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Now, now kids.. No need to argue! We can go back and forward about whether it's a social sex game or a sexy social platform until the cows come home, but essentially it's two sides to the same coin with equal parts sex and social.

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From my point of view, a lot of people here take this game way to serious. Especially those who play it a lot or quickly forget that this is still a video game, which does not mean that you should deliberately hurt people or  treat them like a NPC, nevertheless when people get romantic,... here  would be good if they could stay in touch with reality, that this is a virtual world, where friendships can easy have an future, while ''online love'' is (very) often a short term story and a crash into the wall - sooner or later, it's not a guarantee, but a high probability. In general, this is a sex game, large concentrated on porn. Many people want to live out here their fantasies...and generally a honest conversation with your partner about what are you here and for what are you looking here can save you a lot of drama, misunderstandings,...

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Very interesting... yes peoples (imho ) are here to live out their fantasies and there are so many fantasies. All are very different. Some want to live a romantic relationship (yes it might be a fantasy) others want hardocore sex or play as a whore in brothel or as a pimp and you have those who enjoy to act as in a real life relation? Is it a problem? Nope! Do dramas come from fantasies? Nope

 

Jealousy? Yep

Judgement? Yep (who am i to judge a fantasie, another player?) I don't want this kind of fantasy? Poofs 

Deception (some needs love to have sex with someone else? And dramas)

 

Most of the dramas could be avoided if peoples read profiles and if profile were more explicit (do you want me to use  some electrods? :lol: )

 

More seriouly, there is not one reason to play here, a porn game (for some) a social game (for other). ...Copmplexity is the rule of human activities.

 

First step: respect the others (much less drama), their kinks (less drama) and their way to play (less less drama). 

 

OMFG, Most of dramas vanish thanks to common decency

 

Respect is the keyword.

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I want to add this interesting article on the psychological side of virtual relationships (easily readable, so don't worry :)

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/201606/is-virtual-love-sexier-real-love

 

The article focuses on the differences in human interaction when you have real or virtual relationships (including "ordinary" friendships).

 

"It’s also not just romantic relationships that are being transformed as texting becomes the first language of human relationships.  In some friendships, even those that are long-term, texting allows for a creative, exciting and newfound conversational dance, a verve that is often not possible in the face to face familiarity.  So too, texting feels easier and less stressful than real life relating; the conversation pauses or ends when we want it to and can happen in bite size, manageable chunks, with no awkward silences.  Texting relationships feel in our control while real relationships often don't; we can be who we want in text relationships but not always in real ones."

 

The bottom line essentially is that in virtual worlds like 3dx it is far easier to establish friendships and to get "involved" than it would ever be in real life, but  "the larger problem is that virtual relationships don’t nourish us in the same way that real life relationships do.".

 

So it seems only "natural" to me that in the long run you will get "less" involved into virtual relationships, because they are established much faster - but at the same time they also cause more issues due to the lack of direct personal interaction.

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I don't know whether I agree with the article or not.. From one perspective.. I agree that nothing compares to that physical closeness, just being in the same room and doing something mundane and normal like watching a movie together or laughing together about something the other has done (Fox: your kitchen - thirty three!), in my opinion, is one of my favourite things about being in a relationship. Obviously, I don't get to do that often at the moment and I do feel the absence of it. So from that respect, I agree and hope that future generations do not forget the intimacy of these moments.

 

On the other hand, our relationship started in the virtual world.. we might never have met and I'd be in a very bad place if it hadn't been for this place.. we did spend a lot of time messaging in game and texting outside it, we still do. I know a lot of people will relate when I tell you I find it incredibly difficult to vocalize and explain my thoughts and feelings, especially when they're negative so texting helps to give me a voice and I often make a lot more sense when I'm messaging because I can write down my thoughts in whatever jumble they come out in and then go back and sort them out into something that makes sense. So in that sense, I understand the appeal of texting because it helps to voice our thoughts from a safe place.

 

I guess I would say this about the article: If you think you're falling for a person in a virtual setting, ask yourself this; would you want to spend 24 hours with them without any electronic devices? If the answer isn't positive, chances are, it's not real. I can say yes, it takes me some time with the negative stuff, but I can talk to Fox about anything with or without a device in my hand.

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I don't fault anyone looking for companionship on a platform like this one, or any other really.  There have been successful marriages built out of people who met on IRC and such.  I honestly believe that it *can* happen, that you can find someone who you can one day call a proper partner.  

 

BUT, that's not what a lot of people on here are looking for, and that's fine too.

 

Let's say you were going to start a casual (ie strictly sexual) thing with a friend, or acquaintance.  There'd be the danger of one or the other developing feelings toward the other, of course, can't deny that!  BUT (again) to even consider such a casual relationship you would need to go into it with a realistic understanding of what each part expects from this "arrangement".  

 

It is possible to have "just sex" with someone without becoming attached to them, but that's a "truth" that might not be true for everyone!  That's where being upfront about your expectations comes into play.

 

I state my own in my profile and while I know most don't bother to read all the words in it they stand there as a sort of "Terms and Conditions" (lol) that I can point to in case of future misunderstanding.  I warn to not become attached, that I personally will not become attached, that it's practically an impossibility, no matter how they might [mis]interpret my actions.

 

I am personally not single IRL and definitely not looking lol  So that's in part where my own detachment originates, from not wanting to actually seek another partner, not wanting to lead others on, etc.  My emotional compartmentalizing might be interpreted as coldness, and while I can't and won't debate you if I'm a good person or not (lol) I can safely say that this level of detachment has served me well.

 

In the original post there's the question about why we each have our own view, and I must say mine originates form a controlling relationship that I was in for way longer than I should have.  I've been far less trusting ever since but I do not see it as a weakness, or a thing I should change.

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The bottom line essentially is that in virtual worlds like 3dx it is far easier to establish friendships and to get "involved" than it would ever be in real life, but  "the larger problem is that virtual relationships don’t nourish us in the same way that real life relationships do.".

 

OK, undoubtedly there are some people for whom this characterization is apt. But in my opinion, this is not only not true for everyone, I don't think it is even necessarily true for the majority of people. 

 

It's very difficult to generalize, especially when it come to relationships. And throughout this thread, the only opinions that I have strongly disagreed with are the ones that are expressed as if they were true for everyone. The fact of the matter is that one size does not fit all; the only thing that is true for everyone is that almost nothing is true for everyone.

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I think that like real life, with great reward comes great risk... if you're involved and on a massive high with someone, it's probably good to bear in mind that it's really going to suck if it blows up in your face.

 

Of course, sometimes it doesn't blow up, and you really need to appreciate that situation.

 

Now excuse me while I go wash all this soot off my face.  :lol:

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Very interesting... yes peoples (imho ) are here to live out their fantasies and there are so many fantasies. All are very different. Some want to live a romantic relationship (yes it might be a fantasy) others want hardocore sex or play as a whore in brothel or as a pimp and you have those who enjoy to act as in a real life relation? Is it a problem? Nope! Do dramas come from fantasies? Nope

 

Jealousy? Yep

Judgement? Yep (who am i to judge a fantasie, another player?) I don't want this kind of fantasy? Poofs 

Deception (some needs love to have sex with someone else? And dramas)

 

Most of the dramas could be avoided if peoples read profiles and if profile were more explicit (do you want me to use  some electrods? :lol: )

 

More seriouly, there is not one reason to play here, a porn game (for some) a social game (for other). ...Copmplexity is the rule of human activities.

 

First step: respect the others (much less drama), their kinks (less drama) and their way to play (less less drama). 

 

OMFG, Most of dramas vanish thanks to common decency

 

Respect is the keyword.

 
Can't fully agree with that. This game is focused on porn. It's not an opinion, but a fact. Of course you can play this game as whatever you want, but still, the entire environment and the reason why someone is installing this game is in 90% sex, try out virtual sex,..whatever. You can also find a husband or a wife in any other game, but in a video game focused on sex will be such things even more difficult to find as somewhere else. Certainly are video games as Second Life better for social interactions,... as this game.
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The only fact that you can't deny is the way of others play the game. 90 % sex and 10% social is probably that the developers want. I come from 100% oriented sex games. I see the difference. At the very end what matter is what your partners, your friends want and what you want. The rest is philosophy.

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More seriouly, there is not one reason to play here, a porn game (for some) a social game (for other). ...Copmplexity is the rule of human activities.

 

First step: respect the others (much less drama), their kinks (less drama) and their way to play (less less drama). 

 

OMFG, Most of dramas vanish thanks to common decency

 

Respect is the keyword.


 

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The only fact that you can't deny is the way of others play the game. 90 % sex and 10% social is probably that the developers want. I come from 100% oriented sex games. I see the difference. At the very end what matter is what your partners, your friends want and what you want. The rest is philosophy.

The initial reason for joining 3DX is for the sex and fantasy. I don't think anyone joins 3DX looking for real life love, to play music... it evolves into that. It is not like a dating site where you join with the intention of finding a relationship. For most people after a few weeks or months then 3DX changes into more of a social platform. If it was just sex then unless you are a very creative role player or a complete nymphomaniac then you would leave 3DX after a few weeks which wouldn't be great for the community or the developers. Sex is effective for advertising but social interaction keeps people buying.

 

While I think it is great that real life relationships form in 3DX (including friendships), 99% of people will not find real life love in 3DX or even friends who they stay in contact with after leaving 3DX. Go into 3DX relationships and just enjoy the moment and don't feel disheartened when a virtual relationship ends. If you have love in real life or you have a failing marriage in real life then I would recommend focusing on that, not immersing yourself in a virtual relationship. If you are single, then go for it, but don't be naive by thinking someone you met a week ago is telling you that you are the one. A few weeks back, someone else was probably the one, and a few weeks later someone new will be the one. Which is fine, as long as you understand this, then you can have fun while it lasts.

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