Role-Playing (RP) And Virtual Dating (Vating)
A lot of people can get off on just playing around with the different sex poses, however, I'm not one of these. I like to interact with people, chat and become virtual friends or lovers.
One of the main things to remember, when flirting and hunting for a virtual sex partner is respect and respect of each other’s boundaries.
Therefore, if I may, I would like to offer a few friendly pointers that may help make your experience more exciting while making love in our special virtual world.
A few facts:
While having sex in a virtual world you do not get the physical touch from your partner, so in order to enhance your experience you need to replace this with emotions and imagery and building a picture in the mind’s eye.
This is very similar to losing yourself in a good book. As you do so in a book, so you must do so and allow yourself to be lost in the role play or virtual date with your partner.
The virtual world is never going to offer you all the poses and positions you would like to try.
To achieve the desired effect you will have to "proxy" it, meaning you select the closest match and describe the rest or even move the pose on to a variant of what you want to do.
In difference to real life, where you are present at the actual act of having sex, having cybersex means you try to experience things through an avatar while sitting in front of your computer. Hence you need to care for your pleasure in real life while you provide sufficient stimuli for your partner through typing.
This can be quite difficult, but it can be done and once mastered is an addictive form of play.
There are two types of descriptive sex, as far as I am aware:
1. Where you describe your feelings and actions in real life, and
2. Where you describe the feelings and actions of your avatar or “toon” (cartoon)
I usually mix the two in order to provide as much stimuli to my partner as I can.
I use first person mostly, to put us both there in the action.
Third person takes you outside the actions to look in and I find that the stimuli then is not so effective.
I close my eyes, moving my lips to yours and kisses you. Open mouthed, my tongue pokes suggestively and I invade and claim your mouth. (You are there with me)
I close my eyes, moving my lips to hers and kisses her, Open mouthed, my tongue pokes suggestively and I invade and claim her mouth.
(You are outside looking in – this is not so effective in turning your partner on)
Some use actions or feelings that their avatar does proceeding with a "*" sign.
Example 1: *I move closer to you, rest my head on your shoulder, and sigh happily*.
Example 2: *My face twists in agony as you twist my nipples*
It’s a matter for yourself if you want to or not. As long as you describe your feelings and actions, the results can be very rewarding.
Use your senses in your descriptions - Describe what you see; touch; smell; taste and hear.
Dialogue is used with no proceeding signs, although exceptions may need to be made during role-play.
If a role-playing session has started and I'm started to get emerged in the story I find it helpful to simply put out of character dialogue within brackets to make it clear to my partner that it is not a thing my avatar is telling him/her.
Example: (give me a moment, I'll be right back)
Actions and feelings that I do in real life are within brackets: ( ).
Example 1: (Give me a moment while I undress).
Example 2: (I am going to masturbate for a while so I might not type for a bit).
Example 3: (Orgasm, fingers shaking, sticky, can't type... cleaning)
I find virtual sex to be a lot better, and easier, if I'm immersed in a role or virtual date.
I might decide with my partner beforehand on a story that we are playing out, we might decide upon the roles and a short background story.
We might even decide that we will have a virtual date as ourselves (That is my favourite scenario)
Some of the great sessions I've had have been quite elaborate and lasted for several 4 hour sessions (yes, roleplaying or virtual dating sessions can get quite long).
What I find makes virtual sex easier through roleplaying is that you have things to talk about, and things to describe, during sex if you play a role. I have often included, making drinks, eating food and have actually got to know my partners likes and dislikes and how many sugars they like in coffee doing so lol.
I've played a Master role as a boss, seducing his beautiful secretary.
I've played more elaborate roles as well, one with a cuckold couple looking for a bull male.
You do not have to create long background stories. Just having a scene, a role, and describing what you say or do goes a long way to achieve immersion.
Descriptive Roleplaying Sex:
It's very difficult to convey emotions and provide stimuli to a stranger.
What descriptive roleplaying gives you is immersion, which helps put a person in a certain mind set.
It is a lot easier to relate to a fictitious role than an actual person, and I believe it is because we base our fictitious roles on known concepts.
These concepts can help you with dialogue, can help you describe what you do, they can cause you to feel certain things you otherwise wouldn't feel, and they can give you a very powerful orgasm ( yes, strong orgasms can actually occur during cybersex and not just during real sex).
Secretary: *I knock on the door, carrying a full mug* Hello Sir? Your coffee is done and I have my note book ready for dictation.
Boss: Good, come on in *looks at you, a lovely woman, as you enter and offers you an interested grin*
Boss: *watches as you bend to place the mug on my desk, your breasts falling forward to offer a fantastic view of your cleavage.* Are you wearing a bra. Young lady?
Secretary: Uhm, No Sir I... *Blushes* I don’t wear them.
Boss: Is that so? *Grabs holds of your wrist so you stay in that bent over position. Takes my time to look boldly down your top, curious now to see if your nipples will harden under my lewd inspection.
Woman: *Blushes and breathless* Sir! You should really let me go.
... I think you get the picture. The rest of the story you can play out yourself …. maybe a one off encounter, maybe a girl being blackmailed into becoming a sex slave by her boss… maybe a secretary who’s addicted to her Boss’s cock… The world is your oyster.
These dialogues can continue into the sex act, or you could let your characters turn silent and just describe what you do, how you touch your partner, how you tease, etc. Or, you could mix dialogue with descriptions, whatever you feel comfortable with.
Pleasing yourself and your partner:
It is very important to me that I manage to please my partner as well as myself.
I never have cybersex unless I intend to actually get a real life climax.
So, when do you find the time to masturbate etc. while typing so much?
I suppose that's where the time aspect comes in. If you just want a quick orgasm you might as well watch porn.
I have trained myself to be a one handed typist. It's worth learning!
By the way, in these sessions – Baby wipes and a little oil can make the experience more interesting and less messy. Be prepared. Lol.
The whole point with cybersex is the build-up, or at least that's what I think.
During the whole build up, during the role play, you might like to masturbate slow or touch to tease yourself. Once you're into the act of having sex I'm sure you'll be so turned on that you only require a minute or two to reach climax. Tell your partner to keep going while you masturbate, we all love to know we turn each other on so. Be considerate to each other’s needs and wants.
Of course we men have the advantage of being able to please themselves without getting our hands too messy (until it's over that is – hence the baby wipes). Women might not be so lucky as fingers tend to get sticky and maybe a vibrator too if used.
Be respectful of each other and allow your partner enough time to reach climax before swapping poses or leaving.
After all, cybersex is supposed to be a pleasurable experience for both.
We are chained only by our limits of imagination, free it and it will take you to some marvellous experiences.