2 months in 3DX: Richards Impression

[RichardCypher]

Being here for about 2 months now, I just would like to share some impressions and thoughts about 3dx and my experiences, the beautiful ones and the weird ones.

 

First of all: I like 3dx and I like to be here, there are a lot of wonderful people here I love to spend my time with, and who enrich this place with their being here.

 

I am more into descriptive playing, loving the thrill of first talking and teasing before getting into action, using the pm chat to describe either details of my actions or actions which are not covered by the poses. Even though I am a native German speaker, all my adventures have been in English so far. Additionally I don’t want to be rude and I am not turned on by rudeness or name-calling. I had some adventures with silent pose-swapping or rude actions in the beginning, until I started to ignore colds and check profiles for information about sexual preferences. If I don’t find something, but the profile looks attracting for me, I tend to ask the girl first about that.

 

Don’t misunderstand me, I do not judge any sexual preference in any way, I just experienced here that some of those don’t turn me on.

 

By reading a lot of profiles (I found lots of interesting and beautiful profiles here) I stumbled upon lots of profiles telling not to cold or hug them in an almost aggressive way. Wondering this first, I started to look around in the different rooms, and started to understand why, as a lot of guys just walked around, hugging every girl they could get hold of. Other guys showed behaviors coming really close to stalking, penetrating and trailing girls in an extremely obtrusive way.

And I experienced some weird types of drama and jealousy (‘You had sex with someone else’ – I always thought that is the reason for us all to be in 3dx, to have sex).

 

And finally I had some weird adventures with girls poofing away in the middle, maybe they had no time, maybe they expected something different, maybe for other reasons, leaving me with a moment of confusion.

 

Why am I telling that? One of the most important values for me is being respectful. We are different people with different expectations inside 3dx. Some are looking for fun away from RL, some may look for relations in 3dx, and some look for relations which can be ported to RL. We may have different sexual preferences, be more or less talkative, and so on. It would be so easy to clarify that first, and if our preferences don’t fit, we respectful go our ways. Even if we find out in the middle of something, that this is not what we expected, to just tell this to the other person and stop it.

 

As many people write in their profiles, 3dx is for having fun; sometimes it just seems you have to have a thick skin to keep the fun….

 

So far for the weird things, coming to the beautiful side of 3dx…

 

The place I like being most is Malvasia’s Garden of Eden Bordello. Malvasia, this room is wonderful, thank you so much for hosting this place. And there are so wonderful girls I love to spend my time with, enjoying their company, their personality and of course the sex. Celia, Jazz, Leith, Clare, you are gorgeous! Thank you for the wonderful times at the Garden.

From some other posts I know that some of you may be puzzled that girls demand gifts for sex, I have a different look: first of all, this is a role-play as many others as well; second: I spend some time with a wonderful girl, so why not gifting her (in RL I would as well take flowers to a rendezvous J). I spent more money in my live for far more useless things…

 

For dancing and hearing music I love to be in the Sin Club or rather in the Angels of Desire Rock Club. My compliment to all the DJs there, and thank you for the great music.

 

There’s a lot of rooms with names like “No chat, only sex”. I have to admit being there quite often, even though I don’t cold and I don’t respond to colds. Those place are fun though, reading profiles and watching, and I met a lot of interesting people there I would not have expected to find there.

 

So for me the last two months have been interesting and all in all very beautiful, even though there was a phase with all those weird experiences that confused me a little bit.

 

To all the people in 3dx I have met or I don’t have met yet: thank you for your being, give respectful contact a chance, keep up the fun and hopefully see you soon J.

[Malvasiah]

Thanks a lot for your words about the Garden of Eden, Richard!

It has always been my goal to create something that was fun and friendly for both the girls and the visitors. What you say tells me that I might be on the right track! :-)

[RichardCypher]

Thanks a lot for your words about the Garden of Eden, Richard!

It has always been my goal to create something that was fun and friendly for both the girls and the visitors. What you say tells me that I might be on the right track! :-)

Yes, Malvasia, you definitely are :-)

[CeliaWhite]

Thanks a lot Richard   You are a very nice boy, and all girls and me are very happy when you come to the club.

 

 

Kisses

[RichardCypher]

Thanks a lot Richard   You are a very nice boy, and all girls and me are very happy when you come to the club.

 

 

Kisses

Thank you Celia, I am so comfortable with you and the other Girls, such a awesome combination of personality, sweetness and sex.

[RichardCypher]

Due to the positive resonance I'm going to update this frequently by new Impressions.

 

Today: a note for the guys...

 

There are some rooms in 3DX which are opened by a girl, where she and her friends enjoy music, chat and have fun.

Yesterday I entered such a room; as the music was good, and there was a friendly 'Hi' to me, I decided to stay, dance and chat a bit with the girls. Looking at the profiles just indicated they are either not at all or rather less into men, but that was not important, as I just wanted to dance and chat a bit, as the girls were really nice.

 

So we had much fun, and the room host and me had some really funny screwball jokes (with some not so funny background about many boys scaring the girls inside here by their pushy behavior), when she pm'ed me telling me, that up to now she only knew 2 guys being nice, one of them being me. Nevertheless she hesitated to add me as a friend, as some other guys turned out to be pushy afterwards.

 

I am glad that she added me as a friend, being one of those awesome people here, who make the difference why I like being here. And, just to clarify, that had nothing to do with sex, as we didn't have sex (although I have to admit, her personality really turned me on...).

 

I won't refer to any name, I guess, if she reads this, she will know. And if she reads: You are beautiful, and I don't talk about your avatar but about your mind!

 

But coming back to the topic: I was really surprised about the behavior of many guys inside here, obviously thinking, with their presence here they acquire a title of sex with every girl. profiles are rather not read, if yes, and a profile indicates 'pm me first', the girls might get a 'Hi', followed by a partner request.

 

Please guys, before you scare all girls off, some proposals:

• If you want fast and immediate sex, please go to rooms indicating that (No chat, just sex)
• Check profiles there, you might get a hint about the sexual orientation of the girl
• If the profile indicates 'pm me first', please do so, and find a sentence a little bit more sophisticated than 'Mmmh, you're sexy...'
• Outside of these rooms, if you try to cold a girl, I guess you chances are close to zero, so you can as well save the energy...

For the girls this is sometimes like running the gauntlet, being bombarded with colds, hugs and pm's like 'Hi'....

 

Newbie support

 

Today I was pm'ed by a girl, her attention called by my name (yes, those who like the same books like me, know the origin of my name  ). We  had a chat about different books and after a while she told me that she is quite new here. And obviously it is not so easy to gather all information about how to handle this game, and what is going on here.

So maybe it could be helpful to install some voluntary newbie mentors, giving some assistance or hints to them, so they can adapt more easily into this world. What do you think about this?.

 

Richard

[Xanar]

I'm glad you enjoy the AoD - Angels of Desire Rockclub

 

I wish you all the best on your way through 3DX \m/

[RichardCypher]

Richards Impression continued

 

Friends and Love

I started to clean up my friends list, as I found some names on it I could not determine, how this friendship arose, who that friend was, and when I saw him/her last.

So I started to think about my personal ‘social relationship pyramid’, and I just want to share this with you.

 

My social relationship pyramid

Level 0: love

The lowest level on this pyramid is love. That might sound weird to you, so I will detail this starting with the question (how many songs did as well?): What is love?

Some people think of love like of a thing or object: it is limited or even short, so those who want to receive their love have to fulfil their conditions or expectations. And as love seems to be short for them, they try not to ‘waste’ their love.

Some people think of love like some sort of concept. They want to have a proof of love by the others. You can identify them easily, as they often say: ‘If you loved me, you would…..’

The funny thing regarding love is that you cannot feel the love of the other people. Your love is the only one you can feel. So if you want to feel love, just love someone. And as I am some sort of love junkie, I love everyone. Yes, everyone without any condition.

That might sound altruistic or absurd; in fact this is pure egoism. I am aiming for a lucky life, and looking at everyone and everything with an attitude of love makes my life brighter and more beautiful. Hence I love everyone, and I have to admit that I rather prefer to love some people from the distance J.

So if you meet me in 3DX, you can be sure that I love you.

 

Level 1: Like

Besides the fact that I love all people, there are some people out of them all that I like. That means, I enjoy being with them, exchanging ideas, chatting, sharing the same values.

If I meet someone I like in 3DX, I say ‘Hi’ to him / her and maybe have a little chat.

 

Level 2: Friend

Out of all the people I like, there will be some that will become my friends. The difference is that a friend will get my absolute loyalty. I always take care of them. He / she will get to know the fragile and sensitive parts of my personality, as I will trust him / her absolutely. I love to see my friends frequently, as they inspire me.

In 3DX that means that when a friend is online, I will always contact him / her for a pm chat. And if he / she is busy at the moment, a small conversation like that should be no problem:

 

RichardCypher: Hi XXXXX, nice to find you online J

XXXXX: Hi Richard, just talking with a nice guy, could result more out of this…

RichardCypher: np, we chat later. Have fun, dear J

XXXXX: thanks, hun J

 

Jealousy, tenures, stalking is something which I don’t want to experience in 3DX. I am not here for a monogamic relationship, and I don’t expect that of my friends.

 

Level 3: Number one

At the top of my social contacts pyramid there will always be my number one, the one and only. But this is what I definitely do not search in 3DX.

 

So I started to look over my friends list, keeping this pyramid in mind. And I identified 3 of them, I can really call my friends, as I know they fit to the criteria; maybe 2 or 3, where I am not quite sure, but I’d like to give a try.

 

[RichardCypher]

Richards Impression continued

 

Friends, Sex and Gifts

 

Every day I am in 3DX I gather new insights into me, my sexuality and my System of values, this is why I love being here so much. Starting here in search of a platform to explore my sexuality, things are shifting towards a social platform with a higher sexual share than real life, which brings up always the aspects of having friends, having sex and having sex with friends.

 

As I pointed out in a previous contribution, having sex with someone does not make that woman a friend, and vice versa having a woman as friend does not mean automatically having sex with her. But there is an intersection of having sex with friends, and combining friends and sex is at least for me quite an unknown undertaking, due to the fact that in real life I never experienced this. From my social environment, sexuality has been always seen as a part of a partnership (or even doing it with complete strangers).

 

I even have friends working at Malvasia's Garden of Eden, I meet them as 'Client' there, they receive a gift (or even two), and we have fun together. And nevertheless, there is a friendship behind, I just refer to my last post, what the means to me. And as well in reference to my first post, I don't see the gifts as 'paying' them, but more like something I take with me to a Rendezvous, like flowers or chocolate.

 

This was how I looked upon gifts, seeing something like a small present, until one morning, when I logged in to 3DX, I found 2 gifts from a friend, just giving me some appreciation regarding our friendship. Even though this was 'just' gifts, the thoughts behind these gifts were completely different from what I saw in gifts so far. And those gifts showed me she was just thinking of me and she cherishes our friendship. This was such an overwhelming moment, which made me think as well about all my friends, how much I appreciate them being in 3DX and being my friends, and that I wanted to tell them as well.

 

So I just sent out a gift to all my friends as a sign, how much I value our friendship, and that they are in my thoughts. 3DX is still a platform, where I can experience my sexuality, but it is as well a social platform, and it would be nothing without my friends there.

 

And to all my friends (yes, it is everyone on my 3DX friends list): Thank you for being here, you make 3DX gorgeous and incredibly exciting, and even the gifts I sent can not express that approximately.

[RichardCypher]

Richards Impression continued

 

What am I supposed to do here?

 

Another month has passed by, still finding me here in 3dx, bringing up several questions, a simple one regarding the title of my diary which is now dfinitely wrong  , and a more complex one, what I am supposed to do here.

Anyone might ask: Why do you spend your spare time in a sex chat game, which might be at best a weak surrogate of sex and conversation in real life, so what are you doing here?. And I don't have a quick answer to that, like „I'm here because....“. So I'n trying to find out, sharing my thoughts with you, as well hoping I will find a clear answer.

3dx is a sex chat game, so the first answer would be: „I'm here for sex, for chat and for sex chat“, the only combinations which can be built out of the words. But is that the answer?

 

Let's start with the sex topic. I still enjoy having sex here in 3dx, although the 3 months made me quite picky, as I experienced the 3 last months a lot about my sexual preferences. For me, sex in 3dx is like an erotic story, created on the fly by 2 (or 3) partners. Feeling the sexual tension arise and writing it down, kissing and cuddling, foreplaying, and letting the fantasy flow about actions not covered by the poses, having time for chilling down afterwards, this is what turns me on, making sex here unique, even if it is virtual. The poses are a nice visual support, but they are too few (and no matter how many poses we will get, this will always be too few) to really turn me on.

Many people say, men think with their penis, that might be right, as I need my brain for the sex here

 

And regarding sex in 3dx, Malvasia's Garden of Eden is still the location for me, where exactly this can be found. I met a lot of wonderful girls there, having much pleasure with them.

And there is one girl outstanding: Jazz (JazzAhDee). She is smart, sweet and pure sex, and being with her always leads to creating exceptional erotic adventures and moments like paradise. If Jazz is there, there is no other choice for me, and every time it is unique and special. Jazz, I love the time being with you, thank you for so much unforgettable moments.

Ok, is sex the reason why I'm still in 3dx. It still seems to be fun for me, so yes, for that type of sex I described above I still love to be here. But as I recognize the sex aspect becoming less, focusing on these wonderful moments, that does not seem to be all...

 

What else? Friends? Oh, yes, friends are important to me. So what about my friends here? Do they keep me being in 3dx?

There's two very close friend that make me immediately answer: yes, I am here as well to meet them and have fun with them. One of them is again Jazz, I enjoy chatting with her, exchanging thoughts, sharing ideas and values. Thank you for being such a wonderful friend, Jazz, you are like sweets for my soul and my libido

And there is a second one, when you read this, you know that it is you, who is just so close to me. I enjoy chatting with her and having fun with her, she is really breathtaking, and her understanding and affection illuminates 3dx. We have been going through some weird situation, managing to sort this all out and staying close and true friends. I'm glad and thankful to have her as friend.

And there's some more wonderful people I am glad to call friends, maybe up to now just getting into the situation of deepening our friendship to that extend, but I like you all (you know) and thank you for your friendship. And there are some people not yet on my friends list, but I will maybe to see them there in the future.

So my friends are another reason why I'm stilll in 3dx. If I had not subscribed to 3dx, I would never have met them.....my decisions and actions seem always to turn out to something good, lucky me

 

What else? What am I doing the other time? Oh yes, quite often you can find me in some rooms hearing music and dancing. Does that keep me in 3dx?

Here's the list of locations I can be found, when I'm in the mood for dancing:

• The Angels of Desire Rock Club: just my music, great DJs, funny people, always my first choice

• The room of SayaX: a nice atmosphere, I can place my music requests, and as well very nice people there

• Nitro's room: Even though it's called 'Meet'n'Fuck', I like being there and just dancing (wasn't yet thrown out for not fucking there   )

• The Fuckers of Anarchy parties: crazy parties with crazy people, always a lot of fun

• The Sin Club, although the share of ads betweeen the music is too high

• My own room: thanks to Achilles' tutorial, I managed to set up my own music stream, opening my room from time to time and sharing my musical taste. Although I can't tell my room is crowded, from time to time some people come inside, having a nice time with music and chat.

Ok, this is as well a reason for being here. It is always a great thing to party with people all over the world.

 

And one last thing: 3dx really seems to improve my skills. A lot of conversation in English just keeps my lingual skills trained. Furthermore there is another effect regarding my abilities in multitasking.

There is some studies telling that men have only small skills in multitasking, as from the evolutional point of view this was never needed (you can't kill the wild with multitasking but with a stong focus on that one task). So when I started here, one chat was really occupying me, and when I was pm'ing, I could not follow the local chat anymore.

Nowadays I find myself more and more in the situation of holding several pm chats with friends while following the local chat. And it works!

So I could tell that even my own advancement is a reason for being here, but that I guess is not intentionally

 

Question answered? Somehow yes. 3Dx is not a surrogate but an extension to real life, enriching it by new possibilities. It is just important to keep the balance between both.

 

Uuh, that was a long one. Hope you don't get tired reading it

[Guest SayaX]

Thank you for your kind words about my room Richard. I always enjoy your company and your requests are second to none. Keep those Porcupine Tree requests coming! You are always such a genuinely nice guy and it is always good to see you around.

 

I also spend a lot of time in Nitro's MNF club and AOD! As you say, despite being advertised as a sex room MNF has a great atmosphere and Nitro is a wonderful host and friend.

[JazzAhDee]

Thanks for the kind words Richard!    ​You are a true gentleman, great friend, and much more.      ​

 

I sometimes wonder if I am wasting too much time here in 3DX.  I think you really nailed the benefits of all of this.  I think my multi-tasking skills have improved too.  It is a challenge and fun.  And I have met many good friends here that are more than just sex (though the sex is pretty awesome and one of the main reasons I love 3DX). ​​

[OliU]

Thank you Richard This is highly appreciated and true: Fuckers of Anarchy MC is a sometimes a very crazy gang...haha

 

Take care and see you on next party \m/

 

You're welcum

 

Cheers

 

Oli

[Antsypantsy]

Richard,

 

you are always welcome at FoA parties 

 

A

[tinanude]

Richard,

 

you are always welcome at FoA parties 

 

A

 

Esp the FoA Girls and Guys are wonderfull happy and crazy People. I like every Party with this Folks and every talk with everyone from this Group.

[Nitro]

 

• Nitro's room: Even though it's called 'Meet'n'Fuck', I like being there and just dancing (wasn't yet thrown out for not fucking there   )

As I told you online I really like your story and your thesis And no dear I would never throw anyone out for enjoying themselves:) Plus ...you are Richard the Request Machine :* Thank you a million for your mention it means a lot

[RichardCypher]

Wow, what a Feedback . I'm overwhelmed.....Thank you all for your kind words.

Thank you for your kind words about my room Richard. I always enjoy your company and your requests are second to none. Keep those Porcupine Tree requests coming! You are always such a genuinely nice guy and it is always good to see you around.
 

Thank you Saya, the same goes to you, I enjoy your company a lot, thank you for being my friend and I'll remain your request machine

 

Thanks for the kind words Richard!    ​You are a true gentleman, great friend, and much more.      ​

Somebody had to tell, Jazz, what a jewel is to be found in 3dx  . I'm looking forward to seeing you.

 

Thank you Richard This is highly appreciated and true: Fuckers of Anarchy MC is a sometimes a very crazy gang...haha

 

Take care and see you on next party \m/

 

You're welcum

 

Cheers

 

Oli

Thank you Oli, I don't want to miss your parties, when I can . Take care and stay crazy \m/..

 

Richard,

 

you are always welcome at FoA parties 

 

A

Thank you AntsyPantsy, I enjoy the atmosphere of the parties a lot, see you there soon.

 

As I told you online I really like your story and your thesis And no dear I would never throw anyone out for enjoying themselves:) Plus ...you are Richard the Request Machine :* Thank you a million for your mention it means a lot

Thank you Nitro, I appreciate your room as one of few being able to combine sex, chat and party, attracting the nice and awesome People. 

[RichardCypher]

Richards Impression continued

 

3dx and the drama

 

As I told Nitro about my next diary blog and now she asks me if I’m finished every time I see her, I decided to finish this topic quite fast. Thank you for being so tenacious, Nitro J.

 

This time I want to focus on a topic not so pleasant, but I guess although many people state that they don’t want to experience drama in 3dx, most of them get struck by it in any way. I thought about myself as well as being drama-free, nevertheless I experienced some. I’d like to share this and my thoughts about that, hoping to give an impulse on our future way of interacting.

 

One of my most recent weird experiences just point out a bit about the drama machine and I just use it for a deeper look inside the mechanisms of drama.

Some days ago I was visiting Malvasia’s Garden of Eden and enjoying my time with a nice girl, as I received a pm from a friend with the text: ‘the slut is good?’

Obviously she had been hopping through the rooms, and when she entered the garden, she saw my and the girls name in the private area, and she didn’t seem to like what she saw, some weird feelings of anger rising up in her. She seemed not to have expected to find me there with a girl. And here is the first ingredient of the drama cocktail: She had some expectations to me, but I don’t know what they are, as she never told me.

 

I met that friend the first time one or two weeks before, we met several times and hat very nice chats, so we became friends. We didn’t have sex and were not in any relationship. Maybe the information in her profile that she rather regards 3dx as a chat room with sex options should have been the hint, but I really don’t know.

 

So I was totally confused by that pm, thinking about what to do now, as I was in the middle of something with that girl. And you can derive as well from my postings above, that the word ‘slut’ is something you won’t hear from me. If in a RP two partners agree to do so that is fine, but that is not my thing, so I never would call a girl “slut”. If I had not been with that girl, I would have asked her for what she was asking me that. But the RP with the game was very erotic and I did not want to stop it, so I just answered ‘She’s nice J’. I got the answer ‘Good for you’ and she was gone.

 

The situation shows quite good some mechanisms of drama. In the beginning there is always an expectation to someone else, which is not really communicated clear. The reason for this first lack of communication (there will be some more lacks later) may be that the expectation is seen as self-evident, or that the person having the expectation fears to hear a ‘No’ when she communicates it. In this case I still don’t know the expectation, maybe not to have sex, maybe not to go to a bordello, or whatever.

 

And as you see from this situation, it might be just a matter of time, until the expectation is not met, as I even didn’t know there is one. So my friend ‘caught’ me there, and as a result of the fact, that her expectation was not fulfilled, some bad feelings of anger arose in her. At that point she had the decision, either to use those feelings as an indicator for something incomplete to sort out, or to react in the way she did: shooting that weird pm, which was a hidden allegation, passing the blame to me for her bad feelings. This is the second lack of communication.  In such a case it happens quite often that the one being blamed (in that case me) starts to explain himself, passing the blame back (who wants to take the blame), and so the drama builds up more and more. That would be the third lack of communication.

 

As an alternative my friend could have checked, which expectation was not met by me, if the expectation was communicated and agreed (yes, others don’t even have to fulfill communicated expectations), what I can answer with a clear ‘No’. And she could have told me which expectation she had, what I did, so her expectations were not met, her conclusions and her feelings, either giving up that expectation or asking me to fulfill it the next time. The important thing is just, even if I decide not to fulfill her expectation after she asked me, I am not bad or guilty or anything, it might be, that a friendship is not possible as a consequence, but you can as well give up the friendship with respect to the other one and go your own ways. But this is only possible, if there is no allegations and weird feelings behind.

So the abstract is:

• Expectations are just expectations, keep in mind that nobody has to fulfill them
• Communicate your expectation, latest when it has not been fulfilled the first time
• Ask the other one, if he is willing to fulfill your expectation, keep in mind, a ‘yes’ is only valid if he is allowed to say ‘no’
• Think about and communicate the consequences, if your expectation is not met (and I said consequence, not punishment; the consequence should be good for you, e.g. no friendship possible)
• If some feelings of anger arise in you, think about which expectation has not been met, and if you communicated it. If not, tell him your expectation and the consequences, if they are not fulfilled. That might help to avoid the drama

What happened between the friend and me? Yesterday I saw her being online the first time after the incident. I pm’ed her in the hope to clarify this, but she did not even answer. So I decided to remove her from my friends list. I would have preferred to sort this out first, but I wish her all the best and that she is happy here. This is the last thing to discuss: Sometimes it is not in your hand to stop the drama completely, but you can always stop it for yourself. If the other on wants to live the drama, that is the decision of that person, but you can get the feelings out for yourself, completing this situation for yourself. This is what I did. I am not angry on her, I just see there is no common base for a friendship and I agree to that. Hopefully she finds what she is looking for.

 

If you like to discuss that with me and see me, feel free to pm me for a detailed talk about, but don’t expect me to answer when I have fun with a girl in the Garden of Eden J.

 

In the end I would like to thank to some of the most wonderful people I met so far and I am glad to have as friends. The list is not complete, as it seems to grow every day.

JazzAhDee, Ahrora, StephanieCD, Nitro, SayaX, BreannaX, Zireael, Atla, Asselia, CeliaWhite, Xanar, LucasScott, valkman, SpinalRip

 

And I want to thank some people who are not on my friends list (maybe we should change that..) but I appreciate very much to know them:

Malvasia, Leith, OliU, ChloeMinx, Audrey, SandieFoxx

 

And I thank all the rest of you, thank you for being here and reading my blog or chatting with me.

 

I’m finished now, Nitro, hope you find it worth waiting for J.

[Nitro]

Aww Well it's always nice to see more of your diary/thoughts. And as I have told you and many others around, just like in real life...communication, communication, communication....   And yeah I reallllyy hate the words "slut" "whore" "hooker" (especially if there hasn't even been a talk about a use of them for some...fantasy or something).
And again...a million thanks for everything

[Guest SayaX]

Yay! I made your list. My only expectation is that I come before Nitro in the list

 

Joking!

 

Another great post Richard. Would you like to write one for my diary that I can pass off as my own? Then I can call myself Saya The Wise Old Elf.

[RichardCypher]

Yay! I made your list. My only expectation is that I come before Nitro in the list

 

Joking!

 

Another great post Richard. Would you like to write one for my diary that I can pass off as my own? Then I can call myself Saya The Wise Old Elf.

 

Haha, Saya, from what I read in your post I can see there is so much wisdom within you, you don't need a ghost writer at all.

And as I can't make you older, from now on you're Saya the Wise Young Elf

[RichardCypher]

Richards Impression continued

 

How to pm a girl

 

Lately several people who I had not met before in 3dx, approached me, telling me that they had read my diary. Some of them asked me how to approach a girl with a private message. First I asked myself why they are asking me that, but finally I thought that would be a great topic for my blog, maybe as well raising the number of readers (at least of the male ones) rapidly as I will provide the answer here.

I won’t put you on the rack too long, so here is the recipe how to pm a girl:

• Click on the girl with the left mouse button
• In the popup menu choose ‘private message’
• Write something into the text field
• Press enter or click on ‘Send’

And there you made it!   So we handled that completely, seems as if that will get my shortest diary entry, right?

 

What? Not what you expected? You want to know about the ‘something’ in the text field? Oh, that depends on what you want to achieve. Before I continue I have to disappoint you as I cannot provide you with a standard recipe about how to pm a girl. I can just tell you about what I do, knowing what worked fine for me, as I have found some awesome friends here. So don’t consider the following lines as the ultimate guidance, but more as my thoughts and my opinion about how to pm a girl.

 

Quick sex

 

You want quick sex? Need one killer phrase after which you can partner the girl and start to come into action, because the girl stated ‘pm me first’ in her profile? Already tried ‘Hi’ and ‘Mmh, you’re sexy..’? Great, you found already two of a probably endless number of phrases that don’t work for that. And there will be no phrase giving you the short cut to quick sex.

 

If you want quick sex, I would recommend to go to the rooms stating in their name that you can have quick sex without chat, read the profiles there, find a girl that does not state ‘No colds’ or ‘pm me first’, be sure she prefers men (there might be a hint in the profile as well), cold her, and I guess you will find some girl (though there is a reasonable probability that there is a male operator behind).

 

The risk is: you might end up with some pose flipping, the only conversation being ‘mmh’ and ‘oooh’ (which is nice in between a long descriptive session), or be with a partner with complete sexual preferences, one of you getting bored and poofing away.

But I am no expert for that, so please ask someone else.

 

Some Chat followed by descriptive sex

 

Oh, you want something more? Descriptive fun with an interesting girl? In that case forget any standard phrases, I would expect that every girl has heard all of those phrases frequently.

The first thing you always should keep in mind is, that there is no warranty for having sex, so if you regard a pm to a girl like an investment to get into action with her afterwards, I have to disappoint you as well, as at least my humble self has no recipe for this, so in this case as well ask someone else.

 

Awesome people and probably sex

 

I you want to know how to approach a girl I am able to give you some ideas, but generally I am not clear about the fact if it comes to more at the moment when I approach a girl. If I feel some erotic tension arise in between the chat, it may come to more, but it might be as well that we have some nice conversation but the erotic spark does not ignite.

 

From my point of view here is some things to consider, that might be helpful. I don’t tell you that is the only way to do so, but this is what works quite fine for me, and I’m glad to know some wonderful people.

• Love communication! Maybe that sounds weird at first sight, but if you are talking to someone with the attitude of every sentence to be typed being a torture, I would not expect a high erotic tension to arise. If you state to love descriptive sex in your profile, I would expect you can keep a conversation running and you love to communicate.
• Show who you are and what you like. I don’t talk about RL info, but some ideas about your interests, about your sexual preferences and about your mindset can be helpful to keep a conversation running and attract those people you like to get to know. You can do this by filling out your profile, or write your diary. From time to time I get approached by someone due to my profile or due to my diary, which turns out in most cases into at least a nice conversation.
• Read profiles. A profile does not only tell you, what preferences a girl has or if she accepts colds, you can read as well a lot about her mindset in between the lines. And that might always be a good entry point for a conversation. And for me this is as well an indicator, if there might be a common base for a conversation, a friendship or some common fun.
• Contribute to the local chat. There is nothing more boring (at least for me) than a silent local chat. If you want to know how funny a room with an active local chat can be, visit Nitro’s room, this is a wonderful example of an active local chat. And based on the local chat it happened often, that either me approached a girl via pm or a girl approached me via pm in order to follow up a topic or just because some sympathy arose between us.
• The operators behind the avatars are all individuals, so if you pm a girl, you pm an individual, standard phrases are rather for exchangeable persons than for individuals. I would not like to be exchangeable. When I am approached, I like it, when the pm refers to me, either based on the local chat, or with some reference to the profile. That shows me, that the one approaching me is interested in me. And the same is valid the other way round. So if you think a girl is interesting and you want to chat with her, refer to that what you appreciate at her as individual.
• Be respectful. I experienced some really weird chats in local where one of the both involved persons talked in a very cynical manner, obviously trying to prove his / her superior intelligence. The problem is always, if you are of superior intelligence, you will end up alone, as everybody is on a level far below, not able to ascend to you. In some other chats I observed a lot of rude behavior like name calling. That might be ok, if the profile of the other one states that she likes that, but in general approaching a girl in a first pm with words like ‘slut’ or ‘whore’ might be the essential step for your own disqualification. And even if you find out that the girl you approached and you have nothing in common and diametric thoughts and values, you can finish the conversation with respect.

As you might recognize this is rather an attitude than a course of action. Yes, in the end you will not find friends or sex partners due to a ‘killer phrase’ opening the heart and even more of a girl, but due to your mentality and attitude. In the end your opinion about the world, girls, sex and more shines through in every sentence, making your attitude more important than the content. If you think of girls as ‘sluts’, it doesn’t matter what you state, it will sound like glazed shit for girls who don’t like being looked upon as sluts.

[Nitro]

As always great read , and I couldn't agree more!! And ok I m not the best at reading profiles ! But all in all it is well rounder "how to"   By the way tonight I heard there is a place taking requests for music Richard:P You might wanna go...just saying!

[RichardCypher]

Oh, a place where I can get rid of my requests? Really? OMG, WHERE, Nitro, please tell me....

[JazzAhDee]

Nice entry, Richard.    Reading profiles is good.  It gives you something to talk about to open a conversation.  That way you can skip the whole "Hi" "Hello"  "How are you?"  "I'm good, how are you?"  "I'm good" "That's good" routine. (facepalm).