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<< Adri’s List >> This post is intended to be a pile-up of all suggestions that I consider to be most relevant. The discussion on the forum seems to be cycled and without any response from the development team. Take this as an attempt to change it. Pictures are attached at the end of the post and are also accessible through hyperlinks. Please do NOT use quote function for this post! < General Issues > 1.1 Room Optimalisation Although this problem can be somewhat explained by misuse of reflective objects and lighting, the fact is that rooms bigger than circa 1 MB in size lag. While the long loading time is only an inconvenience, crashes and lags are the serious issues here. I think that rooms should be tinkered a bit better; it will untie hands of creators and enrich the game for the rest of the community. -> Improve the room stability 1.2 Lighting Effects This one is probably a mixed bag of problems, with certain items in the game being displayed differently in the avatar editor and in the game. Turning the avatar around doesn’t help. Sometimes similar pieces of clothing are mismatched, despite being painted in the very same colour. -> Strive to match item colours, especially if they are likely to be used together -> Add adjustable light to the avatar editor 1.3 Communication The communication of the devs could be very well described as a deafening silence. I am not saying that all wishes of the community go unanswered, but I feel that there is really a lot to improve in this area. Even small tidbits in the forum here and there, reflecting on some interesting ideas or posting some updates/remarks/short commentaries on the development might do wonders. -> Improve the communication with the community and make sure to reach out regularly < Profile Management & Text > 2.1 Profile Status This could make the communication much easier. It would help you to navigate through rooms full of people who are AFK and ultimately made it easier for all to mingle. I suggest four options that could be ticked in your profile: Looking For Company, Online, Away and Busy. All of those can also alter the colour of avatar’s nickname OR display before the nickname as is well known from some other games. Additional functionalities might be implemented later, like list of people looking for company displayed at the edge of the screen (of course optional and editable in the settings) or saving messages in AFK mode in case your game crashes or you end it so that you can go through them during the next launch. -> Add statuses to our profiles 2.2 Gift Preview & Gift Text Editor It happens way too often that one screws up the colours, text width or cursive. The gift message gets buggy if it’s longer and does not show you that the character limit has been reached. I believe we should get an easy text editor, similar to what we have on the forums, but simpler. Even a basic text setting will still be a significant improve. -> Add a preview button for the gift message -> Add a simple gift message text editor -> Set a clear character limit for the gift message 2.3 Profile Text Editor Speaks for itself. I believe that it would encourage people to put a bit more work into their empty profiles. Text also gets buggy if it’s longer. -> Add a simple profile text editor -> Set a clear character limit for the profile 2.4 More Text Colours For The Chat It would surely enrich the roleplay scene if you could use more colours in the text box. More commands might also come handy for the room owners. Things like /i for a text without the nickname or /all for the announcer in the room, possibly highlighted. The community will likely come up with more useful commands. I also think that it would be great if the chat was somewhat smarter and allowed some obvious command fuck ups like /Me and /em instead of /me to be still counted as the correct command. Another great function for the chat would be would be a pop up box with the list of all those commands so that if you pick one, it will keep using it untill you change it again. -> Add more commands for the chat -> Improve the chat „intelligence“ / add text colour pop up menu < Customisation > 3.1 All Items Colourable It was present in the .dll. We already got some colouring extension for the old items. But we need more and especially new stuff should be made with colouring in mind. I would just like to state here that I am not complaining about the new stuff. I think it’s great – but it needs to be tinkered colourwise. -> Add colours to the old clothes and create the new clothes with as many options as possible 3.2 Cock Control Penises in the game have two issues and are both related to size – ironically in total opposition to the issues males are usually dealing with. The penises are way too big. They are big both in the relation to real life ( as @Ross the RoberT nicely put it: „anything bigger would be a horsecock“ ) and they are always erect, which is silly. Now the edit might result in complications in poses, especially with the handjob, but I think the huge size of it still allows for some tinkering and/or rework of those potentially faulty animations. The erection slider will be a tougher nut to crack, but I believe in the developers. Another option would be to add more foreplay poses with the „flaccid“ cock. The last lying pose has this and even though it looks like a snake that’s about to attack you, I still prefer it over the omnipresent boner. -> Add a penis size slider in the profile editor -> Add option to have a flaccid penis / Add more foreplay poses with flaccid penis 3.3 Male Clothes Male wardrobe in this game is just plain out pathetic. Men deserve things like socks, ties, bow-ties, more suits, more shirts and the list goes on and on. Male avatars are severely restricted and it’s a shame, for it gets repetitive over time to see them running around in same clothes. They don’t need more RP clothing at the moment! It can substituted by normal clothes to a certain degree... Which they don’t have. If the community is heavily focused on female stuff (be it clothing or tattooes), I would expect devs to focus on men. They don’t need that much stuff. Even few well-designed items can make a huge difference. -> Extend the male wardrobe with some universal items 3.4 Editors Any game that allows modder community to grow, shines. The biggest flaw of the 3DXChat is in my humble opinion the lack of customisation. The more you can do, the more immersive the experience feels. -> Release clothes editor -> Release pose editor < Motion & Animations > 4.1 New Ways Of Moving The game should allow us to do more than just walk and run (and swim). Crawling on all four, walking hand in hand with another avatar, being carried princess style (similarly to the upcoming pose) and walking with the heels on the ground for female avatars would all be welcomed additions for sure. -> Add more ways of moving for avatars -> Add interactive ways of moving (leading someone, carrying someone) 4.2 Roleplay poses Basic roleplay poses like kneeling are missing in the game. This can be partially fixed by allowing us to modify objects to play some animations when the avatar gets attached to it – similarly to the ghost mode. -> Add basic roleplay poses 4.3 Group dance Interactivity is fun. I have noticed that many people in the game like to dance together and coordinate themselves. Even though it’s not within realm of my interests and I haven’t seen it posted anywhere, I believe that group dancing could be a big deal for many players. Another thing that is missing are couple dances. You see so many people paired on the dance floor and all are just standing there. You don’t need too many. One or two would suffice (possibly romantic slow dance and something exciting). -> Add group dance -> Add couple dance < Avatar Interaction & UI > 5.1 Response Settings From what I have read in many profiles, a significant part of the community hates that it’s possible to bother people with unwanted kissing, hugging and cold requests. I suggest to add tickable settings boxes that will solve this and keep the unwanted attention away. Similarly to this, only on the other side, stands the option to accept everything from your partner(s). The necessity to accept pose can be a bit off putting in the middle of something steamy. A tickable box is again a very simple solution. (Credits for the picture: @CTEPBA ) -> Add a permission for strangers to kiss and hugs tick on/off box -> Add an option to limit partner offers to friends -> Add a permission to accept any pose suggested by a partner tick on/off box 5.2 Clothes On Option Allow us to have a tickable box where we will decide if we want our clothes to be removed or whether we want to do it ourselves. It’s silly that you automatically undress if you want to give someone a blowjob for instance. -> Add a clothes on during sex tick on/off box 5.3 Rework The Object Occupation This is such an annoying thing – if your partner is on the couch and you want to join him/her, he/she needs to stand up first... Why? -> If the person using an object is your partner, allow the pose selection to be popped up 5.4 UI Tinkering The UI sometimes feels a bit weird. Especially when it comes to the in-game screen. The dance box is a mess. The dances are mismatched; slow dance is next to fast dance and there is no preview or indication of what are you going to do on the dance floor. -> Rework dance UI << Additional Notes >> A ) Please do NOT use quote function to react. I‘ve noticed that this is frequent sin on the forums and it makes the thread unreadable (especially with a long post like this). A rule of a thumb is that you don’t quote recently made posts. If you want to react, use @ and the nickname or type the part that is relevant - everyone knows how to scroll up and see it for themselves. B ) This is not meant to trash talk the developers. I acknowledge that they are working hard on many things and I think that in many areas they are doing well, but they could do better in many others. C ) It would be lovely to hear the community response, but even more so, I would appreciate if the developers could make a comment on this post. D ) Please try to keep it short and factual. This post serves as a pile up of many suggestions. Try to approach the subject broadly. If there is anything you want to discuss in greater detail, I suggest that you should start your own thread in case the thread is not active somewhere already. E ) Rome wasn't built in a day. Don’t take this as a cry demanding all of this to be implemented in the next patch. The post is intended to push the developers towards mentioned matters.

Hello fellow 3DX'ers! I wanted to start a topic regarding a certain aspect of the game, in an attempt to get to know more about it. I'm hoping for some really great input on different people's opinions on the matter as well as try to exchange thoughts and ideas about it in a mature fashion. Hopefully, that'll work out. It starts here... We all know there are tons of different people playing this game. And we all have a tendency to try and put people in some kind of group. "Roleplayers or non-roleplayers", "Real or Fictional", "Mature or Childish", etc... Whether that tendency is a bad thing or not is not really the point of this topic, as I'll bring up two more categories, of which I would like to learn more about... the motives, the pros and cons, etc... One could say two more categories are "Emotionally invested or Emotionally disconnected". It's been something I've been wondering about for a long time... and although I've found my own answer to this, I'm still curious as to how people perceive themselves or others when it comes to these categories, as well as how they feel or think about the subject. Me... My own story on the matter, in short, comes down to me starting out as an emotionally invested player... I developed feelings, felt sorry, felt regret and/or wondered or worried about certain people (even outside the game). As time passed I slowly ended up lacking these things... in some way. Now I consider myself a more emotionally disconnected player although there are exceptions to it... But that would make a short story become a huge one. To me the pros and cons are semi-clear. I feel that being more disconnected resulted in a lot less drama... It allowed me to not get affected by certain actions one could take to get under my skin. On the other hand, it also makes it more difficult to connect to people on a social level. Although I consider myself "disconnected" (partially)... I can't help but feel things such as paranoia; "Is he/she someone that could end up causing issues?", "What is this person's agenda?", etc... It turns out to be kind of contradicting because I care and I don't care at the same time (weird?). I like to believe that the reason for me to turn more disconnected are situations caused either by myself or others that fed this paranoia... ultimately making me choose to not get involved with with certain people. A developed ability to read certain behaviours that would trigger alerts and cause me to step back from people is also something that I both consider a good and a bad thing... Bad because sometimes those "alerts" aren't always accurate and I end up stepping back from people that could have potentially been amazing friends. You... Now, not everyone develops this kind of choice due to events within the game... Some came here with that mindset already developed or chose it before starting out. But that doesn't make it any less valid. I'm curious about your reasoning, your perceived pros and cons and your stories... Are you willing to share them? I sure hope so Hoping for some awesome responses PS: If you don't feel like telling your story in a public setting but feel you'd like to share in some way... feel free to PM me on the forum

Global Climate Change (Real or Not)... with all the discussions lately in the news regarding global climate change: - rising temperatures - rising sea levels - increased wildfires - more droughts for longer periods - intensified storms - etc. I was wondering what people's opinions were here, especially because we have people from all over the world here in our little community. PS: My opinion is that I believe this is scarey real and changes at a "Global Level" need to start happening sooner rather than later. Even though we may already be too late to reverse some of the damage currently here and prevent some of the damage heading our way...

I ask myself if it’s really necessary to make rules of common basic civic education. I would say never, these are taught to us as we grow up, yet, I see the lack of these basic civic rules on a daily basis, girls complaining, even the men feel it but are more embarrassed to voice it. What type of people are we dealing with? That think because they hide behind a computer, they can go absolutely wild and walk all over the others, insulting woman and men, mocking differences etc I heard something tonight that got me to start this post: A guy was told 7 times *NO*, which he understood perfectly each time as he answered accordingly. When one of the bystanders, told him to stop, as he had been told repeatedly *NO*, he answered; “Dude, when a man says NO, he means NO, but when a woman answers NO, she means TRY HARDER” What century does this guy live in? What server is he playing on? On 3DX woman are not shy at all, when they want sex, they themselves invite. So let’s see and forgive me, if I forget any, please feel free to add. Of course these do not annoy everyone, but I would like to think it applies to most. Especially those who pay to play a game and not be harassed by this type of behaviour. Cold Invites: To invite a person for a couple dance/ room/ partner without even one word; “hi ….. Would you like to ……” preferably in pm. Stand on top of people dancing: Nothing more irritating than having a total stranger walk up to you, and start dancing on top of you, or worst just standing there. Come on, give people a little space, until other wise is allowed, invited etc. Stand naked on top of people relaxing on the beach, or similar: Serious, who wants to be sitting, having a chilling vibe alone or with someone and suddenly have a stranger’s genitals practically rubbing on your face? Accept and understand a simple NO: A “no” means no, means stop, means not interested, get the message and move away, change the subject, whatever the situation is. Im being nice here with the adjectives, because comes a time, when one looses it and out comes a GTFO dude or similar and it still does not work. Read Profiles: They there for a reason. Let’s face it, if people go through the trouble of filling them in, it’s to let YOU know what they into or not into, its not to let you try and change them or their sexual preferences. Respect! To name just one example; nothing worse for a gay person to be harassed by the opposite sex, when he/she has explicitly written it in their profiles. Don’t judge: Men and woman who come here are not whores, pimps or whatever. We all here to have some fun but that is all. Respect everyone. Some people may be easier than others but that still don’t make them whores, nor the men that jump on all 24/7. People have the right of the choice how they want to play the game. By the way, you never know when you mother, sister, wife, husband, father is here playing here .

Those who follow my topics on the forum know that I can be provocing sometimes and I guess this topic will be provocative as well. So if you're tired of this, don't follow this tread and enjoy your day. Thank you! I was wondering how active players will rate this game. I mean not just how awesome it is. I want your honest opinion about the game and also a little reason. If it will get more than just a few sentences, please us this thread: http://3dxchat.com/forum/index.php?/topic/299-compliment-and-criticism/ Just for info for those who catch their breath to begin any argument: I'm not doing this for me. I have my opinion about this game and accept everyone who has a different one than me. I'm posting this to give some feedback to our development so they can see how's the mood in the community. So please no arguements with people who have a different opinon than yourself. Accept them, because we're all free to say what's on our mind.

I think we all have hangups, particularly when it comes to our bodies. If we're not confident with our bodies, how can we be confident rolling around naked with another naked body? It's why some will only have sex with the lights off or with a shirt on. But interestingly, while our bodies may have been firmer, smaller, or some twisted form of what we thought was better back in our 20s, our sex lives get better as we age. Burn that into your brains 20-somethings! Old people sex is hot! They don't call it your dirty 30s for nothing. And while we're at it, let's call the next decades the f*&king fabulous 40s and 50s. A new study gives us proof and explanation of these totally sexy and exciting details on why we shouldn't fear getting older. Researchers in the US polled over 2,000 men and women and found that sex gets better with age, particularly for men, but also for the ladies. Men are most sexually confident between the ages of 50 and 69 and women reach that peak between 18 and 29. But that's considering the law of averages. It varies, of course, and depends on each person's unique situation. The factors of why sex gets more awesome with age are very telling. Essentially we worry less as we get older. When we're young we're sometimes so consumed with how we look and keeping up with the other hot, young boddies who look flawless in push-up bras and mesh thongs. The older we get, the more we have a "take me as I am" kind of attitude. Yes, confidence. This goes for both men and women -- just 34 percent of men are worried about gray hair or any of those physical signs of aging, compared to 56 percent of women. Ladies, we need to relax. Men aren't so worried, therefore we shouldn't be either. The less self-conscious you are when it comes to sex, the more you will enjoy it. And I think I can speak for many women in saying that we get more confident as time ticks by. This also translates into how adventurous we get when it comes to sex. A survey of women over 45 revealed that 89 percent like sexual variety and having sex in many different positions and places, including the garden. Sexy! And perhaps best of all is that older women are more likely than younger women to reach orgasm, not just once but multiple times. Now that's something every 20-year-old can look forward to when pondering her 40s. What also plays a role here is the ability to trust. When we're young, trust is sometimes hard to earn. With age comes knowledge and long-term relationships, so trust grows, allowing some to really let their guard down and let go, opening the door to the best sex ever. For many women, sex is just as much about the mind as it is about the body, particularly when it comes to reaching orgasm. Sensuality -- isn't that the best word ever? Older women have that. We also don't have as many hangups and we're not afraid to ask for what we want between the sheets. And if you don't already know or ask for what you want, it's time to find out. There are multiple orgasms waiting to be had. Top 5 Reasons Sex Can Get Better With Age 1. Greater Sexual Experience & Expertise By the time most people reach midlife, they know what turns them on and how to please their partner. 2. Experimentation & Exploration Liberated from youthful sexual insecurities, midlife lovers can take their sex lives to new heights through various feel-good explorations. 3. Accepting Change Brings You Closer Together By accepting that your sexual functioning (or your partner's) is changing at this time of life, you can start adapting your mind and body so that your sex life stays fresh. 4. Romantic, Arousing Environments Research conducted by Dr. McIlvenna and others has found that the physical setting of intimate encounters becomes more important to our sexual fulfillment as we age. 5. More Time & Opportunity Remember the Rolling Stones song "Time Is On My Side"? Well, with sexual matters, it's often true that you have more free time now than you did in your hectic twenties or thirties. What do you think? Does sex get better with age? Why do you think it does?

WARNING! THIS POST ONLY SHOWS MY OPINION! IT'S NOT MEANT TO TELL READERS WHAT TO DO OR NOT! WHO AM I TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO?! A few weeks ago user-rooms got added by the development. Rooms, which can be decorated by players as they want. The idea might have been a good one for giving players the options for roleplays in a local like area. Sounds exciting but the consequence is that local places got more and more empty. Sure, there are still players at local places, but it became less since players can open their rooms just for friends. Actually this splits the community into several smaller or larger groups who are in their apartments. For those players who are playing here for a longer while and have plenty of friends it’s not a problem, but did anyone think about new players who want to try out the game? Just imagine you enter the game for the first time and everything you can see are local places where not many people are around. Then you see the open apartments, also mostly empty. What will you think? Easy to answer: “This game is really empty and the community is small” But you can’t see that there are a lot more people in their apartments, because you can’t see them. I totally understand when people want to be for their own and have some privacy with friends or a bunch of people they invited. This is human. But I think all of us have some responsibility for this game, since it’s still in progress. Or our development has this responsibility at least and should do anything to keep this game growing. Now how to handle with this problem of user rooms? Removing them will make people angry and some might leave. Also which development ever removed new features? They get changed until all problems are fixed, what we all could see during the last weeks. Every update was for the user-rooms. In my own opinion development should focus on other things right now. More stuff in public locations, which make those places more interesting again. Maybe some new furniture or special features which only work in public places. And those should stay at these places. If we get able to put everything in our apartments, why do we have public places? We could do it like in Achat and have a dating portal and invite people to our apartment. Great idea! Please development don’t reduce the public places to empty rooms, because everyone is somewhere in private. Make them more interesting to people will use them. Work more on those places to improve what we already have and what’s been good in the past. Or bring this game back to Achat standard which will make many people cancel their subscription. [i included for sure]

No one knows how many people are doing it. Maybe you’re one of them. Sex on the ‘Net: late at night in a dark, quiet house. Or in the bright light of morning, just a room away from the kids playing Nintendo. Computer screens across America are glowing with lusty self-portraits and requests, aimed at strangers whose “handles” read like vanity license plates: Cumgood. 69ForU. Babyface. What exactly are these cybersuitors doing? Just as in the so-called real world, some get their thrills strictly between the ears. Many more have one hand on the keyboard and one on themselves (typing lots of words with no Ks or Ls). Others do their foreplay on-line, then consummate alone, after signing off (paying for the arousal, coming for free). An unknown number gender-bend, too. Is that really a 14-year-old girl in hot pants you just seduced–or a Hulk Hogan look-alike in a tattered t-shirt surrounded by rug-rats? Maybe it’s actually a college guy with a pocket protector and acne, or a bored Manhattan couple slumming. There’s just no way to tell who Cherry@VP really is. Some cybersexers are indignant about this manipulation. Many deny it exists, preferring the fantasy that their cyber-partners are exactly what they claim. Some don’t care. And a few revel in it. For them, not knowing their cyber-partner feels exotic; knowing that this stranger may not even be who s/he is portraying is even more exciting. No one knows how cybersex affects its practitioners’ lives. It provides an opportunity to experiment with new things–erotic power play, for example, asking for what you want, even using words like penis and vulva. Those who have seen themselves through the eyes of only one sexual partner can sense what they might be like with others: they can shop around, expose themselves, be discovered and appreciated anew, be reassured that they’re not, say, frigid, oversexed, or “too” kinky. And young people with little experience can learn about themselves: how they like to be treated, how to say “no” and mean it, what it feels like to initiate or receive attention gracefully. Cybersex is, of course, “safe sex,” a play space with virtually no serious consequences for mistakes. It’s the chance to explore ourselves and the dynamics of intimate relating, without the fear of hurting self or others, that all of us should have had as adolescents–and almost none of us did. For some practitioners, cybersex is an amusing adjunct to satisfying sexual relationships, monogamous or otherwise. In that sense, they can take it or leave it; it doesn’t touch them deeply, and they can easily let it go if they want to. But it figures that most cyberlovers are courting in space less from choice than from necessity. One might hope that cybersex gives America’s nerds and misfits a place to rehearse human connection and practice being socially comfortable, ultimately empowering them to go into the physical world and actually meet someone. But we can just as easily imagine that by providing comfort and validating their withdrawal from people, cybersex invites loners and outcasts further into their isolation. If we want these engineers and accountants to reproduce someday, this isn’t good. IS IT SEX? But is any of this sex? And does it matter? The second question is far easier to answer than the first: yes. It matters because the very inquiry challenges our belief that we know what sex is, and therefore what it isn’t. And that leads us to consider why we have sex, what we want from it, how it feels… in short, what the point of it is. So what makes something sex? Orgasm? Nah, you’ve had sex without coming. Many women, of course, do it all the time, deliberately or not. As men get older–and wearier, and wiser–so do they. Intercourse? Nah, no one getting great head would deny that it’s sex. If your supposedly monogamous wife said she had “only” gotten a hand job from someone, you wouldn’t say, “Oh, OK, as long as you didn’t have sex.” (And while we’re on the subject, if a guy is getting off watching his wife go down on another guy, is he having sex with her? with him? Both?) Genital contact? Nah, you’ve kissed and caressed someone you deeply desired, and walked away thinking that was great sex, even if you wished you had done more stuff. See, the more you look at it, the more difficult–and interesting–it gets. So let’s make it harder still. Surely, “sex” requires that people be in the same room, right? Well, the multimillion dollar phone sex industry suggests otherwise. Imagine a professional fantasy lover breathing your name (and several assorted vices) into a phone. You’re at the other end, one hand holding the instrument, the other stroking your own instrument. Or think of your real-life lover doing the whispering (certainly cheaper, especially if it’s a local call) while you get hotter and hotter listening. Not sex, huh? One more time: consider a letter or videotape created specifically for your lustful pleasure. You hear your sweetheart’s voice, maybe see the body you know and treasure; you have the additional thrill of knowing that your lover created this erotic opportunity just for you, and you feel connected to him/her as you enjoy it. Not sex? Thoroughly confused now? Good. That means we can return to our question –is cybersex sex?–with renewed appreciation for the subtleties of erotic attachment. Obviously, sex is more than what the bodies do. It’s about erotic energy–noticing, feeling, fueling, and channeling it. And for many people it’s apparently about feeling connected. That’s why they can experience sex through telephones and computers–the drive to feel erotically attached to the universe transcends the vehicle used to connect. TO HAVE OR TO BE? In fact, “to have sex” is a misleading expression. “Being sexual” is more accurate, because sex is something you experience, moment by moment, not a thing you own or consume. You’re being sexual whenever you’re channeling erotic energy. By contrast, “having sex” seems rather limited. You don’t even need a partner experiencing it at the same time. Traditionally, of course, we envision sex as involving sharing or exchanging. Thus, we think of people “having sex with” someone–that is, sharing the commodity. And that, in fact, is why a lot of people don’t understand that masturbation isn’t a substitute for sex, it is sex. It’s being sexual, regardless of the fact that there’s no one else involved. So cybersex is sex. It’s sex because the cybersexer is experiencing her/his own erotic energy. S/he may or may not be sharing this with someone else, and if there’s a someone else, that person may or may not be who s/he pretends to be. It doesn’t matter. Admitting that it’s sex, of course, raises intriguing issues such as consent and infidelity. If you’re being quietly sexual on-line unbeknownst to your keyboard acquaintance, have you violated her/his right to consent? And what if you invite an on-line sexual connection, but portray a radically different persona than your own–can your cyberpartner really give informed consent? If cybersex is clearly not sex, we can do it and say we’re not being unfaithful to a spouse or steady partner. But does a cyber-fling break your promise of fidelity? If your vows merely exclude “having sex” with someone else, you can well claim you’re not actually having sex with someone. But it’s a gray area, and it calls for an honest conversation; when people start prevaricating about the definition of their relationship agreements, it’s time for a serious talk, regardless of the content–sex, money, childrearing, taking care of the dog. On the other hand, the situation is more complicated if our vows are really about being exclusive with our eroticism, and they exclude the exchange of erotic energy with anyone else. What about flirting? What about fantasies while masturbating? Or while making love? With vows of erotic energy exclusivity, cybersex is only one of many potentially problematic activities. In fact, the only reason to ask the question “is cybersex sex?” is to realize just how complicated the whole matter is. Not only is sex itself a mystery. Predictably, it turns out that our ways of talking about it are cloaked in ambiguity and mystery as well. We’re a species whose definition of this most central human activity is usually, “I dunno, I guess I know it when I see it.” Cybersex is only the latest step in our long erotic evolution. If it pushes us to expand our definition of “sex”–on or off the Internet–then our soul-less, gland-less, desire-less machines will have served our lust well. :P

The term “cyber relationships” defines a virtual connection between two people who use an online medium to interact. For example, 3DXChat allows people to search for individuals that meet their requirements to start an online relationship, whether it be just sexual or not. The culture of online relationships has grown into a sub culture where people feel that interpersonal relationship is an online norm. Today you find people of all ages and backgrounds finding compatibility through online websites that promote a safe haven for individual personalities to express themselves. Relationships form everyday with new and improved social media because now there are methods to regulate privacy and conduct to protect people. The reason behind cyber relationships has to do sometimes with issues like self-disclosure, self-esteem, fear of physical relations, body image, and social interaction. The expansion of media has brought new light to individuals that find face to face interaction to be difficult when dealing with personal issues that affect the building of a relationship. For example, we hear that older men are creating profiles to lure younger girls on the news occasionally, but do we ever hear about older women creating profiles to find compatible soul mates? Until recent years the challenge or test to find a soul mate where they met through mutual friends, work, school, or social situations were few in number as compared to the infinite individuals in cyber space. Traditionally, we see that couples evolve through basic physical attraction. However through social media and online dating, the interpersonal value is much greater because now the individuals can ask questions and explore the other person. Online dating has been the number one method to individuals that seek interest without having to go out and find the man or woman of your dreams. THE TRUTH ABOUT CYBER RELATIONSHIPS: Today people can meet just about anyone they wanted without having to go on traditional dates. Even when people are not looking for love or a friendly relationship it always comes at unexpected times. The fact that most online relationships take place behind a computer screen can lead to issues like betrayal. The usual lies tend to be amongst cyber affairs which generally occur when the truth is not being met by personal information like age, sex, status, and so forth. The main problem is one can never be too cautious on what information they are receiving nor allowing the other person to have in terms of building a relationship online. Cyber Affairs are one of the many forms of relationships that seem to be growing. The idea of cyber affairs is to create this mental relationship that can lead to an actual physical relationship based on the longevity of their interest. Communication plays a big part in the way individual’s use words to convey feelings about the other person and how they affect them. In a real date scenario we find ourselves dressed to impress, where as online dating we find ourselves intellectually prepared to respond. The power of online dating is through the use of our personality, it is the image that we draw by the use of our language and rhetoric. The dating experience comes with physical and emotional aspects but cyber dating is done through the exchange of thoughts, feelings, opinions, and attitude. CAN LOVE BE DEVELOPED ON AN INTELLECTUAL LEVEL? The debate on whether or not relationships can develop love without physical touch or presence. The question is “are feelings and thoughts enough to form a realistic love despite intimacy?”. The answer is unclear still but many say that physical appearance is not as important as the emotional connection two individuals have with one another. Whatever the opinion might be on cyber love, the focus is more on what individuals choose the internet as a reliable source of meeting people versus actually going on physical dates. The downfall of falling in love over the internet is that once a relationship has gotten deep enough to share a true love then all chances of physical dating will be disregarded. The chances individuals take with online dating comes with the consequences of either finding a soul mate or finding yourself being addicted to online dating. WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT “CYBER RELATIONSHIPS” I think it’s fine. You can do whatever you want. Who are we to say you can’t? I, myself, do date online. It’s just a way to fall for someone, even if you don’t know if they look good. So many shallow people in this world, too many.. My boyfriend online thinks I’m beautiful. We’ll meet someday in real life, I just know it. He has an amazing personality. That’s what made me fall for him. Online dating is fine, in my opinion. But, you have to be careful, on who you choose to date. There’s always rapist, murders, and pedophiles out there. So, stay on your toes. Online dating is just as good as regular dating, you may not see their face, or hear the voice. But you can always feel their love. (anonymous opinion) They hardly work out, but due to the amount of people in today world, they may actually work out. Meaning, this world is filled with people of all sorts. Many of those people can’t get relationships in life (and not just because they simply “can’t”), so they must try elsewhere. That’s why people turn to Cyber-Space. (anonymous opinion) As a last resort for people who can’t find spouses, it’s okay, but it’s always better to seek a partner out in the real world cuz you never know… The thing is, when people go on the internet, they think Allah is not watching. That’s why you see so many perverts and freaks on the internet. (anonymous opinion) Meh, my opinion is, life is short, so as long as you not out hurting anyone, do WHATEVER makes you happy ...

Ok now we have covered most in regards to relationships in various shapes and forms, the only thing what i didnt see was a topic which has a huge variety of views and i like to see what u guys think about it. wait for it ... > Drum roll < OPEN RELATIONSHIPS or POLY RELATIONSHIPS Now wiki says : "An open relationship is an interpersonal relationship in which the parties want to be together but agree to a form of a non-monogamous relationship.[1] This means that they agree that a romantic or intimate relationship with another person is accepted, permitted, or tolerated. Generally, an open relationship is when the parties involved have two or more romantic or sexual relationships occurring at the same time either as a short term relationship, such as dating, or long term relationship, such as marriage.[2] The concept of an open relationship has been recognized since the 1970s." Personally i say: In my eyes there is nothing like a open relationship, u either in one or u not. As many of u know i have been in SL for a long time, maybe way to long- but thats beside the point. I have seen alot of so called poly or open relationships, and all those i have see going down hill one way or the other. In my eyes - I find it extremely hard to share my intimate love and i could not accept a partner who has several bit along the side of me. Is it jealousy? Is it insecurities? And to me it may even is simply cause i would not accept and other next to my partner. Soon or later people get hurt in which ever way, if it is just a moment that one needs their partner and he is not there simply cause he is with someone else. its a poor example i know, but the most deepest one i can think of. it kinda stirs the question in me, why call it relationship in the first place, is that not supposed to be a important part in ones life. being with the one u love and respect and share ur most deepest feelings? when is a relationship a relationship as on a deeper level? I just throw that out there and i really would like to open this discussion, simply cause i like to see how u guys feel about this (to me) rather sensitive subject. So tell me, how do u feel about Poly / Open Relationships?