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NaomiMoonstone

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               Okay so I have been on 3dx now for a while and I do love it how ever I must say the sexual harassment on this game is getting horrible. When your being called racist or a trump supporter cause you say no thanks to having sex with BBC with out so much as a conversation even know its posted on your profile that you don't just have sex with random people. Or when your dancing in the room and a Lesbian, Futa, Trans, or Sissy just message you up automatically starting to role play grabbing your pvt parts. or trying to say if you don't have sex with them your trans-phobic. Its uncalled for and sexual harassment it also should not be okay to do and these people honestly believe it is. Everyone is not into the same thing and people have preferences of who they would like to have sex with its not being racist, or even trans phobic or homophobic! 

              I can respect other peoples Sexuality, Genders, and Race. but I shouldn't be harassed into doing things with them. Also I have been in the rooms where white men are ripped apart daily saying they aren't big and they cant play hip hop or rap and other things. Why is so much harassment being done and absolutely nothing is done about it! I could have swarn everyone agreed to the same TOS to 3dx chat. Nor are they the victim when you say sorry not interested but have a good night.  Also I would not be complaining but every day I get 10-15 of these sexual harassment messages. Or me receiving a rant for simply not being interested past a friendship. Its now getting to the point that I almost don't wanna sign on and or having to block every one of them just to not be harassed and that shouldn't have to happen. 

               I think people should be re informed on that they can be what they want but they should still respect other peoples sexual preferences with out being ripped apart or harassed. Also when these harassment are taking place they are not inside of futa, sissy, trans rooms or bbc rooms they are in normal every day rooms and they are not colds okay rooms ether. Plus i am rather sick of reading "Hi bitch want to sit on my BBC like a good little white bitch!" Or "Sexy white cunt bimbo for me to fuck if you want it or not ill get that ass." or  "Grabs your tits and grinds behind you with my girly dick."  

             So please can someone please tell me how to handle this because i tried blocking and reporting nothing works because they just ether sign on a different name or the next person does it. Or I maybe reporting wrong? Or if you ever dealt with this before please say something cause again I can respect other sexuality's and genders and stuff but that don't mean I should be harassed or forced into it.

              Also please do not leave comments that this is a sex game because it maybe the case but that don't mean harassment and sexual harassment should be allowed in fact its not. 

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I don’t really have a good answer for this, because I don’t get those things in the same frequency as you described. 
 

For me it’s practically the other extreme. I don’t get PM’s at all. But I digress. 
 

It might be that your Profile is too welcoming OR to long. 
I’ve noticed that if you have a Profile that is long enough to require scrolling to read it all, anything below the first paragraph will be ignored by most random folks. 
 

Besides that you might want to look at what rooms you get harassed in and avoid those?

I dunno really. 

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3 hours ago, Derai said:

I don’t really have a good answer for this, because I don’t get those things in the same frequency as you described. 
 

For me it’s practically the other extreme. I don’t get PM’s at all. But I digress. 
 

It might be that your Profile is too welcoming OR to long. 
I’ve noticed that if you have a Profile that is long enough to require scrolling to read it all, anything below the first paragraph will be ignored by most random folks. 
 

Besides that you might want to look at what rooms you get harassed in and avoid those?

I dunno really. 

 

Thanks for the advice I will give it a shot. It has not been as bad as soon as I started blocking people and also I will be staying away from the rooms and Have been and its cut down  a lot actually. But  thank you so much for the positive comment it helps a lot. 

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8 hours ago, NaomiMoonstone said:

               Okay so I have been on 3dx now for a while and I do love it how ever I must say the sexual harassment on this game is getting horrible. When your being called racist or a trump supporter cause you say no thanks to having sex with BBC with out so much as a conversation even know its posted on your profile that you don't just have sex with random people. Or when your dancing in the room and a Lesbian, Futa, Trans, or Sissy just message you up automatically starting to role play grabbing your pvt parts. or trying to say if you don't have sex with them your trans-phobic. Its uncalled for and sexual harassment it also should not be okay to do and these people honestly believe it is. Everyone is not into the same thing and people have preferences of who they would like to have sex with its not being racist, or even trans phobic or homophobic! 

              I can respect other peoples Sexuality, Genders, and Race. but I shouldn't be harassed into doing things with them. Also I have been in the rooms where white men are ripped apart daily saying they aren't big and they cant play hip hop or rap and other things. Why is so much harassment being done and absolutely nothing is done about it! I could have swarn everyone agreed to the same TOS to 3dx chat. Nor are they the victim when you say sorry not interested but have a good night.  Also I would not be complaining but every day I get 10-15 of these sexual harassment messages. Or me receiving a rant for simply not being interested past a friendship. Its now getting to the point that I almost don't wanna sign on and or having to block every one of them just to not be harassed and that shouldn't have to happen. 

               I think people should be re informed on that they can be what they want but they should still respect other peoples sexual preferences with out being ripped apart or harassed. Also when these harassment are taking place they are not inside of futa, sissy, trans rooms or bbc rooms they are in normal every day rooms and they are not colds okay rooms ether. Plus i am rather sick of reading "Hi bitch want to sit on my BBC like a good little white bitch!" Or "Sexy white cunt bimbo for me to fuck if you want it or not ill get that ass." or  "Grabs your tits and grinds behind you with my girly dick."  

             So please can someone please tell me how to handle this because i tried blocking and reporting nothing works because they just ether sign on a different name or the next person does it. Or I maybe reporting wrong? Or if you ever dealt with this before please say something cause again I can respect other sexuality's and genders and stuff but that don't mean I should be harassed or forced into it.

              Also please do not leave comments that this is a sex game because it maybe the case but that don't mean harassment and sexual harassment should be allowed in fact its not. 

You should report any kind of harassment.

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14 minutes ago, Hikikomori said:

And no it's not because of you or your profile, you are the victim in this. It's like putting the blame on a girl for wearing a skirt when she is harassed in the street...

Well yeah, that is true. 
I feel the need to clarify though that I wasn’t saying she should cut back her profile. 
I’m just saying from personal experience that if it’s to long, the info at the end will be ignored most of the time. 
Better to have the important stuff up front. 
 

I wasn’t victim blaming, and do apologize if it came across as such. 
 

ps. If I’m just reading your comment wrong, feel free to correct me. 

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Block, report, screen cap. People like this are entitled, manipulative and all around toxic and should be shut down as quickly as possible.

As for the "If you don't sleep with me you're racist/homophobic/whatever", to hell with that logic! Your sexual orientation and preference is all that matters. Your (virtual) body, your rules. Imagine how shitty ones game must be if one has to resort to these kind of hostage-taking tactics in a game where people are presumably DTF. I'm sorry you've had to go through this @NaomiMoonstone I haven't run into these kinds people in particular, but I've run into a similar kind: the "sleep with me or I'll kill myself" player. They're the same manipulative garbage.

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Hey @NaomiMoonstone and welcome nonetheless!

Let me start off by saying I've not experienced harassment quite as aggressive as you described, or at least not in such high volumes.
Although there's a reference against this kind of behaviour inside the ToS, unless it gets reported (and even then...) there's not much that can be done to stop it.
Which leaves it up to you to handle it, which is obviously the reason for your post.

I've did, however, have encounters that I disliked just as much and I like to think my approach to them is efficient because it has drastically lowered over time.
So here's a few of my tips to hopefully help minimize it for you:

  • Read the name of the rooms before you join.
    In most situations you'll get a rough idea what you might get into if you enter the room (obviously, entering a room that explicitly warns you, is at your own risk).
  • Make sure your profile is informative.
    If you have any specific dislikes, make sure they are clear inside your profile, people might not always read them, but it's there for you to fall back on in case you need to. Obviously, stay respectful.
  • When someone PM's you in a way you dislike entirely, do not respond... at all.
    Especially if they go against what you wrote on your profile. Not granting any form of response will usually force them to move on.
  • In cases where people weren't initially offensive, warn first.
    I've had moments where I initially didn't expect someone to turn out the way they did... in these cases I warn them briefly, if they continue... I resort to not responding... at all.
  • If all else fails... use the "ignore" button.
    Some will not take no for an answer... that's what the ignore button is for. Use it to make that character disappear from your 3DX experience entirely.
  • Last but not least... don't dwell on it.
    A lot of people overthink things too much. Just don't... :) Enjoy your time with people you like and ignore whatever tries to ruin the experience.

I hope it helps.

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2 minutes ago, Duschenka said:

I only use that when grown men starts to whine as they where five  "but, but why not ? why can`t we do it ? i want, i need, me, me, me," and there are surprisingly many of them on here.

The advice is a good one though, and so is the rest of your list that could give op some room to breathe.

Yes, I agree... there's an abundance of insecurity and a lack of confidence, but I guess that makes sense... I'm sure those men are occupied elsewhere :P

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I use to cop this a lot sometimes as well. Mostly it would happen when I was somewhere by myself like waiting for someone or something. I mostly just closed the PM and forgot about it but sometimes it would happen that often I would feel like you do.

One thing I have wondered, and as there has been a couple in here say the same thing that has been said before in other similar posts, which is it doesn't happen often to them. I have wondered why that is. So I would like to ask you and those people what you have as your preference, mine was set to men and I have thought that may also make a difference in who these people choose to harass. 

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7 minutes ago, Twiggy said:

So I would like to ask you and those people what you have as your preference, mine was set to men and I have thought that may also make a difference in who these people choose to harass. 

Mine is set to both Men and Women. 
I’m also married in the game to another girl. 
I have had comments that this makes me less interesting/easy. 

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1 hour ago, Derai said:

Mine is set to both Men and Women. 
I’m also married in the game to another girl. 
I have had comments that this makes me less interesting/easy. 

Classy people. 🙄 

 

I've had my preference set to men and women. The problem I may be having is my profile is kinda long. Perhaps people tap out after reading the first sentence. It is kind of amusing though when some douche PMs stuff like "I rub my crotch against your ass on the dance floor, hands on your hips" and I respond with "I grow hard from feeling your touch, my panties getting tighter." Then when they get stuffy I can go "Did you read my profile? Says there I'm a sissy." Then they usually go away 

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Thank you MeiLing, HazyRays, Hikikomori, Nektar, XeniaLynn, Duschenka, Twiggy, Derai, and ☙𝔼𝕩❧ 

For helping out with all really good ideas and some of them to be honest I never thought about. I will be reporting and blocking and not responding. I also do have my profile with into and not into categories and they more to the point in a not rude manner. I think for me its just when your in the situation including that many of them you kind of don't think of the basics and you kind fall into the I have no idea what to do. 

I know that these people who have done this to me are more rare and maybe I just ran into the lot of them at first to get them out of the way. Its also nice to know that some people are also dealing with this just maybe not to the extent as I have. Again thank you so much for all of you guys posting something and reacting to this comment. Also thank you for being polite about it and being really informative and helping. 

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Have faith @NaomiMoonstone.  There are some decent men around in 3DX although from what I hear they are probably in the minority. 

After many years of being a member of adult MMO games, I never cease to be saddened when I hear about the way men talk to and treat females in game, and not only because of the disrespect shown to the female in question but because it kind of says that these men actually think like that in real life and have learnt nothing (even if they are less likely to act like it in real life).  If I am honest it shames me to be male when I hear this kind of stuff, even though I know I am not responsible for the way they have acted.

So speaking for myself and any others of my gender that are happy for me to speak for them, I am sorry you have experienced this and I truly hope for better experiences for you.

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7 hours ago, Leopardus said:

Have faith @NaomiMoonstone.  There are some decent men around in 3DX although from what I hear they are probably in the minority. 

After many years of being a member of adult MMO games, I never cease to be saddened when I hear about the way men talk to and treat females in game, and not only because of the disrespect shown to the female in question but because it kind of says that these men actually think like that in real life and have learnt nothing (even if they are less likely to act like it in real life).  If I am honest it shames me to be male when I hear this kind of stuff, even though I know I am not responsible for the way they have acted.

So speaking for myself and any others of my gender that are happy for me to speak for them, I am sorry you have experienced this and I truly hope for better experiences for you.

I did find quite a few decent guys in the game, but yes I agree they do seem to be the minority. I think they also find it a little hard in the game sometimes as well. I know they have trouble finding a women in the game they can trust to be a real women and often get into relationships to find out after sometimes months that they have been lied to the whole time. They also have to put up with all the dis trust caused by the game. So unfortunately like the game discourages women from staying I think it can also discourage a lot of the decent guys the same way. To many think that a sex game means porn and if you join a game like this you would have the same view on what you want from the game. It was fairly rare where I found a guy that would actually treat me similar to how I think they would a woman in real life, mostly sex was more like them trying to fulfil their fantasies of them finding themselves a porn queen. It often seemed like that was what they felt I was looking for. Unfortunately that also went for some of the guys I considered nice guys. There was really only a couple I found that treated me in a way I think they would a woman in real life. Even in a game I think most women are like myself, we do not want to be considered a slut or be treated like one. A slut may be what a lot of guys want when it comes to sex but a slut will never really get any respect from anyone, both guys and other women. That has been drummed into our brains from the day we were born and we can't help but have it influence us on how we like to be treated. So naturally if a guy approaches us like we are a slut we are not going to like it. One of the problems I found in a game like this is that there are far more men playing as women than there are actual women, most of which seemed to do so so they could have control over a female avi and have her be the slut he wanted. So I think that could be a reason so many think it is ok to approach women the way they do, most of these guys playing slutty female avis would respond the way they want. If most female avis in the game are actually guys with their slutty female avis giving favourable responses then wouldn't it become expected. I think that is why even some of the nice guys I found in the game when it came to sex still thought I wanted to be treated more like a slut. The game does not even really cater for what women really like when it comes to sex and doesn't give decent guys the tools they need to offer it.

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I had that issue with men on here before.

Hell I had that issue earlier and my answer to it was " Yeah, no if you wanted to fuck me that's not the way you should approach me. I am a human female not your fuck toy, enjoy your right hand or left"' and kept it moving. 

Other times I ignore but it takes a truly annoying person to get me to block and block for good.

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On 9/18/2020 at 9:49 PM, Coldheart said:

I would probably pay extra if I could get even one attractive and real woman to sexually harass me on 3DX.

 

On 9/18/2020 at 9:51 PM, Coldheart said:

Dude. Don’t be such a big pussy.


Ironic that these posts are literally back to back. 

 

Anyhoo...

As far as the OP, The "ignore feature" (if you want to label it as such), is there for a reason and I would simply suggest you use it. There are people here from all walks of life and everyone has their own reasoning and agenda for being here. Some people literally log on, search for sex, log off. Some people are here purely for social communication. Some people like attending events and parties. It's all good, and it gives everyone choices in how to interact with others. 

I'm here mostly for events and social chat. Although I do not judge others for their own agenda. If I get a PM that does not line up with what I am looking for, then I simply close it and do not reply. If they do it repeatedly, I kindly explain to them that I am not interested and wish them a good evening. If it still continues, then I ignore them. I can't fault anyone for playing the game in the way they want to play it, just because it clashes with my own interests and reasoning. It's really no different than someone who logs in purely for a sexual RP and ends up somehow talking to me. I am quite literally going to be a waste of their time. So this does go both ways. 

I think what's important is that people should try to keep in mind that no matter what your interests are, please don't forget the fact that there is a living, breathing, human on the other side of the screen with real feelings, real emotions, and very likely someone who is fighting their own battles. This is why no matter what reason you have for spending time in 3dx, You really should try to be patient and respectful to everyone you meet, even if they send you what appears to be a rude PM. In many cases, I have discovered that the person sending the PM is usually not rude. They are just someone spending time in 3dx the way they want to. I have forged some good friendships with some of these people, even though our playstyles don't match up. We can still find some common group and have some nice conversations. 

The TL:DR here is... Just be kind and respectful to one another and I think overall you will see your enjoyment factor raise substantially. But at the same time, there's just some people that need to be put on ignore forever. 🙂

 

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1 hour ago, JessicaX said:

 


Ironic that these posts are literally back to back. 

 

Anyhoo...

As far as the OP, The "ignore feature" (if you want to label it as such), is there for a reason and I would simply suggest you use it. There are people here from all walks of life and everyone has their own reasoning and agenda for being here. Some people literally log on, search for sex, log off. Some people are here purely for social communication. Some people like attending events and parties. It's all good, and it gives everyone choices in how to interact with others. 

I'm here mostly for events and social chat. Although I do not judge others for their own agenda. If I get a PM that does not line up with what I am looking for, then I simply close it and do not reply. If they do it repeatedly, I kindly explain to them that I am not interested and wish them a good evening. If it still continues, then I ignore them. I can't fault anyone for playing the game in the way they want to play it, just because it clashes with my own interests and reasoning. It's really no different than someone who logs in purely for a sexual RP and ends up somehow talking to me. I am quite literally going to be a waste of their time. So this does go both ways. 

I think what's important is that people should try to keep in mind that no matter what your interests are, please don't forget the fact that there is a living, breathing, human on the other side of the screen with real feelings, real emotions, and very likely someone who is fighting their own battles. This is why no matter what reason you have for spending time in 3dx, You really should try to be patient and respectful to everyone you meet, even if they send you what appears to be a rude PM. In many cases, I have discovered that the person sending the PM is usually not rude. They are just someone spending time in 3dx the way they want to. I have forged some good friendships with some of these people, even though our playstyles don't match up. We can still find some common group and have some nice conversations. 

The TL:DR here is... Just be kind and respectful to one another and I think overall you will see your enjoyment factor raise substantially. But at the same time, there's just some people that need to be put on ignore forever. 🙂

 

 

I fail to see the irony. Maybe you should read the posts and what they are saying, then look up what certain words mean before you use them. That being said there are almost no REAL attractive women that play this game that also flirt and play with guys. They more or less don't exist. There is a lot of make believe women who flirt and have relations with other make believe "women", but what use is that to me when it comes to sexual relationships here? None. That is unless, I want to throw on a dress and pretend I am a girl and pretend the guy I am having sex with is also a girl? LOL. You have been here so long you can probably no longer even grasp how actually IRONIC that is. Nonetheless, that's not what I want to do here. So that is why I no longer bother to play 3DX for that aspect of the game and find other things to do. It is what it is. Nobody is forcing me to stay.

 

The other point being valid that the guy I mentioned is indeed a pussy, and if I had to guess, probably living at home with mommy and daddy in the UK. And I don't mean that as a cliche, I mean that as in it is a particular person who keeps popping up around this place who is actually doing that as I type this.

 

Finally JessicaX, your opinion has no value to me, you are entitled to it, but to me it's worthless based on the source alone, if nothing else.

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I wanted to clarify something so some people don't get their panties in a bunch. My last comments were not meant to be a slam against transgenders. I know a lot of men here playing as women reach for that as some all encompassing aspect in these discussions to invalidate what the other is saying. Yes, you have a right to be any gender you wish, and I will respect that as your choice. But that gives you no right to make it mine. Your freedoms end where mine start, and vice versa.

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