DrPaulCampbell Posted January 21 Posted January 21 Hey 3DX Readers. I looked for an entry about this topic and couldn't find one, so I apologize if I'm repeating a thread that exists elsewhere. If I am, please point me to it, and I'll delete this entry. I'd love to hear people's thoughts, simple or contextual, about how they make the decision to "unfriend" someone. I realize in some cases it's an easy decision, but in some cases not so much. I know there are people (of which I'm one) who like to keep their "friends" list small, so if I haven't seen a person in a long time (a month or so), I just drop them off because I feel like our schedules will really never line up again anyway. In some cases, however, if I feel a connection to the person, I'll keep them on, but I don't like the list to be so long that I can't see the bottom of it without scrolling. Kind of a stupid rule, I know, but that's mine. I'd hate for this post to get argumentative, but I realize that there will be differences of opinion. I'd encourage that, but just be polite please. Just because we disagree doesn't mean that we have to be rude about it. Not everybody will have the same feelings about this subject. The only other time I consciously unfriended someone was when they chose to "trade up" on an experience that was about to go partnered. Someone I'd known for a while, but for some reason they made the decision to move over to another room to meet someone else. To be fair, they told me this was happening, and rather than ruin their night and sulk about it, I just said, "Sure, go ahead." It wasn't like I was going to change their mind anyway, and nobody likes desperation. I didn't mind admitting to them that I was hurt (yeah, people have feelings here too), but I unfriended because ... well, it just seemed like a really inconsiderate thing to do. They admitted they felt guilty, but not enough to tell the other person "another time, I'm with a friend." Who knows ... maybe I was getting the slow fade anyway, but there are more considerate ways to resolve that, especially with someone you've been with multiple times. So, this seemed like a valid reason to unfriend, since I think friendships are mutually considerate. Love to hear people's opinions, thoughts, experiences, rules, norms ... whatever. JeanBa 1
JeanBa Posted January 21 Posted January 21 Hello to you, I read your article. More interesting than the average article here that is - for the most part - only concerned with trivialities and sex. Regarding the question of friends, my answer will be simple. 3DX is a world of egoists who are only concerned with their own little navel. Incapable of looking beyond their small circle of regulars and even more closed than people in real life. I am basically French, yet I make the effort to speak English with others and I also make the effort to go to - among other things - German rooms and try to create links other than those dictated by comfort and habit. That is globalization: a window open to others. This is probably why I am - on a certain side - for Trump, especially for his vision "we are moving forward" and "we are innovating". The "friends" here (I would say more accurately: acquaintances) are like the wind and above all carried by their own interests. They are only opportunists (for the most part). On 3DX you have to take people for what they are not and leave them for what they are. JeanBa
Vera Venom Posted February 1 Posted February 1 I unfriend people that easily too. If I'm not worth their time and they rather be elsewhere, no point keeping those people around. If you're an option, and on the bottom of someone's priority list to just hang out, they don't deserve you.
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