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sandraxo

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I have the desire that most people are disgusted with.

I want to live with two men. Not just sex,....of course, sex is important.
But I am more interested in the relationship with the two men, with whom I would live and share everything. As a marriage, but in three.
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I would like to talk to you about it...

Tell me what you think. It matters to me very much.

 

Do I ask too much?

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This is a question you should ask the two guys you want the relationship with and they you.  It should be an open, honest and frank discussion. 

 

I believe in live and let live, unless of course, 

a) it is against the law of that country.. while in Rome and all that,

b  ) abusing someone - physically or verbally or even silently

c) you are not open and transparent about what you want or are and

d) making someone feel bad because you are forcing your beliefs on them.

 

I think a, b, c & d is pretty standard and no low balls there.

 

The most important thing is you all discuss

 

1. What each of you want

2. What each of you expect

3. What compromises you will each make or are willing to make

4. What each of you define as "open" or "exclusive" relationship

5. Whats allowed in and out the relationship -  outside boyfriends, girlfriends, inside : pregnancies... 

6. What's yours ; whats theirs and whats shared..  shared = 1/3 each.

7. Write the agreed rules down so NO ONE misunderstands the rules and hang it somewhere open so the rules can be checked at anytime by any of the parties.

8. Do not favour one over the other.

9. The rules are not to be changed unless there is a meeting and all agree, which includes discarding any rules, adding more or changing some.

10. Anyone at anytime can leave the relationship. It is a fully consensual arrangement.

 

I hope you have a long and happy and workable threesome.

 

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If all 3 involved are happy with it, why not then?

 

In this place it is all about living out fantasies and exploring, so go for it. The only problem I see might occur when one of your partners develops jealous feelings against the other, so an honest communication is needed.

 

About the rules Vaughan mentioned... For me a set of fixed rules won't work in a relationship, as a it developsand changes its ways and feelings. So my advice would be to just go with the flow and see where it leads you :)

 

Have fun!

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