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Alright, I have to admit I like it when topics tend to go controversial... there's always two sides on each fence and everyone should technically be respectful to anyone standing on the other side.
This is another case of 2 obvious groups of opinions... one being the understanding group, those that know it isn't all that easy to socialize within 3DX because of all the suspicions and problems that go around, and try to break the chain by interacting with the new guy/girl. The other group being exactly that; suspicious and closed off. I can't blame anyone in any of the groups because both are founded on the general impact the game can have on one's personality.
When I first started reading the OP's post, I felt somewhat compassionate about it. It isn't that easy to talk with people and some people will just plainly ignore you with or without reason (both using the in-game function or just closing your PM). It's something you get to deal with in every similar game (aChat, IMVU, MNFClub, Thrixxx, etc...). Whether we want it or not, we get affected by the things that happen inside the game and they are usually the building stones we use to put up this wall so that next time, people wouldn't get that much of an impact.
I continued reading the posts made by others and the OP's response to them... and although I understand the frustration, I still think that responding in a way that he/she (OP) did... Is not going to help his/her cause.
See, you can't research a game like this in a short amount of time. To research this game, you have to understand the people that are playing it, the community and how it is divided in groups. You have to place yourself in one of the groups and work your way to getting to know likeminded people. If you're a roleplayer, choosing to be a vampire or succubus or whatever, you can't expect EVERYONE to be on board with what you want to do in the game... you'll encounter people who aren't open for it. Just move on towards the next person...
In time, and sometimes it does take a lot of time, you'll find someone or even a group of people that you click with... And from that point, you can actually begin to enjoy the game.
Heh, the funny part of it all... if you stick around long enough... you'll eventually become suspicious about new players as well... it's what happens. I too am suspicious about new players, I tend to talk to them and give them advise if they ask for it, but it's not the same as how I talked to people when I first started out...
If you look in the signature part of my posts, you'll find a link to a post that generally applies to everyone here. An etiquette on how to approach people and what to keep in mind, I think Epi should get a lot more credit for that post, because it does apply in 3DX. Anyway, when you feel you can follow those simple tips, try to apply them when playing 3DX and I'm sure you'll generally get more luck meeting people... they won't always be the people you're looking for, but it does give you a higher chance.
Obviously that post doesn't cover the suspiciousness of people playing 3DX. It's not only the male player that suffers from all of that. It's pretty simple to sum up:
Male players: Are generally looked at as "perverts" and the ones that most likely end up colding people. They are both the majority of the population and the rarest. With that I mean that most players are male, yet most play a female avatar... which causes most females to be less responsive to male players... for obvious reasons. There is this general idea that most men are here for a "quick fix"... which isn't always right, but the thought still remains... so people tend to be more careful.
Female players: While there is an abundance of female avatars around, that doesn't entirely mean they are all female. Any seasoned 3DX player understands that, and thus have suspicions whether or not the female avatar they are speaking to is in fact male or not. It causes a lot of female players to get ignored. Because they play a female avatar, they are still more likely to be talked to, which is the core reason why most men opt to play a female character in the first place.
Long story short, both "genders" suffer from suspiciousness in other players. Yet, in time, you'll manage to find people and gain their trust. It's up to you to make sure their trust isn't misplaced, causing the above to grow even more.
As with most of my posts, due to typing essays, I tend to lose the core reason I had to start my comment... BUT!
If you invest time and effort, hold true to the easy etiquette that can be found in Epi's post and respond in a friendly and understanding matter... You'll find that it will get easier eventually.
To scream about how the community is wrong and f*cked up is a bad idea, because most of these people have had their fair share of issues and problems that caused them to be who they are today (inside 3DX)... To say it's wrong is to show a lack of respect to what they had to go through.
A general tip I tend to give people: Approach someone with the intend to get to know them... not with the intend to "do" them.
With that, I wish you the best of luck in future undertakings, whether it is within 3DX or some other game. And please... try to respond in a more friendly manner and you might find yourself some people that are more open to help you.