3DXChat as a dating site

[Erikaspencer]

just a thought

how do you think this would go as a dating site, would it work? would love to see what people think.

JUST SAYIN

Edited December 1, 2014 by gizmo
better topic :)

[MikeRUS]

 

 

 

 

 

What do you mean? game or forum?

 

 

[CuckoldMe]

I think No. Clue of dating sites it's the real peoples, with real photos, seeing each other likes/not and going on the date. Here peoples using their avatars and mostly interested in talking/virtual sex. If someone would wish, they could date irl, but making a whole dating site from the 3dx chat.... Meh~

[Erikaspencer]

What do you mean? game or forum?

the game

don't think the forum would work

[Tipsy]

It would work for some people is my guess, last 3 days i have just chatted for hours,  no sex,  but my chats are about having fun. not dating so...  maybe

[Nephilin]

It might work in some level to some people. In long distance dating/relationships with/w-out Skype it would be a good add. Depending of course what you are looking for and what is good enough on what you need from it. There are still some people not thinking on their heads trying to ruin it for others who are looking for something like that.

[chaostika]

ok, hehehe

 

ill start:

 

erika, how about, hmmm, this thursday!?!?
at a time of ur choice for a dinner here:

 

 

http://3dxchat.com/forum/index.php?/topic/893-house-party-bulletin-board/&do=findComment&comment=36096

 

and after that, hmm, did i ever show u my stamp colltections at my home 1  ?!?!?
 

 

 

 

and ofc i know,
u ment it (the topic) in a other way, hun!!

 

just kiddn

 

gn8

 

 

[ForOnlyOne]

 

Unfortunately "no" is the simple answer.

 

As a straight out meet you tomorrow dating site.. How many partners have you met here from your own country that you wanted to hook up with instantly for real life date?

And feeling confident enough to roll your cookies over seas to meet someone takes time.

 

As a long term fall in love and live happily ever after scenario. It's rare. There are I imagine more than a thousand fail stories for every success.

 

On line our dopamine levels still rise.. Our body still produces endorphins when we climax..so the feeling of being "in love" or connected is  very real. As real as in the physical world.

 

Also you probably share more intimate conversations a lot faster. Time seems accelerated and you can open up to a person on line very quickly. You're also probably a lot more honest here about yourself  (as hard to believe as that sounds) there is less judgement on line. You feel more free admitting to your sexual quirks than many will feel in years during a real relationship. These are all great things but net relationships are generally short lived.

 

Even more so on a relatively new site like 3DXChat. The lack of sexual poses and dating opportunities do not encourage long term relationships. It serves to get you off once or twice a day and make some interesting friendships but in an exclusive relationship boredom here will often win out. Unavoidable boredom and the fact that ur dating in a meat market where other people are hitting on your partner daily doesn't help at all.

 

From what I've seen on 3dx most relationships don't last past a month. I attribute the longer lasting relationships to great role-play, plenty of imagination and regular visits to other sites.

 

Don't get me wrong 3DXChat is a great site and will get even better as it ages.

It can be fun, interesting and exciting but as a dating site or a place to fall in love ..in my opinion it's more likely to hurt you than fulfill you.

 

Fall in love...everyday if you want.. But try not to take it so seriously that you are in tears when it ends. Enjoy it for what is is "an awesome sex chat site where you can interact with interesting and frisky people from all over the world in just a few hours a day"

 

PS… really hoping on proving myself wrong about this post..Dev team… more sex poses and more flexibility in poses and dating options please. Also if you're in a long term exclusive relationship I'd love to chat with you about how you keep it fun and fresh.. message me.

[Outlaw]

Just Tinder It

[Delorian]

Great post FOO. Sums it up perfectly.

 

You certainly can meet people to date here, but chances are as high or low as anywhere else, in a bar, in a club, on the street or anywhere else. Dating site's cater to people who want to date. 3dx doesnt cater to those people. But it can happen.

 

As for long term relationships: You have to take it outside of 3dx. That should be a given when you're in a "real" relationship, even if you live close by or on the other side of the planet. 3dx is fun and all, but it only covers 2 aspects of a relationship (sex and chatting), and both on a somewhat very limited level that gets boring really fast. Use skype, text-, phone- and videochat. Play other games together if you're into that, watch movies or listen to music together. If it's worth it, you make it work..

And even though chances are very slim that you get a happily ever after here, it's not impossible. Just live in the moment and enjoy it for what it is right now

 

[Horni4U]

It wouldn't work with all the guys going around as females. Too many lies, too little legitimate people. Internet was never a good idea do to easy deceiving. We need verification processes and whatnot if you want to go that route otherwise it could be like entering a random chat room online and ending up meeting a 'certain bad guy' and not leaving the encounter or being scared for life if you catch my drift?

[Baishun]

 

Even more so on a relatively new site like 3DXChat. The lack of sexual poses and dating opportunities do not encourage long term relationships. It serves to get you off once or twice a day and make some interesting friendships but in an exclusive relationship boredom here will often win out. Unavoidable boredom and the fact that ur dating in a meat market where other people are hitting on your partner daily doesn't help at all.

 

 

I think this is the part I agree with most. Maybe it's just my mindset, but a site like 3DXChat just isn't conducive to a real romance. And the atmosphere here isn't the one you'd come to to find some sort of exclusive romantic partnerhip. It's like going to a NASCAR race to recruit members for Mensa, or to Sweden to look for ugly people. It's just very, very unlikely to happen.

 

There simply isn't much to do in the realm of romantic encounters in 3DX. Maybe 3 poses I can think of are sweet like that; the rest are all geared far more towards the dirty/raunchy/hypersexual, which is fine and has its place, but isn't the kind of place you generally expect to find romance. The new Love Island is a start, I guess. At least you can sit down at a table with your partner and stare out over the waves at the moon. But you can't really hold hands or play footsies while you do that.    You can walk down to the beach and get naked and fuck like bunnies, though; and that's why this place exists.

 

I mean, you can even see it in the prop actions we have here. You can buy and drink a bottle of beer/wine (I hate beer so I tend to think of them as mini-bottles of Barefoot Sweet Red), and even get a 10-second buzz from it. But you can't pick up and drink the cup of coffee on the table, or sip the bowl of tomato soup. It's the mundane little things that seem magical when you're with someone you love that help cement that sort of relationship. And there's really not much mundane stuff to do here.

[SweetHeather]

As far as dating goes I really don't see it. Most who seem to come into 3DXChat want fun without attachment, which dating is an attachment. It would need a drastic change on the community side to employ such a condition. And given its a runaway train with 'here for fun only', not sure how far an idea of 'dating' would go. Unless such dating was simply in the capacity of 'for fun only', but then that's not exactly dating is it? That's simply meet and fuck. And since a community determines behavioral patterns dating is thus negated in current form. Community would need to be changed as well as helpful facilitations by the developers, but largely the community.

 

On a side note I think its a lovely idea if not exactly doable right now. I for one seek someone to be with in 3DXChat over random encounters. After almost 2 years, still looking. Can't say looking for someone for real life, but for the right person its a possibility with me. Though most users enjoy the random encounters, the meet and fuck, they shy away from conversation at large and commitments. And I say conversation not silliness or typing 'lol' every other reply. Real conversations that detail far beyond simplistic responses.

 

Not everyone enjoys reading things from a braindead cow. Depth is a nice thing.

[Sage Stoner]

As far as dating goes I really don't see it. Most who seem to come into 3DXChat want fun without attachment, which dating is an attachment. It would need a drastic change on the community side to employ such a condition. And given its a runaway train with 'here for fun only', not sure how far an idea of 'dating' would go.

 

I respect Heather's opinion her, but I see things slightly differently, so I thought I would chime in.

 

Call me a cynic, but I feel that there are a lot of people who think that even "dating in real life" is "fun without attachment." 

 

So, in that respect, I think that relationships on 3DX aren't all that different from relationships in real life. Much of the trouble comes, I think, from when both sides assume that they each want the same thing, but then it turns out that they really want different things.

 

That being said, I would not disagree with the assertion that "a majority" of players on 3DX use it as a masturbation aid and perhaps nothing more. 

 

Even so, many of the people here that I know well are open to contact outside the game, Skype especially, and that for some people, meeting up in real life is not out of the question.

 

So, given the geographical distance between most players, I don't think it will ever be a "dating" site, but I for one consider all of the friendships I have made here to be "real-life friendships" and meeting up for drinks would always be on the table.

[Baishun]

As far as dating goes I really don't see it. Most who seem to come into 3DXChat want fun without attachment, which dating is an attachment. It would need a drastic change on the community side to employ such a condition. And given its a runaway train with 'here for fun only', not sure how far an idea of 'dating' would go. Unless such dating was simply in the capacity of 'for fun only', but then that's not exactly dating is it? That's simply meet and fuck. And since a community determines behavioral patterns dating is thus negated in current form. Community would need to be changed as well as helpful facilitations by the developers, but largely the community.

 

 

Hmmm...My sweetheart and I came here after almost two years on Utherverse's Red Light Center (she'd actually been there a lot longer, but we were there together for nearly two years). There were a lot of things we loved about it: You could go dancing, watch TV, go out to the movies, hang out with friends at home or in one of the hundreds of user-created locations, tour haunted houses and make out with ghosts, turn into mermaids and go swimming under the sea, go camping and get lost in the woods. And a lot of other stuff I'm too tired and too tipsy to remember well enough to list out. In any case, the point is there was something to do besides just fuck.

 

That said, most people did go on RLC to just fuck. And despite that, we knew lots of people who met on that site and became virtual lovers and eventually met IRL, some of whom even married or cohabited or whatever their fancy was. So in that sense it served as a dating site, at least for those people.

 

I think if 3DX offered some more activities that went beyond just sex, it could very well serve as a place for people to meet and bond virtually, and maybe even eventually IRL. But I still think that you don't make that connection usually with plain old--or even not plain old--sex (though I'm sure some people would disagree with me; so I'll say I don't usually make a strong connection with someone through just sex alone). There have to be some things that aren't as wholly engrossing as sex to give you a feel for a person in everyday situations. And 3DX just doesn't offer that at this point. If it did, I think, whether it meant to or not, it would perhaps facilitate some real-life hookups and eventual long-term relationships. As it stands, like you say, it's mostly about the quickie with random strangers unless we get creative and imaginative as users and make it otherwise. And that isn't the best environment to shop for potential life-long partners. With a little tweaking and some fun non-sexual activities thrown in though, who knows...?

[JanaX]

I agree with much of what has been said. I think this is a tricky platform for real dating. Difficult to know who you're really with, for example. That doesn't become a problem until you start talking about meeting in RL then one day you have the discussion...

 

In general I think maybe remember where you are and what this is. Even if your partner turns out to be the person you think, they still may not measure up to the fantasy that's constructed here.

 

I don't want to seem negative but I've seen it happen very often where one of a couple wants more and the other wants something different. This can lead to heartbreak and drama. That said, I don't agree that it's mostly about the quickie. Where I have sex at all it's with someone I've been getting to know for a longer period of time and I feel a bond for.

 

I also don't agree its impossible to have a good discussion here. I've had many deep discussions talking about philosophy music life here, which have enriched me and I'm glad to have had, even if we didn't have sex. After a while this place became more about the friends I'd made, who I consider real friends... but partners... dating.... I don't think it such a good idea here, most of the time.