I've been a victim in a situation a while ago as well, it was filled with lies and manipulation. I was stupid enough to fall for it and not see the clear signs how I was being controlled. For example, always hanging out with new friends that were her friends, who were easy for her to control and manipulate. It took me awhile to realize it but eventually it made more sense. That relationship had its constant highs and lows, it was the worst kind of emotional roller coaster. All the drama and stress just drained my energy, ending up losing my sleep and getting almost regular mental breakdowns, even at work. I was in love first but then trapped, scared to break up with her even I had that tummy feeling all the time that I am not being loved back. I don't ever wanna feel like that again. Honestly still after long time ago its painful to look back to those days but writing this all makes me feel kinda relieved. Also there's some really good points here, people better be taking some notes! hehe