real life effects

[Vayen]

Like that story Vayen ... pretty much what I've been experiencing, too. You arrive here, thinking it's "only a game", play for some time and begin to literally "feel" the game.

 

You make and meet friends, eventually, no matter if you want it to happen or not, you fall in love with someone. You get hurt, you hurt ... you are sad. Until you meet someone who brightens up your day again ... and all that from a "game only"

 

Occasionally, like now with me, it's also good thing to take a little break from game, because it can get "too real" as well

Oh yes Darren, you are absolutely right, most of the time it is 'too real', but it makes me happy you know, to be in an another world, to have fun, to dance, have friends, have sex.

I know what you mean, sure, there is a danger, but I also realize that when I push 'Exit Game' I'm back in reality.

[chloe]

Oh yes Darren, you are absolutely right, most of the time it is 'too real', but it makes me happy you know, to be in an another world, to have fun, to dance, have friends, have sex.

I know what you mean, sure, there is a danger, but I also realize that when I push 'Exit Game' I'm back in reality.

 

 

You can loose yourself in reality too. Both worlds are not that different at all. For example the RL is full of fakes too  

[Athena Starfire]

I RAGE AGAINST REALITY when I have to leave 3DX...back to the real world with all its drama

[ChiK73]

This topic could reveal my entire life story, at least the virtual one. I started using the virtual sexual world do to a very unfulfilling sex life with my husband, but I never considered this to be cheating, and I always tried to make it a point that I was doing this for fun, and not intending any commitments or relationships. Still, I somehow manage to find people who want to be more than just NSA sex, and try to push themselves onto me. Virtual sex allows me to try secret and extreme fantasies that I dare not try in the real world, but the only relationships I seek to be involved in, are those of good friends. My aol chat rooms, imvu, and 3DX life are completely separate from my real life.

[Athena Starfire]

I have better orgasms (Yes..I masturbate most the time in RL while in 3DX...so shoot me)  in 3DX than in real life because of the lack of drama and the zero chance of disease. No "When will I see you again", "I saw you with another girl and it hurt". Its better than lesbian porn because you are having interaction with the person you having virtual sex with. I have my favourite girls that turn me on big time. They are just avatars but I still have a connection. If I knew them in RL it would probably feel a real different feeling in 3DX, it would not be as enjoyable.

 

So yes, it does effect my real life, I like 3DX much better than reality. Reality has war, terrorism, asinine people threatening nuclear war, asshole men always bothering you (In 3DX I can make them go away forever).

 

<3 3DX..

[DarrenD]

Many months have passed now since I posted this and I thought I should give a little update on the status quo.

 

First of all, the game has influenced my "real" life in many ways, the most important certainly my partner and me talking about our sex life much more than before. And I can say that it not only ended with talking, our sex life has improved since 3dx served as a trigger for all that (and those wonderful responses I got to my OP) and that alone is a very very good thing.

 

I can only recommend this to others as well, talk to your partners about you playing 3dxchat (and alike). If you really care for each other, chances are high that this will make things better for your relationship.

 

Other than that, in terms of real life effects, I did some pretty funny things out-of-game with people I met in game. Sometimes not very beneficial to my work productivity, but hey, you only life once

 

Right now, for many reasons, I'm less active in game, and instead cultivate my old tumblr passion, doing mostly text based role plays there (yes, that can be a hell of fun, too!!)

[chloe]

Funny that this pops up again after such a long time

 

The internet never forget ^^ 

[DarrenD]

I hope I won't be grilled for reviving this my first and oldest thread, but, for some reasons I thought I wanted to make my voice heard again

 

First a friendly hello after a longer time away, but ... I have been busy elsewhere.

 

The reason I'm back here in the forum is because many of the things that have happened in the last couple of months started with 3dx, and in particular with this thread.

 

In the past couple of months I have been operating a fetish blog, that has gained a significant audience (no worries, no advertisement ahead lol) and that has proven to be a hell lot of fun.

 

And all of this has started here.

 

3dx allowed me to untie my sexuality, much more than I had ever imagined. What had started as a nice way do distract myself and to relieve some of the "sexual pressure" that builds up in long term relationships, has allowed me to stand up and reclaim my sexuality, to open up to my long hidden fetishes and desires and find me not being alone with them

 

I learned to express them in words, much based on the things I have "learned" here in 3dx, when interacting with people.

 

And I learned to talk to my real life partner about all this, about 3dx and eventually also about my blog. LilCal's advice to talk to my partner has been the best advice in a long time.

 

At the bottom line I have somehow changed from being passive to active, from passively watching porn to much more embracing my sexuality.

 

Real real life effects.

 

Just wanted to share that - have fun all you naughty pervs!!!