Why do most girls on 3dx like abusive sex?

[Camden]

I do too Rob, unless I wanna troll on another account. *insert evil laugh*

 

Although names like cumdumpster, etc. have seen their share of mocking.

[CumProvider]

im odd, i use the same name in game as forum,

I will probably do that if I decide to stick around the game.

[Freya]

Simple,

 

Because nothing like being fucked so hard till your legs give up and you struggle to even sit. Anyone says otherwise probably either asexual or lying or perhaps dead inside?

 

Just my 2 paws. 

[Oshun]

What do you consider abusive...? I still meet subs that don't meet my requirements, and meet lots of girls that are very normal.

 

There are a lot of girls though that like at least a little rough stuff because they don't do it irl. In 3DX they can safely have a sadist with rl experience beat the fuck out of them. Then irl you can go back to your boring normal sex :/ 

[Freya]

What do you consider abusive...? I still meet subs that don't meet my requirements, and meet lots of girls that are very normal.

 

There are a lot of girls though that like at least a little rough stuff because they don't do it irl. In 3DX they can safely have a sadist with rl experience beat the fuck out of them. Then irl you can go back to your boring normal sex :/ 

 

RL does not need to be boring 

[UrbiOrbi]

 

 

[SlaveToDesire]

This thread... It amuses me.

 

Another!

[meilyn]

Well, let's dig out that thread!

 

*giggles*

 

So, why do they (often also myself) like it?

 

Because it is not RL, it is a safe place to try this fantasy, it is role play, you can stop the situation at any time, and that safely.

 

And that many women like rougher sex (sometimes, not always) is no secret.

But to find the right man, who doesn't lose the respect after we played that in RL and who can distinguish between bedroom and outside bedroom, that is not easy.

 

So many women hide their fantasies and those who are gamer girls, they try that in our little fantasy world here, because it is safe.

 

With one edit: And if I like it then it is not abusive, per definition, it is mutal

[Cleo]

I don't think that the number of women who seem to like it rough is abnormally high in this game, I think it's just the sum of several factors that make it more visible on the game than you're used to in real life.

 

1) While I commend 3DXChat for having a bit more romantic/cuddling content than other similar games, let's keep in mind that in the end, this is still technically a porn game with mostly graphical interactions. Romance and pure sex don't really work on the exact same stimuli. The former plays a lot on context, feelings and social exchange, while the latter plays more with visual and physical stimuli (hell, this is why the porn industry and media can exist in the first place). Therefore it shouldn't be a big surprise that a medium which is mainly graphics-based appeals more to people in search of libido relief than to people in search of romance, the latter will probably seek other types of websites and hence are slightly under represented than in real life in the game population.

2) Yes, a lot of women (notice i didn't just say "women" or "all women", ok, so don't jump at my throat ^^ ) have a slight leaning towards seeking dominants partners who can be in charge in bed. This is a general tendancy with all the obvious exceptions and variations among a large spectrum that you can expect in such a large population sample and I won't go too much into details and debates as to how slight or strong this tendancy is, as it's not the important part here. The relevant part is that this tendancy is also somewhat of a social taboo and is usually downplayed in public for the sake (among other things) of political correctness. However the specificities of the online game allow for this taboo to be lifted, and seems comparatively over represented. In reality, it's not more prominent, it's just something that was always there but you're not used to have it so visible.

3) While the former point may explain why women may be more open about certain tendancies, it doesn't explain why some go into full turbo-abuse-sluts mode, like those mentioned in the original post. This is another phenomenon that adds on top of the latter and comes from the virtual and consequence-free aspect of the game. People (and this applies to both men and women) rarely have just one fantasy or fetish, more often than not they have several AND in several levels of extreme. You can have fetishes that can be enacted in real life, and others that pose some technical difficulties or even impossibilities, regardless of how socially acceptable they are (that's covered the former point). As many adepts of BDSM will tell you, some fantasies about total commitment, no limit power exchange, pushing rape fantasy realism, public sex with strangers, no-safety self bondage, and so on ... are all fine and dandy and exciting the way you imagine them, but not so much when reality hits, and it hits hard. This is why they are so strict about "safe, sane, and consensual" , safe words, and all other typical codes of BDSM. Again, the virtual aspect of the game allows to enact some fetishes the way you fantasize and imagine them, not the way they are in the harsh reality. It's easier to fantasize about feeling pleasure in pain, when your nerves don't actually feel the actual pain. Some pople use the game for these extreme fantasies and reality for the more mundane ones, hence, again, the impression they are overly-represented.

[sirrin]

I think for a lot of people things boil down to two things

 

1. Stress reliever for those who have a lot of control in RL
2. Breaking social Taboo's you never could in RL
3. Doing things you never could in RL

Obviously to different extremes, mine depends on the kind of day I've had for example, I might want tender or rough.

 

I am going to counter the generalizing statement you made though, (Guys on my friends list you can ignore this)

 

Why are so many guys needy and love sick for you after knowing you for 30 minutes or 1 casual sex session ? I always end up on my guard because of "I love you" confessions or basically being stalked.

I know a lot of girls in here are guys and I have been with those who I know are RL guys and do not have this problem so what is with the male avatar that does this ?

 

I know some real great guys so I know its not everyone but they certainly feel like the vast minority.

 

Edit: Tip, if you want to experience a "normal" 3DX, a name like "CumProvider" really doesn't help the kind of person you will attract.

[Toolan]

Online or RL, I'm kind of a romantic person. I always flirt and stuff before I make the move. But most girls seem to not dig it, their bio says to use them, abuse them, etc. What the hell? Girls in RL aren't like that.

Because they are mostly men that have never actually fucked a submissive woman in their life?!

[Leoninha]

I praise men with the guts of coming to me, look deep into me eyes and dare to say they wanna fuck. How many of those you can find IRL? 1% being generous? But they exist and I'm not one to refuse one of a kind. If I am alone dancing in some bar, that's what I am expecting, not a little romance and talk. I don't refuse women either.

 

There are many generalizations in this topic, that makes me wonder, how many types of women you guys know. Like if you lived in a Matrix where 99% of women were saints. We are all sexual degraded animals looking for rough sex. And there are two sub-types out there: the reprimed ones, because of a foul society who inserted in their minds that this is wrong, and the open-minded ones who woke up from that matrix and does what they really want.

 

I consider myself lucky for have found that early in my life, but I know men and women who stay reprimed until today. That's sad. Some, trying to leave the bubble, recur to sites and mmo's to experience. For me its a case of own decision. Fuck society. Do what you must.

 

As for being abused. It is only in sexual context. No women likes to be abused outside of it. I would defend myself, report, call for help etc. But I am a sadomasochist person, though more inclined to being bottom than top. I like to be spanked, whipped, fingered, insulted by other women (not as much by men) and I am ok pegging crossdressers for their heart's content, spanking their butts while they imagine to be submissive girls, so, that's my two cents.

 

It is all in the sexual context.

[Freya]

We just love men who knows what he wants and take it without hesitation  

 

My boyfwiend can do anything he wants to me and I will love it >:3

[The92Ghost]

 

Was literally my first reaction. There is plenty of those girls don't get me wrong. But me... even though I do seek for Dominant and Powerful man to satisfy my needs... I never, ever allow them to fully control me or use me as a slut. I am always the one in control... quite often those same powerful Dominant Man end up under my caress coming back for more because I do respect their powerful, wild and dominant nature and in the meantime I do control it and make them feel even wilder and greater. 

 

Trust me some of them know how to truly fuck but only when you get to the real them.

Edited May 28, 2021 by The92Ghost