I have read through this post a few times now and watch what is being said and noted peoples views on it.
I understand the purpose of the post and it's original intentions and have seen Roman remove wisely some things from that original post.
There has been a lot of talk about being open minded towards the issue of people playing a different gender to their own and to a certain point I do agree with that.
The issue I have always had with it is that the people doing it do not seem to accept what it does for others in the game.
I myself do not do relationships, I do not look for someone to possibly meet in real life and do not expect to fall in love with anyone in there.
I just go in and stick with my friends mostly and try to make the most of things and have been doing that on and off for almost 3 years.
The things I tried to point out I have many times before in this forum and find that the same arguments against recognising other issues around it keep getting raised each time it appears in the forum.
For me even though I do not do relationships, I do not look for love and have never really been directly effected by it, it still does create problems for me in the game.
Also I see far to often problems especially with new players where those problems are only there because of it.
That is mainly where the dis trust I mentioned comes into it, new players who will often ask any one with a female avi to prove they are female.
Now that may be fine and easy for guys who have female avis to take, although I have seen where even lots of them get pissed off when asked.
But for me as a female in real life it is a piss off every time I get asked and each time I do I think if I have to put up with it so all these guys can play the game as females.
Most of the guys who play females, although they mostly seem to choose to say in their profiles their interests are both female and males, will not even answer pms from guys trying to meet them.
I have had so many new players tell me I have been the 1st girl that would actually answer their pm, that had been in the game for days and sent so many pms that weren't answered.
There has been far to many times where I have seen people I had become good friends with get together with someone I was about as certain as you can be in here was not a female playing a female in the game.
What are we meant to do in that case, you know if your friend finds out then they will be hurt and pissed off so you keep it to yourself.
But you have to watch it progress and just hope things will go ok, and also you have to deal with the guilt of not saying anything and feel like you are doing the wrong thing by your friend.
Then there are the ones you know that I will just say pray on new players, you see them hanging around public rooms waiting for new players to come in and they very much pounce on them.
You know what their caper is, you know how they go about things and you know that it will most likely result in the new player getting played and upset.
But you can't say anything, you can't do anything and to me that does get frustrating some times.
I have seen to many good people, people who have done a lot for the game and others who just did not deserve it get fucked over by a guy going to far playing as a female.
And I say a guy playing as a female because I have never seen any trouble where it has been a girl playing as a guy, likely it has happened but I have not seen it.
You say to make things easier for you in this game you need to be understanding and open minded towards these guys that do this, and I am talking about the ones that do not make it obvious they are guys.
For me as a young female in the game, I feel I also have had to learn to be at least a little cold and uncaring and that does bother me.
It has been mentioned in here that both sides of the issue has been revealed to you, as you have played both male and female avis.
That does not give you any sight into what it is like to be an actual female playing a female in the game, it only gives you what it is like to be a male playing a female.
We females have to put up with the dis trust, the doubt, the question mark over heads as to are we really female or not the same as you do, and we have done nothing to deserve it.
I would just like you to think for a minute on what that means, what it means for us females to be accused of being a guy and to have to put up with the doubt.
What it means for us who do not participate in this gender swapping thing to try to be welcoming to new players.
If we try to warn them about the fact that the majority of females in there are not females at all, often the 1st thing they want is proof that we are genuine females.
When ever these posts come up it is always us being asked to be things like open minded and understanding.
I am and have always been open minded and understanding of the issues around it and the different reasons people like to do it.
I have friends that are lesbians, transsexuals and also others that are heterosexuals playing as females.
What I see to often in these posts is people not understanding the problems it causes for others, what we are forced to tolerate to play in 3DXChat, so you can play as females.