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I am here for about 9 months now and never thought I would raise a topic like this. I considered virtual world as an alternative entertainment till recently. But it seems to be not so. I met a person three days back in a dance club. Till now, I am not sure what magic spell he casted on me, I started feeling an attraction towards him. That is the  first day and in the second day, I have fallen fully for him.

I am not using his name here because I have never disclosed what I felt for him so far and I would never do that. But my heart accelerates when I see him and see him watching me, chatting lovingly with me, and I wonder he also feels the same as did. 

I am really not sure what I would do if he says he loves me as I do, but my mind craves to hear those words.

Is it real or am I just imagining things, I have no idea.

Posted

Of course it is. To me that is like asking if a blind person can have love when they can`t see the other person.

They fall for the other persons words, thoughts, feelings, expressions, opinions and the very being that shines trough. It is the same in a virtual environment, there is a real person behind the avatar, and it is that person you are infatuated with.

There are a couple of things to keep in mind. One is that the person may be using constructs to get you to like them. As in saying all the right things to get you to be more and more infatuated with them for their own personal gain, whatever that may be. The other is that even if the person is genuine, their real life appearance may not be what you expected, or matching the persona you have built them up to be in your mind. 

And i leave you with my best wishes and a link to some good advice on the the early stages of falling in love from Psychology today.

How to stay centered while falling in love, despite the inner chaos you feel.

Posted

YES, it's possible

Though no easier or fair

We reap what we sow

 

But don't confuse lust or infatuation for LOVE

The first two... easy, taking no effort or commitment

LOVE... will demand all of it.

 

i've been fortunate to experience all 3 in my 6+ years... here n there. But aways been careful n practical, no diff than RL... where there are angels and monsters too.

I've also been blessed n lucky meeting good peeps, finding the Forum my oasis. 😉 It was there Andrea's writing first caught my eye, later my heart... for 6+ yrs 🥰

The reason i stay, also the reason i can't leave... bc that is how LOVE is. Uncompromising, illogical and GREEDY. But i got no regrets.  

 

Regardless, what the future knows... enjoy these feelings for they are priceless but be patient and careful as you make your journey. Remember... it's not about the destination.   

  • 11 months later...
Posted

Your brain does not know the difference, when it comes to the chemicals that falling in love, and love it's self produces. However, I warn against it. Due to the nature of 3DX being something you can simply turn on and off at will. It's just not feasible for happily ever after. 

Maybe I am jaded after years of trying to love and ultimately being destroyed in the process.

Just remember, no matter how love ends, be it in death or in a breakup, it always ends in pain. 

 

  • 4 months later...
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Well I came a bit by chance on this discussion ... and I would add a few words to it. Just like Mahima, I was considering this virtual world as an entertainment, when I first came in a few months ago (just having easy and safe sex). But some weeks ago, something I would have never imagined happened : I encountered a man (I won't give his name, of course he will recognize himself if he reads this) and I actually felt in love like a teenager. I'm thinking to him all day long, I'm looking forward reading his messages on discord, my heart accelerates every time a message is coming, I love his words, the way he behaves with me ... I don't know if it is chemical as Valentine says but Yes, definitely, I believe love is possible in this virtual world.

  • 8 months later...
  • 3 months later...
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THE WHY OF THE HOW BECAUSE IT'S SO STRONG IN VIRTUAL

When we are on the net, it is above all our ideas and our way of seeing life that passes... everything that is cerebral! So we always find very quickly lots of people with whom our ideas correspond. Moreover, if there is a little sense of humor or other affinities that correspond then we are even more interested in the person. And there... well "we fall in love". EXCEPT THAT...

the problem is that we lack all the "physical" information. Sight, hearing, touch... well... everything that relates to our senses. We can indeed fill sight and hearing with the cam and the telephone... but not the others. So, the problem that arises is that our brain will "sublimate" the missing physical information with positive information already present, like him (or her) super great ex-boyfriend / fgirl with whom things were going really well or by idealizations of what we expect most in another (fantasies, that is!). And then...well, it's a disaster! because we transform the "virtual sweetheart" into a kind of perfection (well yes....she has everything that is good .!.)....except that it is not at all sure that it really happens in REALITY. (it's crazy how a simple "bad" look or ''bad kiss'' can cool our emotions!)

So..brave users of the net..try your luck in reality ....yes,  ....but don't get too excited and know how to keep a cool head. And if you are already in a relationship think twice before risking ruining your reality for a virtual story that you don't actually know much about 

Have fun '

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Edited by JeanBa
  • 2 weeks later...

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