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Domonique

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  1. Hi Fletcherino, Having tried most of the mainstream games like RLC etc, I've found that 3DX definitely beats all. The social side of things is better than most I found, sure we get a lot of drama, but that happens no matter where you are. Like you, I'm in an LDR (though I did meet in in game, so that probably impacts how we see the game) and we use it a fair amount to be able to spend time together, try stuff virtually before IRL and that kind of thing. We don't spend as much time in the game as we used to as we've both been so busy with work and stuff, but if you're looking for a way to enhance your sex life while you're separate, I recommend it! There's a fair few unwritten rules, but you'll pick them up quickly, like making sure you read profiles to see if they'll accept colds and if they're in an exclusive relationship (yup, they happen here too!). Once you've got those under your belt, you'll end up finding groups who you have things in common with and I'm sure you'll enjoy the game! If you have any questions that you think I might be able to help with and I'm not online (same name as on here) then please feel free to message me :3
  2. Briana, don't be so cynical.. It's rare, I'll give you that, but it's not impossible!
  3. I'm sorry to hear you weren't able to make it work KimmyFox is right, before you get serious with someone, the most important thing to do is make sure you're on the same page about what you want, especially if you're looking for a relationship in 3DX where temptations and jealousy run rampant. If you think you've found someone you want a relationship with, make sure you are 100% clear with them what you want in the relationship.. it helps to avoid the confusion and heartache that you've just experienced. Loruna is also right, I wouldn't recommend coming to 3DX with the sole intention of finding a relationship. It's so very rare that it works out because of the nature of the game. I suggest just to have fun, take every day as it comes and be yourself.. eventually if there's a special someone for you in this virtual world, you'll find them! My final piece of advice.. because love, real love, is rare to find here and crazy difficult to keep hold of.. always be honest. So many relationships here fail because one or both people in the relationship are not honest. Then they get caught out and things fall apart. If you're both clear from the start about expectations and don't try to hide anything from each other then you'll give the relationship its best chance. I hope this has helped :3
  4. Personally, I don't RP much.. but most commonly, people will RP a persona, they'll RP their fantasy self. They'll design the person that they want to be in the game and will often design their profile to reflect it. You'll get the obvious vampires, demons and nekos and then the not so obvious where they'll just be RPing a more confident or slutty version of themselves. It's completely up to you who you want to be, but as you've found out, there needs to be a level of respect. Public sex happens quite often in places like Sin Club, but it often happens in the back rooms for instance, rather than on the bar, as an example. The longer you're in the game, the more you'll learn this stuff, when in doubt: ask :3 you'll notice the people who are around a lot and most 'veteran' players will be happy to give you advice :3
  5. I wonder the same thing Ana.. I wonder the same thing
  6. Happy 2 years Marc! I probably won't be attending, no sub at the moment. I hope you have an awesome night though x
  7. Hehe nah, Nora's a blast ;3 She knows how to have a good time!
  8. With the amount you spent.. you could probably have bought her a Nora and been able to control it for her ;3
  9. lol i don't think I ever asked how/why you called yourself that xD
  10. Oh Reds xD trust you to take a mature conversation and ruin it lol it must be snoopy o'clock!
  11. I'm so sorry that happened to you Tom, I can't imagine what that must have been like for you. What I can imagine is how far you went with this person because I am there with Fox. We text and talk everyday, we visit each other as much as possible. We have been completely real and honest with each other and we have a real, albeit long distance, relationship that we intend on taking to the next level and we are working towards moving countries to be together. I guess my point is this, there are always two sides to every coin and although there are a lot of people out there who will hurt you, not everyone out there is out to use you as a play thing to pass the time. Yes, be careful who you share your heart with, tread slowly and carefully if you choose to open yourself up to another person, but don't completely shut yourself off from the possibilities. (Yes I'm a complete romantic at heart!)
  12. I don't know whether I agree with the article or not.. From one perspective.. I agree that nothing compares to that physical closeness, just being in the same room and doing something mundane and normal like watching a movie together or laughing together about something the other has done (Fox: your kitchen - thirty three!), in my opinion, is one of my favourite things about being in a relationship. Obviously, I don't get to do that often at the moment and I do feel the absence of it. So from that respect, I agree and hope that future generations do not forget the intimacy of these moments. On the other hand, our relationship started in the virtual world.. we might never have met and I'd be in a very bad place if it hadn't been for this place.. we did spend a lot of time messaging in game and texting outside it, we still do. I know a lot of people will relate when I tell you I find it incredibly difficult to vocalize and explain my thoughts and feelings, especially when they're negative so texting helps to give me a voice and I often make a lot more sense when I'm messaging because I can write down my thoughts in whatever jumble they come out in and then go back and sort them out into something that makes sense. So in that sense, I understand the appeal of texting because it helps to voice our thoughts from a safe place. I guess I would say this about the article: If you think you're falling for a person in a virtual setting, ask yourself this; would you want to spend 24 hours with them without any electronic devices? If the answer isn't positive, chances are, it's not real. I can say yes, it takes me some time with the negative stuff, but I can talk to Fox about anything with or without a device in my hand.
  13. It's awesome to hear DarrenD :3 glad it all worked out for you!
  14. Thank you for your input Bree :3 I guess it's like meeting people irl every relationship is different lol I definitely didn't start out looking for a relationship and I pretty much had the same outlook on it that you did. I didn't want what happened in 3DX to mix with my RL. As time went on, I met one or two people that had potential to make it to RL but I still didn't want to take it to that level. It wasn't until I met Fox that it changed my mind.
  15. in the situation you describe, you're right, there is no fun in newbs not getting the help they need and no one deserves to be harassed, which is why I said I support Bree and others who choose to ignore them. What I said was very generalized and maybe I should have explained better. Using your examples, if I saw a newb not getting the help they needed, I'd PM them and offer them my help, being what Fox calls a veteran player. In the instance where someone is being harassed, I'd find amusement in it when an 'anti-troll' steps in and takes the trolls attention away from them, sometimes I try to be that 'anti-troll' but unfortunately I am not as good at it as others. On the side, I might PM the person being harassed and make sure they're ok. I'm far from heartless, as my first response probably made me out to be.
  16. Now, now kids.. No need to argue! We can go back and forward about whether it's a social sex game or a sexy social platform until the cows come home, but essentially it's two sides to the same coin with equal parts sex and social.
  17. @DarrenD It was some time ago you had the chat with your GF, you're still here so something hopefully went right. What's happened since then?
  18. I understand and support what you're doing if it makes the game a pleasant experience for you, but I won't be joining you in ignoring people. Personally, when people troll or are hateful towards me, I find it amusing. It gets even more entertaining when the someone starts trolling the trolls. I know and am comfortable with who I am, my friends know my truth and anyone who chooses to join the trolls or believe what they say about me.. well I'm better off not knowing them and just sitting back with my popcorn and entertaining myself.
  19. Anyway... @SkyDiver care to share your story about how your meet went? @xMaceyx thank you for sharing that with us
  20. As is so often the case, Fox is right. I've found that, other than the trust issue, the biggest obstacle people seem to come across is themselves, it can be for a wide variety of reasons. It could be the "it's just a game" mentality, people being jaded or people are just plain scared to let themselves be that vulnerable to someone who starts out as a complete stranger, especially when meeting them in a virtual setting because you have no idea if this person is even who they say they are. I was one of those people who were terrified of letting someone in because of the RL situation I was in, as Fox mentioned, we were both dealing with stuff when we met and I knew that the developing feelings would only make matters more complicated. On a number of times I tried to run away from it, there was even a time I tried to completely cut all contact with him! Obviously it didn't stick! But if I hadn't chosen to get out of my own way, we might not be where we are today. With being open to a relationship, I kind of equate it to trying find a pen.. bear with me, it'll make sense! If you're looking for a pen, a lot of the time you can't for the life of you find one, or the one you do find doesn't work (like when you're on the phone and need to write something down and you're not prepared for it), then when you don't really need one and you've stopped looking.. you find a pen that works perfectly! It's kind of a similar concept, if you're looking for a relationship in the game, chances are you'll only meet people who aren't really interested or you end up trying to force it when it doesn't work. So be open to it and when you find a pen that works, grab it and don't let go.. they're hard to find :3 Being open and honest with each other is often half the battle, you'll still get problems and issues crop up but it's that much easier to deal with them if you have that down.
  21. Thanks for your input guys :3 RobT: You are right, it does depend on what people think of as being together. I think I would tend to agree with you, that the stories I'm looking for are the ones where the couples are intending on being together in every sense of the phrase, making those changes to accommodate each other in their RL and progressing the relationship as you would have done if you'd met in more conventional settings. Does that make sense? SilverSurfer: Thank you so much for sharing :3 Trust is definitely something that's difficult to maintain, in any situation but I think the very nature of the game does put added pressure on it, because you're right. It does take a lot of faith to be able to trust that someone is staying faithful and it was a struggle for us too, both of us tend to get territorial and protective of the other which can make things difficult too. I think once you know a persons habits, both in and out of the game, it becomes easier to detect the subtleties when there's something amiss.. Fox and I spend almost all our time messaging and talking on discord, so when something changes in our mood, we've learned each others 'tells'.. though this isn't always accurate and we have to trust that when we ask, they're telling the truth. I did see that post and watched the documentary from the link they provided, I didn't read much of the thread though because it didn't seem to focus much on the relationship aspect, at least on the first couple of pages and the documentary focused mostly on the VR enhancements that are available, I might return to it and see if I can find more about that side of things. I can understand the pressures of changing your life to fit the other person into it, my life a year ago was completely different from now and this time next year it'll probably be completely different again, all because of the changes we want to make so that we're not long distance anymore.. we were lucky enough that we were both ready for a change, though I don't think either of us realised just how big of a change it would be lol. Even when that time comes, we've made some good friends in 3DX so we're likely to still hang around sometimes. It might seem weird but I kind of compare it to how a couple would favour the restaurant they had their first date in :3 we met in the game so I think, aside from the friends we've made, we'd keep coming back for nostalgia purposes :3
  22. Hi there lads and ladies, I guess the reason for this post is that I'm curious. I know that it's rare that a virtual couple in a sex game can take it to the real world and make it work, both in game and out (especially if you don't want an open relationship). I want to know how rare it really is, so far I've not met anyone yet who has met in the game and then taken it into reality, is there anyone else out there who has made it work? If any of you are happy to share, I want to know your stories, how it happened and what you did to make it work. What were your biggest struggles and how did you resolve them? Maybe we could hear from people who haven't managed to make it work in the real world too? What struggles you faced, why (in your opinion) didn't it work and what would you do differently if you had the chance? Maybe give some advice for people looking to take that step? We're all aware of that common problem where someone has turned out to be the opposite gender to their avi, but I'm talking about beyond that, where you've spoken to them through skype, discord or any other method and tried to have a relationship outside the restraints of 3DX, maybe even met up with them IRL, but it didn't last. Your stories don't have to be 3DX specific, maybe if you have experiences with Achat, RLC or some other sex game? Or even if you just wanted to share an opinion on the subject (though please keep it constructive!) I'd love to hear from you. If anyone wants me to, I'm happy to share my experiences and answer any questions about mine and RomanFoxs relationship.
  23. Kudos on reading profiles first, not many people do that and it saves a lot of drama for yourself. Like many have said, it's down to personal preference and if you stick to your preferred method of initiating contact, you'll attract like minded people. It may be worth changing it up and trying different ways and seeing what has the best results. My advice: keep reading profiles! A lot of them have obvious information about the person, one of the key things is whether they are even available for you to 'pick up'. Many now, when they marry in game, enter into exclusive relationships so will not be open to a sexual advance. There's normally also information about turn ons and offs and other things like that. The longer you're in game the better you'll be at interpreting the information as sometimes it's not so obvious. But when in doubt, initiate a friendly conversation, ask about their profile and get them talking about it.. even if it doesn't lead to sex, you might end up making a really good friend. My last bit of advice: don't be discouraged if someone gives you grief for trying to make contact. There are some who will lash out and get angry for PMing them, if this happens, close the PM and move on.
  24. I wouldn't say I disagree with you :3 It's complicated to explain my thoughts on it xS
  25. Reds.. the way you run around sometimes.. I find it hard to believe you're introverted! xD
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