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#21 JessicaX

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Posted 18 September 2017 - 07:54 PM

I've only been t one of this Sex Orgy parties with Live DJ, one that DavidRyan had, n I was spinning live, as I always do, the funny thing was there was more dancing than orgy, but that's about the only actual room that was sexorgy party with live DJ. 
 
I misen dun visit them rooms unless asked to spin.  but imo as long as people have fun n I'm asked to share mi tunes then I'm just happy, my own club has no beds nor any placed to have sex, so the ones who want will have to do on the floor, sum hide behind the bar tho  which is pretty obvious n fun.


Ive been to some very fun rooms with provocative names and had a fantastic time. I don't want people to think I'm judging. I'm kinda saying... if it says "COLDS OK" then I don't go in that room for obvious reasons.
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Posted 19 September 2017 - 07:30 AM

All your points are valid JessicaX. I too value quality over quantity. We have a diverse community with many different needs and desires. Therefore, I also value variety. 

 

Iā€™m of the belief to let the market forces decide.  I believe you are as well.

 

The room you raise in your discussion had a steady stream of people attend (45 to 75 while I was online).  If a room was not what was expected or desired... i.e. as advertised, music, atmosphere or room design, then Iā€™m sure the numbers will fade as with many rooms in the past.

 

Good first discussion  :)

 

Well if I chose a room name that was an actual room name, that was completely unintentional. I just threw something out there off the top of my head. 

 

I'm never one to focus on room numbers much. To me.. if I'm having fun, and the people are having fun and the music is good and people are digging it, then its a success. But... you certainly do NOT need those types of words and descriptors in your room name to get people into your room. We did the Girl Power event last night and we had nearly 80 people at one point. The room name was: GIRL POWER. Please don't take this the wrong way. I am just making the point that you don't need to have SEX, COLDS OK, NO CHAT... in your room name for people to show up.

There's so many things that contribute to large room numbers, but most of us have zero control over them. The only point i really trying to make above is that i think hosts should be more confident about what they are trying to achieve. if you have fantastic DJs... then use that as a selling point. is it a new room that looks like the game Candyland? (this would be awesome btw) then use that as a selling point. I would never try to come off in a way where I am trying to tell people what to do or how to spend their time in 3dx. That's none of my business. I'm only saying I have been planning, hosting, and attending parties here for nearly 3 years and I know what works and what doesn't.  

 

Using my example above, the descriptor room names will bring in "extra" people, but in most cases (nothing is 100%), it will be people who are not there for the music or social aspect. Not only that, it has a chance of pushing away some people who maybe WOULD be there for the music and social aspect, like myself. When I go to a party room, i want to listen to good music and have fun and chat. I don't want to deal with cold requests and bad pickup lines from people who don't know how to read profiles.

 

I have a room I open sometimes called "Lovers Lounge". Many of you come in when it's open. Its a very simple room and the music is all romantic, chill, & ballads. I never expect this room to get high numbers because it's more of a niche thing. I'm usually shocked if it reaches 20. Most spontaneous parties or room openings will not get many attendees. I do remember one night a long time ago that somehow we had over 50 people in there and it was about 2am EST on a Friday night. How did this happen? I have no idea and I doubt i will ever understand how this happened.  

 

There are a few things I know that will contribute to a good turnout. 

Themed Parties ...make it something special like a dress code, or a Halloween party for example. 

User Friendly Room ...If you need a gaming PC to keep from lagging... it will affect your attendance

Entertainment ...DJ's, Dancers, People... what kind of music? who's gonna be there? Whats gonna be happening? 

Date of Event ...Events held on weekends will usually have better turnout than ones during the week

Time of Event ...3DX users are from all over the world. Try to make it a time where all can attend

Don't Overkill ...Similar routine parties on a regular basis burns people out

RobPathfinder ...If you have have him, they will come.  (meant more as a joke, Love ya Rob)

 

I see people get so frustrated because they try to open a room and get discouraged because no one shows up. Well it takes time to become established here. My advise is to plan ahead. Ask other people in the community who can help. Delegate some work so you aren't trying to do it all. Make a forum post so everyone can see when it's happening and they can plan accordingly. Don't exclude people, Have a good poster. etc...   

 

The more effort that goes into the planning the more successful your event will be. It may not always be a home run, but a party doesn't need 50+ people to be successful. One of the best parties I ever attended was a spontaneous party in Torax and Lillianme's Unicorn room one evening. (sorry i don't remember the actual name). I think the most people at one time in the room was MAYBE 25... but the vibe was amazing. The music was awesome, everyone was having fun, the chat was very active, everyone was laughing, dancing, having a blast and I will never forget that night.  

 

Im sorry... i meant for this to be a quick reply to your post but I totally went on a rant there :)


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 11:45 AM

Hi Jessica, and thanks to share your thoughts!

 

The room you mentionned is Lalaland :)

 

I think the key for something succesful is that people finds in the room what they were looking for. It can be sex, it can be music, it can be friends, it can be an alive local.

 

What we try to do with Lilly is to have rooms which adapt to the people attending, as much as we can. We try to include any new joiner in the local conversation to avoid the feeling that some can have like "not to belong to the place" because of too much private jokes, or a totally silent local. I think this is even more important than the music played. I like people to interact with each others in the rooms, I like the idea that complete strangers can have fun chatting within seconds on local. The music and the room design becomes then more like "decoration" to add to the feeling.

 

We like to have welcoming rooms, we try to play entertaining music, but what we like the most is to have a great local chat!

 

Like usual I am not sure if I am clear or not :P


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 11:51 AM

what I like most when you DJ Torax is your singing.  its different, entertaining and fun.  you demonstrate you know the music by singing along at times and you're confident enough to do it even tho you have no talent.  You have a great style and your music selection is great.

 

Audience interaction is Important!


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 11:53 AM

what I like most Torax is your singing.  its different and entertaining.

 

I don t know if I want to report you for displaying such information or hug you as my only fan ahahaha I also like the wording "different", such a nice way to say I sing bad but people can laughs :)


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 12:08 PM

I don t know if I want to report you for displaying such information or hug you as my only fan ahahaha I also like the wording "different", such a nice way to say I sing bad but people can laughs :)

 

Thats the spirit. I remember when Chilles did sing in Fresco once cuz he was tipsy. It sounded funny and was hugh laugh and giggles. I think thats what the most important is

 

Thats entertainment!


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 12:24 PM

And that's why I consider myself more as an entertainer (some would say a clown) than a DJ :)


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 12:30 PM

And that's why I consider myself more as an entertainer (some would say a clown) than a DJ :)

 

People that say you're a clown are just jealous!


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 08:35 PM

People that say you're a clown are just jealous!


No... he really is a clown but i love it and so do lots of others and I would ask him to never change. :)
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Posted 23 September 2017 - 02:01 AM

OK....

 

So I have another issue I wanted to throw out there and discuss with you all. There's a chance some of this may ruffle some feathers but please remember, these are merely MY opinions and views on the matter.

 

Party Support

 

When I think about this term I think of it as a way for people to literally support others, whether its the DJs, room owner, or just other friends.

 

Lots and lots of time goes into the planning and execution of a successful party. The one thing that annoys me to no end is to spend 3 weeks planning a huge party and supporting all the DJs, then there's those 1 or 2 DJs that do the thing where they show up to your room 15 minutes before their set... they play the set, then promptly leave within 15 minutes after finishing. I think this is a very selfish act to everyone else that is involved with the party and I made the decision a long time ago to not support or include these types of people in my events.

 

Now there's also another side to this as in... I myself will generally support as many others as I possibly can. During the past few "The Event" series... i was in those rooms the entire event. Other people will also verify that I will usually reside in their room for the entirety of the event... even if I am not even part of the lineup. However... What gets upsetting is when I find myself supporting certain people over and over and then these very same people never step foot inside any of my rooms or events. (of if they do they come in for 15 minutes and then leave).

 

Now we all pay our own subscriptions, so I am not telling anyone how they should play or what rooms they should ever be in. I'm merely saying that I try to support everyone, and it's annoying when those same people don't support me or others. Again, it's no hard feelings. Everyone is free to do as they wish, but after a while of this happening regularly, I simply will make a decision to not support these people any longer. There's always a ton of parties/events going on. I will simply go to the ones with people who also support others. And when I choose a DJ lineup for my events, I choose to only work with people who I know will support me and others in the community.  

 

That's just MY take on it....   I would like to hear yours... Discuss


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 04:51 AM

You could be eliminating some of the best DJ's from your line-up with that policy.

 

You also could be setting yourself up for criticism, resentment and conflict finding yourself having to justify your decisions.

 

I'm not in the DJ fertility. So as an outsider looking in, I'm not sure moving in that direction would be wise unless you like drama and politics.

 

I do agree however, asking DJ's to support one another should be understood and agreed too.


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 05:15 AM

You could be eliminating some of the best DJ's from your line-up with that policy.

 

You also could be setting yourself up for criticism, resentment and conflict finding yourself having to justify your decisions.

 

I'm not in the DJ fertility. So as an outsider looking in, I'm not sure moving in that direction would be wise unless you like drama and politics.

 

I do agree however, asking DJ's to support one another should be understood and agreed too.

 

 

Well its really only a small handful that do this. I understand sometimes people need to run or they have a time slot that requires them to literally wake up and come in and spin. But when it's literally the same people that do this at every event... i would personally rather not work with them. I also am not worried in the slightest about eliminating the "best" Djs because the "best" DJs don't do this. The ones who are only after the fame and popularity do this.

 

If anything I think I like to promote a world where everyone helps each other and Djs all help to support one another (currently a major issue). Many DJs do support one another, however, there are some that are clearly only out for themselves, but people can change. Maybe they don't even realize that they do it or that it's even an issue. Maybe some people don't even care about all this.

 

Thanks for you input Matrix. :) 


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 01:31 PM

I think the biggest problem is the Wohooo People and Party Pretenders.

 

They are the crowd version of the DJ Pretenders that play other peoples stuff. The Wohoo People give a shit about who is playing what in reality or if its good or bad. Some arent even tuned in the stream. They just cheer so the DJ (wich is mostly their friend) feels good. The side effect of this is, that DJ's that need some kind of improvement will never learn to get better cuz everyone cheering at them, but noone gives a shit.

 

So you might think thoose are the people that support the playing DJ but they are not. They do the opposite of what I would call support and noone needs that. I get that one doesent want to be mean to friends that play stuff so they say its good eve tho they dislike it.

 

Be honest people. Have the balls to say: "Your mix sucks" even tho it is your friend. Of course you should tell that in PM and in a constructive and manner fashion but you get it.

 

Artificial Partycrowds can kill a party, cuz everyone else will think: "WTF they cheering at?"

 

 

The DJ Support.

 

Yep. I would love this for countless times. But it aint working. Of course people are selfish and just focus on their own gigs and that they have enough people in the room. Its a general problem with DJing not just here. I dont think you will ever be able to change that. I think its a good approach not to invite thoose that dont support you. But it wont change the core problem of most people beeing like this.

 

Especially here in 3DX. Lets face it. Lot of people aint care if you pushing it live or playing some downloaded mix. Fact.

Hence why we got so many DJ Pretenders here cuz they get away with this. This aint no DJ Game we know that by now. Yes theres good party and good DJs but who cares. I ve seen crowds cheering at a DJ that played a worse mix then you would hear when AutoDJ is enabled.

 

I rubbed my head and asked myself... What the hell are they cheering at? It sounds horrible... the song itself even sounded like a recording from an old tape...

 

So either there where alot of Party Pretenders (The Wohooo People) or they really have never heard good music before...

 

 

So yeah thats something you ll never change in this game. No matter if you re good or not. Someone will always have more Wohoo People then you. Does it make him/her better? Does it help improving? Does it indicate the room or music quality? I dont think so. But it is what it is.

 

I have stopped thinking about it or even bother with the said issues.I do music when I want to, and what I want to or play at a party when Invited but also go to partys that interest me (Either from the Room Astethics or the Music that plays there)


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 04:11 PM

I agree with what you're saying, Jess.
I always try to stay and support other DJ's when i am able to. But sadly I don't think this will change. šŸ˜ž

The "wohoo" ppl.. me being one of them - I don't understand what the issue is with this?
I will cheer and wohoo the DJ's who play the type of music that i like and i will wohoo my friends cause i am proud of them.
It's not a big deal to me if they're not perfect technically as long as they put on a good show and play good music.
The ppl who turn the stream off and woho - yeah, i agree with that. Thats kinda lame.
To me it's all about having a good time! Having a local that's alive and fun really helps.
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#35 Nikki

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Posted 23 September 2017 - 04:20 PM

I think the wohoo people I was aiming at, know who they are.

Nothing wrong with a cheering crowd if they mean it Lilli šŸ˜Š
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Posted 23 September 2017 - 04:36 PM

I think cheering is fine. If you go to any sport event, and supposing they are playing on the field, you will support them. Even if they lose, you will support them cos they are your friends and you want to help them. Once the game is over you can tell them they sucked big time but not while the game. I see it the same for DJ's, you won t yell on local woooooooooooooot you suck go home, your transition is fluffed, you will keep trying to motivate them, and in PM tell them what you really think.

 

I don't think the issue is while the party, the issue is before and after, people not saying what they really think to someone.

 

Concerning real dj or fake dj or whatever, my only concern is to be honest: you stream a full set from someone else, why not, but admit it, you are on automix, ok just admit it, stop pretending it's live.  Also I will always personally put first the choice of the music before the technical aspect when I listen to someone. I don't see the point to listen to something you don't like even if the technique is great. I will always have fun with music I like.

 

I think what irritate people the most is people pretending they are someone they aren't. If we all took it at the level it should be, meaning fun, it would be so easier.


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 05:15 PM

When i first came on the game (not the penis came), i met a few girls that were heavy into 3 somes and up had 7 online the day my friend and I met these two girls for a couples swap, lucky me 3 girls, personal messaged the seven girls it was an unmodified room one, no idea what the name of the room was but it was the first time 40 or more people were fucking everywhere. I had another friend come and take me out of there  >.< . 

I do not know when people started getting shy but shit when i first got here i got colded like a porn star in virgin territory. It was bad.. As for party supporters, it takes a lot for a DJ to expose the music they like to a crowd of avis (avieses?). In real life you can tell what to play just by looking at the crowd. I mean as shocking as it is, i am really not 99, i know i know, it is a lot to take in. So chances are other people may not be what they claim, then we got hecklers, people in alts going around the rooms telling DJs in private rooms to prove they are really DJing, that it is really their voice, that is really not butter and so on and so on. 

Best thing we can do root a new or existing DJ that rarely plays, not a fake cheer but a real one for having the balls, guts to get up there. And the room does 10 times better with nudity, and JessicaX, if you have her they will come.. (revenge for #22). (People actually believed that, not joking)


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 08:15 PM

Thanks for the replies. I really enjoy all the different views and input on these types of things because I feel like it can help me to evolve and broaden my own views and opinions. 

 

I don't think Nikki was coming off as to say it's bad to cheer for someone. I do it also. But I think it's also constructive to PM someone and say: "hey there... I think maybe you should check your gain/eq settings because the low frequencies are drowning out the rest of the track". Because of the sound system I use on my PC, i can very easily hear the difference between good and bad audio qualities. There are are a few DJs who clearly go out of their way to take sound quality very seriously. Xanar, Nikki, Chloe, Achilles, Ash, and Daria just to name a few. (Sorry if I left anyone out, I'm just quickly going off the top of my head.) The sound quality of SammyRay's streams are literally incredible.  I am not sure of what her output or format method is but she always produces the highest quality audio of anyone else I hear in 3dx.

 

Again, this is just my opinion, but to me, it would seem that anyone who wants to be labeled as a DJ and be taken seriously, would do what is in their power to have the highest quality audio that they can achieve. Yes I understand that not everyone has the kind of money that is needed to always stream licenced music, but anyone that is truly passionate about anything does not let cost become a barrier. Most people CAN hear a difference between licenced music and youtube rips.

 

I kinda got off subject there, but that was just something that was on my mind.

 

To touch on what Nikki spoke about technical aspects, I agree to some extent. I have never thought less of someone because of their technical skills. I respect people for being honest and trying to do their best. By saying this I mean... I have complete respect for honest DJs who attempt to mix live even if their transitions are not perfect. We all started somewhere and many of you even know that when I started live mixing, there were many transitions that were complete disasters. But we learn and get better. (Well some do).

 

To touch again on "Support" I don't necessarily mean cheering for a DJ. I mean simply being there in the room to listen to them. No one likes to spend all the time it takes to create a great set only to stream it to an empty room. I think ALL Djs in 3dx should help to support one another. If you see someone having a party, go in and support them, cause guess what... chances are likely that they will support you also when you host one. (well that's the optimal outcome but not always reality).

 

Maybe I am wrong but 3dx seems to have a current state of competition between groups and Djs and if anyone takes a step back and looks at it objectively, it's a very silly thing. We (The party crowd) are all in this together. What affects one of us usually affects all of us, even if its only in a small way. In the past I have tried to create an environment where everyone helps and supports one another, everyone is included, and no one is left out. The outside negativity of working together with all groups was more than any sane person could handle. So now i stick to being independent (tho always willing to help with and work with any person or group).

 

An important footnote to this is... My time in 3dx is limited. I must always be selective on how I spend that time. I am always more than happy and willing to support other people's events. But when I support, support, support... and then these same people avoid my events, then that causes me to rethink how I will be spending my time here.  


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 08:32 PM

"Maybe I am wrong but 3dx seems to have a current state of competition between groups and Djs"

 

Maybe it will sound surprising to you, but compared to what we both experienced more than a year ago, I find this part much more peaceful nowadays. Maybe because there is an explosion of Dj's and parties, but it feels like there is no more people willing to crush other and be the "best' group / DJ in 3 DX. I see a lot of parties and line up with dj's from different horizons and I appreciate it.


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Posted 23 September 2017 - 08:53 PM

"Maybe I am wrong but 3dx seems to have a current state of competition between groups and Djs"

 

Maybe it will sound surprising to you, but compared to what we both experienced more than a year ago, I find this part much more peaceful nowadays. Maybe because there is an explosion of Dj's and parties, but it feels like there is no more people willing to crush other and be the "best' group / DJ in 3 DX. I see a lot of parties and line up with dj's from different horizons and I appreciate it.

 

Thats because a certain group got what they wanted and now we have peace  :)


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