New here. Could use some pointers or advice.

[Tagalus]

Hiya. I installed 3DXChat recently.

I'll be as concise as I can. I have been finding it difficult to fit in.

From what I can see, this game (I know it's not exactly a game, per se, but I'll use that word for convenience's sake) has a strong basis on sexual interaction, but is not limited to it. Which for me, is great.

While I am indeed interested in the sexual part of it, I'd prefer to establish a connection along with it. I'm not great with socializing, so I'm not interested in talking with loads of people. Ideally, one person I could go to, chill and chat with (without it having to lead to sexual interaction everytime) for the time I am online. I make this clear on my profile and I do share my interests in hopes someone will have common points of conversation.

Here's my difficulty, as far as I can describe it for the few days I've been in here. Most if not all rooms are either completely based on sexual interaction with minimal talk, or (the vast majority, actually) are rooms that are party-based, with 99% of the people therein either being the DJs, or stage dancers, and everyone else dancing indefinitely in huge concentrated crowds with not much interest for any other sort of interaction. This is not a complaint, this is me evaluating what I've found and trying to describe it as best as I can, so I can properly describe my difficulties.

For the record, I am a 35 year-old straight man.

From the outside looking in, looking on profiles, noone really feels open to approach. I am severely on the introvert side, so I would much rather be approached, but I'm perfectly capable of sending the first message if need be, to the best of my ability.

To this point, I find that everyone whose profile I read, fall into at least one of this categories:

- They already have their established circle of friends, or established partner;

- Are AFK, or otherwise busy and would rather not be bothered;

- Are RPing, or their character has no intention of connection with the real person behind it;

- Are only interested in silent interaction, no chat at all;

- Openly state that they don't want to be approached unless the person meets certain criteria;

- Seem to be openly hostile in their profile, or at least intentionally put that front.

So, the end result for me has been spending hours jumping from room to room, navigating from corner to corner reading profiles, in hopes I can find someone who seems friendly and open to being approached, and if it seems like the person won't be bothered if I do contact her, I'll greet her (I'm not good at doing the whole pick-up line thing, and I don't intend to be as I don't appreciate "game talk" too much, I'd much rather speak as a honest person with transparency) . But there's never any response on the rare cases I do find someone, or if there is, it's just to send me away.

So, I'm just spending hours roaming rooms, reading profiles, and trying to reach out if it feels right, but it just feels like everyone else is already in their bubble and I'm just an outsider. Feels like I'm playing Sims solo, and everyone else is out of reach.

The only two times I've actually interacted with someone, were two completely silent colds. And they didn't fulfill me, to be honest.

I don't want a big group of contacts, it probably would be overwhelming for me anyways.I'd rather find someone who I could connect over interests or points of view, that I could be around when we're both online, even if it doesn't lead to any sexual interaction most of the time (I'd actually prefer that most of the time).

As things are right now, I just feel like I'm a single-player in an MMO, spending hours roaming and inspecting people's profiles, and I'm honestly starting to feel like a creep.

I accept any pointers any of you can give me but if I had to boil down my issue to two questions:

- Are there any rooms in which the population inside does not consist solely on people massively dancing indefinitely, or focused solely on sexual interaction, and are open to just "sit in a corner" and open to approach?

- Am I being naive in thinking I can search for that kind of connection on a game that's heavily based in sexuality? Is this a case of someone having to tell me that "it's not that deep"? This is actually a question I'm asking myself as of now. From the outside looking in, it seems many people have that kind of interaction with their established people that is not solely based on the sexual part of the game. So it seemed like it was something that does exist in here. But did I misunderstand it, and am searching for the right thing in the wrong place?

Thanks in advance

[Awsno]

If you see "xxAn" say hi. I am always open to engaging and fun conversation. But I (almost) never approach a guy first.

[Tagalus]

On 6/20/2025 at 11:11 AM, Awsno said:

If you see "xxAn" say hi. I am always open to engaging and fun conversation. But I (almost) never approach a guy first.

Would love to. Sending you a DM.

[Joddie]

How did your quest for fantastic interactions go pal?

[Dizzychrisy]

I notice some of those things also even knowing ppl here from other game who ask me to come here. You just to to rum around a lot an talk ppl it will start to click for you as it did me.

If your are still havening issue's in game pm me in game same as forum name usually on after 12am California time.

[TheDonald]

Well Tagulus  its all those things you read off.  And yeh i do alot of walking around cause all the fun ones with my tastes tend to leave.  Biggest problem i have seen is no one local chats in a room with each other thus no other way to Guage there mood in a paticular room and you have to take the plunge on a profile you normally might not pm might be surprised that some profiles not set in stone tends to be a shield to keep the total opposite of what your looking for from bothering you.  My profile reads as a set it his ways Older man out for his own pleasures and my dislikes in the game but doesnt mean i wont be friendly and Talk so it boils down to how badly do you want to interact and how much of a chance do you want to take.  About all i got to say Ohhhhh stay out of world chat its a toxic cesspool.