Hello Beccie and thanks for sharing yourself here, even if I am not sure this is the right place for solicited advice on that matter, I'd be happy to share a few thoughts on that, but please take in mind that I know neither one of you, however I am very confident the both of you are wonderful persons in their own way. Intimacy is always a scary thing, it takes great courage to embrace those feelings and go for it and I suppose it is always much easier to simply cast all that away, we all are afraid of getting hurt. Besides, it kinda feels better to be the one ending a relation than having the news dropped on oneself but perhaps this is a new chance for the both of you to build something either one or both of you weren't ready 2 years ago and maybe even discover a much deeper layers of personality and appreciation for each other if you let it happen and believe he has something to offer for your joint happiness instead of saying "Alright, next!". On a personal note, I was always a strong believer of second chances, I have seen too many possible relationships fall victim to miscommunication and the fear of true intimacy, but I am getting ahead of myself. I'd like to invite you to listen to your heart and that sounds much easier than it actually is to determine what feels good for oneself, if he treats you nicely and the thought appeals you, by all means, date him and see where it goes but don't forget to set some boundaries of what you expect and allow yourself to happen. As for sexuality, it's a lovely and very fulfilling thing to explore the layers of one's own but I sincerely hope you don't mistake the familiar feelings for your ex as a foundation for your journey of sexual exploration, of course intimacy and sexual desires can go hand in hand but if you sway more towards pure carnal needs, there are indeed simpler means to indulge them. Otherwise it is quite likely that one of you develops feelings and it's suddenly not a "no strings attached" relation anymore. PS : Regarding the matter of your niece, I don't know if the two of them have been introduced before but unless it's an actual relation, I personally wouldn't introduce them to each other and if you believe that is something to let men shy away, I am positive that openly communicating that situation may resonate a genuine understanding. Thanks for listening and I hope my words could open a few perspectives. Relationship counselling service out I think Shanti moved the topic just when I meant to reply ... no gingerbread men for you!