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Khallum Troy

Accept / Decline : Hugs, kisses, Cuddles, etc ...  

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  1. 1. Would you agree, to have the options Accept / Decline requests: Hugs, Kisses, Cuddles etc ...?

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🇫🇷 Bonjour à tous,
Chers concepteurs, je pense qu'il serait bien, d'avoir l'option de pouvoir accepter ou refuser, un hug, un kiss, un cuddle, etc... Basée sur l'option d'être Partenaire ou non. Cela serait un grand service, que vous nous rendriez.
C'est assez dérangeant, voir désagréable que quelqu'un vienne vous faire un hug, ou un kiss, sans avoir la possibilité d'accepter ou décliner.
Voir, c'est problématique lorsque c'est quelqu'un que vous n'appréciez pas, forcément.
Certaines personnes, sachant cela, ont tendance à le faire exprès, et à en abuser. C'est une façon de troller, des plus désagréables qui soit.
Merci à vous.

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🇬🇧 Good Afternoon all,
Dear designers, I think it would be good to have the option of being able to accept or refuse, a hug, a kiss, a cuddle, etc ... Based on the option of being a Partner or not. It would be a great service if you would do us.
It's quite disturbing, even unpleasant that someone comes to give you a hug, or a kiss, without having the possibility of accepting or declining.
See, it's problematic when it's someone you don't necessarily like.
Some people, knowing this, tend to do it on purpose and abuse it. It’s one of the most unpleasant ways of trolling.
Thank you.

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🇫🇷 Bonjour à tous,
Je reviens dans ce sujet et le fait remonter. Je veux apporter une autre raison, à cette demande.
La semaine dernière, j'étais en balade dans 3DXChat avec ma partenaire et elle a été approchée par un autre utilisateur. L'approche de cette personne, a été très désagréable pour elle. Je suppose que c'est le cas de beaucoup de personnes. Hommes comme femmes.


Voici  ce qu'il s'est passé ce soir là. L'homme est venu et a lancé l'action embrasser sur la joue. C'est une action, que vous pouvez lancer, mais que la personne en face de vous, ne peut pas refuser. A contre cœur, bien souvent, vous êtes lancé dans cette action, par un total inconnu.
Elle lui explique qu'elle n'aime pas cela et de ne pas le refaire.
Cet homme, pense que : juste parce qu'il en avait envie, c'est une bonne raison et qu'il n'a pas à demander la permission avant. Je pense maintenant, que vous comprenez à quel point cela est dérangeant et pose problème.


C'est dérangeant dans le sens où quelqu'un vous approche, et vous fait des choses sans votre consentement. Ce qui est au coeur de récents débats, dans nos sociétés, ces derniers mois, voir dernières années.
Il faut rappeler que : IRL un contact physique avec une personne que vous ne connaissez pas, contre sa volonté, peut être perçu comme une agression physique, voir comme une agression sexuelle.
Dans cette plateforme virtuelle, on ne peut pas évoquer ces notions,  mais c'est dérangeant, par rapport à la pensée qui est véhiculée. On peut se servir, sans demander à l'autre. Le consentement n'existe pas. Cela pose un problème. On devrait encore pouvoir décider, des actions dans lesquelles nos avatars sont lancées. Que ce soit un baiser sur la joue, ou prendre dans les bras. Dans certains cas, dans un certain contexte, ou avec certaines personnes, cela peut être agressif. Des gens peuvent se sentir agressés ou mal à l'aise, ce qui peut être frustrant.


Je pense @Gizmo et @Lisa, qu'il faudrait sérieusement faire quelque chose pour ça.

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🇺🇸 Hello to all,
I come back in this topic and bring it up. I want to bring another reason, to this request.
Last week, I was walking in 3DXChat with my partner and she was approached by another user. The approach of this person, was very unpleasant for her. I guess this is the case for many people. Both men and women.


Here is what happened that night. The man came and initiated the action kiss on the cheek. This is an action, which you can initiate, but the person in front of you, can not refuse. Reluctantly, you are often launched into this action, by a total stranger.
She explains that she doesn't like it and not to do it again.
This man, thinks that: just because he felt like it, it is a good reason and that he does not have to ask permission before. I think now you understand how disturbing and problematic this is.

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It is disturbing in the sense that someone is approaching you, and doing things to you without your consent. This is at the heart of recent debates in our societies in recent months and years.
It is important to remember that: IRL a physical contact with a person you don't know, against his will, can be perceived as a physical aggression, even as a sexual aggression.
In this virtual platform, we can't evoke these notions, but it's disturbing, compared to the thought that is conveyed. One can help oneself, without asking the other. Consent does not exist. This is a problem. We should still be able to decide, which actions our avatars are launched in. Whether it's a kiss on the cheek, or a hug. In some cases, in a certain context, or with certain people, it can be aggressive. People may feel attacked or uncomfortable, which can be frustrating.


I think @Gizmo and @Lisa, that we should seriously do something about it.

 

 

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Might be a bit uncomfortable at times. But I don't see it happening like super often. And most people simply shrug it off when that happens.

I'm not entirely sure if a prompt would be helpful because while it fixes one issue, creates another. 

So maybe we should have some sort of a compromise solution. Like for example either something like having a toggle feature for it, to have that prompt popping up or not, or maybe make it in a way that those on your friendlist to still be able to hug you without permission. You can always remove them if they are a pain in the ass and bug you with it.

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13 hours ago, Tsela said:

Might be a bit uncomfortable at times. But I don't see it happening like super often. And most people simply shrug it off when that happens.

I'm not entirely sure if a prompt would be helpful because while it fixes one issue, creates another. 

So maybe we should have some sort of a compromise solution. Like for example either something like having a toggle feature for it, to have that prompt popping up or not, or maybe make it in a way that those on your friendlist to still be able to hug you without permission. You can always remove them if they are a pain in the ass and bug you with it.

🇫🇷 Bonjour,

Peut être que vous, cela ne vous arrive pas souvent.  Je suis un homme, utilisant, un avatar homme dans la plateforme. Cela ne m'arrive souvent. A part peut être quelques trolls de temps en temps.

En ce qui concerne les avis féminins, cela arrive très souvent. Ce n'est pas la première fois que je vois cela avec ma partenaire. Cela lui arrive presque tous les jours, ainsi qu'à d'autres amies.

Quand vous avez affaire à quelqu'un, (comme cet personne, dans les screenshots), qui pense que, "juste parce qu'il en a envie", il peut le faire et que "c'est une raison suffisante". C'est problématique je trouve. Je ne sais pas s'il le fait dans la vie réelle. Je ne pense pas. De même que sa façon de penser, quand il évoque le fait de changer de position pendant un acte sexuel. (En vrai, cela peut lui poser quelques problèmes, s'il agit comme ça. Il faudrait, qu'il fasse attention à la question consentement de sa/son, ou ses partenaires. Enfin c'est son problème. Ce n'est pas moi, qui vais faire son éducation).
Il y en a plein qui le font, et qui pensent de cette façon. Ce n'est pas le seul gars. Il y en a un, il y en a d'autres, c'est obligé. C'est mathématique. C'est statistique. Le pourcentage, d'utilisateurs hommes présents, étant beaucoup plus élevé, que le pourcentage de femmes présentes, sur la plateforme.

Je comprends et j'accepte votre point de vue, mais à tout bien considérer, je ne pense pas que votre solution, soit la plus pratique à long terme. Je pense au contraire que, et je maintient mon idée que : l'ajout de l'option d'accepter, ou décliner ces petites actions, comme c'est le cas pour les autres actions plus intimes, serait non seulement, une bonne chose, mais aussi plus simple et plus rapide.

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🇺🇸 Good afternoon,

Maybe this doesn't happen to you very often.  I am a man, using, a man avatar in the platform. This does not happen to me often. Except maybe some trolls from time to time.

As far as female reviews are concerned, it happens very often. This is not the first time I see this with my partner. It happens to her almost every day, as well as to other friends.

When you're dealing with someone, (like this person, in the screenshots), who thinks that, "just because he wants to", he can do it and that "that's reason enough". That's problematic I think. I don't know if he does it in real life. I don't think he does. I don't think he does it in real life. He would have to pay attention to the issue of consent of his partner(s). Well, that's his problem. I'm not the one who will educate him).
There are plenty of people who do it, and who think that way. He's not the only guy. There's one, there's others, there has to be. It's mathematical. It's statistical. The percentage, of male users present, being much higher, than the percentage of women present, on the platform.

I understand and I accept your point of view, but considering everything, I don't think that your solution is the most practical in the long term. On the contrary, I think that, and I maintain my idea that: adding the option to accept, or decline these small actions, as it is the case for the other more intimate actions, would not only be a good thing, but also simpler and faster.

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14 hours ago, Khallum Troy said:

🇫🇷 Bonjour,

Peut être que vous, cela ne vous arrive pas souvent.  Je suis un homme, utilisant, un avatar homme dans la plateforme. Cela ne m'arrive souvent. A part peut être quelques trolls de temps en temps.

En ce qui concerne les avis féminins, cela arrive très souvent. Ce n'est pas la première fois que je vois cela avec ma partenaire. Cela lui arrive presque tous les jours, ainsi qu'à d'autres amies.

Quand vous avez affaire à quelqu'un, (comme cet personne, dans les screenshots), qui pense que, "juste parce qu'il en a envie", il peut le faire et que "c'est une raison suffisante". C'est problématique je trouve. Je ne sais pas s'il le fait dans la vie réelle. Je ne pense pas. De même que sa façon de penser, quand il évoque le fait de changer de position pendant un acte sexuel. (En vrai, cela peut lui poser quelques problèmes, s'il agit comme ça. Il faudrait, qu'il fasse attention à la question consentement de sa/son, ou ses partenaires. Enfin c'est son problème. Ce n'est pas moi, qui vais faire son éducation).
Il y en a plein qui le font, et qui pensent de cette façon. Ce n'est pas le seul gars. Il y en a un, il y en a d'autres, c'est obligé. C'est mathématique. C'est statistique. Le pourcentage, d'utilisateurs hommes présents, étant beaucoup plus élevé, que le pourcentage de femmes présentes, sur la plateforme.

Je comprends et j'accepte votre point de vue, mais à tout bien considérer, je ne pense pas que votre solution, soit la plus pratique à long terme. Je pense au contraire que, et je maintient mon idée que : l'ajout de l'option d'accepter, ou décliner ces petites actions, comme c'est le cas pour les autres actions plus intimes, serait non seulement, une bonne chose, mais aussi plus simple et plus rapide.

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🇺🇸 Good afternoon,

Maybe this doesn't happen to you very often.  I am a man, using, a man avatar in the platform. This does not happen to me often. Except maybe some trolls from time to time.

As far as female reviews are concerned, it happens very often. This is not the first time I see this with my partner. It happens to her almost every day, as well as to other friends.

When you're dealing with someone, (like this person, in the screenshots), who thinks that, "just because he wants to", he can do it and that "that's reason enough". That's problematic I think. I don't know if he does it in real life. I don't think he does. I don't think he does it in real life. He would have to pay attention to the issue of consent of his partner(s). Well, that's his problem. I'm not the one who will educate him).
There are plenty of people who do it, and who think that way. He's not the only guy. There's one, there's others, there has to be. It's mathematical. It's statistical. The percentage, of male users present, being much higher, than the percentage of women present, on the platform.

I understand and I accept your point of view, but considering everything, I don't think that your solution is the most practical in the long term. On the contrary, I think that, and I maintain my idea that: adding the option to accept, or decline these small actions, as it is the case for the other more intimate actions, would not only be a good thing, but also simpler and faster.

I understand what you are talking about. But personally I think it would be just a bothersome complication and I'm more comfortable with the way it is currently. That's why I suggested also that for those who want to have such a feature, that you suggested, to have a toggle function in the options which makes it optional, to have it enabled. It might not be for everybody.  Because for my use and experience I just find it awkward to send or receive hug invites like it would be a sex invite. And I don't mind being hugged by the close person, without sending me some awkward invitation for a simple hug. 

But until such feature is implemented, I think probably you can block someone who is abusing this feature. I'm sure not everybody does that. So whoever is a jerk, you can safely block the user and problem solved. Those affected by bad behavior are blocking those who are harassing them. It's normal really

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1 hour ago, Tsela said:

So whoever is a jerk, you can safely block the user and problem solved. 

This, this and always this. It take 0.9 of a second to do and makes the problem go poof!!! 😃

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ya i think we need like more options to allow or disallow things like that....different players would want more or less restriction on these. For example some of us could want less control during sex poses perhaps there an option we could turn on so we dont have to accept any poses during sex (for subs).

Also could we add more variety? ^-^ not just hug and kiss but like...ass slapping and groping and stuff >.< of course with the option to turn it off or only make it so that certain other players can have access to those menu options.

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It’s not just that someone is sensitive and doesn’t like to be kissed / embraced by strangers. I have another problem with the actions of the strangers: when I get a pose in an RP room, these actions break the pose and I get into the air in an idiotic way ... even at a different angle. This "bug" is hard to fix, but if I can decide to accept this one kiss, it can handle the problem!

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On 6/18/2021 at 8:42 AM, Angelqueen said:

It’s not just that someone is sensitive and doesn’t like to be kissed / embraced by strangers. I have another problem with the actions of the strangers: when I get a pose in an RP room, these actions break the pose and I get into the air in an idiotic way ... even at a different angle. This "bug" is hard to fix, but if I can decide to accept this one kiss, it can handle the problem!

🇫🇷 Oui absolument. Ou quand tu es lancé dans une danse avec quelqu'un.

Personnellement, je fais du rp, et il y en a qui viennent souvent, (toutes les semaines) nous troller. Comme parfois nous bloquons des accès afin qu'ils ne passent pas, Ils nous font des hugs ou des kiss à répétition ce qui nous fait bouger involontairement. C'est très chiant.

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🇺🇸 Yes, absolutely. Or when you're in a dance with someone.

Personally, I rp, and there are some who come often, (every week) to troll us. As we sometimes block accesses so that they don't get through, they give us repeated hugs or kisses which makes us move involuntarily. It is very annoying.

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