, warts and all.  
 
I can understand and appreciate Extreme's perspective, too, about needing all the physical sensations before being able to say honestly that you love someone.
 
But I don't need that. The more cross over into real life, the deeper I'll fall. But even if someone says from the start that their character is total fantasy and there will be no contact at all outside the game, I will still feel deep affection for them and even fall in love, if the relationship develops that way.
 
Damn fool, I am; but a damn lovable one.  

I'll post my thoughts even if some might disagree with them.
 
Love is a very deep and special feeling. It is bound simply by truth and willingness to build a bond. Can that be shared online ... yes and no. I'll start with no first. Most people will never get past simple flirting and words. They are as empty and meaningless as the moment they are said. They are said to make you feel special for that moment, but hold nothing more past it. It is a game, a fiction, a nice little story they will create with you. Though depth with such persons will also fail. They share only a segment of their true self with you. And that segment might even be false. They have a hard time really showing you who they are . Because truly to them you do not matter enough for them to explore the reality. You could ask them a million times if their feelings are true. And they will lie a million times to keep that fiction. People have a very hard time just being themselves in real life, let alone in a game. You might think its easier. Many will consider its easier to hide and play a fantasy instead. It can hurt people, it can make people resent etc. The yes part would be. When you stop worrying about the fiction. About the who you wish to pretend to be. When you let down your guard. What you feel they want to hear. And just be yourself. To adorn yourself in no special clothing, words or actions. To know that upon the internet and in a game you do not need to sound cool, or hard, or dark. That people can see past that, to your real true heart. And instead of only sharing a glimpse of yourself you share it all. The true beauty of who you are. That there are no longer restraints or restrictions. That you think and feel in honest feelings. That people care about what you think and what you say, because you are genuine. And hoping that someone cares long enough to return that genuine feeling back to you. To let you know you are not some shadow. Some fixture. That your heart is alive. Your breath so very vivid and real. And that all you crave is people to notice you and say hello. To build upon truth and a real bond. To finally know when they stare at you, when they talk to you, you are being the real you. And that they enjoy being around the real you. As much as you care to be around the real them.
 
(This is really why I'm very quiet a lot online and in this game. I have a hard time trusting people and knowing their intentions. I like real people not fantasies. Though many people when they know the real me, the truth of me, I am often still the girl alone. I am not sad because I'd rather be alone than with people who only want to be fake with me. It hurts a lot less. Actually doesn't hurt at all.)

One day of access to a awesome Love Suite

With all honesty I'm not a fan of cash-shops in games. I prefer to pay a sub, even if it's a little bigger then the average, and see everyone with the same level. But, as long (as gizmo have already assured us) the main stuff continues to be open for all subs, I don't have anything against extra stuff in shops.
 
The possibility of direct transaction, account to account, bugs me a hell of lot though. For lack of a better word, and I'm sorry if I'm being inappropriate, but that can transform this wonderful server into one giant whorehouse. Being all honest, I don't have anything against prostitution itself if it's done without coercion but it's not my thing and, for what I know about our nice community, I'm sure that's going to make people very unhappy to put it mildly.
 
Within this short window since the patch I've already got PMed and read lots of profiles that offers gold in exchange for sex. Not only it made me feel uncomfortable but it's against the Rules and, in most countries, the Law and I would like to think that's not something both staff and the majority of our community wants.

Original post Retracted.
 
Answer, no I don't think so anymore.

I have a better question: How do I stop falling in love with someone I've never met?

The simple answer is "stop playing games."  
 
But the simple answer doesn't work for me, because this the first community I've ever found where most people are willing to be friends and lovers with both me and my transgender alter ego. And that releases a very strong stream of pent up emotions.
 
Truth is, I let myself get attached to people way too easily, so for me the real issue is not "can you fall in love" but "how to maintain proper distance" when I catch myself falling for someone too soon.
 
Oh course, there are some people who know me, read this, and say to themselves: Stop pretending you're not a "playa" for starters.  Yeah, mea culpa on that one, I guess.

Anyway, enough true confessions for one day. 

I have a better question: How do I stop falling in love with someone I've never met?

The simple answer is "stop playing games."  
 
But the simple answer doesn't work for me, because this the first community I've ever found where most people are willing to be friends and lovers with both me and my transgender alter ego. And that releases a very strong stream of pent up emotions.
 
Truth is, I let myself get attached to people way too easily, so for me the real issue is not "can you fall in love" but "how to maintain proper distance" when I catch myself falling for someone too soon.
 
Oh course, there are some people who know me, read this, and say to themselves: Stop pretending you're not a "playa" for starters.  Yeah, mea culpa on that one, I guess.

Anyway, enough true confessions for one day. 

My answer has to be yes and no!  I'm a very emotional guy and I wear my heart on my sleeve way too much. There are so many wonderful people in 3dx that it would be impossible for me not to fall in love with at least one of them. For me though, it is very much mental, I would never really think of a physical relationship forming from a meeting in 3dx . That does not mean to say that the love isn't real , I've been blessed with a lot of it in 3dx and I wouldn't change it in any way.
 
Thank you for a wonderful post Bran.
 
Denis 

I have a better question: How do I stop falling in love with someone I've never met?

The simple answer is "stop playing games."  
 
But the simple answer doesn't work for me, because this the first community I've ever found where most people are willing to be friends and lovers with both me and my transgender alter ego. And that releases a very strong stream of pent up emotions.
 
Truth is, I let myself get attached to people way too easily, so for me the real issue is not "can you fall in love" but "how to maintain proper distance" when I catch myself falling for someone too soon.
 
Oh course, there are some people who know me, read this, and say to themselves: Stop pretending you're not a "playa" for starters.  Yeah, mea culpa on that one, I guess.

Anyway, enough true confessions for one day. 

I have a better question: How do I stop falling in love with someone I've never met?

The simple answer is "stop playing games."  
 
But the simple answer doesn't work for me, because this the first community I've ever found where most people are willing to be friends and lovers with both me and my transgender alter ego. And that releases a very strong stream of pent up emotions.
 
Truth is, I let myself get attached to people way too easily, so for me the real issue is not "can you fall in love" but "how to maintain proper distance" when I catch myself falling for someone too soon.
 
Oh course, there are some people who know me, read this, and say to themselves: Stop pretending you're not a "playa" for starters.  Yeah, mea culpa on that one, I guess.

Anyway, enough true confessions for one day. 

I have a better question: How do I stop falling in love with someone I've never met?

The simple answer is "stop playing games."  
 
But the simple answer doesn't work for me, because this the first community I've ever found where most people are willing to be friends and lovers with both me and my transgender alter ego. And that releases a very strong stream of pent up emotions.
 
Truth is, I let myself get attached to people way too easily, so for me the real issue is not "can you fall in love" but "how to maintain proper distance" when I catch myself falling for someone too soon.
 
Oh course, there are some people who know me, read this, and say to themselves: Stop pretending you're not a "playa" for starters.  Yeah, mea culpa on that one, I guess.

Anyway, enough true confessions for one day. 

We have now recieved several severe complaints about abusive harrassement to our ladies from players, who make alts to carry out this type of behaviour and after relog onto their main avatars and delete the one used to harrass.
 
 
For *those* who have no idea how things function, I would like to clarify. EVERYTHING  gets saved on a Data Base, so its very easy for Admin to find your accounts and delete them.
 
 
So, please do not play these type of games, their are childish and futile,and you can only loose your money by getting your accounts banned for such degrading behaviour.
 
Treat people with respect please, this is a MUST to be part of our community. You can have all the fun, sex and rock n roll without ever loosing respect for mankind.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

I agree completely with Skar, and just to add a little more information, the ideology of the original Black Panther Party went through considerable transformation during its history, and, to quote Wikipedia, "condemned black nationalism as "black racism" and became more focused on socialism without racial exclusivity." 
 
On the other hand, there is also a New Black Panther Party (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Black_Panther_Party), of which Wikipedia says "The Anti-Defamation League, the Southern Poverty Law Center, and the U.S. Commission on Civil Rights consider the New Black Panthers to be a hate group."
 
In my opinion, it is true that the expression "Black Panther" is not necessarily racist. But it is highly politicized, especially to Americans, and perhaps best avoided in this kind of community.
 
FWIW

Well, thanks to this thread, I have been scouring quotes from all my favorite authors for two days now, and I just realized that, although there are many many books that I love and many authors whom I admire, John Steinbeck's prose affects me unlike any other. Travels with Charley is hardly his best book, but it does contain some wonderful writing. Anyone who loves dogs and traveling, and who can tolerate yet another American examining his own navel is bound to enjoy this this book.    


When I was very young and the urge to be someplace else was on me, I was assured by mature people that maturity would cure this itch. When years described me as mature, the remedy prescribed was middle age. In middle age I was assured greater age would calm my fever and now that I am fifty-eight perhaps senility will do the job. Nothing has worked. Four hoarse blasts of a ship's whistle still raise the hair on my neck and set my feet to tapping. The sound of a jet, an engine warming up, even the clopping of shod hooves on pavement brings on the ancient shudder, the dry mouth and vacant eye, the hot palms and the churn of stomach high up under the rib cage. In other words, once a bum always a bum. I fear this disease incurable. I set this matter down not to instruct others but to inform myself. . . . A journey is a person in itself; no two are alike. And all plans, safeguards, policing, and coercion are fruitless. We find after years of struggle that we do not take a trip; a trip takes us.”John Steinbeck, Travels with Charley: In Search of America

If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away.
Henry David Thoreau

All in good time....Rome was not built in a day, please appreciate what we getting and not cry about what is still to come. lets encourage our devs instead of unmotivating them <3

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Kl46UHpSwE

I think this is a great idea. Both I myself and several of my friends have been trolled repeatedly, and it's a very unpleasant experience. Of course, since I have used a number of different characters myself, there might be those who will say "serves you right." But there is a difference between wanting to explore different alter egos and maliciously stalking someone. 
 
I've actually identified three different parties who were trolling me, and their motivations were each entirely different. In two of these cases, it would be fair to say that the motivation was spitefulness or the desire to play mind games, which I suppose makes it partly my own fault for having done something that upset them. One, however, was a person who actually had a crush on my character and just couldn't move on after I said I wasn't interested. 
 
In any case, there are many different motivations and probably there are some people who do things without realizing that what they were doing might be considered trolling, which makes this is an issue that I think ought to be discussed more openly and more thoroughly.

Should have a blacklist for accounts!
For example. if i put the char from someone in my blacklist all the other characters on this account would be blocked for me too.
 
 
Not going to make any comments on the rest, it has been discussed extensively.
 
But on the accoutns, I have to add something. Accounttns are private and confidential, and no one but Admin and the user have access to them. By blocking one avatar and having the account blocked, one could easily discover who is who. Each avatar here, played for whatever reasons, represent a person, and its that combo you Block, not the account. You have no right to that person's other avatars, this is what you agreed to, when you wanted multiple slots for multiple avatars to live out whatever fantasies or ...
 
When players make a choice to have 3 slots, options to create additional avatars, these are the risks we run. Nothing can be done, only caution advised and after the usage of the Block Button, or whatever is required if harrassement takes place.
 
When playing multiple avatars, and not making some sort of reference to your main or your true gender, one always runs risks of trolling, offending others, with or without intention to do so, merely cause  of human nature; what IS for you might NOT be for others.....very simple.