Fairly new member here, but figured it couldn't hurt to have my presence known in the forums as well. This is intentionally lengthy, but frankly, i know those who are interested will enjoy reading it
3DxChat, despite it's notable shortcomings, is truly a fine game to me, easily one of the adult social/sexual sims out there. During my time here, I have learned a lot about what I want and come to treasure. When I first joined, I truly had no idea what to expect, thinking it was mostly just a sexual rompfest with little connection but at least a good time sharing pleasures with like-minded strangers.
However, in short time I was happy to find I was quite wrong about the community, and can honestly say I've met some of the loveliest, most like-minded people here of my life. This is a place with real people and real feelings, and it's an amazing thing to see. Thank you 3DxChat for that and I hope to remain a member for quite some time!
So while the game can certainly be fun for its intended for, and a good RP of just about anything can be fun with good engaging description, what I'm excited and looking forward to find here is truly find my intended dream relationship. And in an odd way, I actually believe that a social sim like this is the best way to go about finding the 'perfect' relationship because one gets to explore another starting from their mind and soul, from the inside out, with little of normal social barriers we'd have to deal with IRL. Which is really kind of the 'most right' way to go about it, right?
That being said, a verbal 'painting' of who I am and my passions and interests:
I am an full-time artist with a knack for game designing. During work I spend most of my time creating illustrations and models for entertainment products, and I truly love my job. I've been an artist all my life, but aside from that as a career, the past decade or so I've become fascinated with spirituality, philosophy, and just much more contemplative 'meta-life' topics. Throughout this journey, I've come to learn so much about myself, who I am, and what life is all about. The kind of relationship I would most enjoy would be partner(s) who understand the importance of this type of self-contemplation about life/existence/the self, and so on, and perhaps resonate with at least aspects of teachers like Eckart Tolle, Abraham Hicks, Alan Watts, or Bentinho Massaro, as just a handful of names to give you a sense. While on a daily basis I actually rarely bring up these characters or the topics they discuss to immediate social groups like work, I must say that they actually form the basis of who I am and seep into everything I do and how I see everything in subtle but profound ways. And again, I believe anybody who is even interested enough to have read this far might know precisely what I am talking about, and would probably immediately know the kind of resonance we'd have
As a person, I can be anywhere from fun/goofy and center of attention, to more calm and contemplative, happily taking a backseat and enjoy the unfolding of all things. My lifestyle is pretty chill and laid-back, and as far as I'm concerned, when I come home to my partner(s), it's all about sharing love and feeding joy to one another. Life to me is not a chase to the finish line, but simply an adventure to be enjoyed and cherished day to day, moment to moment. Self-Clarity, positivity, intimacy, honesty, and caring are all pinnacles of truly great relationships to me, and I feel that it is the honoring of these qualities within oneself first and foremost that will truly garner a chance to love another in that unconditional way that everyone truly seeks. But if one does not understand how to love oneself, then I have seen that sadly it is rare they can 'sustainably' love another. If you are one to understand this deeper truth, then again, we are probably well on our way to something remarkably special.
As far as relationship arrangements go, the title is meant to be stated as such. During my time here, as well as simply life experience, I have come to see that many different people truly want many different things, and the 'social norm' of a relationship is in fact, quite illusory especially in modern times. And even many who follow the social norm do not seem at all 'happy' by my definition. To me, life is absolutely about going for what is deepest and most precious to you, and to be fearless enough to expect it. What I want is a meaningful relationship connected from heart and soul, and it really isn't about 'number' of partners. I am perfectly happy with one woman so long as everything I've said bares some resonance to her, and knows the kind of love, loyalty, and commitment that I'm speaking of. If any woman finds this striking true, then know, my dear, that our love would be upheld, honored, and remained loyal to truly no ends. The notion of drama, cheating, pain, or any of those 'socially expected troubles' would be highly diminished if not completely gone. We'd be playing on a completely different level and you know the kind of level I'm talking about.
That being said, it does seem that a very large number of females in-game show a desire for both men and women. As a long-term relationship, I would enjoy this prospect if, and ONLY if, both women truly delight in the presence of me and each other, and have 'gone well past' the egoic phase of jealousy for attention or any of that. I am a 100% straight male and as such simply do not delight in sharing sexual experiences with another male, and would never, ever refrain any of my partners from doing so. Life is about respecting each and everybody's freedom of choice in the moment, and I intend to do just that. However, I will state that I am a naturally 'loyal' person and do not wish to seek multiple partners or one-night flings. It would be splendid if my partner(s) shared similar desires, and the very idea of an exclusive relationship must be exciting. The most erotic sexual experiences to me are always the result of strong bonds and deep chemistry. Any form of roleplay would simply be a very exciting and delicious cherry on top
Lastly, in terms of the big picture, yes, of course the dream would be to find a relationship that resonates so strongly here that it would feel sensible to take to real life contact, but please note I would never ever expect it or push against the partner(s) will. The only practical aspect of mentioning this is that my time is limited, and I have already met some very wonderful friends in-game that I tend to spend time with. So when it comes right down to it, the 'strongest relationships' will inevitably be the ones that lead us closer and closer to the 'real' thing and thusly warrant most of my time and attention
So if you've read this far, dear reader, then I hope you are as excited to meet and make an acquaintance as I am. Just respond and I'm sure we'll meet up in game. Until then, go out, have fun, and I wish you the best of luck in living out your dreams to your hearts content!