All your points are valid JessicaX. I too value quality over quantity. We have a diverse community with many different needs and desires. Therefore, I also value variety.
I’m of the belief to let the market forces decide. I believe you are as well.
The room you raise in your discussion had a steady stream of people attend (45 to 75 while I was online). If a room was not what was expected or desired... i.e. as advertised, music, atmosphere or room design, then I’m sure the numbers will fade as with many rooms in the past.
Good first discussion
Well if I chose a room name that was an actual room name, that was completely unintentional. I just threw something out there off the top of my head.
I'm never one to focus on room numbers much. To me.. if I'm having fun, and the people are having fun and the music is good and people are digging it, then its a success. But... you certainly do NOT need those types of words and descriptors in your room name to get people into your room. We did the Girl Power event last night and we had nearly 80 people at one point. The room name was: GIRL POWER. Please don't take this the wrong way. I am just making the point that you don't need to have SEX, COLDS OK, NO CHAT... in your room name for people to show up.
There's so many things that contribute to large room numbers, but most of us have zero control over them. The only point i really trying to make above is that i think hosts should be more confident about what they are trying to achieve. if you have fantastic DJs... then use that as a selling point. is it a new room that looks like the game Candyland? (this would be awesome btw) then use that as a selling point. I would never try to come off in a way where I am trying to tell people what to do or how to spend their time in 3dx. That's none of my business. I'm only saying I have been planning, hosting, and attending parties here for nearly 3 years and I know what works and what doesn't.
Using my example above, the descriptor room names will bring in "extra" people, but in most cases (nothing is 100%), it will be people who are not there for the music or social aspect. Not only that, it has a chance of pushing away some people who maybe WOULD be there for the music and social aspect, like myself. When I go to a party room, i want to listen to good music and have fun and chat. I don't want to deal with cold requests and bad pickup lines from people who don't know how to read profiles.
I have a room I open sometimes called "Lovers Lounge". Many of you come in when it's open. Its a very simple room and the music is all romantic, chill, & ballads. I never expect this room to get high numbers because it's more of a niche thing. I'm usually shocked if it reaches 20. Most spontaneous parties or room openings will not get many attendees. I do remember one night a long time ago that somehow we had over 50 people in there and it was about 2am EST on a Friday night. How did this happen? I have no idea and I doubt i will ever understand how this happened.
There are a few things I know that will contribute to a good turnout.
Themed Parties ...make it something special like a dress code, or a Halloween party for example.
User Friendly Room ...If you need a gaming PC to keep from lagging... it will affect your attendance
Entertainment ...DJ's, Dancers, People... what kind of music? who's gonna be there? Whats gonna be happening?
Date of Event ...Events held on weekends will usually have better turnout than ones during the week
Time of Event ...3DX users are from all over the world. Try to make it a time where all can attend
Don't Overkill ...Similar routine parties on a regular basis burns people out
RobPathfinder ...If you have have him, they will come. (meant more as a joke, Love ya Rob)
I see people get so frustrated because they try to open a room and get discouraged because no one shows up. Well it takes time to become established here. My advise is to plan ahead. Ask other people in the community who can help. Delegate some work so you aren't trying to do it all. Make a forum post so everyone can see when it's happening and they can plan accordingly. Don't exclude people, Have a good poster. etc...
The more effort that goes into the planning the more successful your event will be. It may not always be a home run, but a party doesn't need 50+ people to be successful. One of the best parties I ever attended was a spontaneous party in Torax and Lillianme's Unicorn room one evening. (sorry i don't remember the actual name). I think the most people at one time in the room was MAYBE 25... but the vibe was amazing. The music was awesome, everyone was having fun, the chat was very active, everyone was laughing, dancing, having a blast and I will never forget that night.
Im sorry... i meant for this to be a quick reply to your post but I totally went on a rant there