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i sincerely doubt that people who continuesly cold others who are obviously not inetrested in colds and never get to do anything more complex as asking "hi bb, hru" do have better education as wolves :=

The most important of all advices however is: dont be a bitch, like Nikki. you can be as pretty looking on the outside as you want, if you have the poisened character of an attention whore not getting the praise she is demanding, people will put you quicker on ignore as you can beg for an apology.

Please enlighten me: why do people use these three words when they cannot possibly be unaware that its the most unimaginative, boring and dishonest approach you can come up with. Its not like anyone gives a flying flamingo about how the persons mood is, what they want to ask is: "do you have the time and will to fuck or talk with me?" Still people use it. Is humanity really that stupid? <.<

most of it is agreeable as subs who do not completely sink in their passivity are more enjoyable obviously. I would go even further personally as my sapiosexuality beats my bdsm kink regulary that, if a sub can discuss with me on a topic without submitting to my opinion for the bare reason that i hold the leash is a huge plus but yea... thats a personal thing obviously. maybe im not the only one there? On the other things mentioned... i dont think the ego petting is really necessary, just be yourself and if the dom is acting like a bitch there are subtle ways to make them aware of it? in the end, in my view, its the wrong idea to try compensating the bad character of a person by extra submissiveness and a bad character includes that they need constant ego petting to feel confident with you.

and who are you to determine what a "true" dom is? its the same idiotic nonsense as calling believers of different religions infidels. in your definition they might be false, weak, or whatever but for the sake of tolerance its common sense to not insult everybody else just because they dont share the same "beliefs" as you do. do some people not respect the ownership about people in a videogame? absolutely ye, they dont and there are good reasons for that. not only in a virtual place but even in real life one can argue if its right to shackle your partner to yourself. in any case: the person can decide that for themselves even if its a sub/slave or whatever. if the sub sincerely feel shes entitled to not play with anyone but "her" dom or prefers atleast to play so for the sake of the rp they will tell that themselves in their profile, via pm or simply ignore the person approaching. that would much more honest though

the kind of advices you get here speak for themselves... my 2 cents: dont be shy if someone catches your interest and dont put real feelings in relationships with people who are not willing to get out of anonymity if you do not have a disappointment fetish

I thought in russia is no corona? just lung infection? thats what Putin says

well, since the devs finally made a useful update i might see if the forum moderation got better aswell during the years. cheers to all the new folks, the vets are gone as far i can see

You cannot expect people to always consider that they play with someone with a mental illness and therefor be on guard 24/7. "i cant go outside, there are murderers out there... somewhere" is the same type of ridicilous behaviour. sure there are people who need treatment playing the game but does that mean everybody else has to adjust to them? i hope not Oo not going to pick up everything you just said, were just talking in circles and have to agree to disagree, unless you you want to bring in a new argument... uh this maybe: it is objectively stupid and i explained why. *sigh* let me unfold it for you once more: humans cannot look on their own traits unbiased. yes we do know our weaknesses very well but when it comes to strengths and things were good in, a hell lot of people overrate their abilities ALOT. Thats not their fault, thats just what evolutionary-wise worked better but you can be aware of it and stop pretending to know that youre smart or dominant or sub (yea that also exists, people who perceive themselves as sub while they act clearly dominant in most situations because someone told them a cute girl has to be sub or whatever bullshit). you can aim to be those things but claiming: "im a dominant alpha bull" is objectively plain stupid to an emberassing degree. not quite sure what you mean with "rp-purposes" rp is a way to broadly used term to throw it into a discussion without defining it further. Let me be clear: this is not about my personal problems, trust me im not troubled with ignoring people. What im wondering is if people are aware of what they write there and how it is perceived by alot of others and from what i learned when talking with them it usually isnt, hence i felt like discussing it with a larger audience here. And again: this aint a personal attack to people doing all this things, im curious of the why and if there is any backthought behind it that considered the consequences or simple thoughtlessness.

which is what i said with the difference that i dont believe that most people do not want to not be approached or flirted with even when theyre "taken". And yea sure this is about time spend together but its also about experience. Lets be real: online relations do usually not last forever for a reason: people getting bored by each other and where is the point to get bored while the partner is not even around? or is anyone thrilled to wait for them coming online? Its a habit that does nobody a favor in the long term, yea it feels good having someone liking you enough to bind themselves to you but, this is obviously just my opinion: thats not worth the prize they and you are paying. I please you to differ here: I would never judge a person of their way to enjoy sex. But people writing objectively stupid stuff in their profile like bragging how strong and badass they are cannot complain when they earn a raised brow. And no: thats not necessary to accelerate the partner search. Ive seen plenty of plenty "dominant" profiles without them mentioning it directly aswell as ive seen plenty of smart or intended cheap profiles without mentioning that once. It takes more effort but not each shortcut is a good one. But maybe its just me who likes the subtleness of things and everyone else getting wet or hard when they read of how dominant a person thinks he or she is? sorry but simply no. things are not the same as irl BDSM relations where you obviously HAVE a responsibility due to the very controlling and intrusive nature of the whole thing. online, people are by default and own choice anonymous for a reason. they can end the relation with one little click. if they do not like how things are developing they will end it. you are first and foremost responsible for your health, not for the sub or dom which you enjoy a played out consensual fantasy with. yea there are those who wrongly connect real feelings into this which is a human thing to do, but if you find yourself in that situation ask yourself the following: would i feel the same if i would meet them in rl and am i sure my partner does so aswell? if there are any doubts that the answer is yes then you enjoy a fantasy and nothing more. some people like to play out such feelings: love, care, friendship and so on and thats all fine and good but everyone should remind themselves for their own good that aslong it happens online its basically nothing but acting and in no way a reliable base someone should risk their mental well being for when they get disappointed. To come back to your statement: if you find your partner doing things they dont want to do they are mentally not fit for any sex, be it BDSM related or Vanilla. You are fucking a mental child then. The whole point of prohibiting minor sex with adults is that we expect from adults to net allow others to manipulate them in such a harmful way but being able to think and decide themselves. Thats totally taste driven though. and i have seen alot of hoarders being able to play very realistically and detailed, usually the hoarding is more due to people not updating their list in contrary to presenting really the list of active subs someone has. I find the whole point of listing nonsense as already described but i wouldnt agree to say that "hoarders" are in any way "worse" doms as people who dedicate their profile to one person. Its subjective in its very core, happy you have noticed that yourself

personal experience is something very subjective obviously. But if you have the feeling you get the same interest or even more since youre bound: good for you i guess, youre the exception then. Look im not condemning everyone who does that. some do it purposefully to to have less interaction with others or claim atleast so to satisfy their partners (assumingly) but i dont think the most players really prefer this limitation and liking to bore out when theyre logged in alone.

im not talking about you and never said there is nobody interested in collared people :). Its like saying there is no climate change because "hell, its cold here!" <.< i know from a lot of people that they get measurable less interaction with others since they are married / collared and so on. im not believing youre really plainly denying it :=. oh and im male by the way in case thats not clear by the nick.

I didnt personally accused anyone so no idea why you feel like you have to defend yourself but... a sub that has "collared" or anything alike in their profile will experience fewer people approaching her, you cannot possibly deny that, can you?

Well, There are a few things that i constantly run into when reading profiles that seem utterly unnecessary, feel free to share your views: - Forcing or asking subs/lovers to put your name into the profile despite everybody knowing that people with mentioned names do get unattractive for everyone else especially in the BDSM context. Even if youre monogamous and i doubt the most people are, whats the big deal to allow your playpartners not being shackled to you when youre not online. you just bore them. if someone wants to be loyal, why not giving them the chance to show it without forced social distancing? -people distinguishing between "real" and "fake" subs/doms/whatever-bdsm-content. Are you even aware how silly the thought is that someone has the right to decide the right way to do BDSM? There is exactly one rule for sex in general which is consent and that rule is established in 3dx without anything needed to be said or done because you cant do shit with other people without them wanting it. I get theorycrafting is a fun thing to do but i recently had once again someone starting a sentence with "since we, in the kinky community...". for god sake people. put yourself in as many imaginary communities as you wish to but do not pretend you know shit about how sex should be done because the only person you can decide that for is you and you alone. - people describing themselves as smart, funny, cool or whatever attribute that geniunely only works in comparison to others. In my whole life i didnt met a single smart person calling themselves smart. Im serious. They dont exist. Smart means being able to be reflectory and people who do that will quickly understand that they first and foremost do have alot of "missing" knowledge. People have biologically a very biased view on themselves. its genetically better to be overconfident then being underconfident so to speak hence you cannot possibly be secure if you are cool or witty or just plain arrogant so why the hack do you keep putting this shit in your profiles? Towards the so called dominants its especially ridicolous. Let me tell you a secret: someone who is dominant does not need to say it, people notice it themselves. IF you have to say it to make sure people understand that you want to be this way, its a secure method to let everyone with a tiny bit of thinking capacity know youre insecure about it. as said, feel free to post your protest, agreement or whatever, keep it civil though. cheers