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This is aimed at no one in particular ... I think the iggy button is a great feature, however, unfortunately the iggy button can be abused by abusers An abuser can go around abusing people and when caught iggy people when they get caught out. As regards D/s ... a dominant doesn't hide behind an iggy button, or friends speaking on their behalf, they deal with the issue/s head on.

Mmmm I had a discussion with Vaughan and his male friend on the game .... the discussion raised issues pertaining to BDSM and the way men treated women .... I thought the bravado was just two males trying to appear manly .... I asked Vaughan questions and in particular as to how he and his team (sub, second master and himself) were training women and laying down rules for the behaviour of both men and women. Yes it was obvious nothing substantial was to be gained by an ingame chat with these two men, but I hugged them when theyt left and was unaware that asking questions upset him/them? I can assure you I have no intention or inclination to raise personal issues on the forum ... I do have real questions as to the BDSM scene on 3DXchat .... and not just one ... but questions have to start with a first question.

Ps .... JenC I wasn't iggied on the forum or the 3dxchat game when I posted my questions (he was in my LONG friend list from "way back when" for some reason). I wasn't iggied on the forum when he stated I was iggied to trance earlier in this thread either, or he wouldn't have known to swamp my questions with images every time I posted a question and wouldn't have still been on my friend list 12 hours later? He may have iggied me now? but I am happy to discuss my questions and opinions with other followers of this thread

Hi JenC as I said I didn't know he had me on ignore .... I have checked back through my posts and can see no reason why he has? As to asking a question ..... I thought asking questions was well in the spirit of a forum? The reason I eventually asked the OP "vaughan" directly was that every time I posted a question he immediately swamped it with a wave of images?

Sorry, been busy , but again mystified why you would threaten to ignore me over a question? Surprized that you said you had me on ignore at 3am this morning I was confused to see you still on my friendlist today? To save confusion I took a screenshot where you are online and on my friendlist? I took a screenshot with a time stamp 15.34 Sunday 25/02/2018 Which is 3.34pm this afternoon. What is the problem with my question .... is there a problem making an opinion as to whether a "self proclaimed Dom" that threatens to fuck another mans girl over a disagreement should be considered as a Dominant or Predator (Abuser) ? And a further question .... is asking the above question a good reason to iggy someone on the 3dx game and here on the forum ?

Hi, just re-read your post and it refers to an earlier post, that you appear to say deals with my question? I have searched and can't find it .... I would appreciate a link please, or the name of the thread, would save me rephrasing the question in this thread if it is already answered elsewhere thanks.

I was unaware that you had me on ignore and I am at a loss to see any insult in asking questions? Is there a problem with asking whether it is abuse to threaten to fuck someones girlfriend if you have a disagreement with a person, in response to a post on the difference between dominance and abuse? I think if you have a thread that is clearly an attempt at information and you make moral judgements in your posts, you should be prepared to offer opinions on questions raised pertaining to those opinions .....

I totally agree with you And thank you for being the first person to answer me with an opinion rather than a deluge of images quickly gathhered of the net .... I maybe being a little unfair expecting a response from the Original Poster as he may be posting from the stand point of a submissive ... so if that is the case I appologise

A point to hopefully elicit some discussion rather than a deluge of images .... In my opinion there is a big difference from being dominant than playing at being dominant ... A dominant person does not need a set of rules and directions written down for them to know how to react and behave usually Those playing at being dominant are lost if it is not in the articles they read to create their false personae and if something falls outside of those articles they are lost and they can sometimes revert to being submissive or abusive. Playing at being the dominant partner is a form of abuse in my opinion .... if the submissive needs help a false dominant does not have the skills to help them, or their help can do more harm than good.

There is no shame in saying you just copy other peoples work and have no knowledge of the subjects raised .... At least it opens the door for others to answer subjects beyond your understanding .... that was meant respectfully and not as an insult

Thankyou for at least going online and getting someone elses opinion. It really doesn't answer my question though, it deals with the obvious. I am trying to ascertain if a man that threatens to rape/fuck another mans girlfriend because of a disagreement shows that man to be an abuser? Even if it can be somehow shown that the threat of fucking another mans girl isn't a rape threat, it is still abuse to the female surely? Because if it is not rape it is saying the girl would willingly fuck the person making the threat, which could damage the relationship and in certain circumsatnces put the female in danger. Would such a "Self proclaimed Dom" be considered a Dominant or Predator ? In your (our) Special World of Kink? Ps. Is everything in here just copied or do you have any knowledge/experience outside of copy/paste? not an accusation but a genuine question

Hi, I am a little perplexed ...... isn't this thread for relevant discussion? Had this thread just been images I would understand, queations being ignore, but there are several articles discussing D/s .... In my opinion if you make opinions you should be willing to discuss issues pertaining to those issues? I maybe wrong, but it appears anytime I post you swamp it with a bunch of images you have taken from the internet?

I was wondering if my question/s were/was missed? In my opinion a forum is to discuss issues not to dictate someones personal views .... Am I wrong on that point?

PS .... If the OP or the followers of this thread consider my questions out of context I respectfully ask the reasons? I would like opinions on the issues I raise, so may need to consider a seperate thread?

Another question .... is this thread to discuss your (Our) Special World of Kink? I consider if a thread, original poster, appears to lay claim to be the forum expert on a particular subject, relevant issues should be discussed ... Maybe my questions need more time to consider? I thought they were relevant and pretty straight forward.

PS. I suppose the next logical question is, is rape or the threat of rape considered OK in this "Special World of Kink" ?

Mmmm maybe my question was not specific enough? If a "Self proclaimed male Dom" in a disagreement threatened to Fuck a girl outside of the discussion, is that "Self proclaimed Dom" a Dominant or Predator (Abuser) ? My understanding is that non consensual sex is rape? so the threat of fucking someone that hasn't consented is the threat of rape? You may disagree, I would be interested in any thoughts.

Wondered about this .... does Dominant or Predator (Abuser) only apply to a "So called dominant" when considering a person that has already submitted? For example .... or question whichever is prefered ..... If a "So called Dominant" had a disagreement with another Dom ... or just an ordinary person for that matter .... Would the "So called dominant" be considered Dominant or Predator (Abuser) if after a disagreement he threatened to fuck the other persons partner or be fucked by the other persons partner? I don't think this has been covered ... The reason I ask is, shouldn't a Dom show control and respect? ... Threatening an innocent party rather than the person involved, by a "so called Dom", to hurt some one other than who the "so called Dom" has a disagreement with, surely shows a lack of control? Would be interested in any thoughts on this, as I have seen it happen.

Often wondered about the D/s scene, as there have always been Dominant men and women and subservient men and women .... Why some have decided to write rules and try to tell people how their relationship should be confounds me? As a dominant male I believe the dynamics between a couple should be worked out by them .... It appears to me an oxymoron for a dominant person to need to be told how to be dominant by another "self proclaimed dominant" .... doesn't that make the would be dominant subservient to the "self proclaimed dominant" author? Scratches my head .....

Are you going to fix the music? It is still happening and all around the rooms Devs said they would look into it and nothing since .... its a real pain in the butt

It really doesn't make any difference where you put the radio in the Json file I even tried putting the radio as the first last and midlle object all at once ... You can put several radios and they will all have the stream regardless of which radio you add the stream too ... so I believe the radio isn't important, its just a fancy input box for the streams ....

Thanks .... but that only sorts the problem for those visiting a room The room owner can't change the settings of those visiting the room ....

Have your pic taken as Elvis .... you need black or red pants and the long sleeved T-shirt ..... Our first superstar TracyRyan Have a pic for youself ... or I will post it here (girls welcome need to work out what works haha)

OK ... not such an uncommon problem .... I missed a peep poofing after getting no music .... So I PMed him, his reply ... quote :- yes it's a common issue to rooms right now. Players have to reset it from settings, otherwise the host has to do that for everyone from the player. PS ... so obviously I haven't fixed it by removing objects ... really pissed off

Yes, and if someone in your room complains they have no music you can tell them to hit the refresh button ... Yes the DJ can refresh, but as you already pointed out that interupts everyones stream ....