Sasha's New Player Guide

[iSasha]

3dxChat tips for the new player

 

After getting multiple PM’s that start out with “Hi Sasha” or “Hey Sasha” and being curious, responding and finding out there is a nice person behind the other side of the screen; I would start to share my tips with the new players. Here are my tips for new players to help them get started and to lift themselves up out of the noobie status.

 

For Experienced Players:
When a noobie is colding when they shouldn’t, send them the link to this post.
Maybe we can make a difference with one new player at a time.

 

This is not a guide on how to use the interface. But you should take some time to learn how the interface works.

 

 

Sex
STOP and get your mind off sex at the start. You will have time for that after you properly prepare for being out in the big wild world of 3dxChat.

 

Practice
Take some time and use the bots, Bob and Betty, in your own room. This room shows up as “My World” at the top when viewing locations. Click the pink “Add Virtual Partner” button in the upper left corner and you can add a bot to practice having sex. Different objects such as couches, beds, pools give you the option to initiate a sex pose in that spot. Simply mouse over and you will see the big green asterisk cursor to start. Then practice your poses, get a good idea of what they do. A good tip is that when you are having sex with a player, the PM tab with the player, will have a “Swap Role” option at the top to allow you two to swap roles of which person is giving or receiving.

 

Emotes
There is an emote command which allows you to emote what you are doing. This is especially important to use during sex, but can be used in general. For example, “/me hugs” or “/me kisses you tenderly”. Get creative and explore your use of vocabulary when having sex. This is often referred to as RP or Cybersex in game. The better players develop a generous vocabulary to describe what they are doing during sex while in a particular pose.

 

It can be intimidating at the start, try to relax and enjoy yourself. Get a feel for what your partner likes and if you both have a good time you may end up being friends, or at least have a repeat encounter.

 

 

Avatar

The first thing another player is going to notice about you is your Avatar or just avi. So, some work needs to go into creating a presentable persona. This is where the Character Editor is needed. Again, spend some time with the interface and understand your options. Start with the body and use the Face and Shape & Colors options. We all have our own personal preferences of what we like in partners and that is the point, what is your avi going to look like when naked?

 

Clothing
Then there is what your avi looks like when you are wearing clothes. Experiment with different clothes and looks. Be ready with a swimsuit look in case you end up dancing on a beach or some sexy undies if going for an intimate encounter. The term “Eye Candy” applies in this situation. You want to appear appealing to your partner. Use accessories like hats, glasses, collars and bracelets to help your avi pop and stand out from the crowd.

 

Colors
Learning to use colors is important. Some of the clothing allows you to set the color. There are some basic predefined selections, use them. There is also a color wheel which allows you to tweak the colors to get exactly what you want. Which brings up the question, what do you want? Check out the other avi’s as you explore the world and you will get some ideas of what you can do. Another option is go and Google “color palettes” to find complimentary colors which work together. An important tip is to be aware of what works for your avi’s skin tone. A general rule is that for darker skin tones use warm colors and for lighter skin tones you want to use cool colors.

 

 

Profile

This is your first introduction, so use it well. Also be sure to read other player’s profiles.

You can use this space to express yourself about anything you want. It could be describing your avi, expressing what you are looking for or any random thing you can think of. It is a chance to give players a first impression. What ever you do, DON’T LEAVE IT BLANK for long.
 

Colors
You can enhance your profile by adding some color to it. This link will give you the details of how to do that.
http://3dxforum.com/index.php?/topic/559-colored-text-in-profiles/

 

Gallery
This is another area which is wide open for options. You will get lots of ideas by looking at other avi’s galleries. There are a couple of guide lines. Use them, try not to leave any blank. It is another opportunity for you to express yourself. Use your gold when you can to buy more photo slots.

 

A quick word about online safety. Using personal pics can be a risk to your safety. Yes, you cannot download the pics, but it is possible to take screenshots. So be aware and use your discretion. Practice the same safety you would with any other site. Remember, once it is on the net it is always on the net.

 

 

Socializing

This is a social game more than anything else. You want to get laid? Socializing helps to make it better.

 

Colds

DON’T DO IT. When a player performs any of those actions listed below with another player without prior consent, it is considered a “cold”. Most players hate it and it is annoying. It will most likely end up with you on their ignore list. The only safe option if you don’t know a player is Profile and Private Message. There are rooms where colds are accepted and they will either tell you in the title of the room in the Locations list or with a sign once inside the room. So, pay attention.

 

Cold List
Add to group chat
Send gift
Add to friends
Invite to my place
Partner
Slow dance
Cuddle
Kiss cheek

 

Local
There are two default chat windows, World and Local. World Chat, WC, can get out of control, so use some caution here about what you say. Local Chat is for conversations for the room you are in.

 

This is where socializing really starts. You can use PM’s to talk to a person in private at any time. Local Chat lets you join in the general room conversation. It is a good way to gently ease into socializing. Join in with comments, joking and other behavior you might when going to a party in real life, RL. Players who are chatting in this channel are about having a good time. You will also get a feel for who’s who, what the vibe is and lots of social information you need to navigate successfully through your interactions with others. So, use it.
 

Breaking the Ice

At this point you have noticed a player, read their profile and checked out their photo gallery. Now you want to start a Private Message with them, what do you do? This really depends on the situation, but in general, start a conversation with some piece of information you gathered from their profile or gallery. When you can move past the “Hi, how are you” comment, you know you have shed your noobie status. It is an art form just as it is in RL. The only guideline is that you be situational aware.

 

Be aware if a player is currently interacting with another player. If they are slow dancing, kissing, dancing close to each other or Sync Dancing, this is a sign that they are involved in someway with socializing with each other player. Don’t interrupt and respect their space.

 

Sync Dancing
You will notice avi’s in sync when dancing from time to time. This is a nice way to show you are socializing with another player. It is a consensual act and some players don’t like it when you sync with them, so be aware.

This is how you do it if your partner is up for this. Positioning is important and will require some trial and error.

 

Option One:

1. Both of you do the same dance move to get started.

2. Then do a Cuddle. But this option will move your avi’s and affects position.

 

Option Two:

1. Both of you do the same dance move to get started.

2. You do the Partner action. This of course means your partner agrees.

3. Select a ‘clothed’ Foreplay pose.

4. Quickly click the Stop Sex button and you are in sync.

 

 

Be Polite

Here are some not so obvious things to avoid if you want to be a polite player.

1. Avoid dancing in another player’s personal space. The distance will vary depending on how packed a dance floor is, so use your better judgement.
2. Avoid accidentally syncing with a player next to you when dancing. It might give the impression you are dancing with them and creates an unwanted social situation.
3. Avoid standing on the dance floor and looking at a player. This is just creepy.
4. No Colds

 

 

Other Related Post Links

Epi's beginners guide
http://3dxforum.com/index.php?/topic/4331-epis-beginners-guide/?hl=guide

your online safety
http://3dxforum.com/index.php?/topic/8764-your-online-safety/?hl=guide&do=findComment&comment=341211

A guide to self-preservation
http://3dxforum.com/index.php?/topic/4870-a-guide-to-self-preservation/?hl=guide

Roleplay guide for 3DX Chat
http://3dxforum.com/index.php?/topic/969-roleplay-guide-for-3dx-chat/?hl=guide

(3rd Party Website, useful tools for profile, gift text and other things)  Website to see actual 3DXChat server status
https://3dxforum.com/index.php?/topic/11021-website-to-see-actual-3dxchat-server-status/

 

Edited December 22, 2020 by iSasha
Update to related links.

[☙𝔼𝕩❧]

I am not sure that most of players will agree with your opinion that this game is more social than anything else.

Cold gifts is something new and funny 

 

In the end this is a good propaganda of the social style of the game. It was interesting to read : )

 

ps: Don`t forget about ones who don`t like to be social. They will never get this.

[Twiggy]

I like what you have done here.

I think the idea of people being able to link newbies to this is a good one.

When I 1st started I use to do what lots do, if someone colded me I didn't like it and often responded badly.

I then started to understand that most who colded didn't know any better and tried PMing them and letting them know how most did not like getting cold invites and what they were.

I only got angry if they continued to send colds.

Most I found once things were explained they understood.

Although in the finish because of so many people creating alts and pretending to be knew I ended up being one who did not answer pms from people I did not know, I still feel that new players can find it hard to understand things and deserve a better go than they get.

So having something like this to refer new players to can make it easier on everyone, as it also saves a lot of typing when you try to explain things in the game.

 

I think you can add some things to the explanation of sync dancing.

For example, positioning before you hug is important.

If you want to dance side by side you need to position each avi side by side 1st.

 

If the syncing is to be a male and female and you want to dance one in front of the other, then the female must initiate the hug, if the male initiate the hug they end up facing each other.

It may actually be the other way around, the male may have to be the one to initiate the cuddle, it has been a while since I have done it.

 

You can also do a 3 way sync using the 3some poses, again positioning 1st is important.

 

Also I think it is a good idea to mention that when a player initiates a pm, they really do need to think about what they can do with conversation before they do.

If they put some thought into what people have said in their profiles or have talked about in local chat they can often think of things to talk about when they pm someone.

I found to often that if I answered a pm I was the one that had to get and keep the conversation going and ended up often not being willing to do so.

I looked at it as why should I have to make that effort when they were the one that pmed me, plus it seemed to have me think this person is not going to be that interesting.

I always liked it and respected it that someone had made the effort to understand a little about me and had thought of things to talk about before they pmed me.

[Xizi]

I like the idea of the thread yet I disagree with some stuff and think some other things need more attention.

 

1. As ExHaran already mentioned - many people can disagree with you that 3dx chat "is a social game more than anything else". 3dxchat has a pretty low amount of social activities - you can dance, you can chat, you can cuddle, you can play the bottle (in only one place in the game and almost no one do it, because you can't even add it to your own place) and play a volleyball (which is far from good too). 3dx chat has more sex poses than cuddling + dancing + sitting/staying poses all together. 3dx chat has A LOT more sexy or even straight slutty clothes for female avis than casual ones or any others. And as a final:

So... Maybe for you 3dxchat "is a social game more than anything else" but it's not a matter of fact.

2. I would mention something about a profile and gallery - that adding a photos centred on genitalia as a profile pic or flooding your gallery with those, especially if we talk not about some professionally made shots, but about some low quality unaesthetic stuff, can make A LOT of people to stay away from you or even ignore you. It's not a dating site, no need to impress anyone with how well endowed you are (or the guy whose photo you had stolen lol). And no, I don't say that people should do this on dating sites, just here it makes no sense at all.

Also, using an images of different people and saying that it's you... Well, aside of just being unethical - can also destroy any relationship that you build with people here in future. It can work for naive ones in a short term, but for anything else - it's not a best idea.

3. I would also add for new players - if they don't want to get in different kinds of confusing, awkward or generally unpleasant situations and make feeling bad other people - they should read a profile EVERYTIME they write a new person, not only interested in/age/location info, but the other info too.

Some people are exclusive to their partner and do not look for any sexual/romantic intercourse. Many people play not their rl/biological gender and some of them openly have this info in their profile. Some people put in their profile info about what they like and what they don't, or even what is unacceptable for them. Really, better spend 1 minute reading profile before writing, than creating a problematic situation for both - you and the other person. 

[iSasha]

Socializing
I should probably clarify by what I mean before the list of comments on it gets any longer.

"This is a social game more than anything else."

When you look at what is going on, at what is driving the activity, you find players interacting with other players. Unlike many other online game genres, this one has a sexual component to it. Sex has a strong emotional content to it. In this game most players have an emotional interaction with another player, hence why we end up with that dirty word which shows up on many profiles, drama.

There isn't a lot of content related to interactions which promote the general thoughts about socializing, this is true. People have many play styles which differ one from the other. Some people like to join in the party in local chat, some want to limit who they chat with, some will avoid it all together. There is a full spectrum of personalities here.

With all that said, sex is a social activity, assuming the players are not just pose clicking. It is a give and take in what ever form that turns someone on. At some basic level most players are actually socializing with others. There is chatting, which is reading and responding to what the other writes. Hugging, kissing, slow dancing, which are playing with another player and responding to their actions. Then there is the sex. To get to this point generally involves some interaction, excluding colds, and it is important for new players to know how to get there without all the frustration new players have.

People give off clues of how they want to be approached, what they are interested in, what they don't like or do like. New players should take the clues from reading profiles, looking at galleries, picking up on conversations in local chat. This will help you adjust to the situation and have a more enjoyable game

As a new player you can play the game by using just the sex poses and enjoy the excitement you see on the screen. The avi's provide lots of eye candy to look at. To pursue this option you will want to find rooms which have "Cold" in the title. This requires the least amount of interactions with other players. The other option is to interact with the other players using the tips provided in the original post, make some friends (not referring to Friends List), hang out, flirt and do your thing. Plenty of options available.

There is a lot packed into "This is a social game more than anything else.", my apologies if I created any confusion.

-Sasha ♥

[☙𝔼𝕩❧]

There is no confusion. Just different opinions.