I was a little surprised that my diary was removed altogther as a result of one post which broke the Terms of Service. Of course the moderators retain the right to delete whatever they like for whatever reason. It appears to me that there is a policy in use whereby whole threads are removed following a successful report. I made the report about the offensive post, so the removal of my thread has a delightful irony. If this is the case I would suggest that a clause is inserted into the terms and conditions to this effect.
The issue I actualy want to talk about is one that has appeared several times on the forums, namely that of men playing as women. Discussion so far appears to be of the form of two extremes: It is wrong and it doesn't matter, I believe the issue is much more nuanced that that. I must first lay my cards on the table. In general I have no objection to men playing as women, or any other gender. I think it unlikely that I would become involved in a sexual relationship with someone other than a woman. This is not because I have a problem with it, it's just that I have been a boring heterosexual all my life. I am unlikely to change at my age.
Individuals of whatever gender are at liberty to play as whatever gender they like, for whatever reason of which there are many. For example a man may want to try to experience that of a woman or a woman that of a man, an individual may be exploring the possibilities of life as a TG, they may be exploring their own sexuality and so on. I think this is to be encouraged.
The thing that does concern me is the possibility that a man might play as a woman so as to mislead people. I don't think this is a problem with casual sex but as soon as an ongoing sexual relationship develops a high degree of honesty is required for it to be truly successful. Sex is about communication and sharing, amongst other things, certainly over the long term.
I doubt I'm even getting anywhere near even scratching the surface of this issue in a short diary post. I like to believe that honesty is always the best policy in this. A man playing as a woman may tell a potential partner who has the choice of going ahead or not. A simple 'thanks but no thanks' is sufficient. There is no reason to be rude or offensive about it.
The key point I want to make is that this is a complex issue and that tact, consideration and honesty can go a long way to resolving any difficulties.