I was a 3dxAddict :/

[Anonandonandnon]

I've been a member of 3dxchat for pretty much 4 years, until a few weeks ago. I believe I was possibly one of the very first members, when 3dx was nothing more than an apartment room and a (very small) list of other players who you could invite to your room. There wasn't even a nightclub - that came later, along with months of the same dull music stuck on repeat. On some days if I was to log on, there would be no others players online. Not one. If there were any others, it was a tiny few, but it grew into a small but very friendly community that was fun to be part of. Drama was rare. And into that community came some very special people, ones who I wish I could have kept in touch with outside of the game, for none of those original players play any more, as far as I am aware.

 

I haven't played constantly for all that time - there have been times when I've left the game, sometimes 'for good', only to be tempted back too soon. I've had several short relationships in 3dx, none of which lasted beyond a month or two (though they always seemed longer), some of which ended badly, others less so. Even the immense hurt that a break-up causes wasn't enough to keep me away. At times I found myself immersed in the game, to the extent where, to my shame now, I would put real life aside to make space for 3dxchat. I would find the money to resub, even when I didn't have it or it could be better spent elsewhere. Night after night after night I'd be there. I'd call off social occasions to be at home so I could go online, even go slow on work so that I could log on. And yet, strangely, I didn't often feel I was getting anything out of the game. I wondered why I was still playing. Sure, I learned some things I didn't know - like, for example, the genuine feelings it's possible to have for a complete stranger who I'd never met, whose face I'd never seen, voice I'd never heard and real name I didn't know - and never would know. And that, on reflection, seems utterly crazy.

 

I know I'm not the only one out there for who this is reality. And I look at some of the comments on forum, about how 3dxchat seems to be an irreplaceable part of daily life, yet I look back and wonder how exactly my life is better off for my time there - or is it? And that leaves me with a huge sense of embarrasment that I once was one of these players who is so immersed in the experience that it clouds their real life judgement and experences, the very people who I now think need to chill out and step back.

 

I know I was addicted to the whole thing - the only addiction in life I've ever had. Sometimes I think, should I just resub to see how the game is now? But the stronger part of me fights the urge and I know returning would be wrong.

 

I'm here under an anonymous name (spelt wrong, haha) and few would know me anyway. So why am I posting this? Maybe this is, to me, my epilogue, to be clear to myself that I've finally broken free from the game and to reinforce my determination that I shall never return. And maybe to tell others who may be in this position that they can break free, if they want. I'm not dissing 3dxchat - it has its strengths for sure - but there is life outside and beyond.

[TamaraJ]

... and for sure you were and are not the only one!! Very interesting and courageous!  Thank you very much for that!!

[Nikki]

Yep you re not the only one.

 

I ve been member of this game for 3 years and been playing it most of the time as it has become part of my daily life, thus its mostly not because of the naughty things you can do there but because of the people you ve met over the time. Theres many activities I ve done in this game over the years, like doing music, hosting partys or just hanging out with friends and lovers.

 

After several ups and downs I am really considering to let it go for good when my sub runs out at the end of the year. But I am unsure if I can, to be honest...

 

I really got used to it

[LovelyBritney]

I can see myself in some of the parts of your post.

 

I discovered 3DX at the worst possible time of my life. The time where I was moving to a different country and was alone a lot since I am an introvert and had all my family/friends back home. 3DX was just the right thing to "help" me. I have became addicted to 3DX in few months as I logged on daily, sometimes for hours and whenever I wasn't on, I felt like I was missing something, like stuff is going on and I am not going to be apart of it!!

 

Luckily with time and yet another moving to a new home, I became more social and got my life back on track while managing to put 3DX aside and log on only from time to time.

 

This place can be dangerous to you and your social life if you are not careful and don't set a strict line between this and your life and I'm really glad I managed to get away.

[Nikki]

I think its all about balance. If you have your life in balance and dont spend too much time here, even tho it can be an addiction I think its one of the better addictions.

 

Better then doing drugs or alcohol.

[Sentra]

For some it may be a hindrance on your social life or an unhealthy addiction. For others it may be a way to have a social life when they couldn't really otherwise. But yeah, everything in moderation. Especially addictive things. It's sometimes hard to do that though when you are having a lot of fun, making lots of great friends, and sometimes even falling in love. Then moderation usually flies out the window.

 

I wouldn't be embarrassed about it or ashamed though. I think there are a lot of wonderful and terrible things to experience in our time here. I'm sorry to hear your experience felt like a waste of time. I don't feel that way at all about my experience here. I love the friends I have made here and I hope to stay friends with them always.

[Stellania]

Hi,

 

Great topic thread. Thank you for starting it.

 

I can't say that i've been on for long, i'm going on my 4th month. So, i lack the experience others might have.. BUT .. this thread could apply to ANY other online gaming community as well.

 

In my view the company that runs the game feeds on alot of basics(and some not so basics) instincts any human needs. I don't mean this in a negative way mind you, it's a great business model. Sex sells. Always has, always will.

 

But having a social life, a sex life, the feeling of not being alone, the feeling of being loved, the feeling of being cared for, the feeling of caring for someone, the excitements, the deceptions. Well, for some people, that can only be provided, for whatever their reason, in a virtual environnent like this.

 

And you know what, i'm ok and fine with the fact a company exploits this.. I wish I had thought about it. Their initial intent was surely not to help those people but if we bottom line it .. it does help a certain part of the human population, ok lets go a little less dramatic here.. it helps a certain part of the 3dx population.

 

I find what I want in this game, and sometimes more .. or less. And im sure some people find this plateform a safeheaven, a way to communicate, a way to have a social life and/or sex life they maybe wouldn`t be gettin in RL.

 

 

But back to you initial comments.. I think i went a bit larger on my reply.

 

Am I addicted ? Yes and no, as mentionned in one of the replies balance is the key. 

 

Am I ashamed of whatever i do in here ? How much time I spend ? No, it's MY choice, and so far that choice hasn't change anything in my social activities or sex life .. i consider it more as an .. extension to it.

 

Great thread you started there. Thank you

 

Love,

 

Stella

[AAP]

This is a post that hits very close to home.  When you're wrapped up in the day-to-day addiction, letting is spill into and sometimes even consume your 'real' life, there is no perspective.  Most of the people you're interacting with are just as addicted and everything is clouded through the lens of the game.  Once you are able to step away from the game, the veil lifts and you truly start living outside the confines of the 3dx world.  Checking back in can be an awkward experience.  As the OP stated, 'embarrassing' is a good word to describe the feeling when looking back and knowing how much it meant and how much it (usually) adversely affected your life.

 

Obviously, all things in moderation is the mantra for any addictive activity and 3dx is certainly no exception.

[Lilac]

Interesting. 

 

I've been attending 3DX for 2 years (almost). I'm currently on leave from 3DX and I do not intend on coming back in the near future. 

 

3DX is only to fill a void in your life when there's nothing else, otherwise, it becomes meaningless. Only by mere chance am I to stumble upon your thread at this time and log in to express my own insight as this post has intrigued me. I've read the other comments and appraise them such about 3DX becoming a daily occurrence in life. It is strange how this place can become so but like I mentioned above, once you find something else, in real life, something real and proper then 3DX is completely irrelevant. Many a people I have known have succumbed to just leaving this place because they find something in real life.

 

I for sure was an addict and here I am now applauding you. 

 

but there is life outside and beyond.

 

 

+1

[chaostika]

 

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I was a 3dxAddict :/

well... who wasnt - atleast me in my 1st year 

 

 

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Somtimes 3DX|Worldchat feels like a middle-school playground populated by brats in ski masks who name-call and taunt with the fake bravery of their anonymity and one also discovers oneself ranting in there or local suddenly, so soz 4 that guyz, just saying. But sometimes - thank goodness - sometimes 3DX itself it's also cooler than real life and you have to be honest and admit and understand why im proud of so many things in my life, but nothing beats beeing a surrogate
 

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"It's easy to get sidetracked with technology and that is the danger, but ultimately u have to see what works with the music and your life and what simply doesnt! So in a lot of cases and like with 3DX, less is more. in most cases, less is more. -Herbie Hancock/Chaostika/KYUSS

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[CrazyAli]

As someone who has been here since almost the beginning, and has taken time off away from the game (the most recent being a full year), only to possibly resub come xmas time, this speaks to my soul lol.

[Cordelia]

I've tried to make no big deal of leaving. I told all my friends and have made the odd comment in the forum but this particular game has just been a phase in my life. Like LovelyBritney, I started when I moved country. I played Achat initially (encouraged by my sister) and moved to 3DXChat when friends there told me about it. I like to contribute and, as with Achat, I ran my cartoons in the forum and also made many illustrated suggestions for game improvement, some of which the devs listened to. The lack of any development environment was frustrating so I eventually also played Second Life as there is much more scope there. It is ironic that they are just introducing the World Editor here (well, at sometime I guess ) now that I have just left but SL will still offer far more opportunities and at a much cheaper annual price and with a far greater and varied audience. It is not really a question of addiction. Sure, I logged in here every day to get my (useless) XGold but that was a matter of principle as missing just one day sets you back to the start. Why it doesn't work backwards for each day you miss is beyond me but then it is worth nothing, unlike the weekly financial return you get as a SL premium member. Anyway, playing has given me a job, further education and real life friends as well as many community friends.

[NaturesGuru]

I've been 2 days with the game and already I know it's addictive. Read this topic and thought share those thoughts. 

I think at the moment, although it is a bit addictive, still it is a nice game. It's fun to get to know all those people without there social harness. To know there desires, on low en on high level.

That is actually more addictive then all the sexy things going on in there. 

The waiting for the answer to your chat is more addictive then the sex positions in there. 

So I think it is still a social thing, if it's not taking up all time in your normal life, then it's ok. If it's in the way of normal life, you should back off from the game to find a balance again.

[☙𝔼𝕩❧]

3dx is a good app in my opinion. I am not sure about addiction. A game cant make people addicted. People make it themselves. 

PS. 3dx can help to learn languages.