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#41 Wildesires



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Posted 21 February 2017 - 09:15 PM

Thank you Epi for this great guide though I am sure some won't read knowing this from other worlds but thats the way it is. I always try to return anyone's greetings unless I am other wise predisposed.

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Posted 21 February 2017 - 10:47 PM

Awsome ! Just EX-CE-LLENT !

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Posted 14 July 2017 - 06:14 PM

Sorry to post on this, but I think one of the best things a newbie - or anybody - can do when chatting to people for the first time is to ask open questions. For example: So you started a conversation with "hi" and "how are you?" but somebody can respond "fine thank you" and the conversation is closed. Try "tell me about your day" as now they are made to think and talk. So the following is from an article on how small talk can help your career - well you have to entertain clients right?


Copied and pasted from the article "Save Yourself From Tedious Smalltalk" by Sue Shellenbarger of the Wall Street Journal. It's from the Work/Life section so it has a focus on careers and networking.


Sorry if these are a bit silly, but you get the idea:


How you answer at the start of a conversation could make the difference between something boring and something deeper.

OPENER: “I just moved here two months ago.” 
 “I’ve been here 10 years.” 
BETTER: “What has it been like getting used to a new city?”


OPENER: “I found the speaker so fascinating.” 
BETTER: “Tell me more about what caught your attention.”


OPENER: “I’m starting a new company.” 
SMALL TALK REPLY: “I work for XYZ Company.” 
BETTER: “What kind of people are you looking for to help you make a go of it?”


OPENER: “This hot weather is killing me.” 
SMALL TALK REPLY: “Me too, I can’t wait until it cools off.” 
BETTER: “Do you think the weather affects people’s moods or job performance?”


also: "Many people who rely on small talk don’t realize they lack critical conversational skills "


and finally: "Such skills also make you happier. People who have more substantive conversations with others report a greater sense of well-being than those who engage in small talk, according to research led by Matthias Mehl, a psychology professor at the University of Arizona. "


So there! Get doing it!

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#44 DireTeddyBear


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Posted 08 November 2017 - 05:28 AM

Good info, wish I'd seen this a week ago. LOL


The one that caught me is that if you ask someone to dance, they assume you mean a slow dance. If you don't mean a slow dance, make it clear in the request.


I did not get many responses when asking ladies to dance until someone told me about this.


I felt like kind of a schmuck.

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#45 chaostika


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Posted 08 November 2017 - 09:58 AM



Good info, wish I'd seen this a week ago. LOL

 #reporting :o #tofinally B) #maybe :unsure: #eventually :blink:... get this userguide as already so many pointed out... to:



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Posted 08 November 2017 - 06:15 PM

She’s kinda wise and lovely that Epi person...should listen to her I finks :D
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Posted 11 November 2017 - 03:52 PM


She’s kinda wise and lovely that Epi person...should listen to her I finks


I agree wholeheartedly! tehehehe.

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Posted 11 November 2017 - 03:53 PM

I had planned to re-visit and add too, or maybe make one based on Mistressing and such.... maybe if people are interested...

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Posted 17 November 2017 - 02:30 PM

Thank you very much for your  beginners guide. I could have used it before I signed on.


Thumbs up.

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Posted 23 November 2017 - 06:01 PM

Outstanding guide Epi !  B)

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#51 JimStevens



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Posted 01 December 2017 - 12:27 AM

Thanks for posting your incredible guide Epi...


Like so many Newbies before me, I was making so many mistakes.


I'm disappointed the dev's didn't write a guide, but yours was both a informative tool and a delightful read...


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Posted 04 March 2018 - 07:00 AM

Thanks Epi.  

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